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Self-Love Meditation for Valentine’s Day ❤️

Andrea has a background in Myers-Briggs and Western astrology. She mostly writes about relationships.

The following meditation is meant to be done on Valentine's Day or another romantic day. It teaches self-love and self-respect.

The following meditation is meant to be done on Valentine's Day or another romantic day. It teaches self-love and self-respect.

Intentional Self-Care

The following meditation is meant to calm nerves you may have associated with Valentine's Day or other romantic holidays. The meditation is intended to give you time to focus on self-love, reassurance, and inner healing.

You can read this meditation out loud, in your head, or have a friend read it. Take your time with each step and add your own creativity to it.

What You'll Need

The meditation will take about 20-40 minutes. There is an optional journal exercise at the end of the meditation.

The meditation can be done at any time of day, but I would suggest doing it in the morning to prepare you for the rest of your day.

Suggested Items:

  • A fruit smoothie, particularly with strawberries or cherries. Tea is another good option, especially one without caffeine.
  • Red, pink, and/or white candles
  • A timer
  • A clean room with minimal distractions
  • Soothing music or binaural beats
  • A yoga mat
  • Rose scented oil or a similar item
  • A journal
For this meditation, you want to be comfortable. Go to a room that's quiet and without distractions.

For this meditation, you want to be comfortable. Go to a room that's quiet and without distractions.

Meditation Exercise

Preparing for the Meditation

Wake up early and drink a warm cup of tea or a smoothie with romantic fruits, like strawberries or cherries. A glass of water is also suggested. You can sip the drink while you meditate.

Light some red, pink, or white candles. Slip into something comfy, like a robe or your favorite sweatpants. Put lotion on your hands, if you have some, and give yourself a gentle hand massage.

Unfold your yoga mat in a clean and peaceful room. Do your own yoga set for 5-10 minutes. Freestyle your moves in silence or to soothing music.

Meditation Sequence

Get into a comfortable position on the floor. For this meditation, I encourage listening to dreamy music that puts you at ease.

  • This meditation is about teaching self-love and self-respect.
  • You might be here because you want to heal your relationship with yourself.

Relax, take a few breaths. Remember: you're guiding yourself. The words you're reading are suggestions. You can go along with the words or create something else.

I would suggest getting into a crossed-legged position or laying on your back. Imagine you’re in a field of roses. The scent of flowers is pleasant to you. It tingles in your nose.

The flowers are young, appearing just after winter. Take a few deep breaths and continue to think about the scent of roses. Imagine there is a crown of roses on your head (no thorns). Dew from the petals gently drips down your face.

Take in a really big breath through your nose, hold it, and then exhale out your mouth. Keep imaging the scent of roses. Take a big breath again through your nose, hold it, and then exhale out your mouth. Do this ten times. Work on relaxing your shoulders. Notice your breath; become more fully aware of how it grows and provides you movement.

What color are the roses around you? Think of that color soothing you from the base of your spine and crawling all the way up to the crown of your head. Think of that color going up from your head down to your feet and cycling back over and over. When you imagine the color going down to your feet, think of it as a waterfall coming down to greet your toes. When the color goes up to your head, imagine it like the sun rising.

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When ready, focus on your feet. Grip them tightly and think of something kind to say to your feet and then release your grip. Wiggle your toes and relax.

Move your concentration upward and repeat tightening places in your body, saying something kind, and then releasing your grip. Wiggle or gently move after releasing your grip. Try this on your knees, belly, chest, arms, hands, and eyes.

While in a comfortable position, with your palms open, tell yourself an affirmation about love seven times. You can pick one of the following:

“I am worthy of love.”

“I forgive and release myself.”

“I am happy to receive love.”

“I am honored to care for myself.”

“I am love; I give love.”

“My heart is a safe space.”

“Love is safe with me.”

Roses in South Korea.

Roses in South Korea.

Play With Your Imagination

Place your hands on opposite shoulders. Hug yourself. While your eyes are closed, gently roll them from side to side and point your focus in different directions. Squeeze your eyelids a couple of times. Try to relax your eyes. Thank them for serving you.

Imagine you're in a bog of red roses. You're surrounded by beautiful flowers. Roses are floating in the water and on lilypads.

You can hear the birds sing. You can see the birds. They leave behind feathers. There are butterflies with beautiful wings playing on the roses. The air is refreshing and soothing. Place your left hand on your heart and your right hand on your belly. Take small breaths and in increments take bigger breaths while envisioning roses and their scent. Take yourself a little deeper by imaging this scene more vividly.

Imagine your child self in the garden. Your child self is sniffing the flowers. Try to remember what you looked like as a child. Maybe recall pictures from when you were a kid. Try to remember things you loved to do as a child. Give your child self a hug. Tell your past self you love them, and you'll protect them. You want to better self-parent yourself.

Whisper an affirmation to your child-self:

"Thank you for your kind heart."

"Thank you for teaching me to play."

"Thank you for your imagination."

"You are kind, gentle, and smart."

"You are precious to me."

"You are a blessing."

At this time, you may need to work through some lies you're holding onto and need to practice forgiveness. I invite you to step into your emotions a little. Let go of your self-critic and meanness. If there was some insult or criticism you endured as a kid, now greet your child self as a parent to shield them. Defend your child self and protect them from meanness. Don't let them hold onto the lie anymore.

Let your child self go. Watch them energized from the meeting as they go back into the garden to play with flowers, trees, and animals.

Let this vision fade out into white fog.

Focus on Affirmations and Releasing Pain

The name Valentine is derived from the Latin word valens, which means "worthy", "strong", and "powerful". Open your palms before you and say as many times as you like, "I'm worthy enough, strong enough, and powerful enough to accept love into my life."

Lay on your back and then curl to your side. Listen to your body and see if you have any pain. Work in sections from the top of your head to your feet to identify pain.

When you notice pain, try to release the grip you might have in that spot. I find it helps to do this with my eyes closed. Cycle away from your pain to other spots. Come back to the pain when you're ready and try to release your grip a little more. Tell yourself that you're in a safe space without judgment. Make some noise if you like.

Take three big breaths and enjoy the quietness of the room. Try to be present without cycling through your thoughts. See if you can blank your mind for the next 5-10 minutes.

When you're done, rub your hands together. Push your hands out like you're pushing away a ball. Close the meditation by saying, "I am thankful for the time I had with myself. I will try to be kinder to myself throughout the day."

Journal Exercises

You can do this right after your meditation or later in the day or before you go to bed. What I want you to do is write messages to yourself. I want you to write the things you want other people to say about you.

Write down what you wish others would notice and compliment you on. Fill up an entire page with these things. You're moving in the right direction if it brings your emotions forward.

If you can draw, I encourage you to draw a key. Imagine a box coming to you and inside is a metal key. See it as an invitation to unlock your heart. Accept the key. Hold onto the key for a moment. Grip your fist.

Now write on another page ways you can be more giving to yourself. When you're done writing, read back over what you wrote and consider how you can do the things to be more giving to others.

When you give more to yourself and others, you will find more purpose. You want to open your heart to charitas (the Latin word for charity) not avarice. Charitas is the gateway to loving others as yourself. It helps you to be more humble and be more of a servant than an aggressor.

© 2022 Andrea Lawrence

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