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Improve Your Life Today With These Five Easy Steps

Deborah is a writer, healer, and teacher. She enjoys helping people work towards healthier lives.

You Have the Power

Do you feel trapped in an unsatisfying life? Are you stuck in a job or relationship that leaves you wanting more?

Are you ready to live your best life today? Do you want to make a change and live an inspired, productive and happy life?

You've come to the right place. The five easy steps in this article show you exactly how to move forward from unhappy and disconnected to a joyful and inspired life.

Let me know how these steps help you as you move forward into a better place.

It's Time To Let Go


Move Forward

1. Move Forward: Many people sabotage their success in life by living in the past. We've all had difficult things happen. You can choose to learn from those things and move forward, or get caught in a continual cycle of victimization.

Rather than allow yourself to wallow in self-pity, loathing and fear, move on. There is nothing holding you to your past but yourself. It's easy to say, "I can't be healthy, happy or independent because my...parents, ex-partner, children, grandparents, former boss... ruined my life."

While it may be true that one or all of these people has caused you problems in the past, today it is time to move on. We have all endured difficult people, situations and events over which we had no control. Today is the day to reclaim your life.

Let go of the past. Cut the karmic ties of all the negative and painful things you've experienced. When you feel yourself returning to the narrative of victim, start over.

Here's an example. I have eight children. I've always thought that they all hate me because they had a difficult childhood. Whenever I spend time with them, they are mean and unloving. I am a victim of their anger and rejection.

This past weekend, many of my kids were coming for a visit. The week before I felt dread over all the old drama, the mean spirited comments and the anger. I filled myself with angst over the impending visit. I decided to rewrite the narrative.

I told myself that while that story might be true of our past relationship, today is a new day, and from today forward, I have a healthy, loving relationship with my children. Anytime I felt fear creeping in, I reminded myself that I no longer live in the past and that those ties are broken. I told myself that I could create a better relationship with them now, in this moment.

During the course of the weekend, there were a few moments when things began to feel uncomfortable. Rather than fall into the victim pattern of the past, I chose to stand up and speak my truth. I said, "That might have been true, but it's not true now." I also chose to remove myself when people began saying untrue or unkind things. I told them I was going inside, and then I did.

I didn't wallow in misery. I did something that made me happy. By the end of the long weekend, while there were a couple of rough patches, we were all able to feel healed and more peaceful. No, it wasn't easy every moment. No, it's not completely done. Of course, things will come up over and over. That's okay. Today I can choose to respond with love, patience and a happy heart.

Our lives are not lived in the past. Our lives exist in this moment. In this moment, we each have an opportunity to choose how we show up. In this moment, you are not a victim of what once happened. In this moment, you are the creator of your best life.

Living a fulfilling life begins now. Yesterday is done, we can't change the past. We can accept it and move forward differently. Tomorrow hasn't yet come, we can't spend all our time there. We can plan, and make choices today that reflect who we want to be and how we choose to show up.

In each moment, You have an opportunity to create and feel exactly what we want. Don't sabotage your success and happiness by living in the past. Move forward and embrace the life you wish to create.

Create Your Own Reality


Own It

2. Take Responsibility You are responsible for yourself. You can only control yourself. If you want to live your best life, it is essential to take responsibility for your own actions and your own feelings.

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You have the power to create your own reality. Stand up for yourself and stop being a victim of the world around you. Just because someone said or did something that you didn't like, that doesn't mean you are a victim.

Choose in this moment how you will respond. Choose your words, your actions and your feelings. If you don't like how you feel, then choose again. In any given moment, you choose exactly what you will do, what you will say, and how you feel. No one can take that away from you.

Many people say, "Oh, I have to do this and I'm not happy." Stop right there. No. You do not "have" to do anything. You are free to do as you wish. You may not like the consequences of doing what you want, but you certainly have that freedom.

"I can't do this or that because this person would get mad." So what? People get mad all the time. We cannot let the anger of other people control our lives. We cannot let what people might think or say or do control our best lives.

You are a powerful creator. Own that power. Don't give your power away to anyone. There is nothing worth giving up your own best life. Choose today what you will do, what you will say, and how you will feel. Then, do it!

Make no excuses for yourself as you choose to do those things that bring you joy and peace. Transformation comes when you take responsibility for your life and stop giving your power to others.

This Moment Is Your Life


Now Is The Time

3. Just Do It Many people get caught in the trap of, "I'll do it when..."

I'll take a trip when I lose weight. I'll be happy when I have the perfect partner. When I get a better job, then I'll give my all. Excuses are endless and you can waste your entire life waiting for the right moment.

The only right moment is this moment. In fact, this moment is the only one you have. The other moments are either gone or not yet here. Now is the time for you to choose to live your best life.

Don't wish time away. It passes too quickly, even when you're paying attention. I wasted many years, wishing for the next step. I wish I was an adult. I wish I could hurry up and finish college. I wish I could get married. I wish this baby would learn to walk, talk, run, go to school, graduate, move out. I wish I could retire. I wish I could rest. I wish. I wish I had enjoyed the moments as I lived them.

As you walk through your life, enjoy each moment. Feel the feelings, experience the events and appreciate exactly where you are right now. This is the only moment you have. Embrace where you are. Now is the time to live your best life. Now is the only time to change, enjoy and appreciate your beautiful life.

What Matters To You


What Matters Most

4. Prioritize You make time for what matters in your life. If you want to improve your life today, then focus on what is most important right now. Not later, now.

Want do you say you want? Be honest with yourself. You want to improve your relationship? Your health? Your job? How much time do you invest in these things? How much of yourself are you willing to invest in being your best? What would you give up, to have what you say you want?

We spend time doing what matters to us. We prioritize the things we want to do, then fill in around them. When we decide to change, we must change our priorities. It's not always easy, but so worth it in the end.

You say you want to have a strong marriage, but you choose to leave home early, stay at work late, then check out when you do get home. What would you do differently if you actually wanted a healthy relationship?

You say you'd like to be healthy, but you choose to watch television at night, sleep late in the morning and eat junk all day long. How would you act if you were healthy? Would you prioritize exercise over sleeping in? Meal prep over watching TV? What is your real priority? How could you change your priorities to create a healthier life?

You'd like more money, but you don't like your job and aren't interested in updating your resume. How else can you earn or create more wealth? What are you doing to make a better life for yourself?

In order to create your best life, you must stop making excuses. Of course you're tired. Who isn't? Of course its hard to stop watching the news and engage with your wife instead. You can do hard things, if you really want to change.

No one said improving your life would be easy. It takes commitment and dedication. It takes time and patience. Above all else, it takes you choosing to make a better life.

Care For Yourself


Take Good Care

5. Care for Yourself Ultimately, living your best life, or at least improving your life, requires a change of mind and a change of heart.

Before you can change anything in the outer world, you first have to make a decision. You decide that you want to feel better. Whether it's a better relationship, more money, better health, a deeper spiritual practice, or whatever, the first step begins with you.

You must decide that you want to take care of yourself differently. You think a different thought, then take different action. If you continue doing what you've always done, you continue having what you've always had. If you continue thinking those old, negative thoughts, you'll continue seeing and living and feeling what you've always see and lived and felt.

Interrupt your old patterns of thought, word and deed. New outcomes arise out of new input. When you change your mind, you can change your life.

Watch your thoughts, because those thoughts become the words you speak. Your words become actions and habits. Those determine the course of your life.

Begin with how you want to feel. Use that feeling to influence new thoughts. Those new thoughts create new words and attitudes, which then lead to completely new actions. Overtime, you've created a better life.

Yes, You Can!

Within you lies infinite potential. You are a powerful being, with the ability to create the exact life you desire. It starts with a feeling. You want to feel better than you do right now. Then, you change your thinking, to reflect how you want to feel. From those thoughts, words of affirmation and creation spill from your mouth. Those words inspire action toward your best life. Those steps, repeated daily, will open the door for you to create a better life than you've ever imagined.

You Are A Beautiful Field Of Infinite Potential


This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2021 Deborah Demander


Deborah Demander (author) from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD on July 26, 2021:

Thank you Devika


Deborah Demander (author) from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD on July 26, 2021:


Thanks for your comments, and thank you for reading my article. I hope you find it useful.


Deborah Demander (author) from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD on July 26, 2021:

Thanks Peggy,

I always appreciate you stopping by with your comments!


Deborah Demander (author) from First Wyoming, then THE WORLD on July 26, 2021:

Thanks for taking the time to read and comment


Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on July 12, 2021:

Informative and most useful. Your tips well-written, helpful and you point out the important ways that are encouraging and so worth a try.

Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on July 10, 2021:

I like your suggestions for improving your life, Deborah. The order of the steps make a lot of sense, especially for anyone that is stuck in a bad job or relationship.

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on July 09, 2021:

You have given us a good list of priorities when it comes to living in the present and moving forward.

Umesh Chandra Bhatt from Kharghar, Navi Mumbai, India on July 08, 2021:

Very motivating. Thanks.

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