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How to Kick Cancer to the Curb

Linda (Kaywood) Bilyeu is a self-published author. Her books are available on Amazon. She writes from the heart—there is no other way.

Cancer Sucks

Cancer is mean, vile and downright nasty. The evil one, as I prefer to call it, sneaks up on you when you least expect it. You and your loved ones get blindsided.

Cancer doesn't discriminate against age, race, gender or religion. It's heartless and thoughtless.

Once you are diagnosed with the evil one you have decisions to make. Treatments to consider. Or not to consider.

The choice is always yours and yours alone.

Hopefully you will have a support system who will be there for you. An advocate to hold your hand, takes notes or prepare a meal etc.

No one should ever travel this path alone.


Most of us have our tales to tell with cancer journeys we've dealt with.

For those of you who don't have tales, I hope you never have to deal with the pain, agony and distress that the evil one causes. But, if you should ever be faced with it, I hope you decide to kick cancer to the curb with every ounce of your being.

I have written a few articles about my cancer journeys. From the experiences I have had as a caregiver, supporter, cheerleader and advocate.

Included in this hub are my articles along with a few other fellow writers who have also been there and done that.

Cancer Teamwork

When you are part of a team you could move mountains. Teams give advice, strength, comfort and solace.

Cancer Teamwork with Social Networks is an article I wrote because I believe in the power of virtual support.

When faced with a dreadful diagnosis of cancer you become part of that world. Unless someone has walked in your shoes they don't understand. They'll never understand.

This is why being a part of a team is very beneficial for cancer patients. There are groups on Facebook, Twitter, Google+, Yahoo etc... that would give you the virtual support you need.

You never know where you will find the support unless you try. Don't be shy.

How To Kick Cancer to the Curb

How To Kick Cancer to the Curb

Cancer DOs and DON'Ts

  • Have you ever been in a difficult situtation involving cancer?
  • Have you ever wondered what you should say or shouldn't?
  • Have you ever made false promises to a caregiver or cancer patient?

I have been in all three situations. For many years as caregiver, supporter, daughter, wife, cousin and friend.

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Most of us strive to do or say the right thing. Some times it doesn't work on our behalf. I've written this Cancer Etiquette article from firsthand experience.

I hope we all read it and learn a thing or two or three along the way.

Colon Cancer Awareness

I have a family history of colon cancer. I lost my mother and maternal grandmother to this disease.

I, along with my siblings know that we must be proactive about our health and have routine colonoscopies.

Since we have a family history, testing should be done earlier than age 50.

We started at age 45. Every 3-5 years for life.

I wrote this Colon Cancer article regarding my procedures.

I'm honored to say that I've heard from over ten people who were motivated and inspired by me and had the procedure performed. I'm sure there are many more that I haven't heard from who I inspired.

It's a darn good feeling when you could help save someone's life. So just get 'er done!


Prostate Cancer Awareness

This is my husbands journey with Prostate Cancer. If anything I hope this article saves a few lives. As does my husband. He's truly the strongest and bravest man I've ever known. He took quite a few lickings and continues to keep ticking.

To all men, if you are age 40 and over please give yourself and your family a gift and have your PSA tested. It's a simple blood test that could possibly save your life.

If you have a family history, you may want to consider having your baseline PSA at age 35. Prostate Cancer is not an old man's disease. This is my article on the Importance of a PSA Test.

Just last week our PCa Group lost a wonderful man who was diagnosed at age 42. Another father of three was diagnosed at age 40. He left behind three young children. Neither man had a family history.

I recently heard about a 29 year old man with Prostate Cancer that metastasized. The next day I was told about a 36 year old man. It's a darn shame. Cancer has no age limit. It attacks all ages. Prepare yourself and your loved ones.

Treatments for Prostate Cancer via Provenge, Xofigo

Provenge Therapy is one of the types of treatments for PCa.

A Nuclear Bone Scan is often recommended as a diagnostic tool for PCa.

A Blood Transfusion is needed when hemoglobin drops due to metastatic Prostate Cancer.

Xofigo is another treatment used for Prostate Cancer patients who have bone mets.

Caregivers are Angels on Earth

I've had the honor of becoming friends with caregivers from all over the world.

Not just cancer caregivers, but the many other life altering diseases that require a caregiver.

These people give their heart and soul to the care of the patients they cherish. They advocate for them. They tend to their wounds of their body and mind.

This is my letter to the angels on earth, Caregivers.

Chronic Disease Fund

The Chronic Disease Fund is a non-profit charitable organization that offers assistance to people who can't afford the expensive medical care they need to survive.

Their Mission....

To improve the health and quality of life of patients with chronic disease, cancer, or other life-altering conditions who cannot afford the medications they so desperately need.

Help Kick Cancer to the Curb with Donations!

I've compiled some organizations that go above and beyond to assist cancer victims. Your donations could help save a life!

Breast Cancer Caregiver Tips

Alecia Murphy shares caregiving tips for Breast Cancer.

Breast Cancer awareness is something all women and even though it's rare, men should be concerned about.

There are so many treatments available when caught early, or sometimes at a later stage. Be proactive! Save the Ta-Ta's!

I recently heard a story of a woman who was diagnosed with breast cancer. At first she decided upon chemotherapy to help her beat the beast. After one treatment her hair began to fall out. She cancelled all her future appointments due to her fear of losing her hair. She decided to go the natural route for a cure. It was her choice.

We could choose to fight. We could choose not to.

We do the best we can with the knowledge we have.

Have you felt loss due to Cancer?

Whether we are the victim, loved one, friend or even employer cancer brings a sense of loss to many.

It doesn't care. It has the power to do what it wants, but we also have the power to kick it to the curb!

This article by Minnetonka Twin, who is a brave lung cancer survivor explains some of the Losses due to Cancer.

I recently lost a very dear friend to complications from small-cell lung cancer. Gangsta Granny also inspired many people during her lifetime.

It's OK to say NO!

  • Do you always accept your doctors diagnosis as set in stone?
  • How about when he writes a prescription, do you just have it filled and pop the pills?
  • Do you ever do your own research?
  • Are you familiar with pharmaceutical reps who visit your doctors often and lavish them with lunches so that the docs could push their drugs?
  • Does your doctor often suggest tests that most likely aren't needed?

There you go. If you haven't pondered these questions before you will now because I have planted the seed in your mind. It's up to you to kick your disease to the curb!

Jordin Sparks - You'll Never Walk Alone

Chemotherapy tips

Healthylife2 shares with you 10 Chemotherapy Tips that you will benefit from during your treatments.

  • Wigs for loss of hair
  • How raw fruits could be harmful
  • How exercise is vital
  • To consider fasting

plus much more information...

Lessons are Learned on Cancer Journeys

I have met many people along my cancer journey. Many of them have become my friend. I've learned many things from each of them and in the process I hopefully taught them a few things too.

No one should ever be alone on their journey. Having others on your team gives you the strength and desire to keep up the fight.

I asked a few of my friends what cancer has taught them. This article contains their responses. What Has Cancer Taught You.

© 2012 Linda Bilyeu


Robin Grosswirth from New York on May 09, 2015:

I wrote a few letters in the hope that my words would touch someone. It was a great idea for the founders and for all fighting for their lives. Glad you found it a good idea too.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on May 09, 2015:

Robin, Your site is an amazing idea! I am following on FB now.

Robin Grosswirth from New York on May 04, 2015:

Awareness is paramount. We must make our bodies inhospitable hosts to this and other diseases.

A great idea that I did for a while is:

Good read. Thanks.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on October 22, 2013:

Thank you Rasta!

Marvin Parke from Jamaica on October 22, 2013:

This a great support hub. Did not expect so much love and care in the article.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on September 24, 2013:

Thank you Crazed and Nicolas for stopping by! Your support is appreciated.

Nicolas Soules from 25 corringham road,Nw11 7bs. London,UK on September 18, 2013:

Great Topic

AE Williams from Atlanta, GA on April 07, 2013:

Great topic for this work, Linda. :)

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on March 25, 2013:

Hi rfordin, I'm sorry about your father. I just lost a relative to lung cancer. She was much too young and was gone too quickly.

I also wouldn't wish cancer on my worst enemy. Thank you for your thoughts.

Rfordin from Florida on February 01, 2013:

I can't even imagine and hope I never have to.

My biological father was disagnosed with lung cancer. Were not super close but I still feel affecred by it and would NEVER wish cancer on my worst enemy let alone someone I cared about.

Even tho you provided support, advice, tips etc. I must admit I just can't get past how much cancer has affected your life (and those of your loved ones).

Much love

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on January 18, 2013:

Thank you Maria and Audrey. We appreciate your positive thoughts and well wishes.

Audrey Howitt from California on December 01, 2012:

I have been thinking about you and your husband this season. I hope you and he are finding the peace and love you both need and deserve--My best to you.

Maria Jordan from Jeffersonville PA on November 19, 2012:


I am one of those many people who think of your bravery and determination more than you may ever know. You are a source of daily inspiration to me.

This directory of sorts has a comprehensive and meaningful compilation of information, which is the best fix for helplessness that I know of.

Voted UP and UABI. Happy Thanksgiving and thankful for you, MM

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on November 17, 2012:

DayLee ~ Shampa ~ Cathy ~ Kashmir ~ Audrey ~ Mary ~ Audra ~ Audrey.

Thank you all for sharing your journeys, memories and thoughts with us.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on November 17, 2012:

Hi Michelle, As always I'm wishing your dad well.

Audrey Hunt from Pahrump NV on November 12, 2012:

You, Linda are one great lady! It isn't easy, being there for your husband the way you are. And here you are informing others of how to kick cancer to the curb. Still you remain positive and up beat and always ready to give anyone a helping hand.

I admire you so much. Blessings to both of you!

AudraLeigh on November 12, 2012:

I have to say how wonderful of a person you are and how amazing you have bee in supporting your husbad by being so strong. I love you even though our friendship is a virtual one. I have been paying attention with what has been going on with you from afar. I am here as much as I can be. I am thinking of you and your husband./ This is very well written. Have you ever thought of cra=eating this into a blog or a support group?

Mary Hyatt from Florida on November 12, 2012:

You have done a wonderful job of making people more aware of cancer and how to kick it! My cousin just called me last week to tell me the lump they found is definitely cancer. She has opted to have a lumpectomy. It is her decision, but I think I would have a mastectomy and get it over with.

You are so right: if we live long enough we will be touched by this horrible disease.

I hope your Hubby continues to do well in his fight!

I voted this Hub UP and will share.

Audrey Howitt from California on October 30, 2012:

Hope all is well in your world Linda--what a great hub!

Thomas Silvia from Massachusetts on October 30, 2012:

This is a great informative hub with very valuable information to help all those in need of this type of information ! Well done !

Vote up and more !!! SHARING !

Ms. Immortal from NJ on October 28, 2012:

Great hub, thanks it is a horrible disease that effects everyone in some way. Voted Up.

Shampa Sadhya from NEW DELHI, INDIA on October 28, 2012:

Voted up and awesome!

May your wish be fulfilled! It is a wonderful article. I am sure whoever read and will read this article will undoubtedly support the cause and the call given by you. Simply great! Sharing and pinning.

Debra Cornelius from Georgia on October 28, 2012:

Great hub! Voted up and sharing!!!!

Michelle Liew from Singapore on October 28, 2012:

Cancer should always, always be kicked far, far away. Will share this useful hub with my dad too. Thanks for it!! Sharing and tweeting!

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on October 24, 2012:

Way to go Faith Reaper in kicking cancer to the curb! Wishing you continued good health.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on October 24, 2012:

It's still here Cogerson! Thanks!

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on October 24, 2012:

Hi Alocsin, I'm glad you find this hub's unfortunate that we need the resources. Thank you for your comment.

Faith Reaper from southern USA on October 24, 2012:

Hi Sunshine,

I kicked cancer to the curb just last year. I had DCIS breast cancer and it is healed!!! I did write about it here. The docotr had put me on that five year pill, Tomoxifen, and so now (on this date) I have large blood clots in both lungs. Come to find out, the Tomoxifen actually can cause blood clots!!! So I no longer take it any longer. Thank you for writing on this most serious health issue. Voted Way Up

God bless. In His Love, Faith Reaper

UltimateMovieRankings from Virginia on October 22, 2012:

Glad to see this hub is still published and has not been pulled...hopefully you are seeing some traffic/views for this hub and all the hubs that are attached. Happy Monday.

Aurelio Locsin from Orange County, CA on October 18, 2012:

Thanks for this inspirational hub, Linda. I appreciate not just the good words but the practical resources for those who may have cancer. Voting this Up and Useful.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on October 17, 2012:

TT, Bill, Nell ... Thank you for your comments. Nell, I'm sorry about your aunt. Clueless doctors.

Nell Rose from England on October 17, 2012:

Linda this was a great hub and so useful. I lost my aunt to it too, and my gran, its a horrible nasty thing, they took my aunt of tamoxifen saying that she was 'fine' and of course it doesn't work that way, if they had kept her on it she may still be here today, take care, nell

Bill De Giulio from Massachusetts on October 17, 2012:

Linda, absolutely great hub. Awareness and prevention and having a support system in place are all key. I think we've all lost way too many friends and family members to this dreaded disease.

Terrye Toombs from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map. on October 17, 2012:

Sunshine, a great list of resources. Voted up and sharing.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on October 16, 2012:

Docmo and Beckie, Your thoughts, words and comments are further proof why I needed to create this hub. I thank you both for making Sunshine speechless at this time. Ain't that a shocker.

Shining Irish Eyes from Upstate, New York on October 16, 2012:

First and foremost, I send my sincerest of blessings and prayers to your husband and yourself as well.

I am sharing this very important and insightful as so many have gone down this terrible road, so many will go down this terrible road and so many do not make it down the road.

I was a 24-7 caregiver to my dear Father. He was my best friend. I often tell people when asked what it was like "It was the worst time of my life and it was the most beautiful time of my life."

I do not know what I would have done had I not had a wonderful team of professionals a phone call away when I needed them. Usually just to talk made all the difference in the world.

If I were able to, I would give you a huge hug but I can't so just imagine I am.

Thank you from the very bottom of my heart for providing this hub.

God Bless.

Your friend, Beckie XO

Mohan Kumar from UK on October 16, 2012:

There are those that endure and experiences the situations you have outlined here and feel they have no voice or choice. It takes a certain kind of brave, articulate and compassionate soul to put these thoughts into action, write and share them with the wide world. I have said this before and will say it again: your tireless crusade is worthy of many more accolades. I'm proud of you, Sunshine. I'm proud to be your friend.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on October 16, 2012:

Amen Ruchira!!

Thank you Dianna!!

I second that drbj!!

drbj and sherry from south Florida on October 15, 2012:

Cancer is so pervasive that almost every family is touched by it in one way or another. Thanks for this reminder that we must not only kick it to the curb, Linda, but eradicate it forever!

Dianna Mendez on October 15, 2012:

You have become a wonderful advocate for cancer and your articles are educating readers about the do's and don'ts. Very effective. I have learned much from reading your posts on cancer and have opened my view of how to respond to those who are going through a diagnosis and treatment.

Ruchira from United States on October 15, 2012:

Such a peppy article, Linda.

All I can say...let's kick cancer's butt off this planet.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on October 15, 2012:

Peggy, Hopefully one day we could kick the evil one to the curb! Thanks for your support.

Carter, I'm sorry for your losses and that you had to deal with the beast. Thank you for sharing your story with us.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on October 15, 2012:

Julie, 54 years old and bone cancer...just doesn't seem right. I'm sure you miss your friend often. I'm sure you are thinking good memories to keep her spirit alive :)

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on October 15, 2012:

Vellur, Deborah, Ida...Thank you for your comments!

Mary, I'm sorry about your MIL. It's just not fair to see the young and elderly fight cancer. Heck any age is unfair. It's just something about the young and old that pull at my my heartstrings as they undergo treatments and battle the beast. Wishing her good health.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on October 15, 2012:

Thank you Richard. Your words mean alot. As does your monday morning news!

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on October 15, 2012:

Cogerson, Thank you again for the awesome link idea. I will keep you posted. In case I forget, please remind me :)

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on October 15, 2012:

jpcmc, Yes "the evil one" needs to be kicked to the curb. Support systems are very important to victims. Thanks!

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on October 15, 2012:

Hi Linda, I couldn't agree with you more. It's our body and no one could tell us what to do with it. No ifs, ends or buts. Thank you!

Mary from Cronulla NSW on October 15, 2012:

I love you for writing this, I lost my mum to cancer and my aunt & uncle and I feel the same way as you do sunshine...that it is a vile insidious nasty terrible that elderly people have to suffer in this shockingly painful way...such a well written self help,fantastic article that will undoubtedly be of use to so many, thank you...voted UUAI shared & tweeted...cheers

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on October 15, 2012:

Terrific article that is bound to help many people in many different ways. If we live long enough, most of us have been touched by cancer in one way or another...either personally or by having friends or family touched by this horrific disease process. We certainly know people who have battled it both winning and losing the fight. Up votes and have shared.

Jools Hogg from North-East UK on October 15, 2012:

Linda, nobody could fail to benefit from this article -it covers everything that people might want to know about this dreadful disease. There cannot be many people untouched by cancer and any advice from a personal standpoint is worth reading because it will resonate with the reader and make them feel that they are not alone and that someone else out there undertstands what they're going through. I lost both my grandmothers to cancer (liver and lung) and my dear friend Jill died from bone cancer last year at only 54 years old. I have shared (like many others I suspect).

Mary Craig from New York on October 15, 2012:

Last night I was thinking of writing a hub about Cancer and today I read yours! Great minds think alike. I have lost many close, loved ones to this insidious disease and now my mother-in-law at 88 has ovarian cancer.

You and Dave are an inspiration to all and your continued hubs and love shine through.

Voted all the way across except funny. Shared with my followers.

blessing980306 on October 15, 2012:

Great Hub lot's of great information.Another great one from a great & gifted writer.

Deborah Neyens from Iowa on October 15, 2012:

This is a wonderful resource, Linda, and one that will prove invaluable to many, I am sure.

Nithya Venkat from Dubai on October 15, 2012:

Thank you for writing this very useful hub. Great information on scans to be done, chemotherapy and treatments. Voted up and shared.

Rich from Kentucky on October 14, 2012:

Linda - You've made this the complete guide, but, how could anyone expect anything less from you. Cancer is not only a disease, it has become synonymous for anything that eats away at something good. So sad that we still have to say the word, little lone experience what it does. Your strength is amazing and your attitude one that can guide the way for many in your position. I bow to your efforts, your talent, and your inner strength. God Bless you and your husband!

UltimateMovieRankings from Virginia on October 14, 2012:

I think this is an excellent way to share all of your hubs on this horrible disease...I am bookmarking this hub for future reading as well as having the link ready for the people I seem to run into that are also dealing with the same issues. I think you have taken my link idea one or two steps further and the results are fantastic. Voting up and interesting and useful.....I would be curious how well this hub does in if you could do an update in a week or would be greatly appreciated.

Linda Crist from Central Virginia on October 14, 2012:

Great points in this hub. I'm sorry you have had to deal with the beast and can tell that you stared it in the face with courage. The most important thing for cancer victims to know is that it is their body; they need to listen to their body, and, they do not have to give control of their life to cancer or the treatment of cancer. You point that out so well. Good job.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on October 14, 2012:

Hi Janine, Thank you for your support, comment and for sharing. The more people who would benefit from these articles the better.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on October 14, 2012:

Hi Deb, We're in this together. Through thick and thin. PCa wives know how to kick cancer to the curb!

Hi 34th, Tim has an amazing cheerleader and supporter with you. Go Mom!!

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on October 14, 2012:

Jordan, I agree!!!

Martie, You are Mr. B's biggest cheerleader. I'm sure he appreciates all you do for him. We need more SAA's in this world.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on October 14, 2012:

Alecia, Your Breast Cancer Caregiver Tips is an excellent addition to this hub. Your words and advice will help many with their journey. Thank you for allowing me to share the link.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on October 14, 2012:

Thank you Jeannie and Bill. Your comments are appreciated.

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on October 14, 2012:

Effer, I can't thank you enough for all your support. You are my rock and my SFAM!

Linda Bilyeu (author) from Orlando, FL on October 14, 2012:

Healthylife, Thank you so much for the information you supply me with! Your chemotherapy hub is a great asset to this hub.

Janine Huldie from New York, New York on October 14, 2012:

This was absolutely awesome Linda and can't even begin to tell you what a wonderful resource this is for those going through the journey of cancer and/or family members too. You put everything in one concise place and truly this just terrific. I have been fortunate enough up to this point to not have had cancer effect my immediate family, but have had extended family and friends have cancer and many have unfortunately not made it. As you said everyone does truly have their stories here. But you really have done a wonderful service giving back with all your articles on cancer and this one included. Have of course voted and and shared all over too!!

34th Bomb Group from Western New York State on October 14, 2012:

FANTASTIC SUNSHINE! How nice to have all your cancer related Hubs in one place. You have already helped me deal with the beast's blow to my child, this will be invaluable!

Thank you!!

Deborah Freed from Virginia Mountains on October 14, 2012:

Yep Cancer sucks and it is indiscriminate in who it affects. We all as caregivers try to be supportive, upbeat and positive for our loved one. We are dealing with the incurable stage 4 prostate cancer as you well know and there are few options left. We try to find some joy and energy to breath in all of this wonderful life we can. If you need a sister to chat with you know I am here. Big hugs and thanks for this. You are an amazing woman!!! xoxo

Martie Coetser from South Africa on October 14, 2012:

So true, Linda: "No one should ever travel this path alone." And you know I am one of your cheer-leaders.

OF COURSE, I did benefit from this article and links and I WILL for the rest of my life.

Thumbs up for being such a determined advocate and reporter, giving information much needed by those who have to deal with the Evil One. DON'T ever get tired doing this. The world needs advocates like you :)

Voted up and awesome.

Hugs to you and Dave and all your beloveds :)

Jordanwalker39 from NC on October 14, 2012:

Cancer blows! Glad you wrote a great hub to help with support.

Alecia Murphy from Wilmington, North Carolina on October 14, 2012:

Cancer sucks! And I agree wholeheartedly in both patients and caregivers finding ways both on and offline in to get support, encouragement and resources. Keep fighting!

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on October 14, 2012:

I love that you continue to focus energy on this worthy goal. Keep up the good fight; awareness is a huge first step in fighting a formidable foe like cancer.

Jeannie Marie from Baltimore, MD on October 14, 2012:

What a wonderful and useful hub! Cancer is a nasty, terrible disease. You covered a lot of information in this hub and I am sure it will help others. Voted up and shared!

Suzie from Carson City on October 14, 2012:

Sunshine, You are an amzing fighter and such a wonderful and comforting advocate to cancer patients and their care-givers......yes, of course, you know I've been through a cancer journey with more than one loved one.

This hub is fabulous. I like the way you give a connection to all your great hubs, relating to cancer.....and also, thanks for the list of charities at the bottom....

Great job, as always and I am at your side through YOUR/Dave's journey, my dear, sweet friend......all my love and strength to you!

healthylife2 on October 14, 2012:

I so much appreciate that both you and your husband continue to be an inspiration and change lives for the better! I agree that you have to be your own health advocate and doctors are there to make suggestions but it is still your team. I also agree that support is necessary and only those that have actually gone through cancer can truly understand. When I went through chemo I hid away to deal with the trauma and should have accepted more help if not for me but to ease the burden on my husband. You and your husband are in my thoughts!

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