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How to Stop Worrying and Start Living


Plato recognized the deep connection between the body and mind, and in the late 1800s, the Mayo brothers, eminent doctors, estimated that more than half of all hospital beds are occupied by patients suffering from frustration, anxiety, continuous worrying, and despair. Because sources of anxiety are ubiquitous, it is critical that we devote time to learning how to stop worrying and start living.

Dale Carnegie's famous book How to Stop Worrying and Start Living provides techniques for overcoming excessive anxiety and establishing a concern-free atmosphere in both your personal and professional life.
The following are the top ten strategies for grabbing concern by the horns and wrestling it to the ground.
1. Decide and Never Look Back
Have you ever made a life choice only to regret it later? Naturally, you have! It's difficult not to worry whether you've made the proper choice and if there is still time to change course.
Bear in mind, though, that you've already made your choice; thus, act decisively and ignore any associated fear.
Never pause to ponder, evaluate, or retrace your actions. Once you've decided on a course of action, never stray from it. If you discover later that you're travelling in the incorrect way, there will be an opportunity to rethink your course of action. Until then, refrain from thinking about the direction your new choice will lead you.
2. Live in the Present Moment and pack your belongings into "Day-Tight Compartments"
You know the feeling: tossing and turning and fretting late into the night over something that occurred or could happen. To escape this unnecessary worrying, you need "day-tight compartments." Just as a ship has many watertight compartments, your own "day-tight" compartments allow you to focus only on the current moment.
The rule is straightforward: whatever occurred in the past or may occur in the future cannot intrude on today. Everything else must either wait until tomorrow's box or be relegated to the past.
Of course, this is easier said than done, but if you really want to learn how to quit worrying and start living, developing this ability to compartmentalise is critical. Everything should have a home, just as it would in a neatly ordered closet.
3. Accept the Worst-Case Scenario and Develop a Strategy to Counter It
If you're concerned about anything, ask yourself, "What's the worst-case scenario?" Are you at risk of losing your job? Be imprisoned? Become a victim?
Whatever the "worst-case scenario" is, it is unlikely to be catastrophic. You could even recover from it!
If you lose your job, for example, you can always get another. Accepting the worst-case situation and developing contingency preparations can help you feel more at ease.
Begin by jotting out your primary issues. Then, write out the various outcomes of those occurrences, followed by at least three strategies for overcoming or dealing with those outcomes. You may discover that you have more tools available to you than you believe.
4. Put a Cap on Your Anxiety
At times, we obsess on bad ideas and experiences when just stepping away from them would be significantly more beneficial to our mental health.
To help alleviate your concern, consider this approach from stock traders: it's called a "stop-loss" order, and it involves purchasing shares at a certain price and then monitoring their price development. If things go wrong and the share price reaches a specific level, they are instantly sold. This prevents the loss from becoming any larger.
Similarly, you may place a stop-loss order on items that bring you stress and sadness in order to develop the ability to stop worrying and start living.
5. Fake It Until You Make It – That Is, Happiness
While we cannot directly affect how we feel, we can impact how we think and behave.
If you're feeling down or depressed, put on a broad smile and whistle a cheerful melody. You will discover that it is difficult to feel blue while performing cheerfully. However, you are not required to appear joyful outwardly; you may just imagine happier ideas instead.
According to a 2020 research, faking a grin might assist your brain move toward more optimistic thinking[1]. As a result, make an effort to grin, even when you're feeling unhappy. You may discover that it alters the course of your day.
Marcus Aurelius succinctly said, "Our existence is defined by our ideas."
6. Donate for the Purpose of Giving
When we do acts of kindness, we often do it with the anticipation of receiving something in return. However, such expectations will almost certainly leave you dissatisfied.
Samuel Leibowitz was one individual who was fully aware of this reality. Leibowitz averted the execution of 78 individuals throughout his career. Guess how many people expressed gratitude to him? There are none.
Put an end to your expectation of thanks when you are good to someone. Rather than that, get delight from the act itself.
7. Eliminate Envy – Take Pride in Being Uniquely You
Your genes are one-of-a-kind. Even if someone shared your parents, the chances of someone being born identical to you is just one in 300,000 billion.
Despite this astounding reality, many of us fantasize about becoming someone else, believing that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. However, living this way is meaningless. Accept your individuality and develop a sense of self-acceptance in order to learn how to stop worrying and start living.
If you're having difficulty becoming your most true self, this article might help you get started.
8. Haters Will Continue to Hate – That Simply Means You're Doing It Correctly.
When you get criticism, it often indicates that you have accomplished something remarkable. Indeed, consider this: the more you are criticised, the more powerful and significant a person you are going to be.
The next time someone talks you down, resist the urge to listen. Put aside your concerns about criticism and accept it as a complement!
If you continue to receive the same unfavourable feedback from a variety of sources, it may be time to reconsider what you're doing or how you're behaving. Everyone has space for development, so don't be hesitant to make necessary adjustments to your attitude.
9. Recognize When You Are Tired and Take a Break
Scientists believe that the most prevalent cause of weariness is emotional distress. Additionally, it works in reverse: weariness increases anxieties and unpleasant feelings, therefore it's critical to understand how to avoid both weariness and anxiety.
As a result, it should be obvious that while learning how to quit worrying and start living, you should also learn to rest often before you feel exhausted. Otherwise, concerns and exhaustion would build up on top of one another.

When you are calm, it is hard to worry, and regular rest helps you keep your capacity to perform successfully. Resting may take the form of a sleep, a stroll through nature, or just relaxing on the sofa with a nice book. Determine the kind of rest that is most beneficial for your specific body and mind.

10. Organize Yourself and Enjoy Your Work
There are few bigger causes of suffering in life than being forced to work in a job you loathe on a daily basis. Thus, it makes logical that you should avoid choosing a career that you despise or even loathe performing.
However, suppose you already have a job. How can you make the experience more pleasurable and stress-free? One method is to establish sound work habits and maintain organisation: a desk cluttered with unread emails and notes is certain to cause anxiety.
According to research, "clutter in one's living area, unpleasant emotions, and reduced social abilities all predicted high levels of procrastination." Not only will clutter stress you out, but it will also force you to put off important tasks, which will just add to your stress.
Final Thoughts
When you're trying to figure out how to stop worrying and start living, it's critical to identify the areas of your life that cause you the most anxiety. When you're able to focus on certain regions, the task becomes much simpler. Develop a mental attitude toward more optimistic thinking and see how it enables you to approach each day with less anxiety.


Misbah Sheikh from The World of Poets on June 05, 2021:

Naeem, your first piece is excellent. I wish you the best of luck throughout your time at HP. You continue to shine as well. Continue to write and engage with the community. The people in the community are all really kind and friendly. May Allah continue to bless you. Ameen!!

Audrey Hunt from Idyllwild Ca. on June 04, 2021:

Welcome, naeemuldin! This is a first-rate article. Excellent suggestions for a happier life.

Naeem Uldin (author) from karachi, Pakistan on June 04, 2021:

thankyou soo much Dora Weithers for your appreciation. God bless you.

Naeem Uldin (author) from karachi, Pakistan on June 04, 2021:

w/s Misbah Sheikh, it means alot to me that you have said and thanks for your kind feedback .keep shinning Misbah

Misbah Sheikh from The World of Poets on June 04, 2021:

Salam, Welcome to HubPages. Great tips and suggestions. I loved it. Yup, agreed ~ Fake It Until You Make It – That Is, Happiness.

Happiness is like a butterfly, the more you chase it, the more it will elude, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder." Henry David Thoreau.


Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on June 04, 2021:

Welcome to HubPages! Your first article is a winner. Thanks for the reminders of these important life principles. Very helpful.

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