Skip to main content

How I Learned to Grow From What I Been Through

Writing is my passion. I have an undying thirst and quest in the field of writing. Some eat, drink, or use drugs when stressed; I write.


When your life is “falling apart,” it's so easy to get discouraged. For this reason, it is essential to look for the positive and not the negative. Regardless of how strong you think you are, there will be days when you feel utterly powerless, but you’re not. That is how I learn how to cope when life gets hard l live through it and grow through it.

Life fulfillment originates from figuring out a way to make an unwanted encounter into an alternate one. Life is a journey of twists and turns that mold who we are. I’ve had my share of blessings, but I don’t have enough fingers and toes to count the number of times things didn’t turn outright.

It takes hard work to keep in the battleground of others. However, picking the correct bearing in life will persuade you to remain positive - and enable you to acknowledge what you have throughout everyday life.

I have had a season of life where it seems like a sinkhole swallows me down. The most testing part is. I had limited energy, and regardless of how hard I battle to rise out, I couldn’t seem to. During my road to self-discovery, a journey of finding life’s purpose, I re-read a journal I wrote five years ago at one of my lowest moments.

Although I didn’t think of it at that point, I died inside, and I experience feeling lifeless. I can remember living where I felt utterly helpless, and I wonder if there anything I could do that would have a pleasant effect.

Also, I found it necessary to take the time to reflect on the person I am — and the woman I desire to be free of feeling my lowest; I became fed up. That day I came back to rise again as a wiser version of myself. That very day, I realize the best way to get through hard times, so when life gets hard, I can live through it and grow through it.

Without goals and a purpose, it’s easy, over time, to amend into someone you dislike becoming. However, mostly, I have watched the person I care about the most about suffering and ache with the deep soul wounds.

I had the pleasure of thoroughly living a lavish life, and as there’s nothing else for me to do except shop, overspend and provide for loved ones. I know part of my misery is from my expansive spending and allowing the wrong people around. They stay nearby to be near me and carry on with life for their benefit.


Like most of us, life has placed me on both sides of the fence. I lived an abundant life, and I experience needing much where it lowered my spirits. And poverty alone can change how you see your entire circumstances. I paid the costs by experiencing seasons of distress, and from that condition, I learn how to understand both needs and wants. It’s what permitted me to manage my issues and perceive that things weren’t as awful as I thought.

Learning to overcome being broke is a marvelous experience. If you ever experience being broke, please allow me to share a small piece of wisdom. Stop standing on the outside looking in to hear you want someone else’s life. Things never the way it seems. When you are looking at someone else’s lawn, the grass will look greener. Never assume that another person’s lives are easy while your life is hard.

If you take some time to cultivate your own lives, you will enjoy it infinitely more and learn to stop wishing it was like someone else’s life. From that, I derive happiness from the things that money cannot hear those words. I received I do not control the world. I can only manage myself, and that gave me a burning urge that was so powerful it pulled me out of bed in the morning during the time I found myself too depressed to emerge from bed.

In those encounters, I understood how to select the correct path. Sure, there are several kinds of roads. But when I narrow it down to the truth, I often identify the best route to take. Yet when I struggle with choosing, the direction I have to take is frequently a troublesome one loaded up with hindrances that lead to hard work.

There are advantages and disadvantages to living in a world that offers many benefits but poses many challenges. I have taken concern about the position. Found how to use my most significant asset. It was perplexing, but I would not permit poverty to defeat me.

I learn the upsides of being penniless. But being broke does not mean after falling, you can not bounce back. It doesn’t mean you must have a desire. After losing it all, you become better at evaluating what is yours. And you can bounce back to nest like the best without the cost.

The lack of cash will make you experience the weaknesses that can impact the monetary past to turn it into a financial triumph. When money is tight, the temptation motivates you to borrow or use a credit card to charge things. Before I figure out a way to live life, sometimes it was hard, not having enough, although it is easy to live when I had plenty, thinking I’m loved and giving when I have unlimited.

I discovered loneliness is where an individual is a fragment of oneself; you FEEL desolate when you are in good company, yet now I can understand not feeling complete since I learn when life gets hard, live through it and grow through it.

Scroll to Continue

Sometimes we look for satisfaction from the foreperson, our income, explicit economic situations, or something external to change, yet to be free. We need to outline our goals extensively and aim for the objectives by doing what it takes to endure. Also, appreciate what you have, big or small, and recognize that someone has much less.

Likewise, when you get tired, take a break. It will re-invigorate you, so you can apply all that is going on in your daily lives and figure out how to endure a hard time, and one must have a desire.

My passion inspired me to change my life since I wanted to conquer decision-making. It forced me to identify, visualize and move my mind and body towards a specific daily routine that I need to experience. After re-reading my diary, it was a token of how appreciative I am today–I am thankful for each new day that God awards to me. A do-over, a second chance.

Although I blew it years ago, I could have saved myself some heartache here and there if I would swallow my pride and seek help. Ego gets everyone into trouble and keeps them from escaping the obligation, and keeps us all from searching for an answer.

I know pride to be the leader of sin. It seems to be true, but I was too busy wallowing in self-pity.; it is okay to do a little wallowing, as long as it does not paralyze; my concern was I allow it to deaden me. Not anymore I learn when life gets hard, live through it, and grow through it.


Since I didn’t have a clue how to “bite the bullet,” it meant me feeling as if I was in a ‘Fight for my Mind,’ a progression of trains ride running through my brain, and there’s no stopping for rest or sleep. If only I had pushed my pride aside to know the score of not having to learn the hard way.

Although it would have bothered me to ask for help on the off chance that I could return in time, I would “swallow my pride” and ask, even though it would feel awkward. Yet, you know, the main beneficial thing is, I will help another person experiencing a comparative circumstance.

Asking would have evaded all the shame that happened and forestalls when I would stress, and the fresh worry that kept me from falling asleep. Rather than zeroing in on what I don’t have, I center on what I have. That is how I realize, when life gets hard, live through it, and grow through it.

Lifelong learning is the “ongoing, willingness, and self-motivated” pursuit of knowledge for personal or professional growth. When learning how to live and grow is a lifelong habit; it is about getting in touch with fears, staying in contact with the physical feeling of doubt, embracing and welcoming, and being curious about whatever is in front of you.


Life has been extremely hard for me, and it has taught me a pleasant ordeal. I discovered I would repeatedly be disappointed, and I would get hurt to think people will do for me as I have done for them. I am in no way downplaying my poor decision but instead learning from my choices and sharing the change in my life that gave me hope.

Particularly since not every person has a similar heart to me, I needed to acknowledge things as they appear to be. On the off chance that I didn’t, I would suffer because I envisioned differently. We have all faced various levels of hindrances, disappointments, and sadness, just as some have had days where they wake up wondering what will go wrong next.

On those sorts of days, I realize there is just no way to control what happens to me. There will be days when people and life’s circumstances occasionally knock me down. I could not see this then, but I had to fall and hurt to realize it took losing it all in desperation to dig my heels in and claim my life back. From that, I want to revisit and discuss how I lose hope.

A year ago, before I found peace, I would wake up feeling lifeless, struggling to begin the day with only a few hours of sleep and not know how to halt being wrapped up in worrying. I felt as if my heart was crushed beyond recognition repeatedly.

Sometimes I was too overwhelmed to decide, and sometimes, I associated the choices made wrong, and that when I knew it was time to make adjustments. I even went through situations where my path was utterly unclear, and I knew no more if I want to continue the next step or walk off a cliff.

However, now, I plan and learn how to handle my life; life’s problems no longer keep me stress or defeat me. And I enjoy going out for some fun with positive thinking friends; I know how to stay optimistic, even though it can be easier to go with the negative moments. Now, I set an example by acknowledging. When life gets hard, never give up; you can live through it and grow through it.


Before I assumed responsibility for my life, things got so hard that I needed to remind myself not to permit life’s difficulties to keep choosing the wrong future for me. It is as if the people I rely on the most were becoming more and more disconnected from me. I felt alone and apprehensive.

Also, I allow the people I love the most to affect my overall mood swing. There came a time when I waited and waited. For minutes, hours, even for days, longing to hear friends and loves one voice, but all I heard was silence. At that point, I understood I did not need to listen to their views, excuses, or what they have to say for themselves because their actions already spoke the truth.

Though I felt alone and disappointed, I decided they all treat me like an option, so I left like what I had, a choice. Although it hurt to let go, I knew it would trouble me more to hold on.

Yes, it was among those times you feel a sense of loss, but; I decided I WILL survive, and I WILL get through this. I learn from my fear that if I put down the things I am terrified of and step out in faith. I can live a peaceful life and I can overcome my misery.

I discovered by not letting go of my fear that when life troubles overpowered me. I understood where to go. However, to have faith and get out of God’s way, He will help me repair the mess I made of my life and bring me out.


Living in fear is a sad and disillusioning stage aside from, one of the most testing things anybody may need to face is how miserable it is to realize you are not so relevant to your friends and loved ones as you thought you were. I ended up in this circumstance, and it left me considering. I found myself in this situation, and it left me wondering. ‘How can this be God?’

I even felt like ‘it is unlikely I can proceed.’ Primarily, since the individuals nearest to me I thought would uphold me were no longer around, and as I attempt to balance my daily workload, I was looking for answers for how I will get past challenging times.

On my journey to find peace, it reminded me there might be times when I will get tired and exhausted. Those closest to me might even betray me but refuse to quit.

Also, I remembered my God is with me, and it encouraged me to stick to my goals. Hear these words when I say God was working for my good. He removed the people from my life that was my downfall, and sometimes we attempt to hold on to what’s bad for us.

God sees ahead and knows when something or someone is not appropriate for you. When God removed my hindrance, he put me in a position to endure, so remember, when life gets hard, you can live through it, grow through it.

How I Learn to Grow From What I Been Through

The Only Way to Know is to Live, Learn and Grow Lauryn Hill Quote


James Fortune & FIYA - Live Through It

You don't go through life, you grow through life - Kevin Ollie Quote


How do you start growing through life? Here's a helpful guide:

Have a Good Attitude Have CouragePeople often ask about the most powerful things I’ve learned in my around-the-world explorations. This is what I tell them....

What we think determines what happens to us, so if we want to change our lives, we need to stretch our minds." Wayne Dyer

"One isn't necessarily born with courage, but one is born with potential. Without courage, we cannot practice any other virtue with consistency. We can't be kind, true, merciful, generous, or honest." Maya Angelou

People are inherently good. Despite the scary anecdotes from news outlets, movies, and well-meaning, but uninformed friends, the world isn’t as dangerous as it seems.

"Choosing to be positive and having a grateful attitude is going to determine how you're going to live your life." Joel Osteen

"What would life be if we had no courage to attempt anything?" Vincent Van Gogh

You grow through what you go through. From the planning stages to actually being on the road, I’m a firm believer that travel makes you stronger on all levels

Life is a series of experiences, each one of which makes us bigger, even though sometimes it is hard to realize this. For the world was built to develop character, and we must learn that the setbacks and grieves which we endure help us in our marching onward." Henry Ford

"You may not always have a comfortable life and you will not always be able to solve all of the world's problems at once but don't ever underestimate the importance you can have because history has shown us that courage can be contagious and hope can take on a life of its own." Michelle Obama

Gratitude is the sign of noble souls. The Greek storyteller Aesop said that, and any good traveller should never forget it. Exploring the world, as well as seeing how other people live, has made me recognize how hugely privileged I am. I have travelled to countries where poverty is rife, where the infrastructure and political situation have made day-to-day life difficult, and where freedom of speech and movement are nearly impossible.

"The only disability in life is a bad attitude." Scott Hamilton

I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear." Nelson Mandela

"The greatest day in your life and mine is when we take total responsibility for our attitudes. That's the day we truly grow up." John C. Maxwell

"How few there are who have courage enough to own their faults, or resolution enough to mend them." Benjamin Franklin

"Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have - life itself." Walter Anderson

"Be courageous. I have seen many depressions in business. Always America has emerged from these stronger and more prosperous. Be brave as your fathers before you. Have faith! Go forward!" Thomas A. Edison

"You cannot have a positive life and a negative mind." Joyce Meyer

"Courage is on display every day, and only the courageous wring the most out of life". Zig Ziglar

"Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts." Winston Churchill


This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2017 Pam Morris


Pam Morris (author) from Atlanta Georgia on June 14, 2017:

Thank you, Patty, for your reply. Sound like you earn a lot from life's struggles as I have. The saying, what doesn't kill you, can make you stronger is accurate, and I learn that the hard way. I will make sure I read your poem; I am sure it's awesome. Thank you again for your well worth reply, and I appreciate your kind words of encouragement.

Patty Florence from Illinois on June 14, 2017:

I love how you format your articles. You seem to put alot of thought into your work. I've gain some nice insights and will continue to grow through my struggles. Some things I been there, done that. Thank you and keep up the good work. ps. especially like those quotes. I wrote a poem. "I don't have the courage, but I will try".

Pam Morris (author) from Atlanta Georgia on June 11, 2017:

Thank you so much Dianemae, I appreciate your response and the compliment.

Dianemae on June 11, 2017:

I like your line," I do have control over myself"We all do and we need to take it and be responsible. Great article with plenty of thought and real solutions, or ideas to get you thinking.

Pam Morris (author) from Atlanta Georgia on June 11, 2017:

Thank you very much, Angel, for telling me my article is a Great article and it's Very moving and motivational. I'm so pleased to know that it brightens your day. I'm flattered that you think it's worthy of sharing to do as I hoped it do to help and encourage others going through struggles!

Thank again for your kind comments

Angel Guzman from Joliet, Illinois on June 10, 2017:

Great article. Very moving and motivational.

Related Articles