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How to Get Rid of Emotional Baggage Effectively

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We all travel through life carrying the baggage of all our failures; the question is how much emotional baggage people carry around. Some might take many suitcases, another may bring two, while another may carry only one tiny bag.

Regardless if it’s many bags or just one small bag, most of us are carrying a lifetime’s heaviness of grief, pain, and bitterness. These items of baggage resulting from negative experiences from our past we have failed to manage, and it’s our responsibility to figure out how to reduce the pressures of the heavy load that are tearing us down.

We are responsible for every area of our life, especially the feeling that we carry with us daily. There’s a saying by Dalai Lama that says, “Don’t let the behavior of others destroy your peace.” It’s hard for a person with emotional baggage to understand this proverb. They can’t comprehend because of the continuing presence of the baggage play in their lives.

We will have to rid our life of bags to accept “unacceptable” behavior, which is what the saying is speaking of, we are the artist of our life, and we should spend every day learning to take responsibility for our behavior and not let nothing interfere with that.

Never give another the power to affect your emotional reaction. Let’s define emotional baggage. What is emotional baggage? It is painful memories, mistrust and hurt carried around by a person from their past — react to challenging situations like dealing with the parent was not there for you or letting go of an ex that hurt you to your heart.

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Everybody has emotional baggage at some point or times in their lives, and the past inner baggage can flow out to be outer baggage in the present. Although some may have more than another, the bags of depression that most of us might have are the fear that holds us down and can indicate a deeper problem.

Some stuff merely’s got to go. If it isn’t serving any purpose only impossible discrepancies that are huge, weigh, and are holding you down. It’s time to look through, sort out, and get rid of the old rubbish.

Emotional baggage can cloud your judgment as they are very unreliable and are based on complete irrationality. They will leave you trapped in the past by the unhappy rest of your own bad choices.

Make you do unreliable things — like thinking you are not too drunk to drive home or trying to hold on to an unhealthy relationship because you are afraid you cannot do well.

Sometimes bad decisions are made because we are a person who makes them regularly, and the brain does not forget the bad choices you have made in the past.

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Emotional baggage is stimulated by negative feelings that leave you thinking — “My life is not fair,” “Why are things like this always happening to me,” “It is not my fault,” and “How did I end up like this?”

These underlying feelings are direct emotional reactions that can lead to a desire to act out. Whether you realize it, you have the power to overcome these negative baggage.

The answer lies in knowing where it stems from and the desire to manage painful emotions by committing to behaving differently.

For a moment, let’s look at the negative feeling that we feared, the one that follows us, and leads to the reaction of emotional baggage.

• You expect and look for the worst: when you focus mainly on the adverse outcomes and cannot give attention to the possibility of a positive result, it leaves us open for emotional baggage.

• You act on instinct: When you cannot stop and think but act quickly, without considering the consequences of your actions. You will expend to push some emotional rock up, which will lead to an emotional outburst.

• You allow yourself to cling to fear: that is not good because fear is one of the three most influential emotional drivers.

• We play the victim: If we want the power to get past the past emotional baggage, we must get rid of false pride because it comes between higher thought and an empowering choice.

• You disregard good advice: You must take a hard look at your habits of thinking and decision you are making because a false sense of worth limits us from receiving help from encouraging input.

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As you travel through life, you will gather emotional baggage, but until you figure out how to leave them behind and identify the cause, you will be stuck at a standstill. These negative feelings will continue to outline who you are, the way you think, the choices you make, and the actions you take in life.

There are two main types of emotional baggage in a person’s life, which includes what he or she is aware of (excess), and what he or she is not aware of (hidden).

The first baggage comes with what a person’s eye sees, but he or she chooses not to acknowledge the problem at hand. The other luggage is the individual who ignored what the eyes reveal he or she is allowing it to interfere with his or her life, relationships, and future.

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Hidden baggage

Hidden baggage, sometimes, it is easy to get a false sense of security about something you may not be aware of, or if you are aware, it's easy to think you will not be exposed and is equally dangerous because it can sneak up on you and ambush you out of nowhere.

Hidden baggage is full of tricks and can trap you into things that trigger emotional baggage like putting up with a job that works you countless hours for low wages and no appreciation. It will allow you to think a selfish person is your best friend who thinks only of him or herself.

Take a reality check.

The best thing for all of us to do a good start toward addressing our baggage is to carry a lighter load, which begins with tackling your bags with a present-day reality check. When you allow your emotional baggage to lead your life, and they are through immediate reaction to an experience that draws anger, fear, or sadness, you need to stop, think, and analyze all your emotional feeling.

Why did you react, what made you upset? Was it a fearful, humiliated, or shocking event that took you by surprise? Did you overreact to what someone said or because the situation might come into effect in your life now?

Alternatively, maybe what they spoke triggered something from your past? Could it be that they are painful to experience from the past that will cause you to feel or react out of proportion in fear it will affect you today?

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Three Steps Process to Get Rid of Emotional Baggage & Face Your Fears Daily

  1. Write an extensive list of the thoughts and behaviors that will build better habits and not weigh you down.
  2. Put forth an effort to find at least one positive experience in each hurtful experience in your life
  3. Focus on creating affirmations to encourage a must needed change and counteract all negative thoughts. Time to Let It Go!

Getting past old injustices and hurts isn’t easy, and it has a way of creeping back in your lifetime and time again. It is heart-tappingly easy to get trapped in the darkness of evil recalls, as it can take a radical change to get past yesterday’s emotional baggage. Here’s how.

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First, inspect your life. The past has a way of trapping us through painful unexamined, past hurts that clutter our mind and spillover on every corner and tabletop.

The past can also enslave to something to lose you in thought, obsessive to the brain to replay old losses, past injustices, nagging guilts, and elbowing out the new and all the possibilities.

My advice and a powerful urge to whoever is reading this article, take the time to write all wrongs that can never be erased. Then revisit any hurt from which visit you from time to time, let go of any cling to lost love, or any pain from someone else’s lies — they are emotional quicksand that will exert a strong downward pull on the soul.

Letting go means knowing you permit the negative thoughts in your head and your heart. By becoming conscious of this, you were getting past yesterday and suddenly be connected to something that will demand both thinkings and doing.

In fact, this means you are letting go of things you once keep holding on to; it will no longer be in your head… you will live life from your heart. Although emotional baggage can quickly return, a significant amount of that defiance comes from nothing more than the human reluctance to change.

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After many years of accurately carrying baggage around in my life, I realize it is time to let it all go. Much hurt, disappointment, and fear made me take the time out to tell myself, “I am letting this emotional baggage go.”

First, I had to let go of the thought pattern because each thinking arrangement is a cunning argument against allowing myself to let go. From my many years of carrying around emotional baggage, I learned that when a person lets go of old baggage, the body will take an overloaded of luggage and are unwilling to let go. That is why some people give up hope and hold on to old baggage.

There are several steps a person must overcome to let go of all baggage honestly. One thing they must learn to do is discard when they are suffering and holding onto baggage.

However, the first step is to find someone who will help unpack bags and focus on all the critical ways baggage has impact lives. Then merely see what needs to be changed with clear eyesight.

Those eyes will help you understand how the baggage you have been carrying around been holding you back from capitalizing on your potential.

Next step, begin small—organize your life to remove clutter, the more baggage you eliminate will up your spirit, the “keep” pile will shrink. Sort of smart: toss, or put in “keep” pile.

Prepare yourself to feel sad, anxious, energized, overwhelmed, regretful, and emotional. Then you can walk away from toxic friends or negative relationships and — make things right where you can release all the bad stuff before it gets to be too much. So, you can move forward, less weighted down by the past.

“How to Get Rid of Emotional Baggage & Face Your Fears Daily....”?

How Much Emotional Baggage Do You Carry?

For each question, choose the best answer for you.

  1. When it comes to situations that remind me of negative experiences…
    • I avoid or shy away from these situations.
    • I am not very aware when these situations happen, or I brush them under the rug.
    • I try my best to face them head-on whenever possible.
  2. When I see something uncomfortable that I'm worried will affect me emotionally…
    • I immediately (consciously or unconsciously) put up an emotional wall so I will not feel the full impact.
    • I don’t notice when these are about to happen.
    • I do what I can to prepare, then I deal with the impact by taking care of my feelings or the situation.
  3. When it comes to trusting people…
    • My philosophy is that people aren’t trustworthy unless they have truly proven to be so.
    • When it comes to trust, I don’t pay much attention.
    • I do my best to be open, but will put my guard up as needed if someone appears to be untrustworthy.
  4. If I am dealing with other people and they push my buttons or stir up old emotions…
    • I run away or distance myself completely.
    • I ignore it or distract myself.
    • I do my best to educate myself and the other person (if possible) so that we can both be conscious and cautious about i
  5. When thinking about myself and emotional health…
    • Resentful, angry and/or emotional toward them.
    • I don’t even want to think about that.
    • No matter what I am feeling, I do my best to understand it and heal so I can move forward in a healthier way.

Scoring

Use the scoring guide below to add up your total points based on your answers.

  1. When it comes to situations that remind me of negative experiences…
    • I avoid or shy away from these situations.: +0 points
    • I am not very aware when these situations happen, or I brush them under the rug.: +0 points
    • I try my best to face them head-on whenever possible.: +0 points
  2. When I see something uncomfortable that I'm worried will affect me emotionally…
    • I immediately (consciously or unconsciously) put up an emotional wall so I will not feel the full impact.: +0 points
    • I don’t notice when these are about to happen.: +0 points
    • I do what I can to prepare, then I deal with the impact by taking care of my feelings or the situation.: +0 points
  3. When it comes to trusting people…
    • My philosophy is that people aren’t trustworthy unless they have truly proven to be so.: +0 points
    • When it comes to trust, I don’t pay much attention.: +0 points
    • I do my best to be open, but will put my guard up as needed if someone appears to be untrustworthy.: +0 points
  4. If I am dealing with other people and they push my buttons or stir up old emotions…
    • I run away or distance myself completely.: +0 points
    • I ignore it or distract myself.: +0 points
    • I do my best to educate myself and the other person (if possible) so that we can both be conscious and cautious about i: +0 points
  5. When thinking about myself and emotional health…
    • Resentful, angry and/or emotional toward them.: +0 points
    • I don’t even want to think about that.: +0 points
    • No matter what I am feeling, I do my best to understand it and heal so I can move forward in a healthier way.: +0 points

Interpreting Your Score

A score of 0 means: ?

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Get Rid Of Emotional Baggage

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2017 Pam Morris

Comments

Pam Morris (author) from Atlanta Georgia on June 01, 2017:

Thank you so much, Ms. Dora, for your compliment, it is so appreciated. I look forward to hearing more from you, and you are so welcome for thanking me for my article.

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on June 01, 2017:

Real helpful suggestions on dealing with emotional baggage and your photos carry some very weighty messages. Thank you.

Pam Morris (author) from Atlanta Georgia on June 01, 2017:

Thank you, Tomi, I appreciate your comment and support.

Tomi Smith on June 01, 2017:

Another well written article!