Our human brain has its own problems
Welcome to our article (57), Mental case problems
Dear readers, today we are going to talk about mental health. You know, in life there are many problems; one of the biggest problems is our human brains, when it does not work the way it is supposed to work, and instead of solving the problems that we have, it becomes a problem itself. We can say that mental illness is an enigma, since they are strange to understand.
Anyhow, today I am witnessing one of this mental health problems at close range, so, let us look at what is happening, and if we can do anything to help this person. We know that it is not right to talk about mental health. But then, I think that it can help talking about it, because it is the only way to find help, and what can be done.
Our human brain is there to guide us when it works well
This is a personal cry for help
I think that people that are affected from a mental disorder, they are not aware of the problems they are causing to themselves and the people around them, they are aware that they have a health problem, but they don’t know what to do, so, while they wish to be helped, they don’t try to find help because they are confused. So, we can say that it is a silent cry for help; it is a sad story, they need help, but they don’t look for help.
I know that this is a sad story. But in life things happen, and I believe it is useful to talk about what is happening. So, I am going to talk about what is happening to this young man, hoping that somebody can help me.
You see, what I am talking about here, is a very strange case of mental illness, that is affecting a young man close to me. Now because this case is about mental health, all names and relationship to me have been changed, so, there is no link that can identify the person concerned. Anyhow, I am not an expert in mental health issues, even though I have observed a few cases of mental illness.
Anyhow, this article is not meant to pass advise or information to anybody, because I need advice myself, therefore, you can say that this article here is a cry for help, because we need help and there is no help.
Therefore, I am in search of what can be done to help this young man, before he becomes too ill, that would be hard for him to become a normal member of the community again, as I fear that there are signs that this is happening. Now that I have explained the reasons, let me tell you about the people involved in this case.
People involved in the case
In this article we are talking about Mr. James Lee, who is the son of Mr. Don Lee; anyhow I and Mr. Don Lee have been friends for years, even before he married Sara who is a close relative to me, so, there is not much that I don’t know about Don Lee and his family, including James Lee that is now a young man in his early thirties. Unfortunately, James Lee has mental health problems, for this reason we believe he lost his job, or he left his job as an engineer; yes Mr. James Lee is a Civil engineer; he graduated at the University of Queensland, he has worked for a few years as a Civil engineer and that was good for him; the real reason why he lost a left his job is hard to say, because James Lee keeps these personal things to himself.
Therefore, these days Mr. James Lee does not work, and he is not looking for work ether, if he continues to do nothing, he is going to waste his life achieving nothing. Mr. Don Lee laments this state of things, so, he is worried about his son mental health, because he is acting strange, as I am going to explain here under. Anyhow, we want to help James Lee; so, we are looking for ways how to help him.
While we are thinking to help him, we start thinking all those years of studying have gone down the drain, because James Lee is mentally sick, and does not want to see the mental doctors, he denies his illness, and that has become a real problem for everybody around.
Anyhow, we are concerned about him, so, we want to help him and are looking for help and crying for help to anyone that can help. But at the same time, we don’t want to say much openly, because it is not nice to talk about people with mental illness. So, even asking for help has become a problem, in this case.
The mind has its own problems
Mr. Lee parents lament his illness
Mr. and Mrs. Lee lament about their son illness, because they have done everything they could to help him, but they did not succeed in helping him much, so, they don’t know what else to do, you see, wherever they turn there are problems. Anyhow, today these mental health problems are hard to solve; I can see the reasons why, but at the same time, I wish that it was easier to access this mental health service.
Today it is hard to see a mental health doctor, but it needs to be easy; because in cases like James Lee, I believe that it is necessary that the patient be seen from these doctors soon, because the longer a patient is sick, the longer it is going to take to make him healthy again; therefore, they need to be seen as soon as possible, but most times it does not happen that way, that is why James Lee’s parents lament about the mental health system. Because it is hard to see a young Civil Engineer go to waste. At this point of time, I believe that you want to know why we believe that he is mentally sick, so, let us describe how he behaves and what he does.
James Lee is not working these days, and he does not look for work, which is not right for a qualified young man of his age; his behaviour is strange and does not make sense to anybody that sees what he does. Now let me describe a few strange things that he does: he comes home and he starts making loud noise by banging say the car keys on the table, then he may go in his bedroom and slams the door, after that he purposely drops things on the floor and makes loud noise, if anybody asks him what is the problem, he gets very upset, because he is upset he wants to scratch himself, slap himself or bite himself and other strange things as well, and then he blame the person asking him and say; look what you make me do? It is your fault, because you are making me do this to myself: But that is not all, because his behaviour keeps changing, so, it is even hard to make a list of what he does. For this reason, the family and close friends are concerned about James Lee.
Anyhow, because we want to explain Mr. James Lee behaviour as much as possible, we are going to say more about his strange behaviour here-under.
Some mental people behaviour
Mr. James Lee illness strange behaviour
As we have said, we believe that James Lee has mental illness, that is the reason why he behaves in these strange ways. Anyhow, Mr. James Lee is behaving in many strange ways and it is hard to explain most of them, but I must try to describe the most obvious, and the most consistent, so that a profile story case can be made. So, let us tell you what has happened recently, then, we will start telling you the story, in a more detailed way from the beginning.
As we have said above, James Lee becomes upset and agitated, when people talk to him, he likes to stay all by himself with his own thoughts, but at the same time he makes these noises that upset the people around him; so, what has happened a few weeks ago is this; it was about past ten PM when most people go off to bed, but James Lee was not thinking of going to sleep at that time, he must have been upset in his own strange ways, because he started one of those strange behaviour, and was making very loud noises, his parents tried to ask him why he was doing these things, but James Lee became upset and among other things, like scratching his face, hitting himself with his own fist in the head, dropping on the floor, as if he was dying or something similar, he also went into the kitchen picked up a knife and wanted to harm himself with it, and many other things that are hard to describe.
Mr. and Mrs. Lee were very worried about James, and even though they were very upset and telling their son that they wanted him to see a doctor as soon as possible, or they would call an ambulance to take him to the nearest hospital; James Lee did not want to hear about it, and he tried to stop them several times, when they were calling the ambulance, but in the end somehow they managed to call the ambulance and it came about midnight; strange as it may seem, James did not argue much with the paramedic of the ambulance, while the ambulance was there, Mr. Don Lee the father of James Lee explained to the paramedic about the suicidal intention of his son, in the hope that he would be seen from a psychiatrist, so, they thought that when the doctors see their son, their problem would be half solved, but even all this effort was not to be successful, because James Lee only saw the physician of the hospital during the night, or in the early hours of the morning; then he was supposed to wait at the hospital until the psychiatrist came in to see him, but he did not want to wait, so, he left the hospital and walked back home. The staff of the hospital were alarmed at his disappearance and called Mr. Lee, to see if James Lee had returned home. Anyhow, soon after that James came home, so, everything seemed to be a bit better, except for the fact that James Lee had failed to see the psychiatrist, when his parents had provided one of the best opportunities to see him.
Here we have to point out, that it is hard to live with these people that have a mental illness, and a good opportunity that could have solved the problem has vanished, just because James Lee is in denial and he believes that he does not need to see a psychiatrist. So, now Mr. Lee and the rest of the family are waiting for next opportunity or think to create another opportunity for James to see a mental doctor.
Mr. and Mrs Lee days are a torment
Since the day James Lee came back from the hospital without seeing the psychiatrist, life is a torment for Mr. and Mrs. Lee. Because they are still looking for ways of how they can make their son James see a psychiatrist, so, every day that passes, it is another day of torment for Mr. Lee and his family; one has to acknowledge, that there is nothing more painful than this sad happening in a normal day life, because you are forced to see that a member of your family can be helped, but you cannot help him, because he denies that he needs help.
Today I am editing this article, because I need to add something else, as things have changed. But, let me tell you these sad happenings have gone on for several months, and all that time it has been a torment for Mr. and Mrs. Lee. But one day after many attempts finally they got their son to see a mental specialist, which admitted James Lee to hospital, where James Lee stayed about a week. Because a patient in hospital costs a lot of money to the government, Mr. James Lee was discharged early. Anyhow, at this point of time things seem to be a bit better; because James Lee admits to himself that he is sick, so, he takes his medicine, and goes back to see the hospital doctor every month.
Now it has been a few months since Mr. James Lee was in hospital. Today James Lee is a bit better, because he is not very agitated as he was before, but still he is not able to work, because he does not even look for work. Mr. and Mrs. Lee are worried, because this can become permanent, as they don’t see their son health improve enough, and to the point of becoming independent.
Anyhow, one wonders how hard life can be, it seems to hit always the same unfortunate people, is seems to run in some families more than the others. Anyhow, at this point of time, we must wait and see what happens next.
Today I am updating this article
Today I am editing this article, so, I want to report what has been happening, since I wrote this article about James Lee illness. There is not much positive to report, because even though the state of health of, Mr. James Lee has improved, it has not improved that much, but he is calmer than before. However, James Lee has not found a job, and he is not looking for one.
Mr. Don Lee and Mrs. Lee are upset, because now, they start to believe that their son may never work again, after so many years of study and everything else. They have tried their best, they have made their son see a physiatrist, he has been in hospital for a week, and a few follow up visits, which have helped a bit. I suppose that today the doctors cannot fix everything, and in the case of James Lee, they have only partly helped.
Anyhow, Mr. and Mrs. Lee were proud to have their son a civil engineer in the family, now they think that they are going to have a sick son to look after, so, in their old age, instead of their son looking after them, they must continue to look after their son, because James does not know what he is doing.
So, what can we say, we can only be sorry for them, because no one deserves to be this ill that cannot look after oneself, and we feel sorry for the parents as well, because that is a big burden they should endure?
We hope to have better news next time, if we come back to edit this article again.
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- My life my struggles
These are my life struggles, as we all know there are a lot of times when during our lives we have to struggle, so this hub is telling you about my life struggles, it is all part of my life story.
- Farming today compared to the old way
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F-Menchise (author) from Brisbane Australia on June 01, 2015:
Thank you Denise, you are a very helpful person. I am taking your advise and I will talk to the family physician, in the hope that they could help, or at least tell me what could be done; in this case it is very hard to decide what to do, because the ill person does not want to go to the doctor, so we are all waiting for what is going to happen next and from there decide our next move. Thank you again.
Denise W Anderson from Bismarck, North Dakota on June 01, 2015:
This situation is very unfortunate. It is hard for loved ones to see one of their own deteriorate to the point that action must be taken. In many places, it is possible to contact law enforcement and have the person committed to a mental health unit for evaluation, especially if they are in danger of hurting themselves or others. If they are not to that point, it is difficult to get help. Perhaps the family can talk to a local human services center for advice, or even the family physician. Taking the person for a physical health evaluation may reveal issues that have not been considered, as well as a referral for mental health treatment.