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How to Cope With Life Changes

Devika enjoys sharing her work with a friendly community. Writing opens the mind. I live in a foreign country learned a foreign language .

Lifestyle changes

Everything disappeared in her life from the age of 32, and she had no idea what the next step will be in a new country. Life is never what you plan when changes pop up and everything you had and had known disappears.

The saddest is when you hardly know how to cope with those changes affecting your normal day-to- day activities. Whether, you move to a new place, or lose yourself in a disaster.

There is something about your life that makes you see things from a whole new side. What you took for granted is often lost and never found until a new life comes along.

Firstly, understand the meaning of change before grumbling about the changes in life. Individuals experience changes most of the time in many cases, changes occur at regular periods. Most people react differently to changes. People dwell and look back on what they left behind.

What they should be doing is focusing on what makes them happy. Most people do not even notice changes like a new building coming up, and of the old open store which closed.

The little things in your environment go unnoticed.

What was, will never be!

What happens when your life changes?

Understand that changes will always happen. Changes occur in our lives at regular intervals.

What changes affect you the most in reality?

Is it the change in your lifestyle?

  • Friendships
  • Communications skills
  • People
  • Culture
  • Language

Socially, my life was bleak not being able to communicate in a foreign language had made my situation very difficult. Society overall can change you tremendously.

If you pay attention to the rest of the community, your interests will improve with new changes. It does not mean everyone can cope with the necessary changes, because not everyone is affected by the change.

Who is affected by the change, and wasn't ready for the changes in their lives?

Modern technology shows changes, but such changes are easily coped with within society.

Ever thought of the unexpected changes and what these changes can do to one?

Life changes can be challenging, and very painful if it affects your family and lifestyle. Being positive during a change can make you a great person from the inside and outside. One is willing to learn and forgive to move on to a better life. Everything you own and have is temporary.

Enjoy life!

  • Opening a new chapter in your life is a great chance to pick up the pieces.
  • Put the pieces together to find your new self.
  • Meet new people learn from them and yourself on how to achieve new skills.
  • You will not learn anything if you do not enjoy every bit of what you take part in daily.
  • Look at life with love and experiences, in a happy way and have an open mind when change shows itself.
  • The big part of change is to accept change rather than overlook change.
  • If you do not accept change life can be miserable and unhappy.
  • Acceptance is more important than you will see delightful things happening for you and your partner.
  • If you cannot learn about it then you will not like anything you see.
  • Change for me is unexpected and can ruin a huge part of any individual who fails to understand the reasons for change.
  • Changes can be losing a loved one, or something that you somehow failed to see or protect from going wrong.
  • The reality is to face up to your challenges and move on with your life.
  • You are never prepared for change.
  • A change occurs out of the blue and one must cope with their differences alone or with loved ones, the choice is yours.
  • A change can be from many events from a breakup with your boyfriend, or to relocating from your place to a strange place you did not know anything about.
  • Acceptance is important, but sometimes I am unable to accept others, or their lifestyles life can be more ruthless.

Have you experienced many changes in the last year?

You can choose a certain way to react to change. Individuals coping with change should avoid negative issues this makes them fail in their new lives.

The way one thinks has lots to do with coping with a changed life. Dealing with new experiences can affect many individuals differently. It is part of you, something you cannot ignore.

You must put up with it in your way, the one that makes you feel most comfortable. If people do not want to change or do not want to know about changes they could have fewer opportunities in the workplace and in other parts of their lives.

A change can make you, or break you! One is affected, emotionally, psychologically, mentally, and physically. What you experience from changes makes you who you gradually can become and, in many cases, stronger and most thoughtful of others. The changes make you feel good about yourself and proud of your achievements.

Look at the change as in the following stages:

Firstly, the Primary Appraisal is about you seeing what caused you the change. Assess the reasons for change, and how is the change going to affect you in a positive and a negative way.

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Will the change affect you in a threatening way?

  • Be in control of your emotions.
  • Most of the time change is good.
  • Look forward to a new life and a new challenge.
  • The other is Secondary Appraisal, now figure out how you are going to control the change.
  • Think about how you are going to approach the situation.
  • Jot down what is important to you and the situation.
  • Think about what you are good at in the new place, like job opportunities.
  • Find out about the news and events to keep you up to date with your new life and the new place.
  • The effort you put in tells you how well the situation is handled.
  • Do not reach out for the bottle every time you think of home.
  • Avoid excessive drinking of alcohol.
  • Be with positive people to make you feel good.
  • Avoid negativism.
  • Do not fall into the deep end look for the positive side of life.
  • Make time for a social life, it is of great importance never let that pass you by and stay home alone all day.
  • A positive outlook on life takes you a long way.
  • A small change or a big change is noticed, and it does not mean you must ignore the meaning of living your life as normal.
  • You must know how to cope with a new life, a new job or project, going to a new school, and when meeting up with new people.
  • Relocating can be most challenging.
  • All of which can make you confused, but it should not make you feel dazed.
  • Generally taking risks, making changes with supportive people, and taking charge of change are crucial to any individual.
  • When you plan to make that change it is easier to cope with the daily challenges.
  • Speaking a new language is another opportunity for improving communication with foreign people.
  • That depends on your place of relocation.
  • Own experiences are tough, and it can be harder for individuals to be in control of their changes.

How do you cope with a change?

Life's Changes

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Woman washing in Vietnam and living a simple lifestyle.

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This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2013 Devika Primić


Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on December 19, 2014:

Hi rajan thank you for stopping by I appreciate it.

Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on December 19, 2014:

Devika, I have always believed change is life, stagnancy is death. A positive attitude will make it much easier to accept it most times even turn it to one's advantage.

Great thoughts. Good to see you have met changes in your life head on and succeeded.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on December 16, 2014:

Hi word55 thank you

Al Wordlaw from Chicago on December 15, 2014:

Hi Devika, I liked reading this. Change is good for you. You're a real warrior.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on December 12, 2014:

Payal Interesting comment. Thank you or pointing out these issues I appreciate you stopping by

Payal on December 12, 2014:

Ha. I was a tourist too! But there were just too many of us. So many, in fact, that it was hard to walk or move. I didn't like that. Kotor, Montenegro in my oiipnon was so much better, simply because the height of city fortress in Kotor kept most people out. This was great because the few people that dared to climb to the top actually got to enjoy it in relative solitude. In Dubrovnik, however, they just pull in with their cruise ships and flood the city with hundreds and hundreds of tourists. And the lack of bike parking made it even worse. But yes, I was a tourist as well.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on December 09, 2014:

snerfu thank you for stopping by I appreciate the vote up, and tweet. It was always interesting to me to know the opinions of my valuable readers.

Vivian Sudhir from Madurai, India on December 09, 2014:

A very well written article that brings out in detail the way a person needs lots of restraint and plenty of organized effort to keep one's time useful. I cannot think of a better way to put it. Great article tweeted and voted up!

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 08, 2013:

Happyboomernurse thanks for all votes up, interesting and useful, I appreciate you taking the time and commenting on my hub, How to Cope with Life Changes risk are indeed the best way to face up to a challenging life.

Gail Sobotkin from South Carolina on October 07, 2013:

Change is something we all face and must learn how to deal with. You have raised many important points in this article, but I the one that I find most useful in my own life is: "Generally taking risks, making changes with supportive people, and taking charge of change is crucial to any individual."

Enjoyed this hub. Voted up, useful and interesting.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on August 18, 2013:

Au fait Thanks for being one of my good supporters, and for the votes up, interesting and useful.

C E Clark from North Texas on August 18, 2013:

Good advice. I especially like the Serenity prayer. Voted up, interesting, and useful!

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on August 04, 2013:

Great thanks for commenting sounds an adventure

Madeleine Salin from Finland on August 03, 2013:

I'll go to bed soon and hopefully I'll dream of more changes in life. Goodnight from Finland! :)

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on August 03, 2013:

Made you got me thinking even more about my changes over the nearly eleven years and I see myself as special for those great experiences an interesting though from you thanks for commenting and have good night

Madeleine Salin from Finland on August 03, 2013:

This hub is so interesting! There have been many changes in my life the past 15 years. Most of the changes have been good and they have given me life experience.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on August 03, 2013:

Thanks for the vote up and sharing changes are great if you are looking at things the positive way so glad you commented Thelma Alberts

Thelma Alberts from Germany on August 03, 2013:

Life means change. It would be a boring life if there´s no change at all. It depends on every individuals how they react to change. There´s always a surprise in being alive. Changes is a part of living. We only hope it´s a positive change. Thanks for sharing. Voted up and shared!

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on August 02, 2013:


Vinaya Ghimire from Nepal on August 01, 2013:

Life is full of surprises and does not run as planned. Your views on coping with life changes are useful.

Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on August 01, 2013:

Wonderful perspective on changes in life. Life is a constant change, each day, each moment. If we enjoy it we will come to terms with it easily.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on July 30, 2013:

Great comment from you MsDora thanks for stopping by have good day.

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on July 30, 2013:

The serenity change is a good principle to follow, even though I've seen people threatening not to accept that there are some things we cannot change. Like you suggested, control is important: control of ourselves in changeable and non-changeable situation. We can change ourselves.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on July 30, 2013:

Mhatter99 change is good but may not be the same for everyone thanks

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on July 30, 2013:

rose-the planner thanks for the vote up and so glad you commented

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on July 30, 2013:

Enjoy the present moment thanks for commenting on my hubs have a lovely day

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on July 30, 2013:

kidscrafts thanks very much for commenting so glad you did have good week and enjoy the good weather

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on July 30, 2013:

Thanks billybuc for stopping by and sharing your interesting view on coping with changes, have a lovely week.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on July 30, 2013:

billybuc so glad you stopped by and shared your interesting views on coping with changes have a great week

Martin Kloess from San Francisco on July 30, 2013:

For some reason change is no problem with me.

rose-the planner from Toronto, Ontario-Canada on July 29, 2013:

I have often embraced change and I also think it can be quite healthy. I liked when you wrote, "A positive outlook on life takes you a long way", it is so true! Thank you for sharing. (Voted Up) -Rose

Patricia Scott from North Central Florida on July 29, 2013:

You are so right...everything is temporary and we should live every day to the fullest!!!! How enlarged our lives are when we do that. Things happened in my life and the lives of family members that caused us to do so and it has been life changing. thank you for sharing this...Angels are on the way ps shared

kidscrafts from Ottawa, Canada on July 29, 2013:

Changes can indeed be difficult but it's also a time to grow and learn. Change can be a good and positive thing!

Have a great day, DDE!

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on July 29, 2013:

I'm one of the rare few who enjoys changes in life....I love the adventure and the challenge and the mystery....I love change. :) always been that way and I don't know why. :)

Wishing you a wonderful day my friend.

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