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Grief, Its Causes, and Its Resolution

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Grief is an emotional response to the loss of someone or something important. Grief is a natural emotional response to the loss of someone close, such as a family member or friend. Grief can also occur after a divorce, serious illness, or other significant losses.
Grief is a process or journey that affects everyone differently. For most people, the intensity of grief eases over time and the episodes of grief become less frequent. Some people cope by becoming more active. Some people like to be expressive and public with their emotions, while others like to keep their grieving private. Most people find their grievances lessen in time. They may always carry sadness and miss the person who has died, but they are able to find meaning and experience pleasure again. Some people find new strength and wisdom after experiences of loss.

Why do we grieve?

The ultimate goal of grieving is to take you beyond your initial reaction to the loss. Loss of any kind–whether it's the loss of a pet, treasure jewelries, the end of a marriage or a job–especially a loved one, leaves a hole in our lives. One that we often don't know how to fill, or even if we want to be made whole again. Grieving is a cumulation of our thoughts and feelings that we process on the inside as we come to terms with our loved ones.


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But why do we grieve?
1. We grieve because we love someone. This someone special played an integral role in our lives, and we treasured their presence. It takes courage to love a person deeply because there is a small part of us that knows our time here is finite; loss is an inevitable aspect of all human relationships.
2. We can't imagine life without them. For some people, losing a loved one can mean losing their only source of emotional or financial support. Sometimes the reason why we grieve so deeply for a loved one who's died is that we understand the harsh reality of having to live life without them. They'll have to figure out a way to survive life now that their loved one is dead.
3.We grieve for ourselves. Because we have been painfully deprived of someone we love dearly, our world has been rocked to the core. It makes sense that time would be spent grieving for ourselves. There is every reason to grieve, for the life we knew, the life we enjoyed before the passing of our loved one, is over.

Symptoms of grief

Grieve is different than stress in that it's triggered by a significant loss rather than related to challenges or difficulties alone. Grieve is also different in that grievers may experience things that are new and feel foreign to them. Many of the symptoms of grieve are experience in milder forms throughout our daily life, especially during times of high stress. Grieve symptoms are difficult to feel and you may want to push them away. This means that you may be experiencing symptoms of grieve and not even know it. Much of what we call stress, overwhelm, or just feeling down is actually, at its root, grieve.
When you open the lens of what causes a grieve reaction, you understand that there are many things that can trigger a sense of loss followed by grieve. The grieving process impact our emotional and physical health in many ways. When your brain is working hard to deal with grief, it has less energy to focus on keeping your body healthy.


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Signs and symptoms of grief may include:
• Bitterness about your love ones.
• Focus on little less but your love one's death
• Changes to sleep patterns, like disruption, difficulty getting to sleep, sleeping more.
• Changes in eating habits, cravings or hormone-related changes.
• Intense sorrow, pain and rumination over the lost of your loved one.
• Feeling that life hold no purpose.
If these symptoms of grief persist for a long time without relief, or if you experience significant impact to your ability to function in the world, you may need to seek help. Some of the symptoms of complicated grief include:
• Experience depression, guilt, deep sadness.
• Feel life isn't worth living without your loved one.
• self-isolated.
• sleep disruption that does better over time
• suicidal thoughts.

Causes of grief

While grief is typically associated with the death of a loved one, it embodies much more than this. Many of life's experiences can potentially cause grief. Some losses are considered worse than others, depending on culture and where you live. The following losses can result in grief:
1. A loved one's death

The death of someone you know and love is one of life's most stressful events and can cause a severe emotional crisis. People typically feel a deep sense of pain after the death of a loved one more than any other type of pain. Despite understanding death's inevitability, rarely is anyone equipped to deal with the agony that follows the death of a loved one.
2. Any disease

It isn't unusual for a person to fall into deep despair after suffering a life-altering illness or injury. You can expect to grieve over the things you used to enjoy doing, the things of your old life, and the knowledge that your body and health are failing to do them. You may go through the grieving process all over again at every setback. Several illnesses and injuries can affect your sense of morality and vulnerability, leading to a prolonged period of grieving.
• Financial loss

People can grieve over the loss of income, assets, and finances in much the same way as they grieve other losses. Not all economic losses are related to the loss of money. They also represent the cumulative losses that follow. Many people suffer significant and serious blows after experiencing a setback related to their assets, earnings, or savings. Some take years to rebuild what they've lost, while others will never bounce back from economic devastation.
4. Job loss, miscarriage, relationship breakdown, and so on.

How to cope with grief

If you are experiencing grief or loss, you may always carry some sadness and miss a person once they are gone, but the painful, intense feelings should gradually subside. There is no magic formula for working through grief, and different things may work for different people. The most important thing is to experiment and allow yourself to try new things in your grief journey. • Take care of your health, among other things.

Get some regular exercise, eat more fruits and vegetables to stay healthy, and don't forget to drink enough water to stay hydrated. Avoid recreational drugs and keep alcohol use to a sensible level.

•Talk about your grief with family, friends, or colleagues.

Allowing yourself to share what you're feeling releases the pressure to seem "fine." Talking about your loss can help you understand it and create space for you to revisit happy memories. It also strengthens your social connections and allows others to support you in your grief.
• Be compassionate to yourself.

Set a regular daily routine and do something special for yourself each day. Try to go for a long walk, eat healthy, meditate and relax. Get in touch with what you need and do it. Keep a list of self-care practices you can rely on when you're feeling down and practice them.
• Seek help.

If your sadness is constant and does not seem to be going away, or if you're experiencing an impact on your sleeping, eating, ability to work, or feeling hopeless, it might be time to consult your doctor. You may need professional help to feel better. Grief counseling at a grief support group may ease your distress.
• Read about bereavement.

Reading studies and personal accounts of grief will deepen your knowledge and understanding of your own grief journey. If you love to read and learn, I would recommend you read this book to help you cope with grief.

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