As a psychology major at the University of North Texas, C. E. Clark found, and continues to find psychology endlessly fascinating.
So many times I have heard friends, relatives, coworkers, and fellow students in my classrooms, say they would like to do this or have that, but they do not know how to get what it is they want. Often they lament that they will probably never get whatever it is they want, or never get to do whatever it is they want to do.
Hard work and diligence will sometimes accomplish one’s purpose, but more often than one might think, simply asking the right person in the right way will move things along more quickly, in the direction you want to go.
Think about what you want. What is the worst thing that will happen if you ask someone for help or advice and he or she refuses? Will that person point at you and laugh because you dared to ask? Probably not. Will they give you a cream pie in the face? Most likely not. Will they clear their desk off (if they’re sitting at one) with one swoop of their arm, angry that you are daring to waste their time? Not likely.
Might they say no to your request? That could happen. Can you handle that if they say no? Or will you go home and cry yourself to sleep? Will you eat 3 gallons of ice cream and gain 5 pounds if they say no? Will you step in front of a truck and end it all if they say no? Hopefully you will be adult about it and think of someone else you can ask for help or advice if they say no.
Remember, they might say yes! You might be surprised at how often that happens when people are asked in a serious, respectful way, for their reasonable help.
Often All You Have to Do Is Ask
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Your Thoughts and Attitude Influence the Outcome, So THINK POSITIVE!
Start off by not assuming you already know what the outcome of your plight and/or request will be -- especially if you are convinced your request will be turned down.
If you have already made up your mind that you will be denied whatever you are asking for, you will emit negative energy. That negative energy will affect the outcome of your request. It will be communicated in a million different ways through your attitude and body language without your even realizing it.
Just as you are what you eat, it is even truer that you are what you think. Thoughts are very powerful, so for best results, make your thoughts positive and optimistic even when everything seems to be against you. Yes, not so easy. Been there, done that, so I know just how difficult that can be, but for best results, you must control your outlook.
Perseverance Can Make The Difference
The Squeaky wheel gets the grease. Have you ever heard that idiom? It isn’t 100% true, but perhaps only 96% or so true. Good enough. There may be many different people who can help you obtain what you want, so don’t stop squeaking because the first person, or even the second or third persons you asked, turned you down.
Many of the people we consider successful today got where they are because they did not give up. Not because they are the most talented. Not because they are the most skilled. Not because they are the most intelligent. All of these attributes are good to have and will hopefully make your goal easier to achieve, but by themselves they are unlikely to get you what you want.
Most people who are successful today are in that position because they did not give up. They did not let the word no discourage them, or cause them to stop trying -- at least not indefinitely. They did not give up no matter how tough the going got.
Everyone gets discouraged sometimes, but the trick is not to dwell on that discouragement to the point where you cannot function or move forward. Get that gallon of your favorite ice cream, wallow in your self pity for a couple of hours, enjoy the ice cream, get a good night’s sleep, and then get up and start again. Be determined and relentless in your pursuit.
Do you know how many times Stephen King submitted his first manuscript (Carrie) to publishers and received rejections in return? So many that he simply says it was dozens of times. Dozens! It took several years for him to get published, but look where he is today. He is not alone. Lots of people, not only writers, but people in all different fields, have had to keep trying for long periods of time, receiving rejection after rejection, before they finally received a yes.
It used to be that a sales person had to knock on an average of 20 doors before s/he would make a sale. There was no guarantee that sale would be behind the 20th door. It could happen that 5 sales would be made on the 96th through the 100th doors, but only if the sales person did not give up before getting to those doors. That is what the law of averages means. On average, 5% (5 out of 100 or 1 in 20, etc.) of people asked will respond positively -- or maybe 20% (20 out of 100). Whatever the percentage, you may have to knock on a lot of doors before you get to the one that will say yes. Can you handle all that rejection if it comes to that, and keep going?
Simple Requests Are More Often Granted
Most people want simple things. Would you be able to babysit for me on Christmas Day? Can I park my car in your driveway instead of in the street while I’m away on vacation? Would it be OK if I brought my child with me because I haven’t been able to get a babysitter? Could you lower the price on this item since one of the seams has come apart and needs repair? Would you take a dollar for this item instead of 2 (yard sale)? My car is getting repaired, could you please give me a ride to work tomorrow? Would it be OK if I traded shifts with a coworker because this schedule is inconvenient for me?
It is usually easier to get a yes from people for simple favors than for major requests like a job, or a contribution to a charity, etc. So if your request is for something more than a simple favor, be prepared to work harder to accomplish your goal.
If You Do Not Ask You Fail Even Before You Try
While you may receive a “no” sometimes when you ask for things, you will definitely not get a yes if you do not ask in the first place. If you can handle the word no without a great deal of drama, or trauma, go for it. Whatever it is, ask for it. Keep asking until you find someone who will say yes. It could be that you will get a yes from the very first person you ask. It could happen – but only if you ask in the first place.
Or maybe you need that yes from a particular person. Do not assume you know any person so well that you know in advance what they are going to say, or be willing to do for you. As previously stated, if you do not ask, you are saying no to yourself without even attempting a yes from the person in question. If you can take no for an answer from that particular person without seriously contemplating suicide, then you have nothing to lose by asking -- and the possibility of a yes to gain.
© 2011 C E Clark
Robert Sacchi on July 05, 2017:
The commercial's theme was tough guys drink Schlitz. The one I remember is where James Coburn, in western garb, walks into a saloon sits at the bar and says, "Schlitz light".
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on July 05, 2017:
Robert Sacchi, thank you for sharing your thoughts. I don't recall those commercials. Were they trying to coerce people into buying Schlitz instead of persuading them?
Robert Sacchi on June 13, 2017:
You seem spot on with this. A successful business venture needs an understanding of what is being sold and knowing how to market it. I remember seeing a clip that mentioned the infamous Schlitz commercials that were dubbed the "drink Schlitz or I'll kill ya" adds. Sales took a dive and the ad agency got fired.
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on June 13, 2017:
Robert Sacchi, thank you for sharing your thoughts. Most of the time what people understand is actual craft, product, or service they want to market, but they don't know how to build and maintain or grow a business.
However, sometimes it's just the opposite. They know how to start and operate a business, but they don't understand what it is they are marketing. They also may not have researched carefully and thoroughly whether or not there is an unmet market for their service or product.
The CEO who wanted to expand into pharmacies might have done better if he had learned about pharmacies and how their business pattern is different from supermarkets. There are usually a lot of pharmacies in most cities of any size and it becomes a matter of providing something people want that the others aren't providing in order to successfully compete with those businesses already established.
Robert Sacchi on April 27, 2017:
Good points. I remember hearing a sermon where the minister talked about the CEO of a major supermarket chain that tried branching out to pharmacys. The chin lost a bundle. The CEO said the lesson he learned from that is to never go outside your core understading.
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on April 27, 2017:
Robert Sacchi, thank you for raising some interesting issues. I think one reason so many new businesses fail is because not enough thought is put into the mechanics of it and whether or not there is a demand that isn't being met for that particular product or service.
Personally, I recommend that whenever possible, one should start a business where they can take one day at a time. That is because many entrepreneurs know very little about running a business and inevitably they screw up. One day at a time, growing the business as knowledge grows about how to go about what one is doing, learning all the legal requirements, etc., builds a better business, a stronger business, and an entrepreneur that has the time to learn what they are about before investing thousands or hundreds of thousands of $ is something they don't know beans about. They may know their skill, their craft, or whatever, but they likely know all but nothing about starting and running a business.
I have had several small businesses and all were successful. Every one was started on a shoestring and I as a business owner and my business grew at the same rate. No major problems that couldn't be resolved before a disaster occurred.
Really think poor planning and lack of knowledge of what one is about is what causes so many new businesses to fail within 5 years.
Robert Sacchi on April 04, 2017:
The thing is the failure rate for small businesses is very high. There is great risk in starting a business. One could easily become a slave to their own business.
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on April 04, 2017:
Robert Sacchi, thank you for your comments. Here is a quote from a former president, Franklin Delano Roosevelt: “No business which depends for existence on paying less than living wages to its workers has any right to continue in this country.” (1933, Statement on National Industrial Recovery Act)
Even our current minimum wage wouldn't make the grade for former president Roosevelt. Just because something is legal does not mean it is moral. Just because it is legal in many cases for the wealthy to take advantage of poor people and make themselves wealthier doesn't make it right.
However that is a different issue. This article is about getting what you want and encompasses many things, not necessarily money, or more money. :)
Whenever possible, the best way to get more money and more freedom, if that is one's desire, is to own your own business and be self-employed. That is about as ideal as possible in this world.
Not to say there aren't drawbacks in owning a small business, but those drawbacks can sometimes (more often than most people think) be nullified or worked around if one is their own boss. Self-discipline, or lack there of, would seem to be the thing that defeats most people who are self-employed.
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on March 29, 2017:
Bobby (Diogenes), I definitely agree that we need a revolution. Possibly even a Bastille Day. This time we need to round up those people who choose ignorance in addition to the wealthy thieves.
Take care . . . xoxo
diogenes from UK and Mexico on March 08, 2017:
Yes, and the most cunning of the wealthy are the bankers who pay the administration to be on their side so they can keep on stealing from the poor and not have to pay them back. Give £100,000 to the exchequer for his crew to win votes and you can then threaten bankruptcy and get £20,000,000 from the poor bloody taxpayers: then the CEO's can get this paid to them in bonuses...we need a revolution!
Nighty night Bob xoox
Suzie from Carson City on March 06, 2017:
I love it when older hubs come back around to give me another chance at reading. Five years ago, I was quite new to HP and honestly, I shudder to go back to those days when I was flailing in the dark to learn the ropes!
I will guess you may have been a cheerleader in your teens because you've got what it takes to shake up & encourage! You are absolutely right about the importance of taking that chance to reach out.
If we can get past the doubt or anxiety, it's more than half the battle. Come to think of it, Au fait, your great hub gives the clear message that there are times we all need to kick "fear" to the curb and take a leap of faith!! Excellent inspiration. Peace, Paula
Robert Sacchi on March 06, 2017:
Many industries, such as the food industry, operates with small profit margins. Surprisingly the airline industry runs at a net loss. So someone in a management position who can cut costs can get rewarded. The other reality is whatever you do for a living there is someone else who will do it for less. It's the nature of the beast. The best option is to keep looking for a job that will pay more than what you're getting.
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on March 06, 2017:
Robert Sacchi, thank you for sharing your thoughts! Personally, from what I have observed, most of the wealthy get their wealth off the backs of the poor. By not paying fair wages, providing no benefits, and selling cheap crap that doesn't do what its promised to do, or last very long.
Walmart got into trouble for making their employees work off the clock -- for free in other words. There are all kinds of shenanigans the wealthy pull in order to steal their money legally and keep it.
Robert Sacchi on February 17, 2017:
That reminds me of when a teacher was talking about simple vs compound interest. He explained very few places would give simple interest. He said your rich uncle might give you simple interest. Then he corrected himself and said your poor uncle may give you simple interest. The logic is the rich didn't get rich by being fools :-)
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on February 17, 2017:
Robert Sacchi, you are right. Different strategies are required to obtain different things. The image one projects can often make the biggest difference, but it always makes more sense to ask for something from someone what has what you want and is able to share or give it to you. You might be surprised at how many poor people waste time asking other poor people for money.
Robert Sacchi on January 23, 2017:
Thank you. There is a strategy about what you are asking for. In the case of panhandling someone needs a little from many people. In the case of a job someone needs much from one entity one time.
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on January 23, 2017:
Robert Sacchi, thank you for reading, and for commenting on this issue. There are different ways of asking for what you want, and I think one must expect that s/he will get a no every now and then. Depending on what one is asking for, one may get no a lot. Then it's time to rethink what one is asking for and restructure his/her strategy, the people they are approaching, and perhaps reframing what it is they are asking for. In other words, ask for the same thing, but in a different way.
A couple of weeks ago I observed a young man standing with a sign basically asking for money from strangers. I didn't see what the sign said, but I know that was the man's purpose. He appeared to be able bodied and under 30 years old. At times he stood holding the sign while smoking a cigarette.
I can tell you that anyone who begs for money from strangers while smoking anything will not likely get any responses.
While I have never engaged in asking strangers (or anyone else) for money in the fashion I describe, I would still say that the young man was going about his task all wrong. He was in the wrong location, and as I have already said, smoking is an absolute no-no. He should have let people know he had a family to support and needed work and temporary financial help if that was the case. That might have helped him because few people have sympathy for a young man who appears able bodied and has no one suffering except himself because of low funds.
However, as I have already beaten to death, smoking in view of everyone would have nixed any help no matter what else he did. Drinking beer or even pop will have that same result.
I remained where I could see this young man for the duration of his effort and not a single person offered him anything at all. There averaged 180 vehicles an hour passing him. He needed to try a different strategy.
Robert Sacchi on December 29, 2016:
You are right of course. Though the other side of it is, "insanity is doing the same thing and getting different results." Is there a logic in changing the approach after multiple rejections?
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on June 10, 2015:
Bobby! (Diogenes) Thank you for stopping by! Glad to see you're still full of piss and vinegar. Cabo is in Mexico. Too far for me in my old age. I don't even like to travel here in the states anymore. Like I told Paul in a comment, I'm allergic to animals and all the motels and hotels let them in now and so I'm sick as soon as I stay in one of their rooms because they don't even try to get the hair and dander out.
I'm like you in that I don't like to owe anyone anything either. I would die before asking anyone for help. Hope you're keeping well. Take care . . . CC xx
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on June 09, 2015:
Peachpurple, thank you for coming by and reading/commenting on this article. If one doesn't try one is all but guaranteed to fail in getting whatever it is they want. If one tries, there is at least a chance they will succeed. If you can handle "NO," then you have nothing to lose by asking and giving it your best shot.
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on June 08, 2015:
TIMETRAVELER2, to be sure a willingness to take risks is important. Thank you for reading/commenting, and for the vote! Sometimes a person's biggest obstacle is their own fear.
diogenes from UK and Mexico on June 07, 2015:
Well, I waited three years! I'll just have to take someone else to Cabo!
Seriously, I dislike asking anyone for anything. I would sooner pay for favours, then I don't feel obligated to return them. Of course, I lived in Mexico for many years and it was easier to pay for help there where a few bucks meant so much more than in high-priced Europe and the USA.
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on June 07, 2015:
Paul Kuehn, thank you for commenting and for all the votes and sharing on FB and with followers. You seemed to have had a very successful life so you are ahead of the game to compared to a lot of people. Are you sure it's too late to seek whatever it was you regret?
peachy from Home Sweet Home on June 07, 2015:
You did make some useful points there. If you don't try, you don't know the outcome
Sondra Rochelle from USA on June 07, 2015:
The key to this is overcoming your fears. If you can do that, you can own the world! Great hub and voted up.
Paul Richard Kuehn from Udorn City, Thailand on June 06, 2015:
Au Fait, I had to revisit this hub because it is so useful for anyone to read. I was always taught by my mother to ask because you will receive. One of my regrets in life is giving up and not showing enough perseverance in going after something. Voted up as awesome and extremely useful. I'm sharing this with HP followers and friends on Facebook.
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on December 06, 2013:
Thank you Indian Chef for reading, commenting, voting on, and tweeting/sharing this article!
Indian Chef from New Delhi India on November 30, 2013:
Motivation and determination are most important things i feel. This is very good hub, voting it up and awesome and sharing it on twitter and on hubpages.
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on May 31, 2013:
vertualit, thank you for commenting. I hope this article will be helpful to you.
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on May 26, 2013:
Thank you HappyMikeWritter for stopping by. I hope this hub will inspire you to succeed at all good things. Thank you for the compliment!
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on May 26, 2013:
Thank you sgbrown, for reading, sharing, voting, and sharing your thoughts on this subject!
Abdus Salam from Bangladesh on May 22, 2013:
Useful article. thanks for sharing..
HappyMikeWritter on May 21, 2013:
This is just what I need it to read. Thank you for sharing this article. is owesome!
Sheila Brown from Southern Oklahoma on May 21, 2013:
You should never assume that the answer to your request is going to be negative, but first be sure it is a reasonable request. Like you said, they are probably not going to laugh in your face or yell at you. As it is said, "You never know unless you ask". Most people want to be helpful. Your attitude has a great deal to do with the outcome of your request. If you approach someone with a negative attitude, you will probably get a negative result. You're exactly right, your body language and attitude can affect your outcome. This is great information, voting up, useful and sharing! :)
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on May 04, 2013:
Thank you Taleb80 for stopping by and taking a minute to comment and share.
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on May 03, 2013:
Moonlake, thank you for reading, commenting, and sharing this article! Expect you were brought up like me never to ask for anything no matter what. Sometimes people are happy to be of help; especially to help a person who has often been of help to them in the past. Everyone needs some help sometimes and so often what is needed is something small, so asking shouldn't be an issue in that case. Thank you again for sharing your thoughts!
Taleb AlDris on April 28, 2013:
Reading this hub is a pleasure. Thanks for sharing.
moonlake from America on April 27, 2013:
Enjoyed your hub. I'm not good at asking for what I want but I believe you should ask. Voted up and shared.
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on February 25, 2013:
Thank you rasta1 for reading and commenting on this hub and for adding your perspective!
Marvin Parke from Jamaica on February 24, 2013:
Asking politely is the first key. Dealing with rejection positively is important too.
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on January 26, 2013:
Thank you Peggy W for reading, commenting, voting and sharing this hub! Appreciate you sharing your good advice too!
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on January 26, 2013:
Thank you for commenting Shyron! I hope you're never 'down,' but I'm glad if this hub can raise your spirits should that be necessary.
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on January 25, 2013:
Thank you maggs224 for reading, commenting, and voting on this hub! Thank you especially for your high praise regarding my writing ability. I'm glad you enjoyed this article and found it useful.
maggs224 from Sunny Spain on January 22, 2013:
An excellent hub which I have enjoyed reading very much.
I really like your style of writing as I find it so easy to read and to follow and of course my experience has been enhanced by happening to agree with what you have written.
It is a very encouraging inspirational and informative hub well worth reading and very useful. I will be voting this hub up and hitting the relevant buttons on my way out Magg :D
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on January 21, 2013:
Thank you rajan jolly for reading, commenting, and voting on this hub, and for sharing your experience on this subject!
Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on January 21, 2013:
Very motivating and something to which I not only agree but strive to be at all times. I have seen positivity work innumerable times for me. And to achieve anything one must always be ready to give a shot to whatever one wants and keep at it.
Voted up, awesome.
Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on January 20, 2013:
This hub is definitely worth sharing and spreading the word about this subject. Just think about how many unsuccessful inventions Edison did before perfecting the ones he is well known for today. Persistence pays! If one is paralyzed by rejection, one will never advance much in one's life pursuits. Up, useful and sharing!!!
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on January 19, 2013:
Thank you Paul Kuehn for reading, commenting, voting, and especially sharing and pinning this hub! Very much appreciate your insights as well. It is important to be persistent. Once rejected it's so easy to give up, but one must find determination somewhere and keep trying. I have heard that it isn't the smartest people or the hardest working people who most often succeed, but those people who are determined and refuse to give up.
Paul Richard Kuehn from Udorn City, Thailand on January 16, 2013:
Your hub is very useful and so very true in life. My mother used to say to me, "Ask and you shall receive." As you mentioned, many people are afraid to ask for fear of rejection. If you are rejected the first time you ask, you must be persistent and not give up. In looking back over my life, I think I could have been more successful if I would have kept asking and not so easily given up. One time at the urging of my mother I asked my Congressman for assistance on an immigration matter. To my surprise, he didn't hesitate and helped me resolve the matter with the old Immigration and Naturalization Service. Voted up as very useful and sharing with followers and on Facebook. Also Pinning
Shyron E Shenko from Texas on January 14, 2013:
voting you UAI, great hub! I read this when I feel down.
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on December 15, 2012:
I'm hoping this hub will help people achieve their dreams and/or get help if they need it. Thank you Shyron for dropping by!
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on December 10, 2012:
vibesites, thank you for taking time to comment on this hub! Attitude and determination can accomplish amazing things!
Shyron E Shenko from Texas on December 10, 2012:
This still inspires me, no matter how many times I read it.
vibesites from United States on December 10, 2012:
Yes, determination is one of the keys! Thanks for your wonderful points. Voted up and useful. :)
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on November 10, 2012:
Thank you for stopping by Shyron!
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on November 09, 2012:
allelsematters, thank you for reading and commenting on my hub! If one makes an effort to help others in need as much as one is able, people are also far more willing to be helpful in return.
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on November 08, 2012:
Thank you for reading and commenting on this hub, Ebonny!
Be ready to help anyone who needs it when you can and those same random good deeds will come back to you!
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on November 07, 2012:
Thank you A r F for reading and commenting on this hub! It need not be a favor. Sometimes what you're asking for will benefit more than just yourself. Remember to help others who need it as often as you can and that will help you feel better about asking for help when You need it. We're all in this together. Always remember the people who helped you along the way and be prepared to return that favor.
Shyron E Shenko from Texas on November 06, 2012:
I will keep your hub on my desktop for when I need it.
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on November 06, 2012:
Thank you Shyron! This strategy for getting what you want works more often than one might expect.
Lady Jen Palven from Philippines on November 06, 2012:
This is so true, i usually get scared when asking for something but eventually i over come it and by being honest, i got what i want..hehe :)
great blog by the way..:)
Ebonny from UK on November 05, 2012:
Great hub - I particularly liked the part about not making an assumption that your request will be denied. Oh so simple but oh so very true. Don't ask: don't get.
Thumbs up and more.
Allison on November 05, 2012:
I struggle with asking other people for favors all the time, but often people are really flattered when you ask for help because it makes them feel useful and needed.
Shyron E Shenko from Texas on November 04, 2012:
Encouraging, and awesome. Voting you up and awesome, great advice!
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on November 04, 2012:
Millionaire Tips, thank you for reading, commenting, and leaving such a wise comment on this hub!
Shasta Matova from USA on November 04, 2012:
This is a very thought provoking and inspirational article. I love the quote "you are what you think." It is so true that we wind up saying no to ourselves without even asking the other person and throwing the opportunity away to get a yes. Voted up.
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on January 22, 2012:
Thank you for stopping by and leaving a comment!
JS Matthew from Massachusetts, USA on January 21, 2012:
Well said! Thanks for the follow! Your welcome for the comment!
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on January 21, 2012:
Brett.Tesol: So often it's true, that all you have to do is ask! Thanks for commenting.
J.S. Matthew: Sometimes just asking is all it takes. You never know 'til you try! Thanks for commenting.
chamilj from Sri Lanka on January 21, 2012:
This is very true. I have have my own experience. Voted up for this useful article. Thanks sharing!
JS Matthew from Massachusetts, USA on January 21, 2012:
Interesting title! This is great advice. We have to know what we want, how to get it, then go out and get it! Voted up!
Thanks for SHARING!
Brett C from Asia on January 21, 2012:
Voted up and useful, great advice. As pops always says, "If you don't ask, you don't get" lol.
Thanks for SHARING.
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on January 02, 2012:
Thank you Nell, for taking time from what I know is a very busy schedule, to read and comment on my hub. Sometimes people can surprise you. I've always said, even when it wasn't a matter of asking for help, even if it's a goal or a dream, think what will be the worst possible outcome, and if you can handle whatever that is, go for it.
Nell Rose from England on January 02, 2012:
Hi, you are so right! I used to call myself 'presume' because I always presumed that nobody would help, or I wouldn't be able to do something that I wanted, I still have to nudge myself sometimes, so this is such good advice, thanks!
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on January 02, 2012:
Thank you for your comment Sinea. It's surprising how many people are afraid of a little word 'no,' and so they miss out on all the yeses as well.
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on January 01, 2012:
Very much appreciate you stopping by to read one of my hubs.
You are so sweet to suggest such a thing! I am flattered, truly. You must be the first man I have ever known who has appreciated my mind to such a degree that he wants to know it better! ;)
Truth is, all I ever do is work. I'm a workaholic. I tried other things, but they didn't work for me. So, when something doesn't work, rather than getting frustrated and upset, the best thing is to try something else. But if I were ever going to that location, I can think of no one I would rather go with than you.
Hugs and xx
diogenes from UK and Mexico on January 01, 2012:
How about a weekend in Cabo later in the year??
Using your dictums here
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on December 30, 2011:
You'd be surprised how many people will not even try. They will assume the answer will be no, or they will feel odd even asking. People who aren't too timid to ask, often get what they ask for.
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on December 29, 2011:
Healthy Pursuits: You are so right! Thank you for taking time to read and comment!
Sinea Pies from Northeastern United States on December 29, 2011:
You make such a good point here. You are right...often we don't get because we don't even ask! Voted up and useful!
Jonny windows from u.k. on December 29, 2011:
i must store this article in my memory ! (very useful)
C E Clark (author) from North Texas on December 29, 2011:
I hope lots of people will be inspired just like you to improve their situations and/or make their dreams come true. Thank you again Shyron, for taking the time to add to the conversation!
Karla Iverson from Oregon on December 29, 2011:
So true! It's amazing how many people seem to have been taught not to risk something that isn't really a risk at all.
Shyron E Shenko from Texas on December 28, 2011:
Inspiring! This encouragement, is just what I need right now. Thank you!