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Hormones and Love

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Do you know why you feel so euphoric when you’re in love? Why you feel happiness when you’re with your love? Do you know what happens in your body and how you can influence this all?

Well I’ll try to tell you something about this. I’ll tell you something about at least six hormones that are involved with love. You probably know them, at least the names. So let’s talk about adrenaline, dopamine, fenylethylamine, endorphin and oxytocin.



Did you know that when you’re in love, dopamine gives you the same feeling as when you would use cocaine? Every time you see your love, you get a shot of dopamine and it’s addictive. Everyone who has been in love knows they wanted to see the one they were in love with again and again and again.

But when you’re in a relationship for a longer period, let’s say about two years; your body doesn’t produce that much dopamine anymore. The feeling of being in love slowly changed in loving him or her.

When you eat healthy, you’ll probably get enough vitamin B6 and magnesium.Those two together make your body produce dopamine. So make sure you get enough. And besides food, nice things like sex can lead to an extra production of dopamine.


Uhhh What? Yeah, try to pronounce this word without stumbling.

Fenylethylamine is produced in your brain. It has the same effect as XTC and speed. Your heartbeat is increasing, you start to breath faster, and the palms of your hands start to sweat, your cheeks and genitals get an extra blood flow and you start to feel happier.

When you eat a lot of cheese, eat lots of chocolate and drink plenty of red wine, maybe your brain gets some extra Fenylethylamine. (Besides the fact you’ll probably get nauseous.) Most of this gets decomposed in your intestines. When you have eye contact your brain also produces Fenylethylamine. The pupils of your eyes get bigger. But only when you see something you like. On the other hand, when you get the fright of your life, your brains starts producing this hormone too.



Who hasn’t heard of it? The hormone that makes people run or fight. But when you’re in love adrenaline causes the reaction that you’re on standby all the way. Your pupils get bigger, your heart rate goes up, your breathing gets faster and you’re not so hungry because your digestive system starts to work slower.

If you want to let the adrenaline flow, get really angry, get into a situation where you get really scared, get overheated or go outside in your underwear when its ten degrees below zero outside or get some real physical exertion at the gym or maybe even at home with your loved one.

But be careful when you have a bad heart because in that case too much adrenaline can get you into trouble.



Endorphin is the morphine that your own body produces when you feel pain. When you’re in love it has the same effects as heroine and opium which cause you to feel more happy and joyful.

Eating fat, chocolate (Mmm again chocolate) and sugars make you produce more endorphin. An orgasm or running more than just around the block or far away from your in laws has the same effect.

When your body is producing less endorphin, there is a chance that you feel depressed or have mood swings.



Vasopressin works for men in the same way as ocytocine does for women. It’s said that this hormone makes people monogamous.

If you want enough of this hormone, you'd better drink no alcohol. Alcohol is a restraining factor for the production of Vasopressin. When a man ejaculates there is a large amount of this hormone made by the hypothalamus and released in the blood stream. Vasopressin is also an antidiuretic hormone. So when you have enough of this hormone, you won’t wet your pants very easy. (If you have them on)

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Oxytocinis also called the mother hormone or cuddle hormone because when a mom breastfeeds her baby, this hormone is produced in large quantities. When you hug or caress this hormone is produced too. It makes you feel connected, takes away fear and makes you feel confident. That’s why a lot of people need foreplay before being able to make love all the way.

Where would we be without our own drug-like hormones?


Patricia on September 28, 2018:

Oxytocin hug me please, caress my fears away… The question is, why some people provoke in us these sensations and other don’t?

Barno on May 05, 2013:

superb! all these happens to me, every thing is known for me! i can feel it! a great article...

princy on June 12, 2012:

but what can we do inorder to get the effects of these hormones lowered?what can we include in our diet to reduce overproduction of these hormones?

shahan kottiyam(kerala) on May 27, 2012:

This infermation was very useful. This knowledge give more mentel strength

Georgian on May 12, 2012:

soo it was awesome :) i think this all things is true...

Stephen Travis Stoddard on January 27, 2012:

I think it is great article with a lot of good information.

mminty on November 06, 2011:

very informative, kind of empowers me for more fulfiling relationships.

Interesting, and God made it all for us. How nice.

bornlastweek on October 03, 2011:

my girlfriend is over 50 and is attractive, but when I am next to her making out, she looks like she is 22, and food has more flavor...not kidding.

harish on September 19, 2011:

awesome man.. nice article on love, with which we are living here..

Hany on September 18, 2011:

very good.....but so... how we can force this hormons to produced in our lovers body to make them love us more and more 4 ever?

andrebreynolds on September 17, 2011:

Great information and interesting.

liza on September 13, 2011:

how can i forget my next bf?

Paul Carter on September 11, 2011:

Hi Thanks for the quick easy to read explanation of relevant hormones related to the love feeling. Especially interesting info about Vasopressin and monogamy. As an acupuncturist I'm dealing with adjusting hormonal levels such as endorphins with depression and dopamine with certain addictions. Keep up the good work. Paul

Annie on September 07, 2011:

I have all these hormones came together 3 times in last 20 years, but all with wrong person.. how you can voluntarily control it? Otherwise it makes your life so difficult!

Mugulusi Rogers on September 04, 2011:

really without hormones i think we would have been like standing trees, really we would have been so cleric. holding no felling in our lives. we would have felt no pain about the lose of our partners and relatives. generally we we would have bee so dorsil

marklajera on August 18, 2011:

i need to control the secretion of those hormones,,, i think my endocrine system secretes them too much!!!

Ana Downs on August 03, 2011:

So, what is the solution to feel like you're in love when there is no one in your life?


amol shende on May 21, 2011:

hey, its nice to learn from this articleto get extra knowledge about love feelings to grows for ur love.

Lazur (author) from Netherlands on April 07, 2011:

The cortisol hormone is a stress hormone.. It makes you feel fear , anxiety, depression or can repress your libodo for example. In love , to much cortisol isn't a good thing.. Oxytocin can counter the effects of cortisol..

hiba on April 06, 2011:

great knowlge ,but i have question :what the effect of corticortisol hormone in love?

M.M on March 24, 2011:

Is love anything more than hormones acting??

Lazur (author) from Netherlands on March 23, 2011:

There are a lot more reasons why people can feel depressed.The best thing you cab do is talk to your doctor if you are constantly feeling depressed or having moodswings.

jyoti on March 22, 2011:

i don't get endorphine. it says "When your body is producing less endorphin, there is a chance that you feel depressed or have mood swings." and it also says "Eating fat, chocolate and sugars make you produce more endorphin."

i love chocolate and eat a lot of it but i still feel depressed and have a lot of mood swings over a day's time period.

Lazur (author) from Netherlands on February 26, 2011:

Hai Dragon,

The hormone alike particle called pheromones, determines (according to some studies) whether a woman finds a man attractive or not. There are perfumes available that have these pheromones , but if it truly works?

Black Dragon on February 26, 2011:

I'm wondering, If I use a perfume containing some of this hormones, will that makes women more attracted to me? If yes which hormones? xxxx

kaleeswari on February 18, 2011:

very thanks i dond know the which hormon is love hormon but this time i know the love hormon and 1 question tell me the symptoms of love

Lazur (author) from Netherlands on January 17, 2011:

Dear Roy,

Have you asked your doctor for any help, or maybe even a Psychiatrist? Dialated pupils, like I wrote with Fenylethylamine and Adrenaline, and more of your "symptoms" can occur with anxiety too. Maybe it's not just a question of overproducing hormones. I Hope that you'll find a sollution....

Roy Porter Jr on January 16, 2011:

What happens if these are overproduced? All my life I have had problems around any woman I am attracted to. It seems like these hormones make me do everything wrong, act stupid, not hear anything right, trip, knock things over and everything gets extremly bright. (Dialated pupils?) Is there any treatment for this since it has caused problems throughout my adult life and not ask a woman out for a date for years because just thinking about asking a woman out triggers ALL THIS AND MORE!

karthiii on December 29, 2010:

super post.....simple and nice

john on October 28, 2010:

Jenny, the article says "When a man ejaculates there is a large amount of this hormone made by the hypothalamus and released in the blood stream". I'm thinking that this means that you and all women could help men have more Vasopressin flowin'. (Sometimes I think men need to have more Vasopressin flowin' (to be more monogamous I mean)...

P on October 17, 2010:

Now I know which hormone makes me feel at peace, confident and euphoric when Im with my love... no sex just lying in each others arms is magical and we have been together for 10 years .. still the same..

Jenny on June 22, 2010:

Sometimes I think men need to have more Vasopressin flowin' (to be more monogamous I mean)...

Cecilia from New York on March 10, 2010:

Is it not phenylethylamine or PEA, is this a variant of Fenylethylamine?

velmurugan on January 23, 2010:

thanks for the information.. now i found out the root cause..

eliezer on October 29, 2009:

r u crazy, u must be outa ur mind. this aint love foools. this is an abomination. love men, u will know when u are actually inlove men. come do not misguide people

jinky jynx on June 08, 2009:

i so love what i have found out from the articles of it

tArapzkie on April 23, 2009:

thanks for this info. now i know the solotion of not falling in love. we just need a lot of drugs. The feelings that we get will still be equevalent to being inlove. Who needs love if u'v got a lot of drugs. ryt? hahaa

gabloammar on April 10, 2009:

here i was wondering what happened to my love and me while we were talking on the phone! (both of us felt WAAAAAAAAAAAY too happy!)

thnx for the article!^.^!

sheenarobins from Cebu, Philippines on November 06, 2008:

hahahah. I like this razur. I didn't know we have drugs in our body. Nice shot and very educational.

Lazur (author) from Netherlands on November 06, 2008:

Just a little?:D LOL

TheMoneyGuy from Pyote, TX on November 06, 2008:

I like to throw a little testosterone in the mix too. :-)


Lazur (author) from Netherlands on November 02, 2008:

You know what to do now to get them:D

Cindy Lawson from Guernsey (Channel Islands) on November 02, 2008:

Wow, that was really interesting. I think I need some more of these hormones :)

Lazur (author) from Netherlands on October 31, 2008:

Normally hormones can make things very complicated, but I'm glad some hormones make more sense now :) Thank you for your comment Richard:)

Richard VanIngram from San Antonio, Texas on October 31, 2008:

Yay, hormones! Thank you, Lazur, for this informative & interesting article -- it helps some things make more sense from a biological perspective that most of us are not so familiar with.

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