Remembering My Mother
It was my mother's death anniversary but still like any other day I wanted to carry on my household chores without any qualms. I even started with it but after sometime I felt extremely restless and sad. Thus, I simply left the chores incomplete and switched on the television set to engage my mind into something else. I thought, it will divert my mind and I will be able to control my emotions. Unfortunately, it did not work for me the way I wanted rather it ignited my flame of sorrow further.
Questions that Perplexed Mind
The programme I switched on was a daily soap and the lady protagonist was very upset because her mother who had gone missing after an accident was declared dead later on. She was crying and lamenting inconsolably. During this whole scene she uttered a dialogue: “I will die without my mother”, which simply jerked my soul. It left me wondering for a while. A question engrossed me that have my siblings and I forgot our mother within the span few years. Are our feelings for her not genuine? We eat and enjoy as we used to do while she was alive then when on her death anniversary we are upset, is it fake? These questions made me unstable for some hours but gradually I composed myself and confronted the questions which perplexed my mind with quite rationality. Now, I am free from being perplexed and have some definite conclusion in my mind.
Live Life to its Fullest
God gives us life but it is our parents who nurture us and work hard for our proper growth. Development of every child is strongly monitored by his parents and any complication makes them worried. They work harder to rectify the complications from their child’s life so that the child may enjoy a normal life. All the parents wish their child to live life to its fullest. It is also a known fact that when parents leave for heavenly abode then too from heaven they bless their each and every child the best of life. Thus, I feel that if the children start living their life in continuous mourning and harm their own selves after the loss of their parents then why do the parents take so much pain in nurturing a child? What is the use of taking proper care of a child’s health? In my opinion: ‘to be emotional is good but too much of emotionality is not good’. It actually hurts. It hurts the people who are around at present and the departed soul too. Will it be a right tribute to one’s lost parent by letting their hardship go in vain?
Learn to Control Emotion
Death is not unusual. Yes, it may sometimes happen untimely but the law of the nature is one who has taken birth has to die one day. Keeping this law in mind, imagine the emotional setback that our parents went through when they lost their parents. Still, they did not ignore their responsibilities towards us, their children, and the family. If due to emotional crisis we had been ignored by our parents then today we wouldn’t have enjoyed our life as we do. Their heart cried too but they tried to cope up with it and accomplished their regular duties. This teaches us a lesson to control our personal emotions. It is very essential and then only one can come to terms with the reality.
It also imparts another valuable lesson regarding the fact, why emotions should be controlled? Whatever goes wrong in a man’s life that needs to be accepted and act according to the present need but yes exceptions are bound to be there due to various reasons. Difficult times come and go because nothing is permanent. Then, can’t we learn from our parents that present cannot be ignored?
Present cannot be Ignored
This is a complete lesson for everyone’s life. If a person is showing composure, dealing entire situation quite tactfully or handling emotional moments quite practically does not mean that the person is not grieving the loss of his mother or father. He/she is equally sad but knows to deal with the present moment because time never stops for anyone. If one fails to accept the reality then that person lags behind but time moves on. An extreme emotional outburst always creates heaviness in air. It never allows the time and the people around the grieving soul to settle down which is not at all good in terms of many vital things such as:
Mind and Body--- The gloomy atmosphere in the family definitely affects the mind and body of the people around. Health goes down and negativity in the atmosphere engrosses the mind of the people which lead to depression.
Disconnected--- People after sometime start disconnecting. They do sympathise at the beginning but how long because everyone has some responsibilities to take care of. People start isolating them because no one wants to be gloomy forever.
Hopelessness--- Working against hope closes all the openings and possibilities. life gives another chance only when one works hard and wants to grab an opportunity but hopelessness ruins all the chances.
Every matured being is aware of the fact that nothing is immortal on this earth. Today or tomorrow we all have to loose our loved ones. Thus, I feel it is better to understand and keep ourselves prepared for such a painful situation. No one can avoid it in their lifetime so mental preparation is very much required. If we fail to accept the reality then life becomes a burden. Do we want to become a burden? Definitely, ‘no’ will be the answer. To show genuine love for our parents it is not required to go into depression, get ill or loose every opportunity. My feeling says that parents who nurtured us so dearly and wanted us to enjoy our life to its fullest must not be wasted. Mourning all the time for years is not a sign of love rather it makes the whole situation a matter of pity.
Respect and Enjoy Life
Do we ever forget our parents? It is next to impossible. So, leading a normal life with fun and pleasure does not mean that we have forgotten our mother or father. It is only a way of living our life with the present time. I believe accepting the truth at the earliest is always the need of the hour. Whatever one does or however one leads life has no connection with one’s attachment with his/her parents. They are always at the back of one’s mind so love remains intact for the lost parents only the practicality of life comes in one’s way of living. We all must respect and enjoy life.
Learn how to control emotion
Shampa Sadhya (author) from NEW DELHI, INDIA on August 17, 2012:
As you chanced upon I in return got an opportunity to receive such a beautiful comment. Your words are very impressive and it has enhanced the quality of my hub. Thanks a lot. for the praise and sharing.
Shampa Sadhya (author) from NEW DELHI, INDIA on August 17, 2012:
Thanks as always for your encouragement and votes.
Sushmita from Kolkata, India on August 12, 2012:
Shampa, I just chanced upon this hub and decided to read it because of the title, which I felt in itself a important directive to many people. After reading it, I totally agree that you have achieved your goal in writing this hub- 'peace is my purpose'. This is simple in language, straight forward but great peace of teaching. Voted up and sharing.
IntegrityYes on August 06, 2012:
You did another fantastic job,Shampa. I voted up!
Shampa Sadhya (author) from NEW DELHI, INDIA on March 02, 2012:
Hello Sunita Sharma,
I am extremely sorry for a late reply. It is always a pleasure to be praised. Thanks a lot. I am very emotional person but strictly believe in disclosing my emotions only in front of the dear ones. This strict decision has helped me in controlling my emotions from overexposing it.
Sunita-Sharma from Los Angeles,California,US on February 25, 2012:
Hey Shampa...I really liked reading this hub.It's nice and close to reality.I am glad that I read this hub because I am a very emotional girl and at times I don't really know how to control my emotions.Will try to follow what you have explained :)
Shampa Sadhya (author) from NEW DELHI, INDIA on January 20, 2012:
Thanks for the praise.
Thanks for liking this hub. As an individual I am a very emotional person but I strongly believe that my emotions are totally personal and it should not hinder someone else's life. That is not right in my opinion. Thanks again.
Ishwaryaa Dhandapani from Chennai, India on January 19, 2012:
Well written hub! Thank you for sharing your experience and wisdom with us! Vote up.
Yaduvanshi from Bharat Vrse on December 12, 2011:
Good one thanks
Shampa Sadhya (author) from NEW DELHI, INDIA on December 03, 2011:
Hello Ruchi Urvashi,
Thanks for your appreciation. I believe parents always are an example and so children always look up to them.
Hello Mr. rambansal,
I value your appreciation, thanks. It is very true, emotions are humane assets so we must be careful in expressing it and must take care of it.
Ram Bansal from India on November 29, 2011:
A very nice study of emotions. In my view, emotions are humane assets to be taken care of -
Ruchi Urvashi from Singapore on November 26, 2011:
Great article. Voted up. Yes, parents do a great job in taking care of children.
Shampa Sadhya (author) from NEW DELHI, INDIA on November 17, 2011:
Thanks for understanding my point of view. It is good to find people with the same kind of thought or else it seems I am writing something degrading. It is very true that we need to make our deceased parents proud of us.May we all be able to do so! Thanks again for voting up.
Ruchira from United States on November 14, 2011:
Well said indeed Shampa.
I lost my dad a year back and felt the vacuum on the D-Day but, then just as our parents did our duty to bring us up...We have to continue the cycle of life by nurturing our's.
Also, we have to do such things in our life which will make our deceased parent proud of us...do a good deed that he/she used to do. That will make them proud up there...Amen!
Voted up and interesting
Shampa Sadhya (author) from NEW DELHI, INDIA on November 08, 2011:
Thanks for reading!
peaceismypurpose from USA on November 08, 2011:
Thanks for sharing your insights!