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My Husband Says His Penis Hurts And We Have Stopped Making Love - What Can Cause This ?

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Peyronie´s Disease May Be The Cause

If you have previously enjoyed a loving physical relationship with your husband. It can be very upsetting when it seems like he no longer finds you attractive and is reluctant to make love.
It´s only human nature to think the worst and jump to conclusions. Especially if he refuses to talk to you about it. But the fact is, there are many causes of lack of interest in sex as we get older, and although your husband may still think you are the sexiest woman on the planet.
He may be suffering from Peyronie's disease, sometimes called Induratio penis plastica ( IPP) which make´s sex so painful and sometimes psyically impossible he starts to turn away from you.

What is Peyronie's Disease

Peyronie´s disease or IPP is caused by a hard lump or plaque, like scar tissue, forming in the penile shaft and causing curvature and pain in the erect penis. The curvature may become so pronounced over time that penetration becomes difficult or in severe cases impossible. This is why early diagnosis and treatment is advisable.

Problems due to this disease usually appear in middle age, but younger and older men can also be affected.
The plaque or lump formed in the penis is benign or non cancerous.
It´s thought that the disease may begin as a localized inflammation or localized bleeding inside the penis following some kind of trauma.

There is also evidence to suggest that sufferers may have a family tendency to it and also it could be linked to Dupuytren´s contracture ( where the fingers start to pull inwards towards the palm of the hand)


Symptoms may develop slowly or appear overnight. They are as follows.

  • A noticeable bend or curve in the erect penis.
  • Narrowing or shortening of the penis.
  • Problems with penetration and pain. Either before or during penetration and intercourse.
  • If intercourse is possible, there may be swelling and bruising to the penis afterwards.

In many cases the pain may lessen or disappear after a while. But the bend or curvature may still continue to cause a problem, making penetration difficult or sometimes impossible.


Various treatments are available. Traditional. Non Traditional, or Alternative.

You can discuss treatment options with your doctor or medic and decide which you are most comfortable with.

Treatments may include.

  • Corticosteroid or Verapamil injections into the Penis.
  • Cholchicine.
  • Potaba.
  • Vitamin E supplements.
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  • Surgery or Radiotherapy.

There are organizations and help sites specifically for those suffering from Peyronia´s disease. And lots of information on the disease and available treatment options.

Get It Sorted

Many men feel too embarrassed to talk about any problems relating to the penis, so he may try to hide it from you by turning away with no explanation. Peyronie´s disease is much more common than the sufferer may realise.
So if you are the wife or girlfriend and notice your man is looking a little different lately. Talk with him, explain about Peyronie's, and see if you can get him to make an appointment at his doctors or Medic´s. After all the disease is not only affecting him. It may be causing a problem within your relationship too.

Disclaimer And Thanks

Please note..I am not a medical professional or a doctor Or in anyway connected to the medical profession and this hub is for guidance only . A Doctors or Medic´s advice should always be sought right away if there is anything about your health which is causing you concern.

Your comments and votes are greatly appreciated so please feel free to leave some if you wish..Thanks for reading :)


Anne (author) from United Kingdom on April 26, 2013:

Hi Sharkye11.

Yes it is, and this is why I really aimed this hub at the female partner in the relationship so she can at least look out for signs that lack of interest is actually due to a medical condition and not be worrying that either her husband has gone off her or is having an affair. Sometimes the effects of this are barely noticeable at first but can become so pronounced there´s no mistaking something strange is happening. It´s also very painful even in the early stages but men being men often don´t even tell you this either.

Jayme Kinsey from Oklahoma on April 26, 2013:

Very interesting article. Never heard of this before, but it sound suite serious. I can see where it would be traumatic for both partners, especially without effective communication. Voting up!

Anne (author) from United Kingdom on September 03, 2012:

Hi Mellonyy. Thanks for reading, the vote and sharing I know you write a lot about relationships so this may be the answer to some couples problems...and it´s like striking gold as you know getting men to admit they have a problem " Downstairs" and an even worse struggle getting them to seek help.

Mellonyy on September 03, 2012:

I appreciate the information. Voting this Up and Useful. Shared.

Anne (author) from United Kingdom on August 20, 2012:

Hiya AA. Now I can just tell you are a naughty boy, but am still giggling at your comment. Peyronies is not a fun thing to have happen to you, or your partner come to that, but hey, if you don´t laugh at what life throws at´ll only cry, and having read some of your work, I know you have a great sense of humor. Pleased you enjoyed the read , and very many thanks for your comments..much appreciated. :)

Augustine A Zavala from Texas on August 20, 2012:

Outstanding article! I'm the opposite, if I think there is anything wrong with my penis, I have a hand mirror to get a second opinion. I'll go to school nurse for help if necessary. Thank you for sharing.

Anne (author) from United Kingdom on August 19, 2012:

Hello CrisSp. Yes it is very painful and can easily cause problems in a relationship. Being Macho..Men hate talking about anything to do with what some refer to as " their duty" and think any kind of malfunction " down there" is a slight on their masculinity. This is why I aimed this hub towards the women folk, they are the one´s most likely to get their man seen by a doctor. Thank you so much for dropping in , and your comment. Much appreciated. :)

CrisSp from Sky Is The Limit Adventure on August 19, 2012:

Good informative hub. Must be very painful for the guys and could possibly be the culprit of split, if not discuss in a relationship. Voted up and useful.

Anne (author) from United Kingdom on July 29, 2012:

Hello Girishpuri. Thank you so much for reading and your comment. I think it very important that even things of a sensitive nature should be able to be discussed and not hidden away like some dirty secret. The penis is just another body part when all is said and done, and any problems relating to it are just another medical problem to be fixed.

Girish puri from NCR , INDIA on July 29, 2012:

very useful and practical hub and helpful to many males having this problem, thanks, voted up.

Anne (author) from United Kingdom on June 19, 2012:

Hi ehealer. Thank you for reading and your comment. I agree things like this have to become acceptable conversation. I aimed it at wives and girlfriends in the hope they can see what´s going on with their loved one and do what´s necessary to get them treated. I know from experience how upsetting it can be when this happens and you have no idea why.

Deborah from Las Vegas on June 19, 2012:

I am so glad that people are talking about men's health. In the past, it was impossible to have a good conversation, as an RN, because men were always reluctant to reveal their concerns about their sexual health and experience. Thanks to articles like this one, and people sharing ideas in the comments, we have much more educated health consumers. Great article.

Anne (author) from United Kingdom on June 10, 2012:

Hi Rahul. I think so too. Google ads where stopped on this one because of the content, but I felt it such an important and secretive disease I left it published anyway.Thanks for comment.

Jessee R from Gurgaon, India on June 10, 2012:

Useful Info here

Anne (author) from United Kingdom on May 23, 2012:

Hi Nell. Thanks again..fair comment. I agree, we shouldn´t have such hang up´s, but those kinds of examinations can be embarrasing.we know that as women.But you just have to lie back and think of England and get it over with. In this disease the sooner the better. Cheers.

Nell Rose from England on May 23, 2012:

Exactly, I think we have too many hangups about our bodies, and we shouldn't. The body is just that, a body. What we use certain bits for is a different matter, and even that is natural! lol!

Anne (author) from United Kingdom on May 23, 2012:

Hi Nell. Yes and that´s exactly why I wrote about it.Because Men do tend to ignor these things,and if you are the partner you have no idea why they suddenly appear to have gone off you and it can cause a lot of hurt until they finally admit what´s going on.By which time it´s usually got a lot worse and harder to treat too. Many thanks for reading and your support. I was in two minds if I should publish this one or not, and did get a bit of a ticking off for doing so, but I felt it too important not to.

Nell Rose from England on May 23, 2012:

Hi Bac, really good info about a subject that many men won't talk about. The reason why is obvious, but they forget that it is still just a part of their body. Just because it is in a place that is used for intercourse doesn't mean that they need to ignore it. Your body is just that, your body, whether its there or even a leg, same thing. I think this is a real problem for men these days, the second they have trouble 'down there' they ignore it, and that shouldn't happen. Well done for explaining it, voted up! cheers nell

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