Robie is a big fan of healthy life styles with a positive attitude. She also loves gardening, a passion passed on by her grandparents.
Why Are Some People Always Happy?
We all have seen them, they are always cheerful, serene, and they hardly get upset, whatever happens.
How do they do it? What are the characteristics that determine if someone will cruise through life happily and merrily or holding a grudge due to continue disappointments and misfortunes?
Disclaimer: most would describe me as one of "those" people.
Finding Your Inner Source of Happiness
The main difference between happy people and all the others is their mindset.
It does not matter what you own, what job you do, or how popular you are. The only place you can find happiness is inside of you. Nothing and nobody else can provide true happiness to you.
The truth is that anyone has the potential to be happy, no matter the circumstances. In fact happiness is not about what happens in our lives, but how we choose respond to what happens.
You have to reach some kind of personal balance and self-love to start experiencing what happiness is.
Characteristics of the Happy Person
Happy people have some characteristics in common. Typically, those who live happier take the time for themselves, doing the things they are passionate about. This allows them to find a precious inner balance.
The following tips are things you can do to achieve a happy lifestyle.
Tips on How to Find Happiness
- Be generously affectionate. - A person gives affection to others, is most likely the object of interest and affection of others.
We should desire the happiness of those we love, but this does not mean that we should sacrifice our own happiness for them. Self-abnegation does not bring to happiness. Only doing what genuinely interests you and benefits you, you can find a balance and increase your self-worth.
- Surround yourself with happy friends that have a positive outlook on life, avoid negative people and those that are always grumpy and complaining.
- Live with integrity and honesty, according to your own values.
- Be thankful. Appreciate what you have and recognize the blessing received. Think of your family, friends, health, and skills and feel grateful for every single thing.
- Mens sana in corpore sano (A healthy mind in a healthy body). Take care of your body: eat healthy, exercise often, get regular checkups.
- Be a natural optimistic: look for the best in yourself and in others. Always recognize the positive aspects in each situation and recognize the good in every person.
- Value your own self-worth. This requires being able to see your own strengths, beauty and talents. If you truly appreciate who you are and are comfortable with yourself, nobody can bring you down.
- Laugh. Find the time to laugh, create the circumstances that make you laugh often. Laughter has amazing health benefits and is a great tool to achieve emotional and physical wellness, and reduce stress.
- Live life with purpose. Have a plan for things you want to achieve, write down your goals and stay focused on reaching them.
- Don’t sweat the small stuff, look at things in perspective and let go of minor snafus. Don’t get frustrated about things that you cannot change, find the best solution/alternative possible, and move on.
- Be flexible, accept that things rarely go as planned, learn to adjust to unforeseen situations and come up with alternative solutions.
- Follow your heart, don’t let the fear of being embarrassed stop you from doing the things you love. Relax and allow yourself to do the things that are close to your heart, even if it mean to be silly sometimes.
- Prioritize your commitments, and learn to say no to things that are too much on your schedule, take time from more important priorities, and the things that you just despise doing.
- Carve out time for yourself; block time slots on your calendar for things that are important only to you, your passions, and to spend quality time with your loved ones.
Let Go of Negative Thoughts
A lifetime of misfortune, or the perception of misfortune, triggers negative thoughts. Negative thoughts do no good to our happiness and serenity.
It is important for your own well-being to focus on the positive, be happy, no matter what or who is interfering with your life at the time. Learn to know and control your thoughts, keep them positive.
Thinking positive in response to a bad event is hard. It requires a revolution of your instinctual mindset. We are creature of habit, it takes courage to embrace change, but it is worth to try, the rewards are wonderful.
Change gear and force yourself to think positive thoughts even if things are not so good.
I can do it.
There must be a solution.
An opportunity will come up.
The Importance of a Positive Attitude
If you are unhappy try to transform the way you look at things, how you respond to what happens to you. When something goes wrong, the first instinctive reactions are usually negative feelings: anger, frustration, fear, or even panic.
When it seems that nothing goes right, it takes nerve and self-control to keep calm and positive. It’s not the obvious reaction. But with the right state of mind and a positive perspective it is easier to overcome negativity.
After all, there is a solution for everything; it may not be the perfect solution, but there is a way to deal with any situation.
The problem is that many times unforeseen events change our plans and things don’t go as we expected, or as we wished. This requires moving on from frustrations and thoughts of what could/should have been, come up with alternatives, and accept them as worthy solutions.
Basic Needs for Happiness
Though we are the very artisans creating our own happiness, there are some external factors that influence our capacity to be happy.
Some things are necessary and indispensable for the happiness of most people, and these are usually simple things: food and shelter, security, health, love, successful work, and the respect of your group of belonging. For some, parenthood may be necessary.
If these basic things are lacking, only the exceptional man has the capability of feeling happy.
If these things are enjoyed, and the person is still unhappy, then the true cause of unhappiness can be found in the self.
A famous professor of psychology, Abraham Maslow, said this very well in the 1940s. Maslow created a pyramid of the hierarchy of needs, and stated that the higher need cannot be fulfilled, often not even felt, until the lower need is satisfied.
© 2012 Robie Benve
Robie Benve (author) from Ohio on May 16, 2013:
Glad to hear you are on the path of positivity SonQuioey10! Some days surely make it challenging, but we must stick to it. Thanks a lot for reading and taking the time to comment.
SonQuioey10 on May 11, 2013:
Definitely letting go of the negatives and focusing on the future and present is primary in my life. It's those rough patches in life that can trip you up. A hub like this would definitely help people. Nice Hub.
Robie Benve (author) from Ohio on November 01, 2012:
Hi Marcy, I strongly believe staying joyous is one of the most beneficial things we can do for our life and heath. I would be really happy if what I write can make even one person a little closer to happiness. :) Thanks a lot for reading and feedback.
Marcy Goodfleisch from Planet Earth on October 31, 2012:
Such important tips for staying joyous within ourselves! Some people have to work on happiness, and your hub has great ideas for turning around those bleak thoughts!
Robie Benve (author) from Ohio on October 30, 2012:
How wonderful to see many people thinking positive and taking the time to leave feedback! Thanks so much for reading and sharing. Blessings and much happiness to you all! :)
Cynthia Lyerly from Georgia on October 29, 2012:
Happiness is really a state of mind that can be achieved regardless of circumstances. For me, this is possible through my faith in Jesus.
Thanks for the blog!
Michael Tully on October 29, 2012:
You've spoken some fundamental and profound truth here, Robie. Many thanks for doing so. Voted up, and tweeted. I can think of one young lady in particular who I hope sees the tweet, reads this hub, and acts upon it. Peace be with you.
carol stanley from Arizona on October 29, 2012:
THis is a great hub..I do think that some people have the happy spark...They seem to have fun, enjoy life and feel fairly positive most of the time..We all have problems, issues and continuing daily challenges..But having fun and enjoy life is the way to go..We all know this life is way too short. Thankgs for sharing all this.
Ms. Immortal from NJ on October 29, 2012:
I love this hub. So well done and helpful.
I consider myself a happy person, which I contribute to all of my interests. When I am painting or drawing a picture, writing or playing my guitar; it is like going on a mini vacation. I experience true happiness that is carried into my everday life.
Voted up and tweeted.
Shelly NunChucks Ninja from worldwide on October 29, 2012:
I hope others see your blog.
You get it, and much happiness to you and may you live a long and happy fulfilled life :)