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Master the Art of Making Peace With Yourself

Alnajda is a passionate person towards growth and personal development.

"The life of inner peace, being harmonious and without stress, is the easiest type of existence" - Norman Vincent Peale.

Let go of resentment

The very first thing of making peace towards others or yourself as well is to accept the fact that what is done and already happened can not be undone again. Just try peacfully to let go of resentment feelings inside you.
Accept the situations as they are or forget about them at all. Who would want to remember negativity? Furthermore not to mention that the accumulation of a lot of anger and resentment feelings inside, may cause diseases one of them is cancer.

Simply Accept that you are imperfect and exposed to different mistakes.
It is very natural for a human being to make mistakes in a moment or another. What we need to understand is that the mistakes we make, are not us ourselves. Our mistakes are very much dependent on the situations not necessarily rooted in us. We are still wonderful people, worthy of love, deserving to love and be loved in return, despite the mistakes we might commit.

This kind of behavior towards ourselves makes us even more aware of wanting to make a change within ourselves.

Forgive yourself

We forget very often that we need to forgive ourselves for the sins or the mistakes of our past. Sometimes we may think that it is even right, to punish ourselves because in this way we can fight the ego, but no.

The recent studies claim that by starting from ourselves it might be a lot easier to forgive others as well The habit of self-forgiveness or self-compassion is crucial to get passed the feeling of being guilty. All that we can do is to list the mistakes we have committed, to accept they have happened for real in life, to accept the feeling of making a change to ourselves for ourselves.

Forgive others

There's nothing more divine than forgiving others.
"And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you, your trespasses". Mark 11:25

The more we forgive the ones who have harmed us, the more our mistakes will be forgiven as well.

"Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you". Ephesians 4:32.
"The Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive". Colossians 31:13.

"Forgive them, even if they are not sorry". Quran 24:22
Narrated by Abu Huraira: A man said to the prophet(PBUH), Advise me! The prophet(PBUH) said, "Do not become angry and furious". The man asked (the same) again and again and the prophet( PBUH) said in each case. "Do not become angry and furious". Sahib al-Bukhari.


See life differently in a positive way

We are all involved in a fantasy that what could be better for us, what way would be better for us to live out lives or how our lives would be if we were in different circumstances.

But as long as this reality we dream a lot is the ideal one, and that we want to work more towards it, the actual reality and the people in 3D are not perfect, and that none ever will be perfect. But for our highest good to master the art of making peace with ourselves is to make everything as easy as possible and not to pay attention to other circumstances already on the surface of life.
This is achieved by seeing the brightest side of life always.

Remove from vocabulary the verbs such as Must, Have to

There's nothing more disturbing than forcing ourselves during things we do not like by usually using the verbs such as: Must or have to which show a strong obligation. To make peace we need to flip the page of talking and seeing things.

We know sometimes it is not that easy, but it is not impossible either For example instead of saying l must wear the mask to protect myself, say l will wear the mask to protect myself, l am happy and grateful that there are tools as masks and gloves that protect me and all the other people around.

Comments

Alnajda Kadi (author) from Tirana Albania on October 07, 2020:

Thank you! Blessings to you too.

Helna on October 07, 2020:

"Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you" I like this bible verse. You have provided some food for thought. Blessings.