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Open the Doors to Progress By Loving, Accepting, and Forgiving Yourself

My greatest passion is empowering others to improve their quality of life and achieve their goals by choosing healthy thoughts and habits.


Why Is It Important to Love and Accept Yourself?

  • You will experience an increase of joy when you can love and accept every part of yourself. One of our most important purposes here during this life experience is to have joy. I don't know anyone who feels joyful when they are experiencing negative emotions about themselves. When we are with the people that we love, we are joyful, and we are able to love them even knowing that they have weaknesses. When we are with people that we don't love or don't fully accept, we often feel uncomfortable or even unhappy. Since we have to be with ourselves all the time, doesn't it make sense to love ourselves and accept ourselves for who we are.
  • You will experience greater confidence and success when you love and accept yourself. This probably seems fairly obvious, but a greater sense of confidence and self-esteem is a natural result of being able to love and accept yourself. A lot of times building up the confidence and courage to try is one of the most difficult challenges people face when it comes to achieving goals and living their dreams. A healthy dose of confidence will give you the courage to keep trying even when things get difficult.

Accepting Yourself Does Not Mean You Are Lowering Your Standards for Yourself. It Means You Can Forgive Your Past

Accepting yourself doesn't mean that you have lowered your standards or that you are never going to grow, learn, or improve upon the wonderful person that you already are.

In fact, many people who find themselves in a situation of feeling stuck discover that once they are able to accept and forgive their weaknesses and flaws, validating themselves in their current situation, they are better able to move on and make the improvements that they want to see in themselves.

Accepting yourself simply means that you can look at your weaknesses, see that you are human, and love yourself regardless of whether you have weaknesses or not.


Loving and Accepting Yourself Gives You the Courage to Dig Deeper and Figure Out What's Holding You Back

When we don't love and accept ourselves, it can be really scary to dig deep and ask ourselves why we are the way that we are, but when we do accept ourselves, we can feel comfort in the fact that we aren't going to beat ourselves up over every little weakness that we discover.

This is where self acceptance can really open the doors to personal growth. Once we can fearlessly look at what is causing us to make poor choices or continue with habits and addictions that hinder our progress, we can more clearly see how to overcome those barriers.

Don't be afraid to let this be a really deep soul searching experience, and don't be surprised if there are some powerful thoughts and emotions that come up as you delve into what's really going on inside.

The emotions and memories that you experience are useful tools to help you understand what your triggers are and where you have room for personal growth.

Forgive Yourself for Your Weaknesses, and Move Forward

Recognize that the negative choices and habits you turned to in the past were merely mechanisms you used to cope with a situation that you felt was emotionally too overwhelming for you to handle. Forgive yourself for giving in to those weaknesses in the past.

You have probably experienced the feeling of a burden being lifted from your heart and mind when you forgave someone who you were upset with in the past. You've probably seen how forgiveness breaks down walls and makes room for progress.

You will have that same experience when you forgive yourself. Get ready to feel empowered and ready to move forward with life!

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Celebrate Your Successes

Once you have learned to love, accept, and forgive yourself, you are well on your way to some amazing progress and growth, and that's a great reason to celebrate!

Celebrate each time that you are able to love and forgive yourself! Celebrate the times when you can see that you have made progress and didn't give into a weakness at a time when you felt a bit triggered! Celebrate the new person that you are becoming!

By the way, celebrating the new person you are becoming doesn't mean that you don't love and accept the person that you used to be.

That person that you used to be has taught you some valuable lessons and you should treasure that. It is extremely important to your growth that you continue to love and accept every part of yourself (both past and present).


Rebecca Young (author) from Renton, WA on August 13, 2015:

Thanks! I'm glad you enjoyed it.

Kristen Howe from Northeast Ohio on August 13, 2015:

This is a beautiful hub, Becca. Voted up! Love it!

Rebecca Young (author) from Renton, WA on July 08, 2015:

I'm glad you enjoyed my hub. You are so right about accepting God's forgiveness. Thanks for your additional insight!

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on July 08, 2015:

Forgiving myself means that I accept God's forgiveness. If I cannot accept His forgiveness, whose can I accept? I love your attitude toward self-worth and I'm with you on the joy experience. Voted Up!

Rebecca Young (author) from Renton, WA on July 07, 2015:

Thanks! I'm glad you liked it! I am still working through this process myself, but have discovered, like you said, that it's definitely a valuable tool. I'm currently working on a hub that will follow up this one to hopefully make this process a little easier for people.

Krystal from Los Angeles on July 07, 2015:

I love this topic because it is so important to me. It's a lot of work to sift through the issues that keep us from loving ourselves but there is no greater work! I am on this path and all the reasons you named are true for me. Really nice work. ⭐️

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