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How to Manage Borderline Personality Disorder

Author Wynter seeks to find accommodating answers to psychosocial stressors by doing extensive research and interviewing therapists.

“I am free and that is why I am lost.” – Franz Kafka –


What Is Borderline Personality Disorder?

A person with Borderline personality disorder also known as an emotionally unstable personality disorder is characterized by having unstable moods and behavior, they have a severe fear of abandonment, they are impulsive and oftentimes engages in self-destructive behavior, and their extreme emotional swings make it hard for them to navigate relationships, and their self-image is corrupted by their distorted thinking. They are also prone to experience a chronic feeling of emptiness and boredom that persists irregularly.


Alongside Medications, it is mainly treated using psychotherapy with a treatment approach for borderline personality disorder; its main goal is to teach you how to manage your emotions and focus more on your ability to function, many types of psychotherapy are effective along with many other strategies that could help mitigate the disorder.

Psychotherapy Options.

Psychotherapy options include Dialectical behavior therapy which focuses on high-risk patients; it is a type of cognitive behavioral therapy that tries to deal with thenegative thinking patterns associated with the disorder, the term dialectical comes from the idea that bringing together two opposing factors in therapy; acceptance and change brings better results than either one alone, at its core, DBT helps people build four skills; mindfulness, distress tolerance, interpersonal effectiveness and emotional regulation, meanwhile there is also Schema-focused therapy which can help you identify unmet needs that have led to those negative life patterns; Schemas are pervasive patterns of thoughts that are more than just beliefs; they are deeply held patterns that are closely related to our sense of self, the therapist works on identifying these maladaptive schemas such as defectiveness, enmeshment and emotional deprivation, and altering unhealthy coping styles that are the result of these schemas, besides mentalization-Based Therapy helps patients think before they react to their own feelings or to the perceived feelings of others, ultimately developing their capacity for mentalization, furthermore, Transference-focused psychotherapy helps patients explore how past experiences influence their present circumstances, moreover there is a program called STEPPS which is short for Systems Training for Emotional Predictability and Problem Solving that can deliver clinically meaningful improvements in BPD related symptoms and enhance global functioning.

Writing Down in a Mood Diary.

It is beneficial to engage in journaling your emotions and writing expressively, as writing down how you feel will help you pinpoint what triggers your difficult times, it is important to not set any rules to your writing, be creative as much as you can, as personal writing will help you understand your perceptions, it can also help you make sense of what is going on with your life.

Talk to Someone.

Verbalizing our negative feelings can help us feel relieved, by removing burdens off your chest, you open the door to many suggestions and possibilities, it can also help us release emotional pain, profoundly reducing stress and the severity of the symptoms.

Peer Support.

Peer support provides a personal level of knowledge by sharing similar life experiences. These experiences can encourage meaningful connections and maintain your understanding of this condition.

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Learning Coping Skills for Raging Emotions.

There are helpful online tools to get through different emotions whenever they get to you, you can find different strategies to implement to regulate different triggers and keep them under control.

Books on BPD.

There are so many books to help you through the most challenging phases of your disorder, including how to move beyond common problems, establish healthy routines, etcetera.


Mindfulness techniques especially meditation have been associated with a reduction in impulsive behavior, by focusing on your sense of awareness you become more accepting of the situation and be more assertive of your choices


Listening to music that is opposite of the strong emotions felt will help you contain your emotions and reach a state of equilibrium, it has been proven scientifically and medically that music will help your self-confidence, the notion of self-confidence relates to self-assurance in one’s judgment, thus it will help you make better decisions and lift you up during your downs.


Dissociation can often be triggered by stress, and going out for a walk outside especially surrounded by nature will help you with that, going outdoors improves attention and enhances your mood, therefore, reducing the risks of psychiatric disorders, especially BPD.

General bibliography.

-American Psychiatric Association (2013). Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (5th ed.)

-Linehan M (1993). Cognitive-behavioral treatment of borderline personality disorder

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and does not substitute for diagnosis, prognosis, treatment, prescription, and/or dietary advice from a licensed health professional. Drugs, supplements, and natural remedies may have dangerous side effects. If pregnant or nursing, consult with a qualified provider on an individual basis. Seek immediate help if you are experiencing a medical emergency.

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