Virginia Alice, author of "HONOR ONE ANOTHER: The ABCs of Embracing Our Spirit Within," writes about social media, wellness, and writing.
How to Improve on Honoring One Another
Honoring others is at the core of how we in turn want to be treated. When we honor others, we expect the same in return. However, this is not always the case.
We live in a world where everyone is busy. Everyone has something they need to be doing. And even those who don't have school or work have their minds on their own feelings, intentions, or doings.
Sadly, I have come to believe that people often, and generally, think honoring others has only to do with Bible times, or if they are a Christian. But honoring one another is as basic as breathing, eating, or drinking.
Our world would be so much better if we all honored one another in our day-to-day living - giving, expecting, and receiving common courtesy and respect from every person we meet and greet.
In the New Living Translation of the scripture, Romans 12:10, “Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other” it doesn't seem too difficult an action to achieve. Yet, we go about our days, in our busy lives, perhaps not intentionally being rude or ignoring others, yet being oblivious of their needs or their love for us.
What are some ways any of us can honor others?
- Pause before acting;
- Showing compassion; and
- Honoring ourselves.
A man of honor should never forget what he is because he sees what others are.
— Baltasar Gracian
Pause Before Acting
Perhaps, a simple answer would be for each of us to pause at the start of our day, to contemplate our interactions with others and how we will treat others. Or, we can pause at the end of our day and review how we acted with others. It’s amazing what we can see and "hear" later that we didn't see at the time. Even in just studying body language, we can gauge how we did in treating someone else.
When our feelings are at stake, it’s all too easy to react and act rather than to pause and consider how to respond. But by pausing before acting, we can make better choices. We can think about what the other person and how our reactions will affect them. We can consider if our relationship with these persons is important enough to keep. We can calm down and move forward with honor for them, and for ourselves, in mind.
This is often easier said than done. It takes great willpower to stop and assess if our words or actions will be upsetting to someone else. And what if the other person is the one who is being rude or out of control? To calmly address anyone being rude or instigating a situation, or to walk away until we can do so, if far better than dishonoring them or ourselves.
We treat people like royalty. If you honor and serve the people who work for you, they will honor and serve you.
— Mary Kay Ash
Showing Compassion, Sympathy, & Empathy
To honor others, it is good to question where they are coming from, what are they going through, what is causing them to be upset. When we have compassion, sympathy, or empathy for what they are facing in their lives, we are honoring them. When we fail to have patience to try and understand their situations, we show our own ignorance and fear of being vulnerable.
Often, when a person fails to show compassion or empathy for others, it is a sign that their our own life is overwhelmed. This is when it's time for a person to figure out how to scale back, how to learn to be more human to others and to ourselves.
Honoring Others Starts with Self
This means starting with honoring ourselves. By caring enough about who we are, what we want out of life, and where we want to be in three months or thirty years, we can become more centered. We can have the energy to devote to others – whether it is having fun with them, listening to them, or helping them with something in their lives.
And by taking steps to pare back on the demands in our own life, assess where we are, and re-address our goals, we not only prioritize our own life we also leave room to devote to and honor others. When we feel good about where we are, we treat others accordingly.
My self-esteem is high because I honor who I am.
— Louise Hat
What Are Ways You Can Honor Others & Yourself?
By taking time to pause, show compassion for others, and even nurture ourselves, we can honor both our own self and others. It isn't always easy in today’s world, but by getting a handle on how we treat others and our own person, we can improve our immediate world and then the greater world around us.
Honoring others and our own person does so much for humanity than we may first realize. It creates a ripple effect. When someone else sees us caring for others and not drowning in burnout, they will want to do the same for themselves.
Whether they ask you, or search it out for themselves, you'll be part of this process. Honoring one another helps us to be proactive. When we care about our neighbors, our co-workers, and our loved ones, we become the change that is needed in the world. Leading with honor for others takes courage but it can be done.
Humility forms the basis of honor, just as the low ground forms the foundation of a high elevation.
— Bruce Lee
Leading with Honor Every Day
To honor others means to treat others with respect, human decency, and common courtesy. And leading with honor every day can be scary, especially when one is shy or hasn't been taught the importance of honoring others. And what this means is sometimes thinking about someone else's needs before our own. Honoring others requires vulnerability and is so basic to everyday relationships as waking up each morning, holding a daily job, or being a part of society.
Whether it’s little or big, taking time to notice someone else and asking about their day is the difference between honoring them – or not. Honoring others is as simple as holding a door for someone else, letting someone else go in line first, or smiling at someone even if the other person can’t seem to smile back. It can mean offering to help fix a meal, finish a project, or clean up. It can also mean returning phone calls, texting back, and answering emails timely. We might be busy, but the other person may need our information – or even, more importantly, our human contact.
How will you start honoring your loved ones, others in general, or yourself more? What are some simple ways you can incorporate into your daily life to honor others or yourself? Or perhaps there are things that need to be eliminated in your life in order to honor others or yourself more fully?
Whatever you choose, may you be more honored and honoring in days and years to come. For honoring one another is taking time for what is important – each other.
To honor others means to treat others with respect, human decency, and common courtesy.
— Virginia Alice Crawford
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2022 Virginia Alice Crawford