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How to Distinguish an Unhappy Person From a Happy One

Even when it appears that everything is in order, a person's dissatisfaction with their life can sometimes be detected in small things.

Demanding evidence of love or respect

A happy person does not need proof: they just feel love and respect for themselves. The unhappy, on the contrary, will constantly demand big words, reckless actions, promises and confessions from others.

Living in memories

Unhappy people live thinking about their past all the time. It seems to them that it will never be as good and joyful as it was before. They withdraw into their memories and lose contact with the outside world. Their experience is like an anchor; it prevents them from moving on and establishing a real life.



Envy can differ. There is a "good" one that looks more like motivation—when a person admires someone else's result and sets himself the same goal. Bad envy corrodes a person like poison: a sense of dissatisfaction with oneself because of the success of others prevents one from living fully.

Putting material first

Building a career, surrounding yourself with quality and expensive things, or striving for more money is great, but you can’t rely only on material things. If a person puts things and finances above friendship, love, family, and self-improvement, then most likely they had some issues in the past and are now trying to escape from reality. Think of Cristmas Carol and its main character.

Lack of trust

It is enough to face betrayal just once and then fully lose faith in others. Nothing, neither words nor actions, will persuade a person that they are being treated sincerely and with good intentions. It seems to them that people tend to take advantage of their naivety and kindness.

Shifting Responsibility

Unhappy people fail to recognize that they are solely responsible for their own lives. They are constantly looking for someone to blame and try to attribute their failures to coincidence. Life will indeed be dull and meaningless if you do not take life into your own hands.

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A sudden change in priorities

People can become so dissatisfied with their lives that they begin to drastically shift their priorities; this is how they escape pain. A woman who is dumped before her wedding, for example, will begin to convince herself that marriage is unimportant to her. A person starts acting as if he no longer cares about what seemed important previously, loses interest in previous activities, or changes jobs too frequently.



Every person has flaws; some can be changed, while others must be accepted. An intolerant, unhappy person does not know how to accept others as they are; they believe it is their duty to notice and point out others' flaws.

Bad temper

A happy person will not dwell on the negative. Those who are dissatisfied with their own lives, on the other hand, begin to look for new reasons for disagreements and abuse. There will be tense situations everywhere—in a line, at home, at work, and among friends—that can escalate into a full-fledged conflict.


Happy people don't let failure bring them down

They recover from failures faster. They see life circumstances that impede goal achievement as a kind of roadblock on a difficult but pleasant path to happiness. They are prepared to deal with any temporary setbacks in order to succeed.

Happy people appreciate what others take for granted

They are masters of the art of pleasure. They enjoy not only the events themselves but also the anticipation of these events and their memories of them. They imagine what is in store for them. They understand that children grow up, that time passes inevitably, and that everyone dies. Happy people enjoy every moment of their lives; they never need a reason to rejoice.

Happy people forgive quickly

Forgiveness is not easy. Many people enjoy accumulating anger and proving that they are right, but a happy person feels genuine relief after forgetting the offense. They see forgiveness as a chance to move on; they believe that the inability to forgive only harms the person who remembers the bad, not the person who committed the offense.

Happy people serve a higher purpose

They joyfully pursue a goal that is more important to them than their own desires. Their fulfillment comes from contributing to a bigger plan, idea, or belief. Furthermore, happy people know why they live do everything possible to achieve their goal.

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