Dreamworker believes that every human being deserves the right to live up to his or her full potential.
Many people find themselves overcome when life creates serious problems for them. Often this happens because they live in the moment rather than seeing life as an ever-moving river that flows by quickly and takes many problems with it as it goes.
As a result, they become stressed, depressed and sometimes physically ill. This is not only unhealthy but unnecessary because, in truth, the only constant in life is change.
Just as important is it for us to bear in mind is that life is composed of both good and bad situations, and everybody has both. However, it is the good things that see us through the tough times.
If you look back five years to some problem you had that you thought was the end of the world, you suddenly realize that it no longer or exists or has been reduced to the point that it is no longer important.
Understanding this is what will make you realize that you need to ignore the advice of others and find ways to take care of problems yourself and in your own way.
Your methods may not always produce the results you seek, but at least they will be your results and not those belonging to others!
Your Choices Are Your Life
Whether you realize it or not, you always have a choice when it comes to making decisions. The choices may not be good ones, but they are nonetheless choices.
As you make them, you grow and learn from them and thus can make better decisions. This only works, however, if you pay attention to the results of your choices.
If you don't pay attention to them, you can continue to make the wrong decisions, and this will lead to growing problems that can negatively affect your life.
Thus, it is not what happens to you but how you deal with it that makes all the difference.
You are not the only person in the world who has had some type of issue that they can use either as an excuse for giving up or as a reason for taking positive action.
You can lose a job and waste your time blaming everybody else for having done so, or you can examine your situation, find out what you did wrong, make corrections and search for another job at which you can succeed because you chose to learn what you needed to know.
If you view bad situations as learning opportunities and use them as stepping stones that will lead you to better situations, you will thrive, and you'll begin to enjoy life again.
From this example it's easy to see how your decisions can affect your life.
Each correct one you make adds to your growth and your knowledge and helps you to live a better life.
The secret is to be realistic and honest about your dilemma and use your common sense. It works every time!
Good Choices Allow Self Acceptance
After my Mastectomy it would have been easy for me to feel as though I had been "maimed" or viewed as "odd" or "crippled" by other people. Instead I felt lucky. I had been saved by a wonderful doctor who caught my Cancer quickly and performed a "clean" surgery.
At first I worried about people noticing my deformity, but I very quickly realized that people were too busy worrying about how they looked and felt or how other people viewed them.
My husband summed it all up just before I had my surgery. "Honey", he said, " You are not your breast. Losing it changes nothing about you. You are as beautiful as always, as much fun and as much a pain in the ass as you have ever been, and that's the way I love you!"
After that, I felt different about my situation and started noticing how others in my life started to treat me. There was no difference!
They accepted me, and it was then that I realized that others likely would as well if I also accepted myself.
It's been 15 years, and to tell you the truth, I rarely even think about my Mastectomy or other major issues I've had.
The decision I made to accept my circumstances, not feel sorry for myself and move on with my life has made all the difference for me.
Listen to Yourself
People are very quick to give advice. While some of it is good, much of it isn't, mainly because it belongs to others and not to you.
You know yourself better than any other person, so advice that works for someone else, may or not may not work for you. For this reason you should always be careful when being given advice.
As a friend once told me, "Never listen to marriage advice from someone who has been divorced".
If you are having problems, you don't need advice. You need to use your common sense, consider your options and think about the consequences of your actions before you act. The answer is already within you. You just have to find it!
Don't Worry About What Others Think
Most people spend far too much time worrying about what other people think. As a result, they allow themselves to be manipulated and used.
This makes them prisoners, and prisoners are never really happy.
A woman with a brain tumor recently told me that she is embarrassed about her condition and rarely tells others about it for this reason. This is sad because she is hiding a health problem that she cannot control in order to please others.
In truth, there is nothing to hide, but her perception of her situation makes her uncomfortable and unhappy and keeps her from enjoying certain parts of her life.
People with good values will befriend you because they accept and admire you. They won't imprison you, but rather will give you the freedom to be yourself without fear.
Free yourself from those who judge, and fill your life with those who accept so that you can live as you please without fear.
Find Your Happiness
If you take the time to look, you will find your own special type of happiness. Everybody has one, but you can only discover it by looking in the right places.
Not everybody can do everything, but all of us can do some things.
- We may not be able to run on a beautiful beach, but we can still drive or walk along it.
- The passion of young love may have gone as we age, but we can still take comfort from a loved one who hugs us or holds our hand.
- We can still laugh at a joke, enjoy a phone call with a distant friend or enjoy a meal with a friend.
Joy and happiness do not have to come in large amounts, just as long as we keep them coming.
Each time you bring them into your life, you'll be able to live better an enjoy your life more.
These things are the results of making good decisions and of choosing to live your life your own way.
Never let anybody take them away from you.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2019 Sondra Rochelle
Sondra Rochelle (author) from USA on February 21, 2020:
Thanks. Glad you liked it.
Sondra Rochelle (author) from USA on February 02, 2020:
Thanks. Glad you liked the article.
Centfie from Kenya on February 01, 2020:
Amazing insights in this article. Thanks for sharing your own experience of living your life your way and the crucial role of self-acceptance.