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How to Deal With Problems in Life

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A freelance writer since 2011 and has been graduated from Indira Gandhi National Open University, Delhi, India

Problems Prepare You To Face Bigger Challenges In Life

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How To Deal With Problems In Life?

One of the frequent complaints we hear from the people around us is the various types of problems they are facing in their life often. Everyday and everywhere there are problems. Many times we discover it very hard to stay happy. When one problem is resolved, another one comes up.

People have money problems, work problems, relationship problems, family problems, health problems, the list goes on. And we are tempted to think that people who are happy and successful are experiencing fewer problems than us. Looking at the successful people, we say, look, they don't have any problems in their life. They have the money they required, they enjoy the job they love, they have good friends, obedient kids, a successful business, an affectionate family, etc.

Everything is going well with them. That is why they are content and successful. But the reality is that the more successful you are, the more problems you have to face. More success means more challenges, more success means more risk.

The number of problems they are facing makes them more successful. In India, for enjoying a peaceful life, people frequently go to the forest or solitary places like mountains or valleys to silently sit and meditate. They are called."Sadhu's" or "Sanyasi". They leave behind their obligation to the family, relatives, or to the society. They are content and peaceful to some extent. They are running away from the problems of this life. The other group, they do not have problems is the people rest in peace at the graveyard! Rest everyone has problems, one way or the other. No wonder if everything goes well with you, you would be delighted.

Young and old, rich and poor, successful and unsuccessful, educated and uneducated, all have problems. The difference is the level of their problems varies from each other. Wealthy and successful people encounter acute problems. Poverty-stricken and unsuccessful people develop minor problems. However, they all have problems that they can handle if they want. It requires clear thinking and an efficient strategy to face such challenges. Successful people are successful just because they are prepared to encounter severer problems and able to resolve them.​

Our Problems Make Us Grow

Most of the people are not interested in challenges. That is why we have more wretched or average people around us. Wealthy people are very few. Poor people are poor just because they are not prepared to face challenges or problems which wealthy people are ready to face. That is the difference.

Winning the US election makes the President very happy. As a new US president, he has to confront more significant challenges. He has to be right and introduce innovative programs for the people, otherwise, he will lose his position. If he wants to hold on to his position, he has to confront increased challenges. He has to be more careful about what he does and the decisions he makes to run the country regularly. Looking at him, we may say he is lucky, happy, and successful. But I think, as the US president, he has to face more challenges.

You may ask."if our life is loaded with problems then How can we find happiness in life"?

The answer is brilliantly straightforward, find happiness while taking care of your problems. Deal with your problems with a independent mind. Learn to laugh at the problems that you encounter in your life journey. Life on this earth is a one-time event. Don't take life so seriously. Do not worry about many things that are beyond your control. We must remember the key strategy of the most prominent philosopher ever lived in this world.

"Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food and the body more important than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life? "And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, What shall we eat?' or 'What shall we drink?' or 'What shall we wear?'

On the other hand, we require problems. They will assist us to grow.

Problems are inevitable for growth as it'll enlighten us how to handle complex situations and accelerate the growth of our success. When you develop a problem, it is a sign that we need to change our way of life or improve ourselves and improve our behavior. If you are fighting with your spouse or partner, no matter whose fault it may seem to be, it is a sign that you need to alter the way you behave and communicate with your spouse.

As a responsible husband or wife, if you decided to check yourself and choose to initiate some positive actions like spending more time with your spouse, showing more love, appreciating your partner more, listening with your heart, and communicating honestly, you would be able to solve many problems and end up as a better person yourself. You would grow when you experience problems.

The identical situation can affect people differently. I heard about two brothers. One is in jail, and the other one is a successful doctor in a reputed hospital. The correspondent interviewed both. The one who is a criminal in jail told the reporter that his father was a drunkard and did not take good care of his family. And he followed the lifestyle of his father and became a drunkard and ended up in Jail. His brother, the doctor, said that he was also in the identical situation. His father did not take good care of him and the family. He decided I would never be like my father. Therefore, he took life seriously, never used any drugs, and studied well, and became a successful physician. He is supporting and taking good care of his children. See here the identical situation and different approach towards life.


If you have money problems, it is a sign that you need to improve the way you spend your money. You need to analyze your financial status and learn to manage your money. Learn to avoid unnecessary expenses and learn to buy value for money and learn to earn money. Don't run after branded items and first-class services if you can't manage them. By analyzing and correcting your way of spending and investing you can claim victory over your financial problems. Learn to be content with what you possess and learn from your problems. Trees that grow in unfavorable conditions can withstand much challenging weather. So to become strong, you need more challenging problems in your life. Problems will make you strong. It causes us to grow into a better person. When you experience and overcome a certain level of challenge, life will transfer you to another level of success. As a result, problems are the stepping-stones for your growth and success. It will get you into a successful business or having a joyful family life. It will improve your relationship with your spouse and friends.

Learn And Grow To Another Level Of Success

When you avoid problems or not properly dealing with your problems means you are not growing in your life.

Allow me to explain, when you have a small fight in your family, instead of properly dealing with it, you may run away from your problem or ignore it and can start blaming others for the same. Then this problem will develop gradually, which will sever your relationship. Then you enter into another relationship hoping to lead a better life. But very soon you will discover the identical problem in the worst form. Then you think the earlier life was better than this. If you ignore the knock of life, life will come with another blow which will be severer and fatal than the first one. If you avoid that also and not changing, life will hit you with something bigger and heavier than that and crush you. You will grow from bad to worst. We may see such shattered and bitter persons around us. So be careful when you face problems, deal with it properly and improve yourself. You cannot change others, but you can change yourself. That is good news.

When you have money problems, it's a knock from life. If you avoid or neglect it, very soon you will become bankrupt. You know Mike Tyson earned around $300 million in his boxing Career but lost everything and filed for bankruptcy in 2003 owing to a debt of $27 million. There are a number of successful persons out there who lost their fortune by living a wayward life. They are successful in one area but not successful in another area of life.

Unless you improve yourself, the identical problems will enter your way from every walk of your life. If you learn and change, life will escort you to another level of success.

Have you ever observed some people keep on experiencing the identical problem in every company they are working with and in every relationship they were entered into? They repeatedly fail to realize they are the ones who caused the problems consciously or unconsciously. Instead of blaming others, they need to transform themselves. What they require to achieve is to reform themselves.

Resolve it when it is minor.

Problems will start with minor arguments. Neglecting it provokes occasional fights. Still neglecting it, then it happens frequently and you fall into a severe fight that will end up in separation or end of the relationship. See, problems also develop gradually.

Successful people know how to address the problem properly when it is minor. Because of that, they remarkably suffer few problems in their life. That is why they are content and successful.

Successful people learn how to manage their money when they encounter minor problems. Start acting on it. Deal with it. Correct it. That is why they are facing fewer or no money problems in their life.

When you experience a small health problem, manage your diet. Deal with it. You will become a successful, healthy, millionaire, with a happy relationship very soon.

This Is The Time To Look At God

Jesus instructed his disciples, "In this world, you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” Yes, there is trouble in this world. One way or the other, we all will have to go through different kinds of troubles in our life. It may vary from person to person, place to place, culture to culture, but all have to go through some sort of troubles in their life.

God could have kept Joseph out of jail, kept Jeremiah from being tossed into a slimy pit, kept Daniel out of the lion’s den, kept Paul from being shipwrecked three times and kept the three Hebrew young men from being thrown into the blazing furnace, but he didn’t. He let those problems happen, and each of those people was drawn closer to God as a result.


When we go through the troubles and problems, it tows us near to God. It encourages us to look at God. It assists us pray earnestly to God. That is the time we pray our heartfelt, honest, and authentic prayer. God is the only one who can deliver us from all of our troubles. The bible says."A broken and contrite heart you, God, will not despise"

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2009 Jacob

Comments

Roshan Koirala, Nepal on December 28, 2013:

Whatever life will go on so don't worry about future just live in today.

You will achieve happiness, success and your bright future.

Daffodil on September 27, 2013:

Don't warry about problems ,just face it !learn to appreciate things you have and find positive aspects in everthing you can.

Anna on February 06, 2013:

All people do have problems. And this doesn't depend upon the fact, how rich or how successful they are. Different people treat problems in different way and that's the point. Sometimes we tend to exaggerate things, but the devil is not so black as he is painted. Sometimes we get extremely upset with trifles, we are constantly complaining and grievhow unlucky we are. At this time think about people, who suffer from mortal diseases or have gone through real distress.

Learn to appreciate things you have and find positive aspects in everythig you can.

viji on December 20, 2012:

thank u for our useful comments

problemsproblems on November 22, 2012:

good article. but nothing helps in this world to deal with problems.

Monika on November 07, 2012:

Hi

Its Great job ! A goodway to live happy and make other happy

Prince on November 04, 2012:

Thanks . Master our religion said that how to deal with problems ,big problems . This religion is islam .do you know muslims they are very good and they have good life .think about it

silesia on October 30, 2012:

Thanks all fro your good advise

May the Lord bless this beautyful Message

Jacob (author) from Delhi, India on October 04, 2012:

Thanks all for your kind visits and comments.

May God bless you all

THUITA on October 02, 2012:

THANKS U SEEM TO HAVE A WIDE KNOWLEDGE OF THAT TOPIC. KEEP ON INSPIRING OTHERS.

KN on September 29, 2012:

thank you all very very useful

Alex Adam on September 26, 2012:

Very interesting blog post thank you for writing it I just added your blog to my favorites and will be back :) By the way this is a little off subject but I really like your blogs layout.

Jacob (author) from Delhi, India on September 11, 2012:

Thanks for highlighting the mistakes.

Also thanks for taking time to read my hubs.

johngreat on September 10, 2012:

correction: people who face problems ! sorry.

johngreat on September 10, 2012:

spelling mistakes like bare for bear etc. quite a few. avoid them. it reads well. some encouragement for people face problems...

anitha on August 09, 2012:

everything mentioned above is easy to talk, but very difficult to adopt & accept in real life

poornima on August 04, 2012:

wonderfull article.

Thanks for sharing.

i have self experienced really what u have written.

Sincere prayers,immense faith in God & honest efforts makes your life journey worthwhile & more experienced

Manoj on July 14, 2012:

I am very happy with my problems because it helps to live happy life in future THANK FULL TO YOUR THOUGHTS.

Raghvendra Sharma on July 05, 2012:

Very well written article. I'll try to implement the given suggestions.

sri on June 27, 2012:

its a good advice but lets see how it works on my life

mayette on May 27, 2012:

i loved it..thanks for being an inspiration. God bless..:-)..

P-black on May 21, 2012:

Thanks very much,i realy enjoy reading it

satish.k on May 10, 2012:

Excellent message to those who struglling for life problems.

shamlee on May 07, 2012:

great reading, superb advice!

Rhysally on April 23, 2012:

i agree with you, will try to apply now to myself and see if will work..

saeed on April 14, 2012:

good advises

bhagdkbose on April 13, 2012:

gaandu

guy on March 04, 2012:

Yeah good advise; my problem is I try to do good but life sucks I try to plz my wife all the time but the more I do for her the more she wants never can be plz I'm tired what should I do

nory on March 04, 2012:

Thanks hubs...good advice!it helps me a lot

nory on March 04, 2012:

Thanks hubs...good advice!it helps me a lot

aren on February 21, 2012:

Thanks for these.... it really helped me.. speciall in my philosophy of life...

saeed on February 18, 2012:

good tips

sandip on February 16, 2012:

it was really a nice tip,,,, it can anyones life,,,

GOLD on February 15, 2012:

NICE PIECE THANKS

aya on January 25, 2012:

thank you , good advic

.ll on January 17, 2012:

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SIBIRITION on January 01, 2012:

We face problems to grow thus a good one there. thanks very much that is wonderful work done. happy new year and stay blessed.

Nazar on December 17, 2011:

Wow wat an inspiring words and thoughts , face the problem with guts and self confidence

malik on December 16, 2011:

thank u very much its a good one. NO PAIN NO GAIN

saeed2011 on December 04, 2011:

A nice and good advice

Betty Bolden from Bucyrus Ohio on November 28, 2011:

oh life problems are all over me..thank you for this

KAHSAY NEGASH on October 10, 2011:

*NO SUCCESS WITHOUT A PROBLEM*

THEREFORE A PROBLEM IS A BEST TEACHER

kahsay negash(ethiopian) on October 10, 2011:

that is a good advice & this makes me to be successful in my problems.And i want also to advice you to continue with your good works.

good bye

isha on October 08, 2011:

good job

Suzette on August 23, 2011:

Totally agree...I learn more about life.

sweetie1 from India on June 14, 2011:

Beautiful hub and i do agree with you that everyone has problems. Infact the day you come on this earth your problems start and don't end till you end. Though i don't beleive that sadhus don't have problems. They do have problems of food, health, clothing infact everything and on top of it they have to beg for everything. Yes they have run away from responsiblities like cowards but their problems don't end there.

Arpana on June 11, 2011:

YEs........ liFE gives us lessons to learn.

jose on May 20, 2011:

I am very impressed and to confess, I have learn so much. I pray that with this lesson learn from your article will help me deal with life problems. ofcourse i take life very serious which i believe have led to continuous stress and unhappiness i faced on a daily basis.

SimpleSystemWorks on April 12, 2011:

Interesting insights! I personally feel that understanding ourself first is the key to solving most problems in our daily life. It is the key to lead you to where your heart really belongs!

Jacob (author) from Delhi, India on March 31, 2011:

Dear Noluthando,

Whether you did right or wrong is not the question. The question is how you are dealing with the the wrong doers. Are you dealing with it? Are you making them aware that they did wrong? Do you communicate that you cannot continue with or tolerate the wrong they are doing? Deal it with a free mind. You are worthy. You have rights and obligation while in relationship. Know about it and act upon it. That is the key to lead a successful life.

Thanks for your visit and comment

Noluthando on March 31, 2011:

what if you did not do wrong? what change do you adapt in, how do you cope with it? what reasons must you have for it to flash away.life sometimes can be unfare

jam on February 18, 2011:

it's really accommodating for those who have problems to read some article like that!!!

emma on January 17, 2011:

lot have been said... i think am in the right place at the right time..........all i can say is thank you for these good words

jaz on December 20, 2010:

really good advice....!!!!

Jacob (author) from Delhi, India on December 02, 2010:

Thanks all

I do appreciate all the love and support people have been sending my way. The extra social support really helps. Knowing that people are finding value in these updates gives me more motivation to keep going. So thank you for that!

Jacob (author) from Delhi, India on December 02, 2010:

Thanks all

I do appreciate all the love and support people have been sending my way. The extra social support really helps. Knowing that people are finding value in these updates gives me more motivation to keep going. So thank you for that!

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Nittu on November 06, 2010:

Well i agree to you and your words.But I would like to add something to this.Situations get worse when u hangup yourself to small issues and keep banging your head on thinking of the reasons and asking yourself why,why, why ????? it happened."Forget" and "Forgive" are two good words we have which will let us feel quite relax .

denden mangubat from liloan, cebu, philippines on October 05, 2010:

nice hub

Yogesh Bailwal from India on September 26, 2010:

Very practical advice, really good hub.

Johnyboy on September 11, 2010:

To answer the title question I would say "With Calm" :D

sudheer on September 11, 2010:

its something useful in one's life to develop in all respects.....

Jacob (author) from Delhi, India on August 19, 2010:

Thanks shihab eldeen for your kind visit and comment

shihab eldeen on August 15, 2010:

thank you for all

I think The size of your problem defined by your efforts to convince your self that isn’t a problem

Jacob (author) from Delhi, India on August 04, 2010:

I do appreciate all the love and support people have been sending my way this week. The extra social support really helps. Knowing that people are finding value in these updates gives me more motivation to keep going. So thank you for that!

sanjay on July 22, 2010:

nice tips,really very helpful

Sudhish on July 14, 2010:

Really valuable & motivating comments. I am ready to face any problem now.

Vaibhav on July 10, 2010:

Simply great advice and article to deal with all sort of problems in life. Thanks you so much Mr. Jacob for enlightening people in today's gloomy scenario, where world is saturated with problems.............! Keep up the good job.

God Bless U.

Regrds

Vaibhav

kevintuga on June 13, 2010:

Excellente and interesting article, you said in a small text a important Word's How problems in life can be resolve and not be ignored .

Thank's for HUB continue with your Good work :D

Coment my hub's

x on June 11, 2010:

Excellent article. So much so,that I've linked to it.

Pamela Lipscomb from Charlotte, North Carolina on June 07, 2010:

It is important to teach children at an early age, how to handle stress' and problems.

artlia garcia on May 18, 2010:

thank you for your very2x good advise.. I've learned a lot...

nikitha p from India on May 15, 2010:

Nice article

Jacob (author) from Delhi, India on May 13, 2010:

Thanks for your comment Fucsia.

I think money problem can be overcome by our actions.

fucsia on May 11, 2010:

I agree with this kind of mindset, but some problems can't be resolved and sometimes can't be accepted. I think, for example, those who have money problems, real problems. There are many people in the world that can not ward off the cold, eating, sleeping in a bed. perhaps these are problems that can only be solved by the entire population, only with the help of all.

another problem that is can't be resolved is a serious disease, although by disease we can always learn a lot.

Jacob (author) from Delhi, India on May 03, 2010:

Thanks all

Thanks Pollyannalana,

Thanks lovelife999 ,

Thanks Paul Stretton ,

Thanks curlyqt5 ,

Thanks gudiya ,

Thanks Madison22,

Thanks RUEL,

Thanks Styling,

Thanks kims3003

Thank you very much for your visit and encouraging comment.

kims3003 on May 01, 2010:

An extra special hub. Great writing

Styling on April 25, 2010:

First of all, the word ‘problem’ is so negative that even labeling situation as a problem we already have a problem. There’s no such thing as ‘problem’. We need to realize what we call problem is actually change of ‘set of circumstances’. Things in life are never static, everything is constantly changing. The most wonderful things in life are bound to change but good news is with ‘bad’ things too. Nothing ever stays the same. Once we accept changes as part of our life, only than we can shift our perception about ‘problems’. It’s never situation which cause suffering, it’s only our interpretation about certain situation. Let’s start with something small; try calling ‘change of circumstances’ instead ‘problems’ and see how you feel. You might suddenly realize that problems do not have the same impact on you as they used to. You might be surprised.

RUEL on April 23, 2010:

Its a great advice, just remember all people living this world have different problem, just have faith in our almighty and solution will come in the right time.

We must enjoy our life in every moment.

Madison from NYC on April 21, 2010:

Excellent advice! Thank you for sharing them. :-)

gudiya on March 27, 2010:

Great advice, thanks for posting!

curlyqt5 from Bay Area on February 22, 2010:

Nice hub! I enjoyed reading it!

Paul Stretton on January 21, 2010:

Great advice, thanks for posting!

Paul Stretton on January 21, 2010:

lovelife999 on January 10, 2010:

really awesome, great hub.

Pollyannalana from US on January 07, 2010:

I agree with RevLady but with you that when problems do come we need patience if our mates aren't as quick to solve or learn. Whether we want them or not problems will come and our knowledge, attitude and willingness to do the right thing will decide how bad or how often. Like learning to walk I guess, and we go on learning throughout life.

Jacob (author) from Delhi, India on December 26, 2009:

Thanks Rishfa for your comment

Rishfa on December 25, 2009:

Awesome :):) thanks for the great advice

Jacob (author) from Delhi, India on December 25, 2009:

Thanks stars439 and Hanna Ministries for your comment

It's encouraging..

Thanks once again

Hannah Ministries on December 25, 2009:

Isn't it great that we really need the problems to grow? God Bless you. I love your hubs. Became a follower.

stars439 from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State. on December 24, 2009:

Good Advice. God Bless You

Jacob (author) from Delhi, India on December 22, 2009:

Thanks all for your visits and comments

Harsh Sharma from Mumbai,India on December 22, 2009:

Good food for thought.Its all in the mind Jacobkuttyta and a matter of taking ownership and responsibility.

losestomachfat from Australia on December 19, 2009:

Some top shelf hubs, very useful information for everyone!

Nate Kelley on December 19, 2009:

Very good thoughts and ideas... Keep up the good hubs

Hussains from Olympia, WA on December 16, 2009:

Nice article, great advice.

losestomachfat from Australia on December 15, 2009:

I think its essential for someone to accept the facts that problems will always present themselves in your life, and by accepting this I think your fundamental attitude tends to change into, ok how can I better tackle, cope and provide potential solutions for future problems.

I think what makes small or even mediocre problems huge disasters is denial and a common tendency to sweep things under the carpet so the problems is unseen.

But any great problem solver will tell you that in doing this you create the potential of a problem evolving into a full blown train wreck.

Great hub!

Capci on December 01, 2009:

thanx for ur good advice...

Loralie Lyndon from USA on November 30, 2009:

Excellent hub! Thanks for the great advice.

Peg Cole from North Dallas, Texas on November 30, 2009:

You've got some great advice here, Jacobkuttyta. Problems are truly a fact of life whether we're rich or poor. It's how we choose to deal with our problems that defines us. Some complain, others look for a way to solve.

We've been assured, "Seek and ye shall find, knock and it shall be opened unto you." We must look for our answers.

Great hub. I look forward to reading your others.

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