Joy sets goals for continuous achievement, and loves connecting with others by helping them reach their own ideals and aspirations.
What Is Your Energy Inviting?
New Life Roadmap Needed
Do you find that your ideals have changed over the years? Mine have.
We're going to discuss what to do when you are faced with the necessity of changing paths. We provide a step-by-step outline for you to follow as you create your new ideal roadmap.
It Is Okay to Feel Selfish
What is your ideal life right this instant?
Remember that in order to get to the truth, you need to learn to feel a little selfish. This means focusing on what you want, or are willing to do for you--not for others.
Others may come into the picture, or may already be walking your road with you--but you can't build your path for them. Your path is for you. So plan it for you.
This may be especially difficult if you've grown up believing that it is your responsibility to act on others' behalf. If you feel you must sustain a consistent pattern in order to make others comfortable, you must allow yourself to learn to be less accommodating.
Teaching how to do so is beyond the scope of this article. I can show you here only how to act on your own behalf when important changes need to be made.
Building a New Road
Clear Your Energy Field
Learn to erase outdated intentions in your body and energy field.
There are several good techniques available, with routines that are simple and easy to do, even for busy people.
Emotion release techniques I use regularly include those taught in The Emotion Code, by Bradley Nelson, and The Healing Code, by Alexander Lloyd and Ben Johnson.
One reason it is important to have such techniques in your toolbox is because of the way our heart's electromagnetic field works. Our heart's energy field can be up to 12 feet around us, and influences ourselves and others on a constant basis. Loopity-loop energy movements in our fields keeps old patterns and thoughts available until they are deliberately cleared.
Heart Energy Field
Clear Negative and Bad Energy From House, and Even Yourself | 417 Hz Tibetan Singing Bowl Music, by Meditative Mind
A Personal Demonstration
Before we go on to the exercises, I would like to briefly share with you a little bit of my journey, and how I came to realize the importance of deliberately changing my own path.
I will demonstrate through this story how to use the outline I will give you, so you may jump right into the process of redefining your own life.
My Life (Before)
I live on a small homestead on the plains of Colorado. I love it here, but it's tough. The weather is harsh, will little rainfall, and poverty can be a relentless wolf, if we don't keep an equally relentless creative spirit alive within ourselves.
So when I realized I needed to make some changes . . .
Here is what I had:
- Despair, depression, s**c*d*l ideation, exhaustion, illness, autoimmune symptoms.
- Dirt in my mind and home.
- Drought in my region and yard.
- An ugly yard resulting from a lengthy moving-in process, and slipshod DIY improvements to our outbuildings, well, and 1928 house.
- Fighting and drama amongst family members; misery, confusion, regrets.
- Free range sheep, poultry, and children; homeschooling duties.
- Sporadic time to make a difference outside my family; feeling crushed and pushed by all kinds of demands and expectations, from both inside and outside myself.
- Chaos as I moved through life, putting out one fire (problem) after another.
Point of Decision
As I took stock of these things, I made a decision:
I no longer wanted to be a homesteading mama, with a houseful of lambs. I wanted to be a full-time writer, with freedom to come and go, buy things, and make a visible difference. I wanted to keep my homestead and continue to homeschool my two children, but I wanted to focus more on my writing, which I had had on the back burner of my life for 10 years.
So I made another list, this time detailing the changes that were inevitable in my new life, because I was stepping onto and moving forward on a new path.
I said aloud to the first list:
"You may be released now. The things below automatically fill your places."
I knew I could do this because I had practiced for several years the art of releasing emotions, and recognizing my needs and thoughts. I had learnt to work with my body on these processes, and we were coming to understand each other.
I knew the changes would begin to take effect immediately.
My Life (After)
What I am manifesting now:
- SuperWellness (my version of optimal and increasing wellness).
- Fresh produce obtained and enjoyed regularly; riches, ability to easily contribute to other's physical needs.
- A consistently clean and orderly home, containing only belongings which make life more beautiful, comfortable, efficient, convenient, and joyful.
- Abundant and clean, mineral-rich water from our own cleanly-functioning well.
- A beautiful garden and property, lush but designed for minimal maintenance and water usage.
- Happy mornings; comforting meals; serene evenings. Willing and encouraging friends, who choose to be involved in my life of their own accord.
- Unschooling as a smoothly flowing norm; well maintained, carefully selected flocks and herds, kept within astutely designed and efficient pasturing and corral limits.
- Writer's lifestyle (efficient equipment, serene home office; have fun writing anywhere; increasing and generous passive income, resulting from work I've already put in; joy resulting from living my passion).
- Easy completion of projects, whether writing or otherwise.
Slow But Steady Changes
The big changes haven't come overnight, nor did I expect them to. I created these lists in February 2020, and now, in August 2020, I am seeing several recognizable fruits. Your story and changes are probably going to be different from mine, so I will refrain from going into much detail. Rather, I will say that the changes seem almost miraculous to me, and I am very pleased with how things are progressing.
Literally every day I see some token of progress in both seen and unseen realms.
In case you are wondering, I didn't tell anyone of the changes I intended. I am by nature a distrustful, secretive person, but beyond this, I wanted to test my ability to manifest. I could only do this by keeping to myself the changes that were afoot, and watch how my own lufe, and others, adjusted to my new order.
Designing the Details
I also didn't jump right in that very evening of my ephiphany, expecting huge changes to result from my nebulous and brief bullet list of do's and don'ts for my new life.
Below I will share with you the changes I designed into my routine and brain, through various means, over a course of months.
This next list was developed close upon the heels of the first two, but took much more time and planning. Also, I used images to design a vision board around my new ideals, and excised my fears through a process of visualization and body healing. (I talk about these processes in other articles. Please take advantage of what I have learned, so you don't have to journey alone.)
Watering Choice Parts of Your Story in Secret
My Worksheet Example
I am making time and room for______________[writing full time].
This means 8+ hours a day, 5+ days a week advancing my writing career.
This looks like:
- Writing new material (articles non-fiction, stories/novels fiction, DID blog, other topic blogs).
- Taking and preparing photographs for use in articles and how-to's.
- Keeping records of writing projects in their various stages.
- Correspondence/answering comments.
- Self-promotion on social media platforms.
I am making time/room by:
- Simplifying household routines and maintenance.
- Improving my record keeping methods and timing.
- Remembering that electronic clutter is still clutter, and must be dealt with regularly.
- Creating a quiet, happy space devoted to writing in a busy household.
- Improving my ability to focus on the job at hand.
- Practicing finishing projects.
- Remembering that minutes count--getting something small finished is better than undertaking nothing.
- Improving meal prep habits.
- Taking time off to do totally different things, with or without the family.
- Looking out for peace stealers, such as drama, clutter buildup, resenting chores.
Breaking the Lists into Specific Steps
You may break each of these numbered areas down into further items which turn into goals or principles, like this:
Household Routines--I Help Myself by:
- Doing dishes daily so the kitchen is emotionally quieter to walk through, and more efficient to work in.
- Doing laundry whenever a full load is built up.
- Working through clutter hot-spots, as well as longstanding piles/nests of chaos.
- Actively researching the best way to re-home vintage clothing, and other items left from previous owners.
- Daily reading/looking through magazines and books I have kept to enjoy.
- Using "extra" dish water to spot wash walls and woodwork.
- Wiping down fixtures, or the bathroom counter, whenever I have a rag that is almost ready to be washed.
- Remembering how much better my home feels with clean floors, and that even 15 minutes of cleaning can make a significant difference.
- Rejecting household jobs that are seasonally inefficient, in favour of those which will make a more longstanding difference. (Example: Washing walls during miller moth season vs. washing quilts and bedding which will be stored for the winter.)
- Remembering that it's okay to change the way something is done.
- Remembering that not every job demands perfection. "Good 'nuff" is all the time some chores deserve.
- Remembering that a certain amount of clutter blindness is okay, as long as the trade off is progress in an important area of life or a crucial project. Also that family members have a right to do certain things their own way, even if it denies me a perfect environment.
- Remembering that changes in myself and my family dynamics will keep demanding changes in my routines, outlook, and home. I will never find the "perfect" permanent solution to most problems--all I can do is find good solutions for where I am at in my immediate circumstances and understanding. Doing some reorganization that helps today, is much better than putting up with problems, while I am waiting for the perfect combination of time, supplies, and mindset to appear.
- Uploading PDF backups of each article as soon after publishing as possible, with all files and notes properly tagged and titled. (I use Evernote for this.)
- Keeping records of progress on writing projects as I go, so that when I reference my records they are accurate and current. Timeliness saves time.
- Taking time to reorganize a poorly organized project is worth the initial tedium to get better results.
- Remembering that I am called to write, and there are many aspects to this process. I get paid for all of those aspects, not just the words aspect.
- Uploading or deleting images that don't apply to writing projects, or that have no reason to stay in my photos storage.
- Remembering that putting up with poor organization and faulty apps, wastes time and produces frustration. Taking time to find better solutions pays dividends in peace and proficiency.
Writing Room (My Hideout/Study):
- Getting rid of give-away items which tend to get stacked here.
- Reorganizing items that belong to create a beautiful, restful haven which is simple to maintain.
- Thinking through different furniture arrangements to create the best work flow and lighting conditions.
- Remembering that refusing to use my Study as a catch-all makes me look forward to working in the space.
- Taking mini-breaks from writing to eliminate clutter spots frees separate areas of my mind.
Improving Focus Abilities:
- Experimenting with music which heals my emotions, and calms my body and breathing patterns.
- Taking supplements, and forming eating patterns that uplift and heal.
- Remembering that for me, the last 10% of a project is often harder than the first 90%--so when any process feels like I am slogging, that means I'm almost done! Afterward, I can celebrate my achievement, and enjoy the benefits of having it finished.
- Keeping simple projects handy that can be worked on while watching a movie, riding in the car, etc. These may be physical or electronic.
- Taking Before and After photos of home and organization projects, which get stored in a file specifically designed to be a reminder of accomplishments.
- Seizing the moment whenever inspiration strikes to do a particularly big or anxiety-inducing project, even if I have to reschedule a few other (non-major) things.
- Making sure than whenever I find tools or supplies to finish a project, I keep them handy or accessible until the project is done.
- Remembering that it's okay not to finish projects I've outgrown. I can donate or re-purpose materials, and walk away with a grateful heart. Not all projects are worth my time and emotional resources to finish.
- Remembering that every project I finish (or delete from my intentions) makes room in my mind and life for a potentially better one.
Minutes Count (Forming Habits):
- Remembering that 2 minutes is all it takes to make a difference in my home, especially as regards counters and surfaces. Then the mental quiet begins.
- Remembering that everything happens one piece at a time, one minute at a time, no matter how complicated the processes may be. Starting always takes courage, and a certain blindness toward obstacles.
- Big piles of papers can be whittled down in five minutes here, and five more there. Visualizing what else I can do with the space helps to motivate me to attend to them, as well as imagining leaving the spaces for serenity to inhabit.
- Keeping accurate records of food supplies.
- Improving my recipe storage system and its maintenance.
- Keeping my kitchen clean enough to start on a baking or cooking project almost at any time.
- Designating times of day to get foods out of the freezer to thaw.
- Keeping an accurate, regular grocery/supplies list on my tablet.
- Designing playlists for repetitive jobs, such as doing dishes or baking (I love to match the beat while kneading dough!)
- Reminding myself that it's good to treat myself like a duchess, by preparing foods I like and that are visually appealing.
- Taking regular mental breaks on Pinterest, to refresh my soul by showing myself something uplifting or beautiful.
- Remembering that dream curating and visualization are important to long-term success, and laser focus on goals and aspirations.
- Deliberately ridding my body, mind, and energy field of fallacies learned during my upbringing, such as that taking it easy is evil and a waste of time. Instilling truths into my body and inner being, such as that rest is necessary and healthful, leading to rejuvenation of my emotions and mind.
- Temporarily putting away projects which are unduly frustrating or difficult due to tiredness or stress.
- Taking time for walks in nature.
Avoiding Peace Stealers:
- Walking away from unnecessary drama.
- Apologizing quickly and thoroughly, so that my conscience is cleared no matter what, and I have room to do better next time.
- Pausing during tense times to check my motives, when I'd rather respond roughly to myself or a family member.
- Practicing bringing up changes and problems with myself, and others, in a non-confrontational and calm way. Remembering that my opinion counts as much as anyone else's.
Notes on Using Visuals
It is difficult to over-estimate the role that visuals can play in reformatting your mind and life.
I have discussed this topic thoroughly in other articles.
For now, keep in mind that your heart thinks in terms of images, and that these influence your perceptions and thoughts more than any conscious idea you'll ever think. Therefore, it is important to choose images carefully, which will help you on your journey. To be effective, this cannot be a haphazard process.
The Role of Aesthetics and Mood Boards
Aesthetics are an easy way to create a snapshot of your new life. There are many examples online of how to do this, and most photo processing apps will allow you to create your own collages for the purpose.
Below is one example of an aesthetics collage that, to me, yells "liberty" without saying a word. This is not to say that this sums up my desired life, only that it is a well-done example of the method of framing pictures to speak to the heart.
Exhibiting Your Likes . . . Not Your Desperations
Tweak the Lists, Please
None of the above lists are intended to be complete. Rather, they show you how you can take ownership of your decisions and happiness, to create routines and an environment that will further your interests and health.
Please add to them as seems good to you.
Let me know in the comments what parts you found most helpful, and how you have tweaked these processes to overcome problems, and suit your own finest aspirations.
Now You Try
Get a clean notebook or a couple sheets of paper, and copy down these prompts. Use your favorite color of ink, and have fun!
Filling in the first two entries will only take up a line or two. The last two may take half a page or more, so leave lots of room, and give them each their own page.
I am making time and room for______________[name your main goal].
This means ____ hours a day, _____ days a week advancing ______________.
This looks like [describe your happy place, and your passion-turned-lifestyle]:
I am making time/room by [describe what steps you will take to transform your life]:
What Does Your Next Step Look Like?
Maybe Traveling Solo
Be aware that, as you move, others may stay still. This ultimately means that they may pass out of your life, or may appear in it less prominently.
You must come to a point where this is okay with you, or you will fail to move forward. You will forever be held in bondage by the decisions of others.
Traveling solo emotionally can be scary. But I don't think it's half so scary as staying stuck in a life which is one long series of chores and frustrations.
Becoming willing to move forward, even if that means losing friends, can release mental and emotional strains. This in turn will open up new avenues to healing for you. Clarity can replace chaos, and hope can supplant anxiety. These negative emotions of insecurity can be overcome.
The decision is all yours. Please be brave enough to risk change. You deserve a life of passion and hope.
Clear Your Ancestral Genetic Code--Remove Genetic Blocks and Beliefs, by Elke Neher
Evidence of Past Intentions
If you want to stop here, I'll understand. But having come this far with you on this journey, I wanted to offer a slightly larger peek into my life, and the changes that have been wrought. I won't be long.
Decluttering the Back Room
One of the first things I did after my Point of Decision was to attack the disaster in my back room, which I intended to use as a study. The piles of projects, the mouse evidence, and boxes of unknowns literally filled the room. I barely had space to turn around. On top of this, my mother was in the process of moving, and had sent me home with a carload of stuff. To be sure, it was stuff I wanted . . . but it added to my feelings of overwhelm.
Resolutely, I visualized the beauty and spaciousness of the room upon completion, as well as the ease with which plaster repairs could be managed.
It was February 2020. Standing in the unheated room, I began by clearing off a table of holiday decorations, sewing odds and ends, and six years worth of accumulation. After countless trips to other parts of the house to put things away, I reorganizing the books and papers which needed to live on the table. Then I opened the nearest box, and dealt with its contents. Several more followed. I got rid of or re-purposed whatever I could, taking every opportunity to donate or discard the resulting bags and boxes of things. I rediscovered missing file folders and journals, and even one box of business records which had never been unpacked from 10 years earlier.
I burrowed my way into the room, working on the mess almost every day I was home--for six months.
I write this on August 2nd, 2020. The room is now not only usable, it's becoming welcoming. I do most of my writing here. The piles and files are still present--but not looming. I know where everything is, and what it is. I plan my work and work my plan.
My writing efficiency has skyrocketed. My creativity and ability to innovate has increased. And, last but not least, I discovered the key to 10 years of feeling stuck in a lifestyle that wasn't quite mine.
I discovered a card file box.
The Card File
In it were 3x5 cards dictating the schedule I had designed for my family and I when we first planned to homestead. We were still living in town then, frustrated and anxious. I had always wanted to raise my family in a quiet, rural spot. I had dreamed of this ever since spending holidays on my grandmother's Nebraska farm, which had a buffalo grass front yard. The wagon wheel tracks of pioneers ran through the corner nearest the road, and I spent hours imagining what it would be like to enjoy land which whispered so many generations of hopeful secrets.
Yet, why did this particular atmosphere fascinate me so? I was myself fourth-generation on an equally interesting farm, which had been homesteaded at the turn of the century.
It took some thinking, but at last I realized the point was "serenity".
Designing this schedule was my way of coping with the small-town frustrations. Through detailing an imaginary day on my future homestead, I could look forward with laser-focus to the reality.
That reality came to pass in all its most important aspects. I have lived the dream. I cut a path for myself with some scribbles on ex-library cards, during a time in which we had virtually no income, and spring was long in coming. To be sure, the homestead needed ongoing work, and we have given it plenty of that. But the life has been good to us, and I have no regrets.
Still, the cards have done their job. The vision has rolled on.
I ceremoniously laid these cards to rest as mulch around some flowers, and thanked them for the journey.
Everything I Ever Wanted--Rural Serenity
Topics Previously Covered in This Series
In Part 1, we explore why fear inhibits our ability to know what we really want, and act on it. Our thought loops often hold the key to realizing our deepest desires. Focusing on and owning these thought loops can allow us to move forward, first making the decision that fear will no longer own us.
In Part 2, we cover the basics of how to develop a vision board, whether in an electronic or physical format. We offer prompts and resources to help you decide what you truly want out of life.
In Part 3, we discuss the role of bio rhythms in setting intentions which yield pleasant fruit. When you pair your firm and detailed expectations with careful timing, cooperation from others and the Universe often results.
In Part 4, we pinpoint how to choose the perfect visuals and images for your needs, decode your personal color associations, and use past regrets and misunderstandings to help you go forward more wisely.
In part 5, we explore the decisions to be made while setting up an Intentions-by-the-Month system, using a Pinterest Board or other format of your choice. This system allows you to form a habit of setting intentions daily, or on whatever schedule you choose.
In Part 6, we walk through how to set up a long term life plan of 5 to 10 years, using either a vision board format, a mind map, or a combination of these two systems.
In Part 7, we acknowledge that manipulation and painful circumstances can make it difficult to know who you are and what you want, then present emotional and mental exercises to help you overcome the gaslighting or conditioning of others.
In Part 8, we show how becoming aware of your emotions is crucial to moving forward in your heart and life, and offer simple exercises to help you discern what you are feeling.
In Part 9, we offer tips and guidelines for creating affirmations that work for you. Developing your own personal affirmations can be a rewarding process, yielding insights into your own thoughts and motives.
In Part 10, we explore a way to develop communication between your mind and body. We focus on how to develop this communication, and offer some ways to troubleshoot resistance in your body, emotions, and mind.
In Part 11, we explore how to build courage and replace negative energy with that of healthy expectations, through the use of positive images to overcome the effects of bad memories.
Our Conditions and Qualifications
In case you missed our intro before, we are an autistic DID System who have spent years exploring how trauma affects our ability to live our best life and act on our deepest needs. We have no official diagnosis, and no legal qualifications to offer advice or training on mental health conditions. Conversely, we have a decade of experience managing our Dissociative Identity Disorder, as well as about four years working to understand our autism.
Our Approach to Vision Boarding
Because fear is such a huge roadblock to stability and satisfaction, we have chosen to approach the topic of vision board development by exploring how it can be used to assist in healing and changing trauma patterns. We specifically use it to overcome fear and other trauma responses.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and does not substitute for diagnosis, prognosis, treatment, prescription, and/or dietary advice from a licensed health professional. Drugs, supplements, and natural remedies may have dangerous side effects. If pregnant or nursing, consult with a qualified provider on an individual basis. Seek immediate help if you are experiencing a medical emergency.
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