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How to Be a Kind Person

Linda (Kaywood) Bilyeu is a self-published author. Her books are available on Amazon. She writes from the heart—there is no other way.

Experience The Helper's High

We have all experienced kindness from a stranger in one way or another. Well, hopefully you have. The kind gesture might have been big or small. Regardless, I hope the act made an impact on you and made your day! Or Week! Or Year!

I know I've had many encounters. It's because of those frequent, enlightening moments I gravitate towards passing on kindness to strangers.

Have you ever experienced a "helper's high?" It's a known fact that regularly performing acts of kindness will increase your personal feelings of confidence and self-worth. Your state of mind will become more optimistic.

People who perform kind deeds have a general happier disposition than those who don't. The next time you might happen to be in a funk, consider doing a good deed for someone else and enjoy your helper's high.

The kind gesture doesn't need to dramatic or mind-blowing. Simple gestures could be just as beneficial as huge gestures. What matters most is the thought you place into your action of kindness. I believe in what goes around, comes around.

The behavior of showing kindness to strangers shouldn't be practiced because you want others to do for you. This ritual should come from the heart. It should come natural. When doing a kind act you shouldn't even think about it, just do it.

How to be Kind

How to be Kind

Start small with your acts of kindness

  • Hold open a door
  • Allow someone to go in front of you while waiting in line
  • If you see a child holding their privates in a restroom, let the child use the stall first
  • Carry your neighbor's grocery bags
  • Donate clothing to a charity
  • Volunteer with children's programs
  • Drive and accompany someone to a doctor's appointment
  • Volunteer at a homeless shelter

Practice makes perfect

Over time you will get used to acting accordingly. You might begin to notice strangers making weird expressions at first. This is because kindness isn't as popular as it should be. As a society we keep our distance due to stress and uneasy reactions.

We think that someone might be offended or irritated if we overstep our boundaries. Some of us don't like confrontations so we just avoid or ignore.

Some of us might need babysteps or reminders on how to show kindness. Some of us might not be accustomed to this lifestyle. You will be surprised at how much of a difference you could make. Showing kindness to strangers might actually become addictive!

Go big...

  • Flip the bill for an elderly couples meal at a restaurant
  • Donate your old car to a charity so someone who needs wheels could get a job
  • Gift a tired mom a gift card for a mani and pedi
  • The next time you are at the movies purchase two extra tickets and hand them to the next person in line
  • While driving and you notice a stranded motorist changing a flat tire, offer to help
  • Treat someone you love who has been through a rough time to a vacation. It could be a weekend at a spa or a cruise to the caribbean.

You are too kind!

I guarantee the more kindness you give, the more you will notice in return! When you least expect it someone will do something nice for you and the happy trail will continue.

Always take into consideration that everyone we meet is fighting a battle. It doesn't matter what kind of battle it is, but to the fighter it's huge. Your act of kindness could make all the difference to them. You might never know it, but I bet you will feel it.

So go ahead. Take baby steps if you need to. Or dive right in and go big. Either path you select I bet you will become addicted.

Be kind and rewind...

While amongst strangers we unfortunately witness moments we wish we never did.

During these times the kindest thing for us to do is look away and try to erase the images from our mind.

  • The nose picker who is digging for gold.
  • The wedgie picker who looks around first, but gets busted anyway.
  • The gas passer who leaves a stench trailing behind them.
  • The adjuster. Male or female. Upper or lower.
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© 2012 Linda Bilyeu


Suzie from Carson City on June 24, 2014:

Be Kind..Be crazy...Be cool...Be Nutty....but don't be LATE for Linda's Birthday Party!! She's waiting for you!

Linda Crist from Central Virginia on November 13, 2012:

A subject that is near and dear to me Linda and you have done a beautiful job of offering ideas to fit every budget and every day life situations. It is so true that being kind comes back to us and puts us on a higher emotional plane. I loved it and am sharing it.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on October 30, 2012:

Absolutely Steph! Hurricane Sandy was not kind at all. I'm glad you are well :)

Stephanie Henkel from USA on October 30, 2012:

There's no better time to show kindness to strangers than right now in the aftermath of Sandy. There will be many opportunities...

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on August 06, 2012:

Hi Michelle., I couldn't agree more. Well said. Thank you for sharing!

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on August 06, 2012:

jpcmc, That is an amazing act of kindness. Thank you for sharing.

Michelle Liew from Singapore on August 06, 2012:

Kindness is indeed a commodity that we need, Linda! Thanks for writing this....and so often it's the once we least expect who are the kindest to us! Thanks for sharing!

JP Carlos from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on July 24, 2012:

A while back I wrote a hub about a community in a remote place in the Philippines. They carried people to the nearest hospital/clinic. what's amazing is that they do this to people they don't even know. Add to this, the trip entails trecking through the jungle, over several rivers and sometimes they need to hitch a hike on a dump truck.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on July 19, 2012:

Effer, You are truly way too kind and I appreciate your kindness even though I'm no stranger to you!:)

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on July 19, 2012:

Jools, I like how the Dalai thinks!! Thank you for sharing! :)

Suzie from Carson City on July 07, 2012:

I tink I just did something REALLY nice.....and a little dumb too......I just read this entire hub, thinking it was brand now that I'm this far.......I like it just as much as I did the first time!!'re being video taped!

Jools Hogg from North-East UK on July 07, 2012:

Linda, The Dalai was once asked 'What is your religion?' and he responded 'My religion is kindness'. And he knows what he's talking about :o)

Some acts of kindness cost nothing and mean so much to the recipient.

Great hub, voted up, etc and shared.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on June 28, 2012:

Hi Ava, Thank you for your kinds words.

Hi Sue, Thank you for the birthday wishes.

I appreciate you both!:))

Suelynn from Manitoba, Canada on June 25, 2012:

Kindness helps the world go around a lot smoother - as do you, Linda! :) Have a VERY happy birthday, lovely friend. xxx

Voted up and all over and sharing....

onlooker on June 23, 2012:

Linda, such simple and true ways to becoming happy. I adore this hub and your genuine writing. Thank you =)

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on May 15, 2012:

Hi Keith, I like how you think! Thank YOU for sharing!:)

KDuBarry03 on May 12, 2012:

Excellent Hub! I really enjoyed reading this. No matter how small or how large, every act of kindness does matter and it is true: the more kindness you show, the more kindness is shown to you. Thank you for sharing!

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on May 03, 2012:

Vinaya, Focus on the acts of kindness and eliminate the offenders. Thank you kindly for sharing.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on May 03, 2012:

Hi HBN! I so agree about the girl in the video. Adults could learn from her common sense. Thank you for sharing and stopping by!:)

Vinaya Ghimire from Nepal on May 03, 2012:

In my life I have been blessed with the wonderful act of kindness from strangers, while many of my acquaintances have time and again offended me. However, I look at the good part, not the darkness of human heart.

Linda, this is a wonderfully written hub.

Gail Sobotkin from South Carolina on May 03, 2012:

Loved this hub, especially the little girl in the "Be Kind" video whose wisdom and examples about kindness were astounding.

I recently realized just how long people remember kindness when an elementary school classmate that I haven't seen in decades emailed me after reading one of my hubs. She said that the thing she remembered most about me was how nice and kind I was to everyone in the class. I was truly touched and it felt so good to be remembered for random acts of kindness performed as a little girl!

You did a fabulous job on this hub and I voted it up across the board and am sharing it with others.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on April 29, 2012:

Hello Audrey, Mamakatz and Sandy! Thank you all for sharing your kind thoughts. I appreciate you!!

Sandy Frost from India on April 28, 2012:

If we have to choose a true example of humanity, it is when an unknown stranger helps us or we step up and help a stranger because such kinds of offerings directly come from heart and soul as well as it does not have any place of selfishness and acts of obligations in such situations.

Well, a motivating and helpful hub. Hats off and voted up..

mamakatz on April 25, 2012:

Wonderful! Great message, especially coming from sweet Sophia. I try to keep it is a personal mantra, to "always be kind." I truly believe it is one of the most powerful things we can do, for others as well for ourselves. Thank you for another great hub!

Audrey Howitt from California on April 23, 2012:

Sunshine--I loved this--on every level!

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on April 21, 2012:

Thank you for sharing your story Kelley. I enjoy hearing about random acts of kindness acts and returning your kindle TWICE certainly applies. Your comment is appreciated.

kelleyward on April 20, 2012:

Sunshine I love this list of random acts of kindness. Turning around and buying movie tickets for the person behind you is certain random but also moving. I think it's important to give back whenever I can. I've left my kindle at the gym twice and both times it was returned. There are many kind and wonderful people! Take care, Kelley

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on April 20, 2012:

Hi MT, Your comment is appreciated. I'm glad you liked the quotes:)

Hi Jey, Wow!!! Thank you so much for sharing your story. It's a good thing that an honest, sincere person found your iPad. For most people it's the expression of returning something to someone else that's much more precious then having to deal with the guilt of keeping something that doesn't belong to them. Luckily that's most people:)

jeyaramd from Mississauga, Ontario on April 20, 2012:

The other day, I accidenly left my tablet at the grocery store. A lady came after me into the parking lot and gave it back to me. She was young and could have easily taken the tablet for herself. It was my new ipad. Can you imagine that. That's just nice. She actually followed me for a while as I had parked at the end of the parking lot.

Now, that's humanity. Thanks for sharing this hub. Strangers who help us, I think, are the good karma that we put out in this world. Have expectations that people are nice and its very possible that you will come across many whom will amaze you. Thanks for sharing. Bless your soul.

Shasta Matova from USA on April 16, 2012:

Random acts of kindness are indeed addictive and it is such a great feeling to do them. I love the quotes you have added to this hub.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on April 15, 2012:

You are also amazing Raci!:)

Hi Martie, Thank you for your message. You are a kind women and it just comes natural for you!:)

Hi Hari, I appreciate you sharing your story. The website and Facebook page. I will look into them.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on April 15, 2012:

Hi Sannel, Keep on smiling!:)

Hi drbj, Yes adjusters need to do their business behind closed doors. Haha!

Hi Rick, I do the majority of the time!:)

Hi Denise, Free of charge is one of the perks!

Thank you all for your comments!!

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on April 15, 2012:

Hi Stoker, I bet those kids of yours are fun to be around all day long!:)

Hi Rajan, I'm glad you enjoyed it. Thank you for your comment.

I appreciate your comments!

Hari Ziyad on April 15, 2012:

I used to notice all of the things that were wrong with how people treat each other. It seemed as though people were becoming more rude, uncompassionate, and uncaring. It was really depressing! It turns out, if you decide to open your eyes, there is still a ton of goodness in the world. Over time, my perception did an about-face, and so did my mood.

A lot of my motivation has been inspired by an amazing documentary project I have had the great fortune to work on called American Bear. It simply a beautiful exploration of the kindness that strangers exhibit in this country. The couple who made the project went around the country for 60 days relying on the kindness of strangers for shelter each night and documented their experience. The insight that they shed on this underexposed subject is so powerful! Check out the website here:

And you can also check out the facebook page here:

Martie Coetser from South Africa on April 14, 2012:

What a lovely hub! Yes, we can obtain true happiness by being kind to others. I wish I had more time on my hands to do this. Work and responsibilities jail us in a bubble that prevents us from seeing opportunities to be kind. We should wear glasses in our bubbles, in order to see the many opportunities to be kind to others, and by doing so, keeping ourselves happy and positive.

I love the video. What a cute girl!

Voted up and awesome!

Linda, thank you for your kindness :)

raciniwa from Talisay City, Cebu on April 12, 2012:

you're amazing Linda, and this reminds me of the story of the good Samaritan...thank you for the advice...

Denise Handlon from North Carolina on April 12, 2012:

Great hub tips on kindness. It takes so little effort and cost absolutely nothing...makes me wonder why more people don't engage in this.

Voted up and awesome!

Poetic Fool on April 10, 2012:

It's true! The more love you show the more comes back to you. If you're feeling down the best way to get up is to serve someone else. You don't have to look very far either. Works every time! What a great hub, Linda! I have no problem envisioning you doing every one of these things you've suggested! Thanks for sharing.

drbj and sherry from south Florida on April 10, 2012:

Linda - What great advice and suggestions to practice kindness - an almost forgotten art in today's hectic world. I always keep a door open for the person behind me and some even say thank you. I greet people with a Hello, How are you? Most of the time I hear a story in return - almost more than I need to know. But it does make me feel good.

I particularly enjoyed your description of the four 'types' of folks at the end. Love the 'adjuster.' Voted up, y'know.

SanneL from Sweden on April 10, 2012:

Linda, yet another beautiful hub by you! A kind gesture or word can bring a smile to someone, and you'll feel so much better for it. Voted up and awesome!

Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on April 09, 2012:

This is such a nice hub and a useful reminder. Today when most of us are smothered down by the stress of survival this hub comes as a whiff of fresh air.

Voted up & awesome.

Stokermm from Gainesville, FL on April 09, 2012:

Love it!!! I have caught many nose-pickers in my classroom and have quickly looked away! :) Thanks for the reminder to be kind.. I will do at least one random act of kindness to a stranger tomorrow. :)

anndavis25 from Clearwater, Fl. on April 09, 2012:

I have had so many kind things offered to me. It's humbling. And makes me want to be a better person.

Nice hub. Up and beautiful

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on April 09, 2012:

Marcy and Dexter! Thank you kindly for stopping by and your comments!:)

Purple Perl, Thank you very much for your thoughts. You have made a valid point. While we should be kind, we must also proceed with caution. Kindhearted people are vulnerable targets for evil minded people. We must be on alert when practicing good deeds. Your comment is appreciated.

Esther Shamsunder from Bangalore,India on April 09, 2012:

Being kindhearted is what we are taught from a young age in school, @ home, @ church,or any religious institution, but to put into practise takes effort for some, but for most of us in India, it is second nature.This is a habit passed on for generations.

Today, in the metros, we are told to be especially careful, because if you have a large heart,it also means you are an easy target for swindlers,beggars,thieves,etc.

To illustrate an example,beggars prefer to beg on the streets,and near cafes, simply because it is easy income,from large hearted indviduals.Even if offered a job, they run away. Example no. 2,if you are alone @ home,a salesman or an old woman knocking on the door asking for a glass of water to drink is most dangerous,as the minute your back is turned, a gang follows to rob, or kill and rob.

Offer to help change a flat tire and you can get robbed instead,in the city or the highways.

So, sadly,many of us large hearted individuals are repeatedly reminded by friends, family and the police to steer clear of being kind.

Theives use tactics that will make you show your kindness while they rob and run.

Dexter Yarbrough from United States on April 09, 2012:

Excellent, excellent, excellent!!!! What more can one say, but voted up, up and away!

Marcy Goodfleisch from Planet Earth on April 09, 2012:

It is very true that we get more than we give when we help others - especially randomly and with no thought that they'll remember us and pay us back. Then, the reward is tender and deep, and lasting. And very much unanticipated.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on April 09, 2012:

Alocsin ~ American View ~ Teaches12345 ~ Nell Rose ~ Mary615 ~ Skye ~ Tillsontitan ~ Ishwaryaa22 ~ Daisy Mariposa ... Thank you for your kind words and thoughtful comments. Do unto others!:)

Daisy Mariposa from Orange County (Southern California) on April 09, 2012:


What a beautiful Hub! The more random acts of kindness one performs, the easier it becomes the next time an opportunity arises.

It doesn't take a lot of time or effort to be kind to someone. Let's hope whoever reads your article today will act accordingly.

Have you ever done this?...When at a toll booth on a highway that has an attendant, give the attendant money for the toll of the people in the car behind you in line.

Ishwaryaa Dhandapani from Chennai, India on April 09, 2012:

An inspiring hub! At times, I do charity work like donating clothes, books and toys to the local school for the disabled, orphan homes and calamity causes. But I did hesitate to lend a helping hand to some strangers as you mentioned that they may find it weird. However, after reading your hub, I decided to take first the baby steps and then proceed to bigger steps. One good turn deserves another! You are indeed a caring Cancerian! Keep on churning out more sunshine-filled hubs!

Thanks for SHARING. Awesome. Voted up & Socially shared.

Mary Craig from New York on April 09, 2012:

How right you are! Every journey begins with the first step, a smile, hello...I have a very dear friend who is always doing kind things for us. She recently had knee surgery so all I did was send a fruit basket. In return we received a beautiful thank-you card saying what wonderful friends we were to take time during our stressful time to think of them. Here I was thinking I wasn't kind enough but rather impersonal by not making something! Kindness shows up in so many ways. Really nice hub. Voted up, up and away!

Skye on April 08, 2012:

Kindness is so easy!!! Here's a good one to try for a day. Say Good Morning, Hello, Hi how r u Day?, God Bless You, You look nice, Nice shoes, Great purse, great outfit, or you have nice eyes to everyone within eyes reach when u cross their path. Say you pass by someone in the store make a point to give them a Blessing or when you go through the drive up window at wendy's. Make a point of it for one day. The next day most likely you will do it again. I do this with my grandson. It is contagious. Just a short, sweet, kind greeting can touch a hurting heart or lift one that might be in a slump.

The treasures one reaps are worth every effort and takes one from self or self seeking motives!! We do reap what we sow. Good or bad seeds we reap. Love never Fails.

GREAT hub of love sister. Keep em coming. God Bless you and yours 2day and always.

Mary Hyatt from Florida on April 08, 2012:

You are absolutely right: we should all practice acts of kindness. We will receive so much more in our lives. Goodnight.

Nell Rose from England on April 08, 2012:

Hi, Wonderful hub Linda, giving even a little bit can make you and someone else feel so happy. I remember years ago being completely broke, and funnily enough it was Easter. In the morning I went to the front door to collect my mail and there on the doorstep was a basket full of food, chicken veg and lots of chocolate! I never, to this day, knew who put it there. I was totally humbled. recently I have started off a trend! lol! last year I put out a bag full of paperback books outside my house with a note saying, 'please take me' now others around the estate have started it too! rated and shared! nell

Dianna Mendez on April 08, 2012:

Kindness will go a long way in making someone happy and also increase your positive outlook. I agree that practice is needed for it to become a good habit. I have been given little freebees like this from total strangers and it really makes you smile. It is a great way to start a domino effect. Interesting and beautiful!

American View from Plano, Texas on April 08, 2012:

What can I say, outstanding as always. Up and awesome

Aurelio Locsin from Orange County, CA on April 08, 2012:

There's always a lot in the news about how bad people are, but I'm always pleasantly surprised how kind people are, especially when they know you're traveling from abroad. Voting this Up and Interesting.

Eugene Hardy from Southfield, Michigan on April 08, 2012:

You're welcome Sunshine, ;-)

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on April 08, 2012:

Thank you all for sharing your thoughts on acts of kindness. It's a fact: What goes around comes around:)

Made ~ billybuc ~ fpherj48 ~ Stephanie Henkel ~ Hound Cat ~ cclitgirl Eugene Hardy ~ hectorfang ~ Cardisa ~ christywrites ~ rsusan ~ Deborah Brooks

Carolee Samuda from Jamaica on April 08, 2012:

What goes around comes right back around. You would be surprised at how much your life starts to change in a more positive manner when you perform these acts of kindness. Awesome hub Linda.

hectordang from New York on April 08, 2012:

Yes, this is great! The last time I was stuck on the road, someone helped me fix my flat tire! That totally made my day!

Christy Birmingham from British Columbia, Canada on April 08, 2012:

Kindness does matter. Your hubs continue to make me smile Linda. Hugs

Suzie from Carson City on April 08, 2012:

Hey Sunshine....You can be sure I believe in acts of kindness. It's a good feeling, whether doing or receiving. You're right, it doesn't have to be anything earth-shattering. Even simple courtesies bring a smile to someone's face. This is a gentle reminder to all. Thanks! Up++

Hound Cat from Los Angeles area of Southern California USA on April 08, 2012:

Beautiful hub with plenty of good advice. There is definitely a powerful karma when a good deed is done. Kind acts are really an emotional high giver. I just wish I have been more of a help in my doings. Several people have given me assistance down the road and I notice they really have a good attitude on life and are happier than the average folk.

Rika Susan from South Africa on April 08, 2012:

More than deserves a vote up, Linda! Makes me think of the 'stranger' who has been bringing his two dogs to me for a visit - every week or so for more than two years now. Just because he has heard that I can't get out and that I love dogs. A spontaneous and generous act of kindness that has meant the world to me.

If we can make a list of the things we wish someone would do for us. And then start doing those things for someone else. Imagine what our world could look like...

Deborah Brooks Langford from Brownsville,TX on April 08, 2012:

Linda I love this what great advice. You are so right. when I try to help others I feel so much better.. How could I lived with myself when I knew they needed help and I didn't help? you are so right . do unto others as you would have they do unto others.

Happy Easter my sweet friend,


Stephanie Henkel from USA on April 08, 2012:

I love your philosophy of life that shines through the hubs that your write! Kindness does have a way of coming back to us, even if it's just the fact that it makes us feel better about the kind of people we are. I do have trouble being kind to unkind people ... have to work on that one! Thanks for a great hub once again!

Eugene Hardy from Southfield, Michigan on April 08, 2012:

Pretty good Hub.

The last time I was out of the house on the way home, two days ago. And you are right, a kind act should come from the heart.

Cynthia Calhoun from Western NC on April 08, 2012:

Oh, Miss Linda, I do love your hubs. I think this one is my favorite. I have noticed often times that when I practice kindness, people get "infected" with it and pass it on. I love that. I remember poignant moments of kindness: the stranger that gave me a college scholarship, the girl who gave me her late mother's necklace blessed by the pope, the police officer who gave me a ride to a museum in a strange city. If we all take a moment to remember the acts of kindness that others do, we can then understand that the world really does have so much good in it. :) Voted up and everything.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on April 08, 2012:

I couldn't agree with you more; baby steps become a march of thousands. Just be nice to people and see what happens! Great message! Have a Happy Easter!

Madeleine Salin from Finland on April 08, 2012:

Linda, you did it again. You wrote an awesome hub! For me it feels really good to come home from work and think about that little extra thing I did to make a person smile that day. You feel very good inside. I think we need to think more about being kind to people around us, and this hub is really helpful. Thank you Linda, you would easily win "The kindest person contest on HubPages" if there was a contest like that. :)

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