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Happiness Is a Choice. Not Being Miserable Is a Choice. You Choose the Life You Want to Live!

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Happiness is a choice. Not being miserable is a choice, as in, you can choose to live happily or suffer in misery - you make the decision

Happiness is a choice. Not being miserable is a choice, as in, you can choose to live happily or suffer in misery - you make the decision

What kind of life would you like to live?

Almost everyone has heard the phrase. "Happiness is a choice", but is there any truth to the statement? Some might agree, while others may disagree. I believe we can choose to be happy. It is within our power. Choosing to be happier implies that even when things outside our control happen, we have the option of making a conscious decision about happiness.

Some people think happiness results from a stroke of luck. Some associate good luck with living consistently, which gives them a sense of comfort.

A precise path to opportunity is much more inclusive than having a fate that results in happiness. However, it is not until you accept it you can be happy. What I am implying: happiness is a choice. Not being miserable is a choice. You choose the life you want to live.

Giving that happiness is a choice. You can choose how you want to live. And you can make poor decisions, resulting in sadness, or use your authority to make sure you make a sound decision and be happy. You rise every morning with decisions to assure that, and the more you perform. It drains your ability to determine the best choices following a long, hard, stressful day.

Happiness does not happen by decree. It is a constant work-in-progress. We root it in all our choices, so it is vital to remember that happiness does not come from getting more money but from solving your problems. You can make a shift into a happier life. A quote explains life is 10 percent what is the case with you and 90 percent how you respond to it. What I am implying: We have no control over the inhabitable.

The only thing in our power is our attitude towards responding to a crisis. You can not be happy until you want to be. We were born to live happily, but the pressures of life force us to choose. Your ability to find happiness depends on your connection with choices. You can either embrace it or refuse it and live a miserable life.

Happiness is all in the making, but finding it begins with the desire to amend and a little effort. Remember, your peace will not come to you until you choose to get it. Happiness is a choice. Not being miserable is a choice. You choose the life you want to live.

Imagine an array of traits related to how you originated. Whether a berthed infant, a content infant, or a sad and depressed infant. Nobody is born happy. Happy is a choice. Everybody wants to feel fulfilled. It is possible to use that gift to create a fulfilling life. Every day you make many choices, including eating, dressing, loving, and choosing your job. Some of your decisions make you happy, and others don’t. You make these choices based on your inspiration to be happy.

The moment you are in can make you happy. What matters is that you choose what is best for you. I should make a wise choice, and I will strive to be cheerful rather than wishing to be lucky. Being traumatized by your surroundings and situation makes it impossible to stick to a decision made for happiness.

With a sound mind capable of achieving the impossible, you can easily ignore those external influences constantly beating your emotions. Your happiness comes from within. Environments and situations will have no bearing on it. Once you have the chance, nothing can alter it. Happiness is a state of being. Not an emotion. When you let yourself get carried away by other temporary thoughts, emotions, and feelings, even happiness seems impermanent.

You are unaware of your very existence, being, and reality. When you can free your mind from your temporary emotions, you can realize your state of being. The greatest happiness is living your life, not having money, as money is inherently material and ephemeral.

What is your current state of being? Close your eyes and imagine the universe. You will be pleased to see that the world is vast. Peace will continue to fill your heart. The happiness you get from other people and things is transitory, and that happiness is imaginary. Being happy is therefore essential. There is no emotion attached to it. At this precise moment, you need nothing to make you happy. Your very existence is enough.

A lot of psychological research suggests that everyone has a happiness set point. However, there is no mathematical formula or secret recipe for being happy in life.

Your mind controls this process, and what works for you may not work for others. Follow a few simple rules every day, and you’ll marvel at the results. Here are some steps you should take. Make sure you laugh every day. You can boost your mood by smiling no matter what. Even if it’s harmful, you’ve already won half the battle. Smiling will take the worry and stress away from you.

Your mind and body will feel refreshed, and you can persuade yourself to solve the problems. Eliminate negativity from your life. Our minds and souls often overflow with negativity. We get easily frustrated by the way a situation plays out. If we don’t succeed after one or two attempts, we conclude I don’t have any talent or ability; I can’t do this. We need to let go of this negativity. If we build self-confidence and self-esteem, we will win the battle.

Be positive. Develop the habit of judging the glass as half full instead of half empty. Be positive in every situation. Avoid frustration and exhaustion. Have courage in every scenario. Remember that whatever is happening is not eternal and that the worst of times will eventually bring about a good one. Don’t give up.

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Live a balanced life. It is essential to living a balanced life. An early rise in the morning, regular exercise, eating healthy food, getting enough sleep, controlling your anger and stress, and not worrying are the keys to achieving a lasting happy life.

Overcome your fear of failure. The fear of failure has often prevented us from taking bold actions. As a result, we keep ourselves stuck in a miserable situation. We must overcome this fear. If we don’t take the risk, we can’t learn and gather experience to make better decisions.

Don’t worry about what others think of you. Your happiness has nothing to do with what other people think about you. You shouldn’t judge yourself or your actions by what others think. Whenever you can do something that will make you happy, do it. It doesn’t matter what others think or say. Consult only with people you trust, such as your parents, siblings, and wife. If you are confident that your decision is the best one and you will be happy with it, ask them to support rather than restrict your decision.

Eliminate worry and stress. It’s time to stop worrying and stressing constantly. We will lose our self-esteem, demotivate ourselves, and lose our confidence, ultimately leading to a frustrated and unhappy life. The art of not being stressed or worried requires a considerable amount of practice. You cannot be the person you want to be without the ability to make yourself happy.

It is essential to remember that happiness is a choice that can only happen when you experience life. You are the only one who can determine how happy you are, believe it or not.

Happiness is a reality. To be happy in life, you need to choose how to live your life. With regular practice, you can achieve your goals. One of the most important things is to learn to ignore the influences made by the surroundings and people around you. If you always think that your friend has a big house, a good job, and a nice car and you don’t have one, then you are deliberately leading your life to misery.

You are the happiest person in the universe if you ignore the fact and stick with your small house and no car. Following this rudimentary but accurate method has been utterly complex. For that, you need regular practice. Learn from your everyday life experience that gives you the knowledge to understand what makes you happy, and then you can generate those happy moments frequently.

I’m not advising you to ignore the genuine problems we all face in life, but find out what works better for you, find out what satisfies you, do the things that give you ultimate joy, and turn it into your daily life routine.

No doubt that we all want to be happy. Then why not make happiness a daily ritual? Decide to be happy every day. In reality, happiness is a choice. Not being miserable is a choice. You choose the life you want to live.

Happiness is a Choice. Not being miserable is a Choice. You choose the life you want to live

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Happiness Quiz: Test Your Emotional Intelligence Quotient

For each question, choose the best answer. The answer key is below.

  1. You're either naturally happy or not.
    • True!
    • False!
  2. Which country ranks No. 1 in life satisfaction?
    • America
    • Denmark
    • Switzerland
    • Canada
  3. Negative emotions are more powerful than positive emotions.
    • True!
    • False!
  4. In general, happy people do NOT:
    • Express gratitude, forgiveness, and kindness
    • Get regular exercise, sexual activity, and good sleep
    • Have higher incomes or higher intellect than most
    • Savor joy and practice optimism and self-actualization
  5. The happiest people in the United States live:
    • In the Northeast
    • In the South
    • On the West Coast
    • In the Midwest

Answer Key

  1. True!
  2. America
  3. True!
  4. Express gratitude, forgiveness, and kindness
  5. In the Northeast

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2016 Pam Morris


Pam Morris (author) from Atlanta Georgia on July 10, 2017:

Thank you so much Ladybird33, for your comment and I am happy you enjoyed reading my article

Ladybird33 from Fabulous USA on July 10, 2017:

Enjoyed reading your article. Very insightful. Thank you for sharing

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