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How To Get a Loved One Into Rehab

Regina is a mental health and wellbeing freelance writer who helps companies achieve their marketing goals by writing content that converts.

Trying to help a loved one get into rehab is one of the hardest yet most loving acts someone can do. It takes courage and determination to stand firm and show that person the right path to take —even when they are reluctant to it.

The first thing to keep in mind is that most people struggling with addiction don't care about the consequences or the harm they cause to those around them. They just want their needs met.

Below are the proper steps for getting a family member, friend, or partner into rehab, as well as the different treatment options available to them. Keep in mind, too, that sometimes the only option left is intervention, and you should never blame yourself for not acting sooner.


Steps to Take a Loved One Into Rehab

1. Get Educated on Addiction

A deep understanding of how addiction works is essential to handle this situation in the best possible way. By understanding what your loved one is going through, you will be able to identify the type of addiction they are struggling with, know how far they are in the addictive cycle and sympathize with their feelings.

There are also support groups for family or friends dealing with addicted loved ones to get professional help and support. If this option isn't the best fit for you, hundreds of qualified and reputable resources, both online and offline, are also available.

Survivors, their family members, and people with first-hand experience in the field can also help you comprehend this situation better.

2. Break The Denial Cycle

A successful healing journey always begins with acceptance, otherwise, you may not be able to be of much help. For instance, instead of giving them money every time they ask for it, say no and accept the fact that they are probably going to use it to feed the vice.

Acknowledging the problem not only makes the process easier but also helps you become aware of all the coping mechanisms they use to excuse their addiction.

The good news is that if you already did step number one, breaking the denial cycle is easier, as you now have a lot of knowledge about addiction and the consequences of being a silent supporter.

3. Use a Positive Approach

Trying to use guilt, shame, pleading, or any other negative emotion to get them to react is futile and will only drive a wedge between you and your loved one. People struggling with addiction can’t control themselves when it comes to their needs.

Therefore, using a negative approach only tells them that you don't understand what they are going through and also makes them feel worse for not being able to exert some control to stop the hurting.

Using a positive approach, however, strengthens the bond and gets you closer to them. By being understanding, calm, and friendly, you are signaling to them that it is safe to trust you. A rule of thumb is to try not to confront them with their addiction but to let them make the first move.

4. Familiarize Yourself With The Help Available

Part of being educated on addiction comes with knowing the treatment options, places, educational resources, and people you can get in contact with for immediate help. As a reminder, some of them are:

  • Inpatient and Outpatient Rehab
  • Medication
  • Sober Living Homes
  • Drug and Alcohol Detox
  • 12-Step Programs
  • Narcotics Anonymous
  • Alcoholic Anonymous
  • Holistic Therapy
  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
  • Motivational Enhancement Therapy (MET)
  • National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence, Inc.

5. Be Supportive

If there is one thing people facing addiction need is support. They need someone who won’t give up easily. A person who’s willing to help them walk the healing journey that will change their lives forever.

However, it is important not to confuse support with lack of accountability. If your loved one missed an important deadline because of their addiction, for example, let them face the consequences and don’t cover for them.

Offering support looks like being an understanding person with whom they feel safe talking about almost anything. It also looks like the person who takes them to the doctor for a regular check-in appointment. Or the person holding a cup of tea for them on a bad day. Remember, it is the little acts that strengthen the bond.

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6. Intervention

As you may have read at the beginning of this post, sometimes, patients are so deep in the addiction loop that no matter what you do they won’t get into rehab. In these cases, professional intervention is the only option left.

But, before making this decision, seek professional advice because intervention, despite its effectiveness, may left emotional scars on your loved one.

Also, remember that the goal of professional intervention is to open your person’s eyes and motivate them to change. To really enter into rehabilitation, the patient must assist voluntarily.

help them walk the path of healing that will change their lives forever.


A Final Word

You are not alone, nor are you the first person to ever face a situation like this. There is plenty of professional help available for both you and your loved one. Survivors and their families are also incredibly helpful, especially if you are feeling alone and misunderstood.

Good luck, and in case you haven’t heard it today, I am proud of you.


American Addiction Centers

Addiction Education Society

This content is for informational purposes only and does not substitute for formal and individualized diagnosis, prognosis, treatment, prescription, and/or dietary advice from a licensed medical professional. Do not stop or alter your current course of treatment. If pregnant or nursing, consult with a qualified provider on an individual basis. Seek immediate help if you are experiencing a medical emergency.

© 2021 Regina King


BRENDA ARLEDGE from Washington Court House on September 23, 2021:

It's hard to force addicts into getting help until they are ready.

But definitely cut them off by not giving them money.

Umesh Chandra Bhatt from Kharghar, Navi Mumbai, India on September 23, 2021:

Good points.

Umesh Chandra Bhatt from Kharghar, Navi Mumbai, India on September 23, 2021:

Good pulse.

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