Self-published author and avid reader living in the UK. Former victim and now a researcher of narcissistic abuse.
"What they don't know won't hurt them"
"You will believe my lies because they are the truth... they are my truth"
"I never said or did that, you're making it up"
"Treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen"
"You're paranoid it's all in your head"
These are all examples of narcissistic ideology. This defense mechanism has evolved over several years of exposure to negative subjective experiences (abuse). This is often a result of being brought up as part of a family that uses such defense mechanisms in order to protect themselves from potential abusers.
Even the wife or husband of a narcissist or sociopath will be subject to these defenses. However, it's not uncommon for mental, emotional, physical and even sexual abuse to exist within such families but there seems to also be a kind of universal law within these families.
They often turn a blind eye to each others tactics and successfully use manipulative techniques to regulate their self-esteem; it acts as a psychological ascension of self-worth making them feel less inferior within society.
They manipulate people outside of their inner circle keeping them at arms length and have very little respect for authority, usually viewing people such as police officers and those employed within the justice system as the enemy (even if they have not committed a crime).
Narcissistic and sociopathic family members use and manipulate each other and hide each others secrets whilst simultaneously spring-boarding off each other. The family often have their own invisible web of lies, distortions and deceit which remains at a level above (or below) the heads of everyone around them, remaining outside of their perception.
The members of the sociopathic or narcissistic family protect each other's lies because, according to their skewed and distorted values and beliefs, that's what they are there for. Although this twisted logic may be present throughout the entire family, it will most likely only be to the extent of a full-scale personality disorder in just a few of those related members, although others can display similar characteristics.
Paternity fraud intentionally being covered up long-term by such a family is the perfect example of narcissistic/sociopathic abuse. Everyone who condoned the act have all victimized the innocent supposed father, who has inevitably and ultimately been conspired against.
The Narcissistic Family
Have you ever been close to someone who you believed was as good as gold for years and years—only to eventually see behind the mask and discover that they were actually the single-most crafty, manipulative, devious, deceitful and deceptive outright liar that you had ever met?
A person who has the whole world around them fooled by their pure-seeming exterior; no one knows that their facade was never real. Someone who has successfully been taking advantage of, and manipulating the people around them, for years on end without any of the victims even having a clue that it was happening.
The victims may have suffered but the narcissist or sociopath has had them permanently fooled, they would be the last person the victims could ever dream of being capable of such deceit, it would be outlandish.
It appears to the victims of the narcissist or sociopath that even the nearest and dearest of the narcissist's family members are fooled by their natural and genuine-seeming false exterior. The narcissist plays the victim sucking on the empathy of the people closest to them, in order to manipulate them into covering up their own lies and deceit. Whilst this may be true to a certain extent it's also likely that there are probably a few family members who know how just how deceitful they can really be but at the end of the day blood is thicker than water and you cannot choose your family.
The people closest to the narcissist or sociopath will have been actively helping them abuse their victim(s) and their dirtiest, darkest secrets often remain concealed, hidden for decades whilst they carry out their reverse psychology propaganda gradually destroying the lives of their victims in the background, behind the scenes.
Genetic or Psychological?
There are currently two schools of thought regarding the cause of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (and other similar disorders).
Due to EEG's showing a lack of activity in the parts of the brain responsible for empathy, shame, guilt and conscience many researchers blame the personality disorders on a genetic defect.
However, psychology and genetics actually affect each other in the same way that the conscious and subconscious mind feed each other with information, therefore the genetic defect could be a result of the ongoing ideology and environment within such families and/or vice versa (i.e. epigenetics and neuroplasticity).
Within the psychological community it is well known that most narcissists and sociopaths have been subject to childhood abuse, sexual childhood abuse in a lot of cases, therefore psychologists tend to lean towards the belief that the disorder is actually a defense mechanism which has structured and evolved over many years, in order to deal with the abuse; it's a defense mechanism which has become malignant in the mind of the narcissistic person.
Using psychological methods to attempt to "undo" such a defense mechanism can cause detrimental changes unless the entire structural foundation of that defense mechanism is wholly and fully understood for each individual inflicted with NPD. Attempting to delve down into the subconscious roots of this defense mechanism can be extremely dangerous.
At the other end of the spectrum being overly smothered and spoiled during upbringing is still a form of abuse, though it is seldom seen as such and can still lead to a malignancy of narcissism.
This form of abuse can also lead a child into co-dependency, as everything they ever needed has been catered for and they have come to rely and depend on those around them in order to live their lives but their parents/guardians (i.e. sources of narcissistic supply) are not going to be around forever.
This type of abuse can lead a person into becoming what is currently known as an inverted narcissist, or co-narcissist. However, a diagnosis of Co-Dependent Personality Disorder is also possible.
It is known that malignant narcissism generally breeds more malignant narcissism, therefore the trait is abundant within narcissistic families who have been brought up believing the ideology and abuse to be a normal thing.
The fact that the part of the brain dealing with empathy and conscience is inactive does not necessarily indicate that the disorder must be genetic.
It has already been scientifically proven that not utilizing certain parts of the brain causes them to die off and become inactive anyway. This inactivity is most likely ultimately the result of the taught ideology within such families.
Narcissists and sociopaths are usually highly charismatic and very genuine-seeming people, yet they will walk over everybody in the background, behind the scenes, outside of their awareness, outside of their perception.
Many narcissists and sociopaths are highly successful because of their traits and it's inevitable that such people will end up sucking and leeching on each other whilst attempting to manipulate and fool each other in the process, whilst simultaneously using each other to springboard their way to the top during the course of their invisible battle.
This is why so many narcissists and sociopaths are at the top of the pyramid in secret societies and the corporate sector.
They are ruthless.
© 2012 Marc Hubs
Vicki on October 19, 2017:
So many important things people need to know
Marc Hubs (author) from United Kingdom on June 04, 2017:
Yes, she (female) is still alive. Although she doesn't really take care of herself properly any more and is quite ill (and doesn't care), which is unfortunate as our children still live with her.
Anon on June 04, 2017:
Marc, what happened to your narcissistic abuser? Is he still alive?
Narcissists use morality to abuse their victims by portraying them selves as righteous judges.
Marc Hubs (author) from United Kingdom on March 07, 2017:
Both influence each other to an extent. You may want to look into the science of epigenetics. Genes are influenced by their emvironment. I think it can work both ways. Some children of narcissists become conditioned into narcissism themselves, others become empaths. The science behind it is valid.
john on March 07, 2017:
to me it is obvious that npd is genetic totally. children are abused because the parents are narcissistic, the children don't become narcissistic because they are abused. I am sure if you took a normal child and it was raised by a narcissistic person that child would be miserable of course, but would not turn to be a narcissist. the field of pychology and psychiatry never seem to see the obvious on how much genetics play a role in our behavior.
Anonymous on August 04, 2016:
"gradually destroying lives of their victims behind the scenes" - I would like to add that what is considered "successful and good life" is rather subjective.
Anonymous on August 01, 2016:
Is it common for victims to visit therapist office personally?
Cali Samaritan87 on July 02, 2016:
Apology is in order sparkster, as I failed to notice you are still very much active on your thread. Please forgive my jumping the gun....
Excellent article by the way, and if you wouldn't mind saying a few words in a small Facebook group I started in response to all that's been going on in my life as a result of the narcopath, I would greatly appreciate it..
Thanks again for all the good information you provide, and the chance to be heard, at least by someone..
Cali Samaritan87 on July 02, 2016:
Sparkster (Marc) have you forgotten about this thread? Not to be rude, but please don't shirk the responsibility you put on yourself by creating it, OK?
That said, as I sit here with the universal W.T.H. tattooed on my forehead, licking my wounds, mostly inflicted by her, and I imagine others self inflicted, but would that be the case had she never so fundamentally diminished my role in this life, and never "knocked on my door" in the first place? Here is what I've come to understand, at least at this point in her "game", and make no mistake, I know I am a victim of narcissistic abuse, and at this point also, I cannot yet say if I will or will NOT be included in the survivor of narcissistic abuse crowd. In any case, if I may, I can think of no better common moniker to assign to the consummate narcopath than that of trifler, and this is my view on it, them thus far.
Triflers are always going to trifle, it's how they know they're breathing, and they will do every thing they can do discredit you, while they malign your name, sow seeds of doubt into the minds of your friends, and some of your friends will most likely even be lost, because these triflers are so good at what they do. Thing is though, unlike me and you, whether it's been 10 minutes or 10 years, triflers have no concept of the value of people, and all of us are disposable, the wise will know it's face and run, the kind will stay and eventually be emotionally injured, the confident will turn and walk away, the trifler will exhaust you, as they feed from you, and offer you NOTHING but promises of exactly what you've been dreaming of, and you won't have to have said a word, because the trifler's already been receiving instruction from the watcher of the need you seem to not let Christ fill, as I did, and now in the rearview mirror the one thing I see most clearly of all is this.... If the Holy Spirit had sent them, and it not actually had been the uncola spirit, the anti-spirit, the trifling spirit, it seems to me their focus would have been on the things of the Holy Spirit, and not how sexy my voice sounds to them, and on the joy abounding in consuming the Logos of God, more so than hungrily staring at me with that Pro 30:20 smile... Now though, I'm awake, and my eyes are open, and though ultimately when they finally got some sort of truth to escape from the blackened center of their being to say "you are nothing to me", and this after the seemingly endless superlatives and absolutes, making it clear triflers share something else in common, I mean other than total and complete self loathing, they are all equally crazy, bananas, nut house worthy, babbling idiots, as NO SANE person could ever be remotely OK living daily in contradiction of self, yet this is exactly what they do, so good thing for us they're oblivious to basically everything except their flavor of the week, month, whatever, and mirrors, lots and lots of mirrors, in the literal sense yes, but more so in each and every person they come in contact with, and lots and lots of making sure they're always being looked at, and completely each of them also incapable of that four letter word you and I enjoy at least once in each of our lives I believe, for some more...
So, what's worse really, showering someone with genuine love, them not comprehending it, except you are happy, and they notice a LOT OF ATTENTION at this time, or them always remaining oblivious, yet today they enjoy feeding off you, & until you're disposable, deluge you with compliments, and basically become whatever you've projected is most desirable, because it will also get them the most attention.
Seems to me, if one could simply remember this person feigns everything, and as long as you give audience they will perform. If I ever get the chance again, they won't know who is really trifling who.
This has been a public service announcement..
By Narcissist Are Not Funny Or Fun For Themselves Or Anyone..
Anonymous on June 09, 2016:
There are natural ways to deal with effects of abuse, for example there are herbs and plants that are effective against anxiety.
Marc Hubs (author) from United Kingdom on June 09, 2016:
It really depends on what country you are in as to whether the justice system is aware of NPD or not but the problem is that they don't really deal with it effectively. Whenever NPD is used in a court case, which is hardly ever, it's usually used as a mitigating circumstance in order to defend the narcissist.
Self-medication is never good. The symptoms of narcissistic abuse can be quite extreme and self-medicating can exacerbate those symptoms. Seeing your doctor about the symptoms you are experiencing would be a better idea. Therapy works better than medication.
Anonymous on June 07, 2016:
But what about drugs and victims? Can self medication help victims?
Anonymous on June 07, 2016:
Is justice system even aware of the existence of NPD?
Marc Hubs (author) from United Kingdom on June 07, 2016:
Many of us have been there, myself included. We survived. Start making plans now, fast. Do it quietly, keep it to yourself.
Anonymous on June 06, 2016:
Do victims manage to survive homelesness? I am on the verge of homelesness my self - I dont know what to do.
Marc Hubs (author) from United Kingdom on June 05, 2016:
Yes, it's very common. Narcissists will often use the threat of homelessness to manipulate their victims. Most victims don't usually have a support network and therefore end up facing homelessness even after leaving their abuser.
Anonymous on June 05, 2016:
Is it common for victims of narcissists to become homeless?
Anonymous on May 30, 2016:
Satan himself is an extreme narcissist. He craved worship and rebelled against God. Sam Vaknin said that narcissist uses his victims as proxies to do things he would not dare to do himself. He does so through projective identification. Thats exactly what Satan did to Adam and Eve.
"The serpent said to the woman, "You surely will not die! "For God knows that in the day you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil." - this is an example of Satan using projective identifaction on Adam and Eve. Everything Satan said about God, Adam and Eve were projections of his own narcissistic personality.
Marc Hubs (author) from United Kingdom on May 30, 2016:
There seems to be a lot written in the bible about narcissism. Quite remarkable really. Personally I don't believe in coincidences any more, only synchronicity. Take note of the synchronicities in your life - they have meaning.
Anonymous on May 12, 2016:
How did victim deal with narcissists 30 years ago before Internet? The only option they had then was to go to library or to therapist to help them.
Anonymous on March 24, 2016:
We see the similar thing happening with Donald Trump who has NPD and his supportes are also authoritarians, interesting coincidence.
Marc Hubs (author) from United Kingdom on March 22, 2016:
That petition was closed with just 77 signatures (100,000 needed) which doesn't surprise me in the slightest. They won't even add Sadistic Personality Disorder to the DSM, even though they acknowledge it exists. Anyway, I now understand where you're coming from and yes, they would be sociopaths/psychopaths.
Anonymous on March 19, 2016:
By authoritarian I meant Authoritarian personality that advocates absolute obedience to established authorities, as described by Theodore Adorno and his F-scale. These people have military style personality, they are very rigid, tough and persistent. It is described in this article:https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/sideways-view...
I noticed that there are interesting similarities between authoritarian personality, narcissists and sociopaths. I would say that authoritarian is on psychopathy spectrum. It is important to distinguish that authoritarian is not the same as authoritative, people often confuse the two.
Marc Hubs (author) from United Kingdom on March 15, 2016:
That's a good question and one which is debatable. I believe there are both narcissistic and empathetic people who are in authoritive positions. However, if we think about it logically there will always be those looking to exploit the enpathy of others in order to raise themselves to new heights. I would imagine that you would have to be fairly narcissistic in order to be particularly successful in the corporate world - business is dog-eat-dog.
Anonymous on March 15, 2016:
Are authoritarians psychopaths? Or are they separate personality types?
Anonymous on January 07, 2016:
You said that they destroy their victims lives with reverse psychology propaganda. Does this means that narcissist forces victims to spend their entire life living in poverty and moral depravity?
Marc Hubs (author) from United Kingdom on December 31, 2015:
Indeed. It's also possible to do these things without technology. All sentences have a hidden underlying structure which reveals their true meaning if you know how to read them and can be combined with other techniques such as reading body language and other forms of unconscious communication. Reading inflection would be another part of it.
Anonymous on December 29, 2015:
Fortunately we do live in information age, with the Internet of things, big data and artificial intelligence it is possible to record every single activity and even thoughts that humans do. Technologies like affective computing can literary read peoples minds and will definitively be used in psychiatry and psychology. I downloaded a voice analyzer application recently that can reveal hidden thoughts and emotions through voice analysis. It is pretty fun to use, you can reveal some pretty interesting things about people lol.
Marc Hubs (author) from United Kingdom on December 29, 2015:
I am a believer that truth will always be revealed in the end. Unfortunately, the problem is that some people will refuse to believe it anyway due to cognitive dissonance or will deny it because it may prove them guilty of something.
Anonymous on December 29, 2015:
Does the mask of sanity ever fall off? Do people eventually see narcissists true colors?
"For there is nothing hidden that will not be disclosed, and nothing concealed that will not be known or brought out into the open." - Luke 8:17
Nothing in all creation is hidden from God's sight. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of him to whom we must give account. - Hebrews 4:13
Anonymous on December 28, 2015:
Unless of course victim is lucky because something really terrible happened to his narcissistic abuser. My narcissist almost died in several occasions.
Anonymous on December 28, 2015:
But still, victims can self-medicate with alcohol and other drugs.
Anonymous on December 28, 2015:
I am thinking about blowing the whistle on my extended family. I can use anonymous email services to send this article to their neighbors.
Marc Hubs (author) from United Kingdom on December 28, 2015:
I love your second comment, Anonymous. However, in response to your second comment, in short, I would have to say yes it really is all that bad in most cases and as you acknowledged yourself, yes you were very lucky that you had people around you who could help. Usually, all communication with those people has been cut off and the victim has become isolated and any attempts at reaching out to those people are undermined by the narcissist.
Anonymous on December 25, 2015:
Right wing authoritarian ideology is associated with the lack of empathy and ruthlessness. Authoritarian narcissistic families portray lack of empathy and cruelty as a harsh discipline and punishment. My extended family is highly authoritarian, they attack and "punish" anyone who does not submit to their subjective moral values.
Anonymous on December 25, 2015:
"they carry out their reverse psychology propaganda gradually destroying the lives of their victims in the background, behind the scenes." - Is is really all that bad? Maybe there is something or someone in victims life that can prevent narcissist from destroying their life? I happened to be lucky because I encountered very nice people that gave me support.
Tjay on October 12, 2015:
Every narc is his/her own god; this makes the society highly polytheistic!
My grandparents followed an actual cult, wm. branham (who launched j.jones). 'Malignant mum' grew up listening to his ranting tapes and became a model of jezebel.
I think the answer will be epigenetic with the mind modifying the brain through neuroplasticity.
Gail Meyers from Johnson County, Kansas on October 13, 2012:
I'm not sure how I missed this hub, so I am glad you referred me to it. I enjoyed reading this hub. I think those who achieve high ranks are without a doubt ruthless. I can tell you from personal experience they go far beyond just playing off each other - gang stalking, smear campaigns, gaslighting, drugging, etc.
Carly Sullens from St. Louis, Missouri on September 21, 2012:
This is a great hub. Your writing and ability to explain a very complex mental disorder well is amazing. Thank you for the much needed insight.
Marc Hubs (author) from United Kingdom on September 11, 2012:
Thanks for the comments. I'm so glad I can help others by getting this info out. The more we understand these things the better prepared we are to deal with them.
swansea girl on July 09, 2012:
OMG I've just realised this is the family I married into. My husband died of cancer 3mths ago and suddenly his family went 'mental' - right out of the blue. I never saw it coming. They tried to take over completely - the funeral, his care - were abusive to him & myself & forced their way into our home. We had to ask the nurses for help.They have all attacked me & the children. They've almost driven me insane & done far too much for me to go into here.
Anyway, I went online to try & work out why they were acting like this and began to see some very disturbing behaviour traits that I was always aware of but somehow didn't 'see' clearly. Their behaviour has all the hall marks outlined here. I realised his sister was a sociopath but couldn't explain why the rest of the family were actively encouraging/covering up her behaviour & why their own behaviour was also bizarre & questionable. Well, thanks to this post I now know. Talk about a light bulb moment.
Their attacks - psychological, verbal abuse have escalted to vandalism. The police aren't taking me seriously (one sister's husband is an ex cop). Solicitor's letter has not helped. I really don't know what they'll do next or how to help myself. Hope someone has ideas for me.
Theophanes Avery from New England on July 03, 2012:
You hit the nail on the head with this one. Have had to deal with too many of these people and the more I watch them the more I want to tear out my own hair. Thanks for educating the public.
To LovesBallet - Get out while you can! trust me you'll be better off. Once you marry someone like this you are SCREWED. They will take you for all you got - emotionally, financially, mentally. I also am disabled due to illness and have been since my early teens. I lived in fairly severe isolation for years and no one was more shocked than me when at 25 I found my first boyfriend and he's wonderful! Treats me with respect and dignity and loves me for who I am. You're worth more than the manipulative relationship you're in. There are better men out there - I guarantee it.
newchapter on June 11, 2012:
I was married into such a family...and everything you've written in this hub is scarily accurate.
I'm from the UK and married a narcissist who came from a very successful business/ entrepreneurial family. I have never met such egotistic, deluded and selfish people in my life.
The part where you write:
"Narcissistic and sociopathic family members use and manipulate each other and hide each other's secrets springboarding off each other. The family often have their own invisible web of lies, distortions and deceit above the heads of everyone around them and outside of their perception. They protect each other's lies because in their minds that's what they are there for. Although this twisted narcissistic logic may be present throughout the family, it will only be to the extent of a full-scale personality disorder in just a few related members although others may display similar characteristics" Wow. Again. My ex-husband, his mother and his grandfather are living proof of this type.
I love reading the hubpages on this extreme personality disorder. Why didn't I find these pages a year and a half ago?!?
Voted up :-)
Shalah Chayil from Billings, Montana on May 27, 2012:
But all of the damage can be healed. It really can. My healing began years ago and is still ongoing. All of the emotional, mental, psychological trauma can be healed.
LovesBallet on April 03, 2012:
Tammy, thanks for your comments. I pray all the time. I have had this illness for just over 3 years now. I admit I am co-dependent and I also realized after reading several books that I grew up in a codependent family (mother-father role models). So there is definite history of this in my family. I have been doing lots of crying just b/c it's been such a difficult path for so long and I would hope to believe it will end eventually and I might have a chance to be happy again someday.
Tammy Barnette on April 02, 2012:
LoveBallet, I agree totally with sparkster(interestingly my daughter is a Scorpio but my ex husband is a Pisces)You have to love and respect yourself enough to expect more from life. I can not imagine how scary it must be to have a disability that keeps you from working but I totally understand dependence, if you are a christian I suggest prayer, and lots of it, if you have insurance I suggest counseling(I think you may be co-dependent)But please trust me, no matter how hard it is to do it on your own the benefit will far out way the struggle. My prayers are with you:)
Marc Hubs (author) from United Kingdom on April 01, 2012:
Thank you for your comments. Loveable, associating a star sign with narcissism is a mistake, try not to associates these things too closely. My narcissistic ex is Scorpio and 100% British.
There is a way out. The long terms suffering is not worth it, it's soul destroying. Keep quiet and start planning your escape now.
LovesBallet on March 31, 2012:
Wow...the 2nd paragraph under "Narcissistic Bloodlines" hit the nail on the head with my current boyfriend of 5 yrs. We are now engaged but I'm trying to wiggle my way out of it!
Another thing I wanted to say and this is not meant to offend anyone, but from experience I would highlight this: Any narcissist or sociopath is undoubtedly a Saggitarius. And/or he comes from a traditional Sicilian/Italian raised cultural background. Mine is all of this.
I've been in a relationship like this (still am in the same one). Very emotionally abusive and he was the 100% definition of a Narcissist. I must bring up something VERY important since it hasn't been mentioned yet. Personally, I have found it extremely difficult to hang onto "real" friends and people I can trust, besides immediate family members. The fact that I also don't have any girlfriends is a huge impact on why I choose to stay in my relationship. I also have a debilitating illness which is vertigo-related and so I'm completely dependent (emotionally, psychologically, etc) on him and unfortunately when you are with a narcissist, they have NO empathy. Everything has to be HIS way or else a catastrophe will ignite between us. And it's ALWAYS my fault. He never does anything wrong. So it's extremely hard to just pick up and leave when you really are dependent on someone financially. I live with my parents still, because of my illness which I've had since I was little. This has affected my self esteem greatly, topped with all the 5 years of emotional abuse from my boyfriend. It's true that you get so used to having a certain type of relationship that you cannot understand what a "healthy" relationship is and often you aren't interested in the good men that may be out there (if there are any left). So I can totally identify with the women who choose to stay in abusive relationships. My older sister was married to someone (who was exactly like my boyfriend is) and finally got divorced just a year ago. She was with him for over 25yrs and had 3 kids with him. Now she is suffering and my poor parents have practically lost all their retirement fund from paying lawyers and having to buy my sister a car and many other necessities, not to mention a place to stay. Her husband was a complete narcissist who also held extra power by the fact he made a ton of money as an engineer. However, he kept tabs on my sister and made her account for every penny she spent throughout their entire marriage. She was used to this and thought this was "normal." This was abuse at the core. She was controlled through her whole marriage. I am afraid of winding up in the exact same situation. And my great fear is that if I marry my boyfriend in the future, and years later we divorce, my parents will not be alive to "save me" so to speak. It's living between a rock and a hard place. I have an illness which prevents me from keeping any type of job for more than a few months or finishing my college education. And if I leave, I will have less of a life than what I do now with my boyfriend. It makes me sad and sick to my stomach because in my mind, I feel like there is no way out.
Tammy Barnette on February 28, 2012:
Wow, you have no idea how much that knowledge has helped me. I have a daughter who fits this profile as does her father, my ex-husband, they are two peas in a pod, they cover for each other and just everything you said here fits perfect. I have always wondered about my daughter having one or both of these disorders but most texts I have read on the subject point to sexual abuse etc. My child is the spoiled rotten one, and I have never seen that explanation before. I had two daughters back to back so I very much over protected her, and always stood by her as it seemed to me she was just misunderstood. Thank you sooo much, you have no idea, light bulb moment!
rachel on February 23, 2012:
I am a survivor of one of the greatest, most sadistic covert narcissist that ever lived! She is still living, she is 86 years old and is a preacher in the African M.E.Zion Church!. She murdered my grandfather in 1979 and got away with it. Other members in my family know for a fact that she did it, but they refuse to tell. She compounds our problem by being a known "root worker" Pleases visit my blog 1motherlesschild.blogspot.com Your article clearly defines and recognizes her.
Marcy Goodfleisch from Planet Earth on February 01, 2012:
Excellent topic. I've seen multigenerational sociopathic families; they do exist. Voted up and interesting.
Tonja Petrella from Michigan on February 01, 2012:
Voted up, useful, awesome and interesting. I read somewhere that narcissism is the only personality disorder that is learned. It's a scary thing, and then when you combine it with other disorders, which commonly occurs, you have a real recipe for disaster. I am putting a link on my sociopath hubs and sharing.
MP50 on January 25, 2012:
I do know exactly what you are talking about here.
Interesting and useful, voted up.
medicinefuture on January 24, 2012:
you have deep fascination with parapsychology and narcissism as way of life. I am deeply interested in you're such writings on these obscure subjects. i am observing what archetypal personality you are really? vote up
Marc Hubs (author) from United Kingdom on January 24, 2012:
Thanks for the comment rasta1, I see you have some awesome hubs too which I'm off to read now.
Marvin Parke from Jamaica on January 24, 2012:
you just expanded my scope on the topic. The dynamics of childhood behavioral conditioning is definitely the main culprit.