Introducing the main character
Thanks to the Internet we now have an influx of terms and definitions that once were unheard of. On one sharing platform, Tictok the users have come up with a name for people who center conversations and social media posts around themselves which is: Main Character Syndrome. This describes a specific pattern of behavior where for that individual everything revolves around "me, myself and I". This person behaves as if he or she is a star and the world orbits around them. This is not an official medical term or diagnosis of a mental disorder but more of a nickname like Doubting Thomas, Debbie downer or Negative Nancy, etc. The monicker of “ main character” comes from movies, television shows, plays, and books where there is always a protagonist or central figure who has enemies, frenemies, or an antagonist. The urban dictionary says the main character has the most importance in a story and is the one who does the most to support the plot. The majority of the action revolves around this individual of major importance.It is believed that people with this issue are dealing with low self-esteem and need to believe everyone is paying attention to them.
The supporting players
One young man I spoke with describes those with Main Character Syndrome as living life as though they are the hero or heroine and there is always some villain after them. He said they believe that everyone else has a supporting role in their tall tales. Every conversation or social media post revolves around these self-absorbed individuals as if they are all alone high on top of the world looking down on everyone else. Subject matter for such people is usually about their trials and tribulations and or how the world is out to get them. In days gone by such an individual may have been labeled a Drama Queen who is constantly complaining of all they perceive to have gone wrong in a day or bragging about how they have overcome all that is coming against them. Some call this Protagonist Syndrome which keeps the supporting players in the position of antagonists.
The supporting cast becomes weary
Once I heard of this new label I thought about a man I know but have not seen in many years who dominated every conversation for decades. He told what were called whoppers snd tall tales. He exaggerated and at times flat-out lied. He would begin talking with little regard for others and seemed to think he was impressing us. . He would go on and on about his stepdaughter, her children, his hunting rifles, and the wild game he shot without allowing anyone else to get a word in. This man would come to my grandmother's house and talk about himself even if she had other visitors. I understand that an official diagnosis might indicate he and others like him are dealing with a narcissistic personality disorder. Perhaps such individuals don't realize they have an issue or how annoying it is for others. Consider those who dominate every telephone conversation even when you have initiated the call. By the time they stop talking you may have forgotten the reason you called. Labeling such individuals as having Main Character Syndrome is more relatable and less harsh than considering them to be narcissistic.. Although this phrase came about because of social media posts you might know someone on your job or in your neighborhood who behaves as if they are the main character and everyone else is in the supporting cast.
The signs of main character energy
Main Character Syndrome is also referred to as Main Character Energy. Business Insider describes those with this issue as self-centered, and entitled and considers everyone else a character in their movie. Although this is not an actual mental health diagnosis, there are experts who acknowledge it is real and list four characteristics of those dealing with the "disorder." These have been addressed earlier but listing them specifically might help some recognize the traits in their own life.
1. Everything revolves around you and your personal issues
2. You cannot handle criticism
3. You feel your life is out of control and present yourself as the main character in an attempt to feel in control.
4. You attempt to converse your followers that your life is perfect.
If you find yourself holding court on Facebook, TikTok, Twitter, and Instagram and are overjoyed that your loyal subjects are paying attention please take heed. If you demand center stage with no thought for what others have to say and believe your truth is more important, "Houston we have a problem." If you cannot take an honest look at yourself and even consider the possibility or ask "Is it I"? you may already have your answer.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2022 Cheryl E Preston