Margaret Minnicks has been an online writer for many years. She writes articles that are interesting to her readers.
The wedding vows include a promise to love one's partner in sickness and in health. For one young Iowa couple, their marriage was short because of sickness. Within five hours of saying, "I do" the groom died in the arms of his bride.
According to KWWL, a 20-year-old army veteran married the love of his life just hours before he died last month. Tristan Laue has served two years in the United States Army before he was medically discharged in April 2018 because he was diagnosed with a rare form of liver cancer. He knew he was going to die, but he wanted to do one last thing before his death.
Laue wanted to marry Tianna Hargrafen. A few days after he proposed to the love of his life, their families didn't hesitate to plan a wedding. Within 48 hours after the proposal, the wedding took place with the entire community gathering to celebrate in the Hargrafen family backyard in Waverly, Iowa.
A Funeral Instead of a Honeymoon
Even though Tristan and Tianna were able to get married, they didn't have time to go on a honeymoon because the groom died within five hours after tying the knot. It was a happy occasion for only a few hours. The bride went from planning a wedding to planning a funeral.
Tristan's funeral services were held at Crosspoint Church in Waverly on Saturday, May 4, 2019. Needless to say, the young bride had a lot to deal with.
Tristan and Tianna share the same birthday on May 11. While the widow is still mourning her husband, she will miss him even more on their birthday that they usually celebrate together.
A Memorial for the Groom
In the close-knit community, Laue’s classmates want to honor the former veteran with something so he can be remembered. The class of 2016 set up a GoFundMe page to raise money for a memorial bench in his honor to be on the Chickasaw Legacy Pathway.
The goal was for $3,000. Within just seven days, $3,595 had already been pledged by 83 people. Money that is left over from the construction of the memorial bench will be given to Tristan's loved one to help where it is needed.
Brides and Grooms Who Died on Wedding Day
Other Death Bed Weddings
While Tristan and Tianna's short marriage was a tragedy, there have been similar cases over the years.
Last August, 41-year-old Scott Plumley was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer of the esophagus that had already spread to his liver. He was told he had just days to live. He and the love of his life Michelle White, 32, were already engaged and had planned to get married at a later date. After the tragic news, they decided to move the date forward so they could spend some time together before Scott died, according to The Sun.
Michelle, along with her family and friends planned the wedding in just 24 hours because they knew they didn't have time to spare. The ceremony took place in the hospital. Scott died 13 hours after he and Michelle were legally married.
Brides Have Also Died Shortly After Marriage
It has not only been the grooms who have died hours after getting married. There have been reports of brides dying and leaving their husband behind to mourn their death.
A 19-year-old bride with terminal cancer got married in a hospital as she only had hours to live. Nina Marino and Joey Williams, 21, had been childhood friends since primary school. After they began dating in June 2017, Nina was diagnosed with undifferentiated pleomorphic sarcoma, which is a type of soft tissue cancer. This did not stop the cancer patient from wanting to get married before she died.
The couple did not have time to plan a wedding, according to The Mirror. Nina's family and the hospital staff decorated her room in the ICU at St. Joseph’s Children’s Hospital in Tampa, Florida. About 30 family members, friends, and hospital staff gathered around Nina's bed to celebrate. The bride lived longer than doctors had estimated. She died three days later after she and Joey tied the knot.
Reasons for Deathbed Marriages
There is a rise in the United States when it comes to deathbed marriage. It is not uncommon for some males and females to decide to get married hours or days before they are expected to die. They might have different reasons for wanting to do so even though they wouldn't be able to consummate the marriage, go on a honeymoon, have children or enjoy a long life together.
The reasons might include some of the following:
- They want to make it legal in the eyes of God and society especially if they had been cohabitating.
- Couple what the surviving partner to have legal protection.
- Sometimes the man wants the woman to take his last name.
- The groom wants to leave benefits for his widow.
- If the woman is pregnant or has children by the dying man, he might want to make it legal so his offspring can be taken care of.
While deathbed marriages might be a good decision for some, it is not an option for others. Actors Ryan O'Neal and Farrah Fawcett did not have a deathbed marriage. Instead, it was an accepted proposal. O'Neal had repeatedly asked Fawcett to marry him over the years. After 30 years with Ryan and having an adult son by him, she did agree to his proposal while she was dying. However, she died before she became his bride.
Lori Colbo from United States on May 08, 2019:
So bittersweet. How sad to lose your brand new spouse on the same day you married them. I pray all of them will be able to someday rejoice as well as weep.
Miebakagh Fiberesima from Port Harcourt, Rivers State, NIGERIA. on May 08, 2019:
Hi, there, my pleasure in reading such a nice read. had not heard such stories before. Though awful, I felt for the couples involved. Thank you for sharing.
Ryan Jarvis Cornelius from Hollywood Florida on May 08, 2019:
Bittersweet article here. I love the fact that everyone sees what those vows need to be taken serious.
Lorna Lamon on May 08, 2019:
This is such an interesting article Margaret, although poignant as well. Perhaps the wedding could be seen as a symbol of how very much they loved their partner. I do think it is sad but in a way very touching. Thank you for sharing.