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How to Improve Our Emotional Life With Power of Intention

Val is a life-long student of unexplored human potential and many challenges that self-honesty throws at us on that path.


Our intention creates our reality.

-- Wayne Dyer

Opting for an Entirely New Game in Life

After that last card seems to have been dealt to us in this whimsical game of life, we still have a chance to ask ourselves if perhaps we are in a wrong game -- rather than if we are playing it right. Namely, do we really have to feel at the mercy of that hand that has been dealt to us?

Could we just yank ourselves out of that fatalistic attitude and try something like our own volition? And I certainly don't mean the one when we close our eyes and blow the flames out on our birthday cake. And nor I mean that daydreaming ending up with a sigh spelling out "If only..."

What I mean is an intention at which nothing is left to whims of stars and Lady Luck.

Something like moment to moment insistence on what we want for ourselves, for our life.

Would you be willing to believe that even what we feel at any given moment could be a direct result of our conscious intention?

I am kidding you not. In a strictly neurological sense, any emotion imaginable is constantly available to us, regardless of the current situation or life circumstances.

Look, it's only because nobody is talking about it, because the great majority of the people spend their entire lives switched on their autopilot's mode of functioning. By surrendering their conscious power of choice to it, they let it choose for them how to feel -- out of the memory bank deposits with similar experiences which may be a match even in some irrelevant detail.

Yes, folks, some of us may get an anxiety attack while waiting in a grocery store line up, with a man in front of us with a bushy moustache like that grade teacher had, who once made the whole class laugh at us.

Indeed, to different extents, most of us are living unconsciously, letting the life "happen to us" -- allowing our conscious self merely a role of a mostly pissed observer.


I don't have any control over what actually happens except for that I have full control over my will for myself, my intention, and why I am there. That's all that matters.

-- SZA

Mostly Unconscious and Not Knowing It

Since we are social beings, most of our emotional responses we learned from observing the reactions of those around us. After years of seeing everybody imitating everybody else, we are bound to take it for granted that "feeling good on Monday morning, or feeling all elated on a gloomy, rainy day -- is like a heresy".

Thus, what we sense as our "conscious intention" is simply catering to those programs in our brain which we blindly follow like something "customary & appropriate" --without ever questioning their value for us.

When it boils down to the very basics of our processing the reality, we tend to be quite "mentally dogmatic".

Then we also naively talk about "free will" -- which somewhat reminds me of a philosopher's saying how "if a tossed pebble could think, it would believe that it decides at which spot to fall".

Since some over 90% of our mental processes are going on below the threshold of our awareness, we, as conscious beings hardly have a say about how to run our show -- it's all precooked and prechewed for us already, and we just have to swallow every morsel of our mostly toxic and negatively spiced recipe for living.

Those smart ass neurologists are telling us how over 80% of all our daily thoughts have a negative emotional charge.

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Thus, no wonder that it's out of our cultural paradigm's scope to see anything in this possibility to actually choose our own thoughts, emotions, attitudes, and beliefs. Since no one else seems to be doing it -- it must be something "unnatural, phony, if not downright insane".

But is it?


It is not good enough for the things to be planned -- they still have to be done, for the intention to become reality, energy has to be launched into operation.

-- Walt Kelly

We Can Choose How We Feel

Before we continue, let us ask ourselves this important question: At which point something starts looking like a "run of the mill psychobabble"?

Who ever coined it that way? Think about it. A new trend of highly inspirational literature came up back in the 70's, and a mass of hopefuls with half-hearted, short efforts concluded that "the crap has absolutely no value".

Now, how is that relevant to our topic here.

Even that top shelf, "official" psychology and psychiatry are only interpretive, speculative sciences, not reliable exact sciences like chemistry, and physics, where, under the same circumstances we always get the same results.

Ergo, any "psychobabble" is only different from any academically recognized modality by the EFFORT INVESTED IN A DESIRED CHANGE.

The theory, by itself, won't do it, no matter how academically perfumed.

Thus, when it comes to this topic of intentionally choosing our emotions, we might as well junk our presumptions that "it cannot be possible because shrinks are sometimes spending years in attempts to alter someone's emotional crappy repertoire."

We have to allow the possibility that hardly anything is impossible to humans with an open mind and with a willingness to change. Our philosophizing about it doesn't matter one bit -- what matters is how much we can grasp the truth about the power of a conscious intent.

So, here we come with that crucial question:

How do we wake up?

The answer is simple -- by realizing that we are asleep. That mental act of conscious detachment from our automatic experiencing and observing it makes us awaken. So we are either in it, blending with it -- or we are outside watching it non-judgmentally, with a full power to either allow it to stay, or change it for something that intuitively makes more sense to us.

To the most of the people it is unfathomable that we can consciously change how we feel almost in an instant.

Neuroscientists are telling us how during sleep we experience a time distortion, and what appears to be a ""long" dream is actually lasting only for a short moment. It's like brain has this ability to fast-forward its experiencing, which, for our purposes means that we don't have to "practice" to feel great, but can fast-forward to that emotion.

The problem may be just in our tendency to question "how natural it is."

Yes, it is natural, and we can prove it to ourselves right now with a simple example. Imagine yourself in a dull mood, even a sort of depressed, as you are casually, and not expecting much, checking your lottery ticket -- suddenly hit by the news that you have won a jackpot.

At that very moment, would your nervous / endocrine system inform you how "you are way too depressed as to produce any elation, any joy, any emotional flood stimulating your creative imagination about how you are going to be spending those millions?

Are you beginning to see where I an going with this? Yes, your nervous/endocrine systems are, at any moment, ready to serve you any emotions.

And now, the only obstacle to be removed is your belief that you "need a proper stimulant -- like that jackpot" to feel those wonderful, always available emotions.


All that counts in life is intention.

-- Andrea Bocelli

Just Intend It -- Then Step Out of the Way

Do I ever have some good news for you -- for, no, we don't need any outside stimuli in order to feel fantastic. Let me give you an example.

I can fall asleep just about anywhere and at any time in about three minutes -- and I am not suffering from narcolepsy. How do I do it? I just intend to do what I want, and then I get out of my own way with any tendencies to sabotage it.

Yes, that simple. Try it, you'll like it.

And then, as if you already haven't read it in some other of my articles -- I can feel blissful at will. The formula is the same -- I intend to feel that way, and get out of my own way with any tendencies to sabotage it.

Something about that "intending" part. As I am about to fall asleep, I more/less lock in my mind that familiar sense of "how it feels for me when I am drifting into sleep".

I provide the emotional template of falling asleep, and then I intend it to happen. Of course, not straining, as intending might suggest, but choosing it.

Intended mental motions could be compared to our intended physical motions. If we don't beat around the bush by intending to type something -- while the other hand keeps deleting it -- then why would we intend to feel happy, and allow some inner resistance to spoil our intention?

So, it's not about "training" something -- but about being consciously aware what the hell we really want, while leaving out anything that we don't want. What we are really doing there is ignoring what our programmed mind wants us to feel, and inserting what we want to feel.

Which keeps reminding me of that brilliant saying which I have cited a few times:

"Mind is an obedient servant, but a cruel master".

Why would we do something like this conscious choosing our own emotions?

Because we can. There is no better answer.

A great video depicting the power of intention in our life

© 2022 Val Karas

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