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Misunderstanding Sacrifice

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What is one of the biggest sacrifices you’ve ever made in your life?

Each day we all can sacrifice for anything, really.

Maybe it’s one of the many sacrifices you’ve made for your kids. Or a sacrifice you’ve made for your parents, friends, family, heroes, school, career, etc. For anyone with a spouse, marriage might be the source of many of your larger sacrifices. These are some of the things we all tend to sacrifice for… but there are many others.


If You Liked It, Then You Shoulda Put a Ring on It

My biggest sacrifice is most likely my marriage. It is pretty clear what most of us sacrifice in a marriage. There are some things I used to do that I will no longer be able to. Unless my wife and I have some sort of agreement or arrangement. That’s the general idea, right? So, through marriage, I am sacrificing some of my personal freedoms and my ability to let loose with some of my natural urges/emotions towards them other available hot women.


We Do Not Look At Sacrifice In The Right Light

From an early age, we are taught to only think of the word sacrifice in a negative light. For example, I just stated that “I am sacrificing my personal freedoms for marriage.”

No one thinks that’s a positive thing. No matter who or what you are sacrificing for, it is most certainly negative to give up or compromise something we all value so much: our freedom. So, when we hear the word “sacrifice,” we tend to focus on what we are giving up and not what we are gaining positively from it.

But originally it was not meant to be that way. A couple years ago, I had heard on a podcast that the origin of the word sacrifice did not really focus on what we were giving up, but what were getting from it. The main purpose of the word was for getting closer to, or connecting with, something or someone else. And when you think of sacrifice in that way, it makes a lot more sense why we would ever sacrifice anything in life.

To get closer or connect with my wife, I sacrifice. And she sacrifices to get closer or connect with me. This is the positive aspect of sacrifice that we often avoid looking at. Because while this part of sacrifice is truly beautiful, sadly it seems much more entertaining and pleasing to think of the negative aspects of sacrifice.


The Biggest Sacrifice

What do you think is the biggest sacrifice for anyone to make? The obvious answer would likely be your life. “There is no greater love than laying down your life for a friend.”

It is why we rightfully thank our service members who sacrifice their safety almost every day and occasionally their life for an entire nation of people. So, death/life would obviously be the sacrifice with the biggest impact.

But there is actually a larger sacrifice in volume, not in impact, that we all make every day that could be considered anyone’s biggest sacrifice: time.

If you sacrifice by giving some of your time to anything, ANYTHING… you get closer to it or connect with it. We do this with everything, every single day.

If I spend time watching a TV show 1 hour a day, I’ve gotten closer to the show, the characters, and all who were involved in making/publishing it. From you sacrificing your precious time reading this, we have gotten a little bit closer. Thank you for that.

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Sacrifice for Yourself First

I once heard Lex Fridman say that every accomplished person he met had some form of physical workout plan. We often think of it as exercise, walking, or sports, but Lex mentioned that meditation also counts.

One way of understanding this idea in terms of sacrifice, is that it is most important to first sacrifice to yourself. If you want to get thinner, sacrifice the junk food for some healthy food, or sacrifice to eat less calories each day. If you want to make more money, spend/sacrifice more time working, searching for work, or building your business. As they say, time is money.

We all have unique dreams, goals, and talents. So, it is important to remember to always start off sacrificing for yourself first, or you could lose connection with who you really are and who you want to be.


Keep Aware of Your Focus and Choose Your Sacrifices Wisely

I believe it is our focus that aids in seeing sacrifice in a negative light. We feel negative about sacrifice when we focus on what we have given away, what we might have lost/given, or if we do not get the results we wanted or expected.

However, the negative aspects of sacrifice are only half of the truth. Once enough time has passed, we eventually can take a step back to look at the big picture. And when we see the other half of the truth on sacrifice, we may notice that focusing on the negative aspects of sacrifice is probably affecting us a lot more than we realize.

This is why another one of my favorite quotes is: “If you look at what you have in life, you’ll always have more. If you look at what you don’t have in life, you’ll never have enough.” -Oprah Winfrey

I wonder what other sacrifices there are in life that I make every day, but tend to ignore because I am frightened of loss or regret? If I wanted to connect with something or someone, what type of sacrifices would I have to make? And is it truly worth sacrificing my time and effort?


Conclusion — Adjust As Needed

Lastly, I think it is important to remember that it is always possible to adjust what you sacrifice each day. Little by little, you can choose to sacrifice a little more or less for yourself or for others. It all depends on who or what you want to connect with and be closer to in your life.

I would love to hear some positive stories of what others may have sacrificed to achieve the goals in their life!



I hope these thoughts are helpful. Thank you so much for reading. I Agape-Love you all.

Until next time, God bless.

This post is based off of my 5 Minutes of Failure video series

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© 2022 BK Johnsen

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