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A Husband's Survival Guide to Pregnancy – What We See and What Really Happens

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Pregnancy is something men can only witness from the sideline. Moreover, men can only assume and speculate how it really is to harbor a life inside one’s body.

The numerous physiological, behavioral and physical changes in our pregnant wife can be a perplexing experience, but demystifying the symptoms of pregnancy will help husbands appreciate and participate in it better.

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What Husbands See

Please don’t kill me in my sleep. Yes, there may be nights when men hope they won’t find a knife stuck in their chests with their wife smiling and admiring her handy work. Pregnancy can also be scary for husbands! One moment she’s sweet and not a minute later she’s a raving psycho.

Sometimes you find her admiring and smiling at anything and everything. Yet at times she cries her eyes out for no apparent reason. After 30 minutes or so you check up on her and she’s still at it. It gets irritating and it gets frustrating. Did I mention that it can be scary?

What’s Really Happening

With the baby on the way, your wife has extra doses of hormones in her body and this can affect her mood. On a psychological level, your wife may have different feelings about the pregnancy itself and the idea of bearing a child into the world. Processing these mixed emotions can be tough for her.

The weepies and the mood swings are often at their height during the first 6 to 10 weeks of pregnancy. These are the times when answering questions like “Am I fat?” requires deep pondering before a response. During the second trimester, hormones are leveling out and she gets more control of her emotions. However, expect the mood swings again during the last trimester of her pregnancy.

What Husbands Should Do

Heightened emotions—both good and bad—create situations that seem to defy male explanation. But we’re not here to psychoanalyze every misplaced emotion or unwarranted behavior. Instead, extending one’s patience is a virtue that will be greatly appreciated by our wives.

If they need to cry, offer your shoulder even if you don’t know why she’s upset. If she wants to laugh, then laugh with her. Pregnancy is stressful. Thus, we make it a point to make it less taxing for them.

What Husbands See

Whining and crying because of cramps is annoying both for the wife and for the husband. For one, I have to wake up and stretch her leg in the middle of the night. But more than just the selfish reason of not getting sleep, the feeling of being helpless for your wife is equally unappealing.

What’s Really Happening

Cramps during pregnancy have many causes. For instance, leg cramps are said to be neurological in nature. Pressure on the nerves especially in the lower extremities causes cramps.

Moreover, the additional weight can increase the pressure on the legs and feet and can also contribute to leg cramps. Similarly, abdominal cramps are annoying and irritating. During early pregnancy abdominal cramps are caused by anything from the implantation of the embryo 8 to 10 days after ovulation to the stretching of the uterus.

In contrast, during later stages, pregnancy pain is concentrated in the lower abdomen, hips and the groin. This is the infamous round ligament pain and occurs when the ligament surrounding the uterus and the pelvic area stretches. On the other hand, Braxton Hicks Contractions are generally not painful. But these little bouts of contractions but can be annoying. Think of it as the body’s way of preparing the mother for labor.

Cramping is present from early pregnancy to the final minutes of labor. It's an inevitable symptom.

What Husbands Should Do

The most that husbands can do is to keep his wife as comfortable as possible. For instance, massaging your wife’s legs and feet regularly can help minimize cramping. In addition, allow her to sit and raise her legs while husbands do the household chores. Furthermore, husbands can assist their wives when they do their doctor-recommended exercises for pregnant women.

Not being able to do much when you find your wife in pain is an awful feeling. But as husbands, we simply do what we can to keep our wives comfortable even if it’s just giving our wives a hand to squeeze when she feels pain.

What Husbands See

They say gluttony is one of the 7 deadly sins. So it’s just logical to ask if our wives are going to hell. During pregnancy, it’s just hard to not think your wife is preparing for a 42 KM full marathon run. Extra servings seem inadequate and your title of most steaks eaten in 30 minutes is constantly being challenged. Suffice it to say that pregnant women appear to eat like there’s no tomorrow!

What’s Really Happening

Starting second trimester, pregnant women begin to eat more than usual. Their appetite increases as a response to their need for more nutrition. But this does not mean eating everything on the dessert menu. A common fallacy about pregnant diet is to eat double the usual. Although your wife is eating for two, it does not mean your baby will need the same amount of calories as your wife.

At the start of the pregnancy, an increase of 150 calories per day is recommended. But the amount can increase up to 250 per day towards the last trimester. Besides increasing calorie intake, increasing calcium, iron and folic acid intake will benefit both the mom and the baby.

This is one of those few instances where gaining weight and getting bigger is appreciated. By the time your wife is ready to deliver the baby, she can gain anywhere from 25 to 35 extra pounds. Help your wife embrace the reality of getting bigger and heavier.

What Husbands Should Do

As the husband, you are the voice of reason when it comes to her voracious appetite. Provide her with a variety of nutritious food choices. Likewise, give her small nutritious snacks throughout the day. Experts suggest that eating smaller but more frequent meals is better than eating 3 large meals a day. Moreover, be the one to remind her to take her vitamins and ensure that she drinks her milk everyday. Yes, husbands, it’s your time to nag.

What Husbands See

It’s really worse than hangover. At least with a hangover, you get to get sober in a day or less. Conversely, with morning sickness, you just have to get used to your wife dashing for the comfort room any time of the day for months on end.

What’s Really Happening

Morning sickness is a deceptive name as it may occur any time of the day. Higher estrogen level is often associated with nausea and can be a reason why pregnant women experience morning sickness. In addition, other hormones and chemicals in the body can also contribute to the nausea and vomiting during pregnancy. Furthermore, low blood sugar is also a possible explanation. Since the body requires more food and energy, pregnant women are more susceptible to low blood sugar.

Expect your wife to experience vomiting and nausea during the first 4 to 6 weeks of pregnancy. By the end of the first trimester, as much as 75% of pregnant women no longer have to contend with morning sickness. Unfortunately there are still women who have to endure this throughout their pregnancy.

What Husbands Should Do

Morning sickness is one of the symptoms of pregnancy that has gained infamy around the world. But husbands can help alleviate the discomfort. Providing relief for your wife comes in many ways. For instance, constant feeding is important. So make sure your wife has snacks wherever she may go. In addition, a cracker before getting up in the morning seems to help many women. Moreover, eating fruits and vegetables, especially those with high water content seems to do the trick. Likewise, vitamin supplements may be recommended by doctors to help alleviate the symptoms.

Of course there are other little details that many men find vexing. Many things, from the squiggly things called stretch marks on their wives' tummies to the linea negra running along the bloated abdomens, can seem all too alien. For husbands, demystifying something they will never experience becomes doubly difficult.

Indeed, husbands don’t get pregnant. In spite of this limitation, we can still actively participate in our wives’ pregnancy. How men see pregnancy may not be accurate. Moreover, how women want to be treated and pampered may vary. What’s most important is that husbands ride shotgun and make the journey more comfortable for their wives.

Your Turn to Share

For all the husbands (especially the first time dads like me) out there, what is it about your wife's pregnancy that perplexes you the most? For all the women out there, do tell us how you want us to help during your pregnancy.

All your insights will help me and millions of men out there become better husbands and birthing partners. Who knows, we might just become good at it?

Comments

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on January 10, 2017:

Hello there Lady Lorelei,

With the right mindset, dads and dads-to-be can make the pregnancy experience easier and enjoyable.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on January 10, 2017:

Hi there andriaperry, glad you like it. Believe me, it was a crazy time then.

Lorelei Cohen from Canada on October 09, 2016:

Oh how so very true. Well done on the trials of surviving pregnancy from both side of the fence.

andriaperry on October 07, 2016:

Love this! All men should read this and be in the know.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on June 29, 2016:

Mini Papa,

First up, congratulations. This is a wonderful time for you and your fiance. Work together and extend as much help as you can. second, I apologize for the very very very very late reply. I hope that when you eventually read this response you are discovering how really wonderful pregnancy is when both of you are working closely. enjoy every moment. My daughter is already 5 years old now and we talk to her about how she grew in her mom's tummy. This is a precious time for both of you. God Bless my friend.

Mini papa on April 12, 2016:

My fiancé is 6weeks pregnant. Our first ever child. Incredibly filled with excitement nerves and fear I may wake up in my pool of blood. I found this incredibly useful in helping me be very aware of my responses (verbal and non-verbal). I was called a lot of things last night, not very pleasant things either. Related to events that occurred many months ago. In fact my mother came up in the conversation too. Can't go into details but also not pleasant. After about 50mins of confusion and feeling guilty for existing I came across this and I'm glad to say im more conscious of what is actually going on. Only 6weeks though, I think the 'best' is yet to come. Bring on the hormones

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on January 25, 2016:

Hello there Tak,

Whether it is just hormones or the person's character, you need to extend your patience. I know it is too much to ask, but blowing your top off will not make things better. But of course you need your own time to recharge and get away from what seems like insanity. After the short break, it is back to being the support person. I know that by this time your wife would have given birth. I apologize for the very late reply but I do hope everything went well. Bless you and your family.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on January 25, 2016:

Hello there Andrew,

First of all congratulations. Being blessed with a child is fantastic. Plus this new adventure both of you will undertake is truly magical. Of course it is not without its difficulties and challenges. But when both of you work together, it will be a fabulous journey. If there is one thing you should keep in mind it is being an active participant in your wife's pregnancy. Good luck and have fun.

Andrew from lusaka Zambia on January 25, 2016:

Hi guys,my wife is in her early weeks of pregnancy.. am learning a lotion from your comments. Thanks

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on August 05, 2015:

Hello Tak,

I understand the difficulty and I know how you feel. In the end we have to realize that we have to commit to facing the challenges. These hurdles will help us become better as a person and strengthen our relationship. Good luck and keep in touch.

Tak on July 14, 2015:

7-10weeks have been hard. Harder than I'd ever imagined. I'm having a hard time knowing if it's to hormones being irrational, or her actually being upset. It's hard to handle all of this and I can only take it to the chin and apologize for nothing for so long.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on June 04, 2015:

Hello there Ju. I understand what you are going through. I am glad that you found this useful. In the end, it is important for all of us to realize that pregnancy is a shared responsibility. We simply do as much as we can to make our partner more comfortable. Congratulations and more power.

Ju on May 27, 2015:

this is our first pregnancy and we are only 4 and a half weeks into it and I am already the worst guy ever !! This is very helpful in understanding how I can help. I am already tired of being in trouble for I have no clue why!

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on April 24, 2015:

Hello there wheelinallover,

We could say every pregnancy is unique. Some exhibit the classic symptoms while others breeze through it like it was nothing. Your mom is right, husbands need to make their wives comfortable. We are a part of this experience and we should make the most out of it.

Dennis Thorgesen from Beatrice, Nebraska U.S. on April 24, 2015:

Life was different for me when my children were born. In my case each if my two children had a different mother. The mother of the first had very little morning sickness, no stretch marks, few cramps until the third trimester, and an easy birth. The second child's mother was like Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde. She had morning sickness for about half the pregnancy, cramps from about the second month to the end. She was the one who had the weird food cravings meaning late night trips to the local store. My mother gave me the information I needed to know. She said you helped create that new life, make sure your wife is as comfortable as possible while it is inside her.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on February 23, 2015:

Hello there Matt,

Every pregnancy is unique. Plus the way your wife reacts to subtle changes around her can be distracting to say the least. I am no expert on the dynamics of chewing or the sounds it make. But it always help to talk about even the simplest things that bother your wife right now. Good luck.

matt on February 20, 2015:

so my wife says she is grossed putby the way i eat (mouth closed, mind you) and also gets annoyed by the sound of my voice. i need some advice other than to keep my mouth closed...

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on January 05, 2015:

Hello there tiagodamiao,

Thanks for the positive response on the hub. It is definitely not easy but it is not impossible. In fact, this is one of the most emotion-[packed experiences you can have. Good luck when it is your time.

Tiago Damião from Torres Novas on November 29, 2014:

Great Article dude! Now I know what I have to do when mu girlfriend someday be pregnant. It's not easy, but we mens can do our job :) Thanks

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on November 21, 2014:

Hello Keith,

I apologize for the late reply. Your situation is tough. But you must understand that your girlfriend is going through physical and hormonal changes. Being emotional and sensitive can be part of these changes. What she requires now is a little more patience and understanding in your part. I know it can be a huge challenge. But she requires all the support she needs. I hope things get better.

Keith on November 06, 2014:

My girlfriend is 9 weeks pregnant and she is driving me crazy. She tells me all the time how unhappy she is with me and we shouldn't be together. I'm not sure what I should do. But I cant take this too much longer.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on October 31, 2014:

Hi there Abe, Being a parent is a challenge. it can be difficult but it is worth the trouble. Providing as much assistance to our pregnant wives is a huge and important step in preparing for fatherhood. I hope the hub gave you some insights on what to expect. Good luck and congratulations.

Abe on October 29, 2014:

Hey its going to be hard to be a dad I see.... Hard to be a good husband already. Im only 22 in college and having a kid... whew. Its been only the first trimester

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on July 01, 2014:

Hello there connecttheworld,

First of all congratulations. Having a baby on the way is both fun and scary for both. I had a wonderful time when my wife was still pregnant. It was difficult but fun. I tried my best to be by her side and do whatever I can. I believe that husbands need to take on a more active role during pregnancy. Good luck.

connecttheworld from Houston, Texas on July 01, 2014:

Excellent write up! And thank you so much for putting this together, I was honestly clueless before reading this and was sticking to my "principles" and gents let me tell you, it was a gravely mistake... Amazing how no one warned me about this, not my dad, my priest, not a damn soul. My wife is finally getting into the second trimester, I escaped the first trimester battered, beaten, scared so hopefully I can recover after reading this... Wish us luck!

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on January 19, 2014:

Hello NateB11,

When you're on the front row seat your life will change. It's fun, scary and the sleepless nights are worth every minute.

Nathan Bernardo from California, United States of America on January 19, 2014:

I like your combination of humor, knowledge, compassion and reasoning in handling, understanding, examining and finding solutions to a rather difficult problem. I do not and have never had a pregnant wife, but I've been witness to some.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on December 18, 2013:

Hello there Gail Meyers,

Yes, I'm lucky not to get injured. lol

It was a beautiful experience being beside my wife while she was pregnant. It was a learning experience. I just have more respect and more love for my wife. Kudos to all moms out there.

Gail Meyers from Johnson County, Kansas on December 18, 2013:

It isn't often you see a man writing about pregnancy. I enjoyed your hub and I'm sure the men out there will appreciate it too. I am glad you survived without being stabbed in your sleep. I also managed to give birth without stabbing him. lol Voted up!

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on December 05, 2013:

Hi Andy, I've know you two for a couple of years now and I know how close you are. But your little girl is a sweet gift I know you both love.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on December 05, 2013:

Hi Andy, I've know you two for a couple of years now and I know how close you are. But your little girl is a sweet gift I know you both love.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on December 05, 2013:

Hi Andy, I've know you two for a couple of years now and I know how close you are. But your little girl is a sweet gift I know you both love.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on December 05, 2013:

Hi Andy, I've know you two for a couple of years now and I know how close you are. But your little girl is a sweet gift I know you both love.

Andy Paul on December 04, 2013:

LOL. It was a nightmare with my wife. But I love her.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on September 04, 2013:

Hi Someone Dadlike,

It pays to know what our wives our going through. This changes perspective. Once we change what we understand; we can change what we can do.

Someone Dadlike on September 04, 2013:

I can't tell you how often I need reminding that my wife's anger and unpredictability is COMMON, and that all women who give birth have to deal with it, and that I'm not really an insensitive ogre, just the nearest port of call for my poor pregnant wife's frustration.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on August 11, 2013:

Hello healthmunsta,

When my wife was pregnant I had to read a lot and ask so many questions. It really pays to know something about pregnancy and how we husbands can help our wives.

healthmunsta on August 11, 2013:

Oh wow! This was fun to read and so very true! Countless husbands freak out at the words, "Honey, I'm pregnant." They don't know what to do - and most important of all, they're just anxious for how they are going to live with you for the next 9 months.

Tammy from Louisiana on June 30, 2013:

This is a great article. I like how you explained what is really happening and what husbands should do. Very helpful for new dads-to-be.

Laika on June 22, 2013:

I wish my boyfried had read this. He won't be as a prick as he was.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on June 09, 2013:

Hi Myrtle,

Having a support system does wonders. A little understanding can go a long way. Life is indeed a great journey...especially when you're expecting. Good luck my friend.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on June 09, 2013:

Hi there Thelma Alberts,

Thanks for the kind words. pregnancy is difficult especially when there's no one there to assist and support. I hope your friends and their husbands/partners find value in this hub. See you around.

Myrtle on June 09, 2013:

Great article. Got my husband to read (in the middle of a nonsensical an argument). He came up to me later and said he now understood what I was going through and he had realised before. Should make the journey that little bit more easier now!

:-)

Thelma Alberts from Germany on June 07, 2013:

Brilliant! I like the way you wrote this hub. How I wish I have read something like this ages ago to know more about being pregnant. I enjoyed reading it and I have to pass it on in fb for my pregnant friends. Thanks for sharing;-)

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on May 10, 2013:

Hi there Incasethewifekillsme,

Being a first time dad, I know the difficulties. I just want to share the experience and perhaps help other men out there get a better handle on things. The more we are aware of what is happening, the better we can help our wives.

I appreciate your comments. Help me spread the word. :)

Incasethewifekillsme on May 10, 2013:

Thank goodness I found this article this morning. I am just relieved that there are other men out there who struggle and understand from a mans point of view.

Yes, totally agree with the life growing inside the wife and how phyiscally and emotionally draining it is for her. It's the lighter to say 'show patience' etc but in some cases it can become really serious and distressing for the man especially if he is trying to work hard and provide for her every need.

But I will take some inspiration from this article so thank you so much.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on April 09, 2013:

Such kind words Pinkchic18. I really appreciate that. I'm hoping that more men get to assume a more active role in their wive's pregnancy. See you around.

Sarah Carlsley from Minnesota on April 08, 2013:

If I were on a man's pinterest account, I would definitely pin this because this is so handy!! What a wonderful article for men to read and learn from.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on March 31, 2013:

Hi there Tina Marie,

I'm glad the article was useful. Some dads may have a longer time understanding what women are going through. Just keep them involved so they can learn as much as they can. Good luck.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on March 31, 2013:

Hello SRK24,

Congratulations on having another baby. Obviously there are some issues that you need to iron out with her. Do everything you can to establish communication with her - directly or through her parents. It's important that you know why she left. this way, you can resolve the concerns. Good luck.

Tina Marie on March 27, 2013:

Thanks for this great article I was able to share it with my husband to understand what I'm going through as this is not my first pregnancy but it it his first child! I have been having such horrible morning sickness, very emotional and moody this time around and trying to get him to understand what I'm going through can be some what difficult at times!

SRK24 on March 27, 2013:

My wife is six weeks pregnant.. We have a 10 month old girl.. Since I have done this with her once already I was so excited about the recent news.. I want to do everything I can and even more this time becuase of the knowledge I have gained.. The problem is that she left our house and moved in with her parents.. Shes not returning my calls and I don't have a clue what to do?? Please advise.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on February 26, 2013:

Howdy Lexie, Nice to see you here. I know, Danny told me about the hard time you gave him.

Lex Santos on February 26, 2013:

This is funny! Great job on the article. I remember driving my Ex husband crazy. It was quite an experience.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on January 29, 2013:

Hello again Rachit Kakkar,

It would be nice to document the experience and share it with all of us. I'm sure we can learn from your experiences. Good luck my friend.

Rachit Kakkar on January 29, 2013:

Thanks for the response..

Appreciate it.

Well am good at cooking :) and well have been a hostel student for 4 long years, so laundry is not a problem.

Thanks for the support.

cheers

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on January 28, 2013:

Hello rachitkakkar,

Thank you for dropping by and contributing here. Each person has his specific needs. Do take the time to learn what you wife wants and needs. Even the small stuff can help. The whole idea behind this is to take off as much burden from your wife. Allow her time with your baby and to her self. AS a new dad, I had top learn everything from cooking to doing the laundry. It can be exhausting, but it's the least we can do for our wife.

Good luck on this new adventure. having a family is a huge responsibility.

rachitkakkar on January 28, 2013:

really nicely said above...

my wife is angry coz she feels i did not react much, which isn't the case, it is our first time, she has been giving vague info so i have not been pretty confident till today morning.

i feel silly, but i really wanna take real good care.

i wish to make it up like right now... how can extra care be taken excpt frm the points stated above?

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on January 25, 2013:

Hi there livewire,

Congratulations on your new baby. It's a whole new ball game now. I red somewhere that around 80% of women become more sensitive, cry a lot and all those weepy stuff after giving birth. It's more of the hormones acting up than anything else. But this should not be taken lightly, your wife still needs a little TLC. Good rest, a little Rand R will help do the trick. Take off some of the stress - as much as you can. She still needs pampering. Good luck my friend.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on January 25, 2013:

You make me laugh kcreery. It's nice of you to drop by. 6 years is a long time :)

Romel Tarroza from Philippines on January 23, 2013:

Well done, nice information. I had pass this stage already. Now my problem is the post natal syndrome, my wife is very sensitive after giving birth. What should I do?

Kevin from Whistler Canada on January 22, 2013:

Great hub. I enjoyed reading it. I am still trying to lose my sympathy weight from 6 years ago. Haha. Best of luck.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on January 22, 2013:

Hi there Kasman,

Nothing really prepares you for the adventure. But at least you've seen what I went through. Pick up those tidbits that will be useful for you. It's an unusual journey especially if it's your first time. In the end, pregnancy is a wonderful adventure for you and your wife.

I encourage you to keep your sanity through it. The whole hubpages community is cheering you on. Do share your experiences with us. Good luck my friend.

Kas from Bartlett, Tennessee on January 22, 2013:

Jpcmc, you've set me up for the "I'm pregnant" scenario and for that, I salute you sir! My wife and I are planning on having kids soon but obviously unprepared as people without them can be. We don't know much on the subject quite yet, but we are beginning to learn. I'm going to have to keep a hold on this hub to come back to from time to time as the frustrations begin to build. We will get through this! Ultra useful hub, voting way up!

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on January 20, 2013:

How's it going Lynette,

Thank you for the kind words. Yes, I do hope more husbands read this. Surviving pregnancy is not just for the mom.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on January 20, 2013:

Hello Topher,

I'm glad I made you smile. I hope you got something out of the article.

Lynette on January 09, 2013:

I laughed my head off reading this article. Kudos to jpcmc. It's both informative and funny. i hope more husbands read this.

Topher on January 07, 2013:

This is one of the funniest reads ever. But this is also very informative. This is a must share for all dads and dads to be. Great job!

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on December 02, 2012:

Hello Madison,

I understand the emotional roller coaster bundled in pregnancy. I saw it first hand. Every support we husbands can give should be given automatically without delay. Unfortunately not all guys have the same point of view when it comes to pregnancy. I just hope that everything works out well for you.

I appreciate the kind words Madison.

Madison on November 28, 2012:

Wow your wife sure is lucky i actually tried to get mine to read this and i don't think he even payed attention. Husbands please do read because sometimes just understanding what we are going through can make it a lot easier on both you and us!

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on November 27, 2012:

Hi there Ashiss. Thanks for the endorsement. :) Help me spread the word and get more husbands invovled.

ashish ag, india rtm on November 26, 2012:

Hello all,

he is right carefully, read and follow it.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on November 21, 2012:

Hello mecheshier,

We know it's a difficult time for the mom. The more men understand what is going on, the better we can help. This is a wonderful time for both husband and wife. Thanks for the vote up.

mecheshier on November 21, 2012:

I love this. It's about time I seen an article on a mans perspective of women & pregnancy. High 5 and more. Great info and references to how us sensitive women can be when our hormones are wacky. Thanks for the share. Voted up for useful and funny.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on November 18, 2012:

Hello Hezekiah,

No matter how many articles I read, it never really prepared me for the real thing. But every info counts. I hope I shared some that you can actually use.

Hezekiah from Japan on November 18, 2012:

Nice hub, I wish I had some tips like that when for when my wife was pregnant with our daughter.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on November 15, 2012:

Hi mariasial,

Pregnancy can be difficult. But It's one experience that we guys can never have. But riding shotgun in our wives' pregnancy is one thrill ride worth remembering.

Would you like to have more kids? Relive the experience of pregnancy one more time. :)

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on November 15, 2012:

He FL2BoysMom,

those were the stupid comments I will not make ever. I never enjoyed going shopping with my wife (or any woman for that matter) it takes too long. But when we were shopping for preggy clothes, it was a thrill for me. I was excited. I'm going to be a dad, and here's my wife to prove it. :)

I'm sure your hubbie realized his mistake - as I did.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on November 15, 2012:

Hi John-Rose,

The 9 months of pregnancy can really test the patience of a husband and the resilience of the mom. working together is important. True, we should never assume what the other person is feeling and going thorugh. All we can do is be there to help. Thanks for sharing your insights.

Are you planning to add one more to the brood?

maria sial from united kingdom on November 15, 2012:

Really good hub, it remind me all tough time of my pregnancy days. Thanks for sharing

FL2BoysMom on November 15, 2012:

Well, he did admit that he was thinking.. 'you're still gonna get bigger', but whether he (or you) was right or not, you deserved a smack on the head (I just cried, didn't smack him.) lol.

Something like, "Get something more comfy with more room to grow more" is much better.

John-Rose from USA on November 15, 2012:

I have four kids and I love the hub. My wife was an extreme handful and tried my patience unlike any of life's curses and/or blessings. The one thing that I can advise it to understand that you will never understand what she is going through and respect your wife through all of the craziness, because it's just going to be a temporary her. Your loving wife will return once her hormones return back to normal.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on November 14, 2012:

Hi ChrisStyles,

I read about mood swings but it never really prepared me for the real thing.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on November 14, 2012:

Hello FL2BoysMom,

Great tip! I actually asked that question to my wife and I got smack on the head. But i was right, we had to buy something bigger. Whenever we went out to buy preggy clothes, there's a certain level of pride in my heart. I'm going to be a dad. To an extent I like to flaunt my pregnant wife. :)

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on November 14, 2012:

Hello That Grrl,

Being a dad is both exciting and scary at the same time. I just want to share my ideas and experiences as a first time dad. Thanks for dropping by. See you around.

Laura Brown from Barrie, Ontario, Canada on November 14, 2012:

I'm linking both of your posts about Dads during pregnancy to Men's Style on scoop.it.

FL2BoysMom on November 14, 2012:

This is a great hub. I really enjoyed it.

Just want to add: When your wife goes to buy those first maternity clothes, and she holds up a blouse and asks "what do you think of this?" Do NOT reply with, "Is it big enough."

:)

ChrisStyles from USA on November 14, 2012:

Hehe... I remember those mood swings well and I sooo was not prepared for that.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on November 13, 2012:

Hello By Lori ,

Giving birth is definitely a stressful time. We must pamper moms especially after giving birth. The real work come after this. Thanks for sharing. :)

By Lori from USA on November 13, 2012:

I think after a birth the attention all goes on the baby which is normal enough but it is nice to remember that the mother has just gone through nearly a year of stress and physical change and discomfort, and maybe a frightening birth...and that hospitals these days rush women home too soon. Used to be a new mother would spend 10 days in hospital ! That is how concerned doctors used to be {I read somewhere}. She still needs to be treated special, because she's recovering. She just made a miracle for you, so keep on with the adoration and gratitude. Flowers,attention,kind deeds.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on November 13, 2012:

Hi Jenn,

Nice to see you here on hubpages. Thanks for visiting the hub. Good luck and I do hope you hubbie reads this. Pregnancy will make a lot of sense after breezing through this hub.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on November 13, 2012:

Hi M. Orteza,

Thanks for the visit. I'm glad I made you smile today. Send my regards to your husband.

Jenn on November 12, 2012:

This is an awesome article. My hubbie should read this. I'm into my second trimester and the morning sickness is becoming less of a problem. Thanks Mayla for sharing the link.

M. Orteza on November 12, 2012:

I know about the all day hangover. But my husband was kind enough to let me be. I get cranky when I'm nauseated. This is funny.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on November 11, 2012:

I'm glad you like the article Mitch. I guess every husband has his own way of dealing with pregnancy. Going nuts is one of them . :)

Mitch O. on November 08, 2012:

This is a delightful read! When I was pregnant my husband went nuts. It was funny. I'm sure your wife had a blast as well,

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on October 28, 2012:

Hi Renee Collins,

Nice of you to drop by and share your own experiences. It can really be confusion for both the husband and the pregnant wife. In spite of the emotional and physical challenges, I found this to be one of the most beautiful times I had with my wife. The anticipation of having our first child, the shopping for baby stuff, and the changes that is ahead all make it a wonderful time to connect and strengthen the relationship.

Thanks for the kind words. See you around.

Ant Richards from UK on October 24, 2012:

Read your article and it really offers a good insight. Was fun to read.

If you're interested and have the time, go and read my share of pre-fatherhood trails and tribulations called 'Once upon a time father was born'.

Well done on this piece, voted up!

Renee Collins on October 23, 2012:

I'm glad there's a man out there who understands that pregnancy is just as confusing for women as it is for men. I remember being so emotional with my first baby that I cried everytime a Trix commercial came on. I was so upset that they wouldn't let the rabbit have any cereal. Also warn your friends to never ask a woman who is in labor with no drugs not ask why she is crying. I could've killed my husband had I been able to roll out the bed.

JP Carlos (author) from Quezon CIty, Phlippines on October 22, 2012:

Hi Schad,

I'm glad the article can provide what you need. Good luck on this fun journey. This is just the start. When the baby comes out, there's a whole new life to look forward to.

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