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How Do Highly Sensitive People Manage in Relationships

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Processing everything around you creates that overwhelming feeling in you. Highly sensitive people are normal people who are healthy and go on with their day-to-day chores as you and I.

People are different and react differently to life experiences. Being highly sensitive doesn’t mean you are weird or a psychopath.

The highly sensitive individual has a heightened sensation in their emotions, and other aspects as in their intimate attraction and life as well.

The nervous system through this becomes intense and a strength rather than a burden. A relationship with oneself shows when one connects with others and this determines the quality of that relationship.

So, you are in a relationship and find that you have these heightened emotions.

You are born highly sensitive and for this reason you are at a high risk of having an unhappy relationship.

In such circumstances you need an understanding between you and the one you find great interest in a relationship. If there is no understanding of this trait in a relationship, you won’t have a good relationship. In such cases, a relationship with a highly sensitive person becomes painful and a problematic one.

People seek healthier and happier relationships when they have the combination of personalities. A better way of living is discovered by the highly sensitive person in their relationship.

There are different kinds of challenges and traits that one can contribute in a relationship. Especially if one is highly sensitive and the other is not highly sensitive, hereby amends are made to have that healthy relationship.

Topics such as; intimacy and gender roles are challenging and must be honest, and should be discussed in an open conversation.

Often these conversations are ignored in relationships.

Are you the highly sensitive type of person?

A genetically beneficial trait that allows you to see it from a negative side and a positive side. You must know that a highly sensitive person is not affected mentally, instead a condition and a gift that you are born with and grow into an adult with.

You feel overwhelmed and at times do not feel happy in your world.

One is highly sensitive and feels the weight of everything around them as in the emotions of others. You feel everything around you needs attention and you are not able to fix it. Some parts of you feel something is wrong with you.

On other times you feel your life is too much for you to cope with, and feel like crying over it.

Men and women have the same genetic trait, and often not spoken of in a relationship. The ways in dealing with issues from a highly sensitive person is complicated. Relationships are challenging and with one or two persons being highly sensitive in that relationship are almost equally satisfied with each other.

There are different benefits to each individual. In a highly sensitive relationship the quality of your relationship represents how long you will live. It is stronger than your smoking habits and eating habits that leads to obesity.

Sometimes your partner is not able to withstand your high sensitive traits.

You need to understand that high sensitivity is not a disorder and can not be cured. However, a substantial number of couples have many issues in their relationships and are not always able to resolve these issues.

Happy couples manage conflicts better than unhappy couples.

In conflicts couples are less confident to stand up for themselves and have a low self-esteem and this is not a good sign in highly sensitive relationships..

How can you make your partner understand you are highly sensitive and that you are not a crazy person?


  • Partners need to focus on their traits and have an understanding in open conversations.
  • It is useless to create conflicts and try and fix what you do not understand in a relationship.
  • Absorbing the feelings of others is exhausting to you.
  • It is upsetting for a highly sensitive person to witness violence.
  • You are under pressure to finish a task.
  • Often you want to be in a quiet place to avoid crowds.
  • Your nervous system is hyped in small situations.

For example, you are startled when someone sneaks up on you.

  • Negative thinking is more on your mind and you become anxious when in a crowd.
  • The wardrobe of a highly sensitive person is chosen to be distracted by others. They wear unattractive clothing.
  • Pain of all kinds is not tolerated by a highly sensitive person.
  • Your childhood memories have been enjoyable, and daydreaming for you has created that rich inner world.
  • Childhood daydreaming gave you a fantasy world to live in, and has given you a different adulthood.
  • Highly sensitive people do not adjust well to change.
  • Their good deeds make them feel upset about their achievements just as they do feel happy about it.
  • Time is required more than others to adjust to change.

In the eyes of others a highly sensitive person is misunderstood.

Sometimes you are thought of as shy, as an introvert, or that you are a crazy person.

Most highly sensitive people are extroverts and are misread as introverts because of their too much alone time required of them. They share characteristics of an introvert.

To a highly sensitive person criticism is like a knife through them. It feels toxic and they feel negative. Anything harsh said puts them in a sensitive system.

You see beauty in everything around you and you wonder why others do not see this beauty as you do,

What are the Pitfalls for a Highly sensitive person?

You have hectic days when you have to constantly run around from one place to another. Or from doing one chore to another all day. This leaves you feeling overwhelmed in your daily routine.

Interpersonal conflict:

Conflict arises between you and your partner, or a work colleague, and leaves you feeling stressful.

Expectations and Comparisons:

Sometimes you meet people and their expectations are too much from that person. You pick up on those expectations and wish you d hadn't met them.

Failure:

The smallest mistake you make is a failure to you.

It leads to self-doubt and you feel failure is your worst trait.

A happier life for highly sensitive people is to avoid what you know makes you feel at your worst.

Rest in between exhausting times. Manage work time to avoid pressure build-up.

Avoid what makes you feel overwhelmed and whatever drains you out of your energy.

Learn to say NO when you have had enough of your day work,

Make your space feel soothing, calm and safe.

Do what makes you feel happy and decompressed.

It is not a bad lifestyle being highly sensitive.

Accept your life as it is and anything you feel is not a weakness.

You may feel different to others that doesn’t mean you are weak and hopeless to yourself.

Many times you will feel like you are strange among others.

You are being told that you’re overthinking things, or that you need to relax. Such times make you want to see yourself differently from another.

Highly sensitive people are misunderstood in many ways, and rather than trying to make people feel they have a disorder, embrace the trait.

  • Most people do not understand the meaning of highly sensitive.

Sensitivity is known as a weakness in you as others see it.

One needs to understand sensitivity doesn’t mean weakness in others.

You are highly sensitive doesn’t mean you are not able to accept life as it is, and not like you will shed tears about every traumatic story you hear.

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This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

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Comments

Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on October 13, 2021:

This is interesting. I find that I don't like loud noises. It bothers me. I also seek peace and quiet after periods of significant activities. We had a wedding of our grandson last summer and this created a major flurry of activities. Now, I relish the peace and quiet and I am recovering.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 09, 2021:

Hi Denise sounds like you have had a lot to deal with in your life. However, you have pulled through well and have written about your experiences as well. Learning from these bad choices has put you in a better place, I am sure of that. Thank you for comments.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 09, 2021:

Peggy Woods Thank you for that and true. People are different but just need to be noticed.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 09, 2021:

Adrienne Farricelli You are right! I had noticed the many factors about Highly sensitive people while on holiday and realized how people differ in a group. The experience had made me see so much about people and their behaviors. I appreciate your comment thank you very much.

Denise McGill from Fresno CA on October 08, 2021:

I am one of those highly sensitive people who married a horribly abusive and violent man the first time and had to run away from him. I have made bad choices in my life.

Blessings,

Denise

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on October 07, 2021:

Highly sensitive people are often the writers, artists, and other creative types in our world. It is great that everyone is not all the same. What a boring world this would be!

Adrienne Farricelli on October 07, 2021:

I loved reading this and feel that you have a deep understanding on the subject because of how you accurately described oversensitive people. I share many of the traits described and found it interesting to read that sensitive people have problem with caffeine. I am the only one in my circle of friends who cannot tolerate it.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 07, 2021:

FlourishAnyway Thank you for comments I am glad you stopped by. I have been away and have a lot of catching up to do here.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 07, 2021:

Nithya Venkat Thank you very much for comments.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 07, 2021:

Misbah Sheikh I so agree with you and so glad you stopped by. Writing for me is a learning experience about many topics. I enjoy what I do and new topics are eye openers as well.Thank you

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 07, 2021:

Nathaniel Stalling Jr So kind of you to comment. Thank you for comments.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on October 07, 2021:

Chitrangada Sharan It has been a while and I am glad to be back. Thank you very much for supporting me. I appreciate your comment.

FlourishAnyway from USA on October 07, 2021:

These folks are overstimulated and easily overwhelmed. If they are with someone who is high energy and extraverted and doesn't understand their differences, the relationship won't last long and/or won't be very happy.

Nithya Venkat from Dubai on October 06, 2021:

Thank you for sharing this article. Many sensitive people are considered weak. You have mentioned valid points and have given good advice about dealing with life when being highly sensitive.

Misbah Sheikh from The World of Rebels. on October 06, 2021:

Thanks for sharing this interesting article, Devika. I enjoyed reading it. Highly sensitive people are more emotional and yes, I believe,they do listen their heart more than their brain. Which in my opinion is not a bad thing. I think such people are highly kind and caring as well. You have been absent for quite a long time. I hope you are doing well.

Much Love and Blessings to you!

Nathaniel Stalling Jr from Detroit, MI on October 06, 2021:

Hello Devika,

You obviously did your homework on this very important subject. It is very well written and informative. Thank you for sharing it.

Bless you and yours,

Chitrangada Sharan from New Delhi, India on October 06, 2021:

Hello Devika!

You have listed some significant characteristics of sensitive people.

I believe, that they are highly emotional and mostly think from their heart. That way, they are different, but not crazy. People around them should understand this, and deal with them accordingly.

Thank you for sharing this interesting and thoughtful article.

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