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How to Appreciate Your Special Talents

Deonne Anderson is a retired Child and Family Therapist, Free Lance Writer, and Motivational Speaker who lives in Florence, SC.

Artistry As A Talent

Are you an artist?

Are you an artist?

Talent is God's Gift To You

Be grateful for your gift and share it with the world.

Be grateful for your gift and share it with the world.

We All Have Gifts And Talents

Before we can appreciate our talents, we must first identify and know what they are. When I worked with children and adolescents, I often asked them as a part of our self esteem building exercises, to talk about or list those things that they did extraordinarily well, or their talents. Many of the children expressed that they did not have any talents....that they were unable to do anything well.

Often times, these children were regurgitating what they had been told by their parents or care takers, their teachers, and their peers. A talent is defined as "a natural endowment." We all are born with talents. We all have something that we do extraordinarily well.

Our talents are gifts from God....what we do with and how we use these God given gifts is how we glorify God and how we gift back to him.

If you are like the children I worked with and believe that you do not have a talent, following are some steps you can take to find your talent. I like to use the words "finding your genius" as genius is synonymous with talent. Genius seems to me to be the highest level of talent.

Recognizing that you have within you the potential to be an Einstein, a Leonardo Da Vinci, a Prince, Thomas Edison, a Michael Jordan, an Oprah Winfrey, a Stephen King, a Michael Phelps, a J.K. Rowling, a Danielle Steele, et al, is empowering, motivating, and self-esteem building.

Oprah Winfrey developed an exercise that can be done with a friend to assist you in discovering your talent.

How often have you gotten a compliment on your creativity or your patience or your resilience, only to wave it off, assuming that these strengths must come easily to everyone? In my 30 years as a lifestyle/career coach and author, the mistake I see people make time and again is failing to recognize their talents. An honest inventory may be difficult -- even impossible -- for you to do yourself. So sit with a friend and try this exercise. It's a new twist on something I call the Self-Correcting Life Scenario, and it's one of my favorites. Oprah Winfrey

1. Ask your friend to name three of your strengths.

2. Tell your friend your top passion. Then have your friend tell an imaginary story of your life, based on this passion and your strengths. For instance, "You're organized, creative, and friendly, and your passion is baking. So, you run a bakery where customers can buy cupcakes with little icing portraits of themselves."

3. Take a minute to imagine this fantasy as your real life. Tell your friend what appeals to you ("Making cupcakes with artistic frosting would be awesome!") and what makes you cringe ("I'd never start my own business -- the thought of bookkeeping gives me hives").

4. Now your friend revises the story based on your feedback. ("Okay, you organize monthly bake sales at the local Boys & Girls Club. Kids buy the cupcakes and paint their own portraits.")

5. Keep going back and forth until the story feels right. This may take three or 13 rounds -- there's no need to rush. Your friend will likely suggest unexpected scenarios. Don't let knee-jerk objections ("That would cost too much!" "When would I have time?") shape your feedback. This is about crafting a scenario tailored to your strengths.


6. Stop when the story feels completely satisfying. You've just shaped your passion into a goal and defined what you do and don't want from your calling.

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This is a great exercise to use for yourself, a friend, or with your child. If you are a Counselor or if you work with kids in any capacity, this is a revealing and fun exercise for them. It enables them to share their life stories and thereby discover the answer to questions they might have about their interests, aptitudes, areas of training or college curriculum, and career paths.

  • Set up opportunities for meeting with professionals in your areas of interests or talents. This way you will gather first hand information as to what you can expect and what you will need to learn. You may find that you will need to change or adjust your aspirations.

As a young and recent college graduate, I knew that my calling was to work with and help others. I applied and interviewed to work with the American Red Cross. In viewing films on some of the things I might be faced with, I made the decision to teach school instead. You see I was told that there was a possibility that I would be assigned to help flood victims. In one of the films I watched, a worker was holding up a huge snake.( I later learned that when it floods in certain areas, snakes are usually around.) As one with snake phobia, I started screaming and ran from the room. I am not able to look at a picture of a snake or one on TV or in a movie.

Another example of having to adjust or make a change concerns my younger brother who always wanted to be a surgeon. He joined the Air Force after high school planning to go to college and Medical School on the GI Bill. After losing his arm in Vietnam, he pursued college and graduate degrees in Biology and Chemistry. His injury caused him to go into cancer research where he was very happy.

How To Find Your Genius or Talent

  • Take an inventory of those things you love to do. Remember the things you did as a child that made you laugh, the games you played. Perhaps you liked to play "Pretend" or "Doctor," "Airplane Pilot,""Race Car Driver"? What was it that you could do for hours on end and never got tired or lost interest in?

  • Take an inventory of those things that you are passionate about. Is there a cause you are championing? Are there individuals you'd like to help or advocate for? What is it that you are willing to fight die for? What are those things that really turn you on and give you that warm and fuzzy feeling? What is it that makes you feel empowered and competent?

  • Take an inventory of what you want to achieve? What is it that you want to do most in your lifetime? What will it take for you to consider yourself a success ....and for you to be happy?

  • Take an inventory of those things that you have fun doing. Often times the secret to your talent lies in those things that you consider as play or hobbies. Yet, it is possible that these things can lead to more, maybe even a vocation


  • Solicit the help of a professional in finding your talents. Various Personality tests and inventories can offer some insights into the way that you think and feel and what you might be good at doing.

  • Take an inventory of those things that you've done that others have complimented you on. These things will give you a place to start in discovering what others think you're good at or excel in.

  • Once you discover your talents, practice as often as you can so that you can get better. Seek the help of a teacher or mentor if necessary.

by Emptily Whole

God made us all unique,
Born in a world of talents,
Giving us one each,
Helping us all to balance.

But sometimes these are used wrong,
Sometimes we forget to thank God,
When in his arms we should belong,
Singing and chanting "I love you God."

So let those who haven't found theirs yet,
Tackle their way through life,
Give them the joy of knowing they can't regret,
In using for wrong and right.

Even when we're feeling low,
Or think there's no way out,
We think we have no way to go,
Not knowing what you're about.

Finally we pull through,
Because you're our only hope,
we know it's you we'll never lose,
You give us the strength to cope.

So as you made us all unique,
Giving us different talents,
Help us to find one each,
So we can truly balance!

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How To Appreciate Your Talent

Now that you have identified your talent, just how do you go about appreciating it? The first step to take is:

  • The practice of GRATITUDE. Thank the Universe for your talent. The more you give out vibrations of deep, sincere and emotionally filled gratitude in the universe, the more the universe will give back to you things to be grateful for. See this for more on the value of gratitude.
  • Don't be selfish. Share your gifts with the world. Doing so will help make this world a better place.
  • Value and treasure your talent. Every gift is precious and God given. All talents are equally valuable. Your gift or talent may not be music, dance, art, or creative writing. Your talent may be to make the lives of the sick and disabled more comfortable and happy by serving as a Certified Nursing Assistant or Orderly. Your talent may be caring for young children in a home or daycare setting. Perhaps you are an extraordinarily superb auto mechanic or cook. All of these are honorable and God given talents that provide value to others.
  • Be happy and content with what God has given you and celebrate your uniqueness. Expressing your gratitude and being in a state of continuous joy and thankfulness will cause your light to shine and bring joy to the world.
  • Appreciating your talents helps you to feel more self confident and sure of yourself. You begin to see yourself as one of great value and purpose. You know that you are following your heart and doing what you are supposed to be doing...that you are following your life 's mission.

Following are some quotes on talent that I found to be motivational and inspiring that I'd like to share with you.

According to this law [the law of Dharma], you have a unique talent and a unique way of expressing it. There is something that you can do better than anyone else in the whole world--and for every unique talent and unique expression of that talent, there are also unique needs. When these needs are matched with the creative expression of your talent, that is the spark that creates affluence. Expressing your talents to fulfill needs creates unlimited wealth and abundance. Deepak Chopra

Our talents are the gift that God gives to us... What we make of our talents is our gift back to God. Leo Buscaglia

We are told that talent creates its own opportunities. But it sometimes seems that intense desire creates not only its own opportunities but its own talents. Eric Hoffer

Sometimes we fight who we are, struggling against ourselves and our natures. But we must learn to accept who we are and appreciate who we become. We must love ourselves for what and who we are, and believe in our talents.
Harley King

Artistic talent is a gift from God and whoever discovers it in himself has a certain obligation: to know that he cannot waste this talent, but must develop it.”
John Paul II

Now that you are reminded that it is your obligation to discover your talent, to develop and nurture it, and to share it with the world; expressing gratitude and appreciation for that talent will serve as your gift back to the Universe and bring more goodness and joy into your life and into the lives of those you touch. The highest form of appreciation you can give for your talent is to use it and share it with the world.

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thomson on October 15, 2015:

every ône in this world has own talents so let develop it (i like your topic)

Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on August 15, 2013:

Nice to know we are all endowed with talent, the only need being to find it. Useful and informative hub.

Voted up and interesting.

epigramman on July 27, 2013:

Well my delightful Deonne you certainly write with a labor of love and your enthusiasm shows on such a world class scale . You are an awesome journalist and your provocative hubs offer much in the way of inspiration and enlightenment. This one in particular is a keeper for me and will be promptly bookmarked and also posted on FB for all to see and read - sending to you our warm wishes and good energy from Colin and his cats at lake erie time canada 3:15pm

Paradise7 from Upstate New York on June 12, 2013:

Excellent! I do believe that everyone has something to offer society as a whole. Most often, the mistake people make is in not persisting long enough with the things they love to do; we settle for making a living too soon...we get discouraged when we find there are always others who can do whatever it is we love to do better than we can.

Jo_Goldsmith11 on June 12, 2013:

What an interesting, beautiful and useful topic to write about!

One can see clearly your creative talent or "genius" as you call it come through in this hub. :-) You are so correct in we need to spend more time encouraging our children to find their talents early on, and the words we use to express to them, needs to be positive as early on as possible! Thank you for sharing this. I was in my late 30's before I realised my talent or creative genius was in writing. Sometimes it takes awhile to go beyond what we hear, and accept the things we feel and know are real to us as individuals. :-) Blessings & Shalom

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Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on June 12, 2013:

Wow! Special talents are often not see right away but once noticed never waste it.

maggs224 from Sunny Spain on June 08, 2013:

I really liked this Hub, as a youngster you sound very much like I was, I loved helping people and if I had what you needed I would gladly give it to you, even if it meant I went without.

Unfortunately because of the damage done to me very early in life, I was damaged, I had no self esteem, and this made me a needy individual. So looking back on those times I am not sure how much of what gave me satisfaction back then was born out of my talent or my need to be liked.

However, an encounter with God in my early thirties turn everything around. I had been a person who found it very difficult to love and to be loved. My neediness and lack of self esteem meant that as much as I wanted to I really didn't know how.

When God stepped in that day and touched my life by giving me a revelation of how much He loved me, that revelation instantly changed everything.

I had a God given talent, without trying I found that I could give love and receive love easily. I became a lover, since that day, I have not found one person that I have actually personally come into contact with that I cannot love and feel empathy for.

Sure, I can still see the unpleasant things that people do and say, but somehow I find it easy to separate the who from the do, and I also see the loneliness and brokenness in people. I can still remember the un-loveliness and brokenness of my own life back that day when I had my encounter with God.

The grace and love that I received that day and the gratitude I felt still powers my life. Like you I love to see people blossom when a little love and encouragement touches their lives.

In jobs and in some churches, I have been given the people nobody else wanted in their workload or their fellowship group. I cannot tell you how many times those unloved, unlovely and unwanted people have turned out to be the most valued by the very people who at first wanted nothing to do with them.

Sorry I have rattled on so long in your comments, there is nearly enough here for a Hub lol...

A great Hub voting up and hitting the relevant buttons on my way out.

Doris James MizBejabbers from Beautiful South on May 30, 2013:

You have some very good thoughts and I hope that they encourage ones who think they don’t have a talent. Finding one’s talent is not all that difficult if the person takes the attitude “I’m going to do what makes me happy,” and then turns it into a career. Forsaking one’s talents for a career in money is a pity, and I have seen unfulfilled people who have done that. I go to work every day feeling like I am going to my playground. By the way, if Deepak Chopra’s quote were true, the world would be filled with geniuses rather than mediocre people. Voted you up++

Sherri Tuck from Virginia on May 30, 2013:

I enjoyed your Hub. It took me years to try to find my talent. I will say that I am still searching, but how do we ever discover our true talent unless we keep trying?

Deonne Anderson (author) from Florence, SC on May 30, 2013:

Dream On,

Thanks for your comment. As a small child, I knew that I wanted to help people and to make a difference in their lives. I would give my coats and articles of clothing away to children who did not have adequate clothing to wear to school. My parents got used to me coming home from school with items missing. I always chose the misfits to befriend and to advocate for. God gave me the gift of "knowing" how others feel and the ability to draw them out and to make them understand that they are loved and valued. My work as a Mental Health Therapist was never work for me as I enjoyed and loved it immensely. It was my passion!


Thanks for your comment and for sharing my hub with others. It's great that you have found and are sharing your gift of verbal expression. I am so blessed to have discovered your hubs.


Thanks for reading my hub and sharing. I will read your version upon completion of this response. Often times it is individuals like you and me who are instrumental in helping others to identify their gifts.

Theresa Ast from Atlanta, Georgia on May 29, 2013:

Good hub with some great suggestions. I am concerned, like you, that so few people recognize their talents, I wrote "my version" of your hub a few months ago ... the tile includes the words "creative and talented" I think, if you want to take a look. Good work. :)

Michelle Liew from Singapore on May 29, 2013:

This is wonderful, wonderful advice, Lady Deonne. Thanks for sharing it with us....we are indeed born with talents given by God, and should find them so that we can give back to him. Thanks for the tips as to how we can do that a little better. Sharing!

DREAM ON on May 27, 2013:

You have worked in your field for thirty years.Now that is dedication you don't see any more.Your hub was practical and so helpful.Sometimes in life we know what we want to do and try but there seems to be key points we don't see.So we end up falling short of our true talent.I am very interested in this topic and I would love to discusss more in great detail.Have a beautiful Memorial Day.

John Paolo B.Magdaluyo from Philippine on May 08, 2013:

Oh, my lady I am so glad I really helped inspire your work as well. Also, thank you thank you for your continued support on my new updates. Unfortunately I don't have a new fix material yet, since I am little bit busy on my thesis study. But, I had been cooking ideas in my good brain, and when I come back I'm sure, I can contribute something useful for your next work. God Bless my friend

Deonne Anderson (author) from Florence, SC on May 08, 2013:

I enjoy reading your work and am grateful that you share it with me. I try to read your posts every time I receive a notification that you have something new. Your tenacity and genuineness inspires me as well as your talent. Thanks for being my friend.

John Paolo B.Magdaluyo from Philippine on May 07, 2013:

Yes, I am proud of what I can do at the moment and certainly be my tool to express to the world the contribution that I can give. Of course, hope you can find some inspiration some stuff on my works. I am also proud with my ability to leave an impact when I present things.

Deonne Anderson (author) from Florence, SC on May 07, 2013:


Because you have a desire to write, writing is on of your talents. I bet that you have many more things that you do extraordinarily well. God gave all of us gifts or talents. You, like me, are choosing to share your writing talent to bring information, entertainment, and joy to the world. You can be proud that you are able to write and communicate with people, young and old and from many different cultures. Maybe you will share some of your other gifts or talents with me.

John Paolo B.Magdaluyo from Philippine on May 07, 2013:

Great hub my friend! When I was younger like what you said I always say "No, I don't have" then when I was like high school when my classmates asked me I always say "When God give rain with gifts I was inside" haha till now I discovered, that I do have something to be proud of.

Desmond Lee from Singapore on April 29, 2013:

Great Hub, I believe that each and every one of us are talented in our own ways, heroes in our own right.

Deonne Anderson (author) from Florence, SC on April 26, 2013:

Thanks billybuc,

As an educator I know that you have had students who learned via the use of different methods, i.e., visual, auditory, experiential, etc. Those children who had difficulty with written language and instructions were often labeled "slow" and called "stupid" by their peers. Yet these same kids may have been geniuses at woodshop, art, music, electronics,etc. We need to help these children unleash and develop their genius.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on April 26, 2013:

I love the topic....I believe we all have special talents...I love your suggestions. Well done my friend.

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