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How to Feel Sexy When You Feel Fat


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Sugar Free Advice to Feeling Sexy

Yes of course, there are some simple reminders that can help you on your journey to feeling sexier. Sometimes a little extra makeup or a new black dress, will help in this endeavor. If low self esteem is causing clinical depression, a simple article like this one might help but, seeking the advice of a medical professional is highly recommended. No one can write a cure all prescription for clinical depression, no matter how it developed. It just does not exist.

  • The number one rule of thumb to remember is that feeling sexy is a state of mind. It has nothing to do with your dress size.
  • Looking sexy has nothing to do with your age. Put on a little makeup daily. Regardless if you are at home chasing the children. Freshen up daily, and remember that people have no idea how old you are unless you tell them.
  • Being sexy is all about having a good attitude. Having the right attitude goes along way. Matter of fact, I think it is one of the most misused, or under-rated statements ever made. The way people see you is different from the way you see yourself. Every morning when I look in the mirror I say to myself, "Hello Beautiful!" I think it will surprise you, on how good this will make you feel.
  • Be strong. Quit looking to others to draw self-assurance and self-approval from. People, especially women have way too many jealousy issues. Jealousy comes from the fear of rejection. Forget about looking beautiful for a spouse, and start dressing gorgeous for yourself. Pamper your appearance with a sprinkle of self approval, and what other people end up seeing, will likely be a welcomed surprise.
  • Throw way all the diet fads and crash diet pills or menus. Try getting some fresh air instead. Go outside to sweep off the sidewalk for exercise today. Start eating healthier. You know what it takes;
  1. Consume smaller portions and plate up a smaller plate of food.
  2. Eat more green vegtables.
  3. Drink at least 64 ounces of water.
  4. Add a little daily activity to living life right. You will be amazed at how much better you will feel with less refined sugar, less grease, and more water in your system. The body is an incredible machine.

Feeling Sexy is a State of Mind


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Quit the Self Doubt and Giving Yourself Negative Feedback

  • The only one stopping YOU from looking or feeling sexier is YOU! That is right, feeling sexy is all on YOU!
  • The sooner people realize that they are their own worse enemy, the easier it would be for them to look and feel sexier.
  • Confidence is a state of mind. There are no quit fixes to take care of an inferiority complex. The good news is, the person dealing with this type of self esteem issue, has the ability to make it disappear forever.
  • So what if you are getting older and fatter! Try looking your best and you will be amazed at how your self approval will start to rise. It is amazing what a little face cream daily does to improve wrinkles and what a few minutes of exercise with do for your fat tone issues.


Julie Grimes (author) from Columbia, MO USA on May 14, 2011:


Sylvia Van Peebles from Southern California on May 14, 2011:

I totally agree with you!

Julie Grimes (author) from Columbia, MO USA on February 01, 2011:

Well written! Thanks Fucsia for stopping by.

fucsia on January 29, 2011:

I am agree with you! State of mind, attitude, confidence... Even if you are the more beautiful woman in the World but you do not have these things you can not be sexy! Thanks! We have to understand that the truly beauty ( and sensuality ) is within us.

Julie Grimes (author) from Columbia, MO USA on May 17, 2010:

You are too cute. Thanks for reading my hub.

epigramman on May 16, 2010:

I feel so sexy that I even managed to spell 'evolution'

with 'evolurtion' - lol lol lol

epigramman on May 16, 2010:

How to feel sexier: Just read the many excellent hubpages of IntimateEvolurtion!!!

Julie Grimes (author) from Columbia, MO USA on April 30, 2010:

Thank you Brandy. As a fat girl myself, those slim sickly beauties ain't got nothing on my cushion. hehe.

Thanks hon for commenting.

brandyBachmann on April 30, 2010:

definitely the good advice needed for women especially nowadays that being slim or lean is the definition of beauty.

Katie Butler from Sensual, USA on February 21, 2010:

Excellent hub! Confidence IS sexy. This hub is full of great advice, and I have a couple of friends I will send the link to. Thanks

viryabo on August 06, 2009:

Great hub Intimate. I know that when a woman is confident of herself, no matter her size or age, she will always feel on top of the world and ooze appeal. Its all in the mind, and if you can look at yourself and say "i look fabulous if i may say so myself", then you bet she will look and feel a million $$. Confidence in oneself is good for the mind, body and soul. And people around you will definitely notice this, whether you are skinny, fat or old.

Robert E Smith from Rochester, New York on July 23, 2009:

I agree with you intimate. My wife is sexy with or without clothes but I can really appreciate her thinking about what will make me excited. She is God's gift to me and I do appreciate His pick. He knows me real well. She doesn't think that lingerie will look good on her since she is plus size and I can't convince her otherwise. I'll keep working on her though, I have a lifetime. "Oh Honey! come'ere I gotta talk to you about something...!"

RKHenry from Neighborhood museum in Somewhere, USA on July 21, 2009:

You go girl! Tell it like it is.

christine almaraz from colorado springs on July 20, 2009:

Great advice for women.