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A Journey Towards Self-Discovery finding Your True Self

Writing is my passion. I have an undying thirst and quest in the field of writing. Some eat, drink, or use drugs when stressed; I write.


Until a couple of years ago, I spent a lot of my time running on the treadmill of life. I fill my life with slaving away, hard labor that involved working long hours with my mind, too preoccupied with things that didn’t validate or fulfill me.

I was focusing on material things that were keeping me from achieving my potential. I didn’t realize it back then, but because I filled my days with back-to-back activities, concentrating on the wrong things, I lost myself.

Unfortunately, not having a purpose or direction that shows me where I was going, so much limit my abilities and prevented me from recognizing myself. Well, not to mention how I severely underestimate the significance of setting goals and how hard it is to decide and understand your worth when you don’t know what your values are.

Thus, because I was a natural fence-sitter, who didn’t write goals and implement strategies that can get me there, my life turns into an unfulfilled existence with many heartaches and pain where there seems to be no relief in sight.

From the experience of nothing but struggles and hurt, I learned firsthand that doing things is not in alignment with my purpose or my true self-goes back to when I arrive in this world with birthright — as a young person. I found myself seeking self-accepting and longing to fit in; it seems to be the ideal thing.

Those things affect how I felt about myself to where it damaged me beyond recognition. Trying to gain the approval of others often left me driven by a fear which leads to bad choices, under social pressure, and moral compromises that took me away from my true self.


Ignorance of the true self is something humans have endured for a long time. It’s an unexampled Life. Only why not starts today down the path of self-discovery by doing radical editing to what is your true self and asking, “What is self-discovery?”

Self-discovery means to take risks and to gain insight into your character. It’s the innermost core of our continuously extending toward that which is not known.

A person may fail many times before discovering their real self, what defines them, what makes him or her happy, and what’s their sense of purpose.

To honestly know yourself, one needs to begin a puzzling journey that starts with the question, ‘Who am I.’ The core of finding peace and happiness is to find out who you are.

And to do that, you must soul search – every second of the existence of yourself. Although I know some have not taken the time to realize not knowing yourself well can cause an unfulfilled existence and a miserable life. I am sure most of us would love to know how to shake the blues and be happier in life.

All too often, life comprises people trying to find joy in a world so complicated that it seems impossible to “find happiness.” Also, a large number might be optimistic to look at the “VITAL Signs” that will help them understand their true self and assist them with ways to stop feeling like they are hiding behind a mask.

And for the one who is searching for ways to break through the sense of hiding behind a veil, it’s time to seek the self-awareness needed that can increase your motivation by helping you understand the first step toward maximizing your true self.

Some people’s life will shatter with stressful, terrible news, and there are only a few who will foresee it coming. Many will have some reaction. Some will cry. Some will be angry, and some will sit quietly paralyzed with shock.

We must seek ways to find a solution that will free us from the tension and drama of this world. Although we all are addressing stress, and it will rise when we least expect it.

We must take the time to prepare for a tragedy of some types like a relationship problem, personal crisis, family tragedy, work problems, toxic friends, and even financial stress that it may not prepare us to face. And with all the external pressure, these issues will make it hard for most of us to know the real us and be happy.

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If you want to make the most of this life, you must practice finding balance in a hectic world while applying for some self-preservation. Unsuccessful people don’t value their time; besides, we were not born into this world to be overworked, stressed, overwhelmed, weighed down, worn out, run-down, drained, or defeated by life’s challenges.

Amidst raising children, our personal and workdays, and outside activities, we’re all tired as it can be a genuine challenge to find stability. But as much as we love our kids and having them in our lives; they have a way of draining all our energy.

Find self-preservation is a journey that we all have to discover, and once we do, we will know the real us, be a happier and more positive person.

Here are five steps to claim your true self. To find happiness and breakthrough barriers that will ensure you’ll be happier.

Step 1 Review Your Life: To understand your true self, you must start by stepping back to review your lives, look for ways to be more perspective. When a person gets a more precise discernment, they can see beyond what is wrong, and lose the society-imposed version of what others identify as wary, and focus on doing what has to be done right.

Step 2 Identify Yourself: Next, you want to identify and set smart goals for the life you want on your journey to find yourself. Knowledge is power; it is essential to find out yourself. Finding out who you are and your purpose in life brings about happiness.

To understand the real you, you must ask yourself five things:

Ask yourself:

  • Do I know the real me, and how comfortable am I with my mortality?
  • How confident am I in my abilities to decide for myself, if I feel I am not; how do I gain self-assured?
  • What do I think is the meaning of my life?
  • What role does gratitude play in my life?
  • Do I know my purpose, and is my destiny pre-determined that I may share it however I wish?

Now set your goals and begins your journey to self-discovery to understand your true self toward happiness.

Step 3 Initiate Action: Finding yourself is difficult, but when a person does, it’s well worth it. After all, when you don’t know who you are, it’s an enlightening experience to find yourself.

Sometimes you might just have to start with small steps by making a list of things you are confident about yourself. Write the principle down about your life that needs improvement and the kinds of stuff that do not satisfy you; you want to move out of your life. What is most crucial, you take — initiate action now.

Step 4 is Seeking External Validation: When you notice a discontent within yourself, seek validation from others who can assist you to find the answer that you need to review changes in your life that are so needed. Ask for help from people who will validate and look inward to see the best in you, bring out the Elite, and believe in you.


Step 5 Choose Happiness & Co-create your Better Life: This step is a choice. It is a scientific fact that happiness is a choice, a person must decide to be happy. To accept happiness, it will take learning how to determine it and ways to unlearn old mental habits--but one thing for sure you are the only one who can bring about your happiness, the choice is yours

The last word, to co-create your better life, you need to take the time to plan your life. Begin creating by developing a strategic plan for your life. A strategic method that will help you outline who you are, where you are now, the strategy where you want to go, and how you intend to ensure you get there.

Plan to live differently and to have a happier life full of the desires of your heart. Wisdom and happiness can be the same thing, do the wise thing, choose happiness. I cannot emphasize enough how essential self-care is, and if we want to stop being our own worst enemy and get prepared to live a happier life. Let’s take action by applying these five steps to claim your true self.

Finding happiness will also bring about a sense of a new beginning. All left to do is enjoy self-knowledge and transform yourself into a better person. Getting to know the true you can be a challenge, yet exciting and rewarding.

If you want to stop asking yourself, “Who am I?” spend time finding out who you are. The change of self-concept will transmit you into the real you. You will live a much better life that involves happiness that comes with some of the things you desire. Take action today to do so.

My Name Is Victory, Johnathan Nelson

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2017 Pam Morris

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