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How to Eliminate Fear From Your Life--5 Steps to Start

Joy sets goals for continuous achievement, and loves connecting with others by helping them reach their own ideals and aspirations.

Delightful Liberty

This could be you, dancing emotionally in freedom resulting from new and better choices.

This could be you, dancing emotionally in freedom resulting from new and better choices.

The Point of This Article

In this introductory article on vision boarding as a means of overcoming problems in ourselves, not just achieving lifestyle changes, we explore why the normal methods don't work for many of us, and how we can modify our approaches to ensure the results we each need. Mental health difficulties should never mean that any of us--yourself included--cannot live a full, potentially satisfying life.

Dancing in Freedom, Chains Broken

 What was originally written for you in the stars? Certainly not pain. Learn to dance your life with abandon.

What was originally written for you in the stars? Certainly not pain. Learn to dance your life with abandon.

Darkness can add dramatic flair to your beautiful display of hope.

Darkness can add dramatic flair to your beautiful display of hope.

You Will Struggle With the Needed Changes

I won't sugarcoat this: You're going to have to work to make changes and get new results in your life. Therapy may be involved. You must be (or want to be) open to learning new concepts. Old patterns must be sloughed off. You must be patient with yourself, offer yourself grace, and accept the potential for failure or experiencing setbacks. Above all, you must realize that baby steps are acceptable, and they matter tons. Progress may not be visible right away, especially to others. Your journey may be lonely and frustrating for a while. You must be your best and strongest advocate for change, or it won't come.

As we progress, we will offer tips and advice for coaxing yourself along in these changes. Nothing will happen overnight, and this is not a one-size-fits-all plan. But we are convinced it will work for many of you, if you want and need it to. Give yourself grace to find out. You are worth fighting for.

Why Vision Boarding May Not Have Worked

Fear can blind us to our own worth. Fear, we believe, is the biggest reason why any kind of vision boarding or life overhaul attempt doesn't work.

Especially if you are impaired by anxiety, are easily triggered, are either very emotional or numb, or regularly experience any other habitual dysfunction, getting the clarity needed to go forward with life changes can be almost impossible. Even thinking about going forward can be overwhelming.

This is why we have chosen to focus on using visuals to overcome fear, through a process of reconditioning and training our thoughts, bodies, and energy fields to accept choices which bring freedom.

Either we stay where we are, or we get free. There is no middle ground. And you cannot live your best life while in a prison, so choosing to get free is the first step.

Emotional Prison vs. Freedom--Which Scares You More?

Both freedom and prisons come with responsibilities and tough realities. Which you choose depends on how willing you are to manage your fears.

Both freedom and prisons come with responsibilities and tough realities. Which you choose depends on how willing you are to manage your fears.

Roles Fear May Play in Your Life

Fear keeps us in prison. Fear locks us into patterns of immobility or limitations in our bodies, minds, and hearts. Fear is a monster which works day and night to keep us in servitude. It devours our energy and makes it almost impossible to accomplish our plans and best intentions. Instead, we are left with the scraps, which may be feelings of:

  • Inadequacy
  • Self-loathing
  • Shame
  • Dirtiness
  • Exhaustion
  • Heaviness
  • Pain
  • Anxiety
  • Horror

Fear and related emotions may manifest in our bodies as:

  • Nausea
  • Headaches
  • Joint pain
  • Exhaustion
  • Autoimmune disorders
  • Cancer
  • Any other disease state or lack of wellbeing

Fear is Simply Energy

Fear is also a liar. Did you know that fear is simply an energy frequency which interacts with our own body's energy, and those of our thoughts and emotions?

A healthy person generally doesn't easily enter into a state of fear, because her own, happier energies vibrate at higher frequencies, literally repelling fears and causing negative emotions to bounce off them.

This means that learning ways to raise your vibrations will help eradicate fear from your life and body. We will explore a few of these methods in later articles.

What You Can Do Right Now to Begin Getting Free

If you have never made the decision not to live in fear, that is something you can do right now.

In order to begin, get in a comfortable, quiet spot where you can feel your own mind and responses. Settle in. Try to allow yourself to feel emotions. Give yourself time to let it happen, to realize your feelings.

If you feel nothing, that is okay.

If you feel too much, that is okay.

You need to start wherever you are.

1. Feel Your Feelings

You need to allow yourself to realize whatever subject your thought loop focuses on in this moment. Is it about a relationship? A place? An event? Food? Ugly words or self-talk? A nightmare?

Spend a moment feeling it. Realize it is only yourself expressing the desire to make changes. No matter how negative the subject may be, it shows you where you need to start.

2. Express Your Thoughts

Write down what you are thinking and feeling. Notice which words, phrases, desires, and concepts pop up. This is not a time to control the outcome. Just flow with the words. If you feel you can't write, then sketch, scribble, or sing the results. Perhaps model the scene in sensory dough. But do something to get it outside yourself, and let it be real.

This stage of accepting and realizing your desires may take more than one attempt. That's okay. Let it be what it is, even if you don't believe what you are seeing, or can't make sense of what is in your head.

It is likely that you will feel substantial anger, aggression, anxiety, or despair as you allow yourself to work through your thought loop. These emotions are okay to feel. They are only emotions. They are not evil in themselves, and they don't make you a bad person. They only reaffirm that you are human and have a pulse, with a heart and soul worthy of change.

3. Distill Your Thought Loop Into a Single Concept

Once you have established the theme or themes of your thought loop, try to distill the concept into a word, phrase, or single picture.

For me, the phrase was "Lack of Beauty". This was the lack I most felt in my life, which I knew was shredding my soul and destroying my will to live. I felt that my family usually did their best to annihilate anything tasteful, lovely, hopeful, graceful, clean, or beautiful. I felt that relationship tensions, literal dirt and manure, poverty, and mindless selfishness was a poison spiking my existence. I felt that no matter how hard I tried, I could not change this emotional wasteland into an Eden, nor change my surroundings.

4. Recognize Distortions From Fear

But I was wrong. This was fear talking. I felt this state of mind was true because of despair and exhaustion from trying so hard to force change in myself and others. This meant I was incapable of seeing the bigger picture, or of feeling beauty in my own soul.

I assure you, your thought loop also contains lies which you can learn to weed out of your heart. You can exchange beauty for ugliness in whatever form.

(#5 is below!)

Allow a Lovely Heart to Blossom

Perhaps your heart has been trying to grow in sterile ground. Amend the soil by acknowledging and feeding your dreams.

Perhaps your heart has been trying to grow in sterile ground. Amend the soil by acknowledging and feeding your dreams.

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5. Let Your Thought Loop Gel

Once you have your thought loop theme, let it gel. Think about what it means, but don't be rough with it. Simply let it breathe and show itself. If another thought loop develops, repeat the above procedure for it.

All you are trying to do at this point is own your thoughts.

Are they ugly? Do you want to hurt or kill someone? Do you hate yourself? Do you hate others? Does the endless onslaught of words and darkness overwhelm you? Take heart. This is not the end. This is the beginning.

In order to change a pattern, you must recognize it.

So recognize your thoughts and wants, and let them gel. You're going to use them as a platform to reach a better life. Good things will come of your efforts.

Next we'll talk about learning to set intentions, in spite of the fears.

Personal Health Conditions

My lovely readers, it was gratifying to spend time with you. I have undiagnosed Dissociative Identity Disorder, paired with depression and high levels of anxiety. We were born with both DID and autism (which is also currently undiagnosed). Some of us also show a high number of traits belonging to Borderline Personality Disorder.

Just so we're clear, DID is basically Complex PTSD with extensive dissociation and amnesia. It used to be called Multiple Personality Disorder and, unlike the movies, is usually not dangerous. Autism refers to the fact that my brain is wired in an unusual way, meaning I tend to be weird, and have trouble understanding social cues and norms.

In spite of these conditions, I have managed responsibilities, worked in several fields, been married for 19+ years, and have reared and homeschooled two children. My family lives on a homestead on the Colorado Plains.

Qualifications

We (my alters and I) have developed this series for you after trying for years to make the usual vision boarding or dream booking methods work for us. They didn't. So we developed our own methods that we hope will help you, as well.

We have no fancy plaque with strings of letters on it hanging on the wall. We are not licensed to answer questions, advise as to medications, offer therapy to anyone, or in any way diagnose or treat your own disorders. We are merely sharing self-improvement concepts that are working for us. We are inviting you to come along with us on our journey as we overcome our fears and embrace our best life.

This content is for informational purposes only and does not substitute for formal and individualized diagnosis, prognosis, treatment, prescription, and/or dietary advice from a licensed medical professional. Do not stop or alter your current course of treatment. If pregnant or nursing, consult with a qualified provider on an individual basis. Seek immediate help if you are experiencing a medical emergency.

© 2020 Joilene Rasmussen

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