In the last days of June 2022 I was found with endomitriosis. My life change totally, on every level; emotionally, psychologically, mentally
My endometriosis diagnosis
Right before June ends (2022), I had laparoscopic diagnosis because I was suffering from tremendous period pains. I would even vomit due to these pains, which would be also felt after every sexual intercourse... I could not enjoy anything at all. Even peeing was painful, or sitting down and getting up. I could not even walk! So I had the diagnosis....which ended up to be surgery.
When I opened my eyes after the surgery I heard the doctor telling me "As you guessed it right...You have endometriosis, and it's not good! Third stage..". I immediately asked him "How long? How long do I have to be able to have children?". His response "If all goes well...approximately 6 to 7 months"
Not exactly shocked buy the news, but sadness.
Now, being newly married, wouldn't care a bit. But after the news my man altered his behaviour. All he cared about? Money! He started accusing me of spending money here and there (I wouldn't even go out with friends, or buying stuff for myself). Money was and i everything to him! Or not? I question it for he told a friend "I thought we had 2 or 3 years in front of us to have children..."
Long story short, now (September, 2022) we have ended the relationship. I could have tried once more to talk and solve things out, as I always do. BUT, when your other half has opened his mouth and has only treated you with disrespect and constant insults...How could I? In the end he told me "I am only sorry for ever loving you!". And that was it!
Now, about me, I never regret about anything. Everything is my choice; what I do, what I feel, what I thing. So, if something goes badly, I acknowledge it as a bad decision and I move forward. By saying that I mean that that man was my choice, my lover, my husband and I loved him truly and with all my heart.
I have suffered a lot in my life. Been raped at the age of 12, have seen my best friend dead after he committed suicide, have been betrayed by boyfriends and have always felt alone and misunderstood.
So now, I can not decide if my endometriosis has saved my life or it destroyed it. So I dealt with it as I do with every problem I face. I took a step back, ignored it and observed things and people around me; with the solely purpose to see who stands beside me and who against me.
I was shocked with those who stood beside me and those who chose to go against me. I also realized that those who went against me or chose to ignore my feelings, were the ones who have zero knowledge about endometriosis and the symptoms that it has.
It has affected me on every single level of my life. But, I choose myself.
In few words: My name is Evi, 35 years old and I have endometriosis. It's bad only if you look at it from a bad point of view!
Always choose yourself, YOUR peace of mind and YOUR self-esteem. Problems and sudden changes are the elements of life; what truly matters is how you proceed with them in your life.
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