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Facts about Shyness

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Causes of Shyness

Shyness affects almost everyone at some point in their lives. A feeling that derives from you in many situations that causes you discomfort. Like what other people are thinking of you. Unpleasant feelings about situations as in your self-consciousness.

A fear that can hold your tongue to express the way you feel or in having a conversation. Such a fear disallows you from a healthy relationship with unfamiliar people, making friends or even having that someone special in your life.

What is it about Shyness that makes you feel tongue-tied?

Low self-esteem is a cause of preventing you from having a social lifestyle. Individuals are different and everything affects them in its own way. In the same way shyness varies in strength.

Most people can overcome shyness and experience mild discomfort when with other people. Some would isolate from people and would rather not have a social life. With a withdrawal from any social activity and from shyness, one can suffer from depression or anxiety.

I was shy and had overcome shyness as I grew older. In some situations, I wouldn’t speak much and be away from people. Normal behaviour as a child and cultural differences is a causes of shyness. In some cultures, shyness is regarded as a negative experience.

Causes of Shyness

You are not born that way. Social experiences affect shy people. Parents interact with their children from birth and this is how you are influenced by shyness. If parents are overprotective with their children these little effects unknown to parents affect their children.

Social skills are not developed when parents keep their children from interacting with friends. As everything else starts at home, so does being shy.

I had overprotective parents and wasn’t the outgoing type for that reason. They did not allow me to go out with friends, so my social lifestyle wasn’t good as others had at my age.

I wasn’t comfortable around others. The fact that parents have a lot to do with how kids turn out is something not many parents would agree to. Shy parents do not see that their shyness has influenced their children.

Children need to feel comfortable around other people and to be able to make small conversations. Public outlets, including schools, and cultural events rears children from being connected to the outside world. Also, in the workplace people experience humiliation from being shy.

What to look for in people to notice their shyness?

Notice children when they play in a group or when alone. Their fear is one of the elements of shyness and anxiety. A common sign when a child is shy, they will not leave their parent’s side. It is a concern when that happens to your child.

Shyness puts a hold on a child’s performance. It is difficult for a shy child to cope with exams or studies. Most shy children are victims of bullying and having a low-self-esteem just adds to it. Neglected children have different behaviours including shyness.

Can you diagnose Shyness?

Shyness in children does not cause problems, but you can diagnose shyness like you would any other emotional disorder. You do not have issues with a shy child, but you need to encourage your child to speak up and have friends. Keeping your child away from spending time with friends will result in emotional disorders and anxiety issues.

How do you treat shyness?

Depending on your child’s upbringing healthy self-esteem development is an essential part of your child’s lifestyle. At school, the difficulties experienced in forming relationships can be a problem for shy children.

What Is Shyness?

Emotions affect you and you behave around these emotions when with other people. Timid and sometimes insecure to speak to people. You blush a lot and feel breathless.

Social skills for children are a good idea to help cope with shyness and to improve their self-esteem. Anxiety is an underlying cause of shyness, so breathing techniques are helpful in such situations.

How can you prevent shyness?

It is up to parents to help children develop social skills. Anger, change, a sense of humour, be compassionate, assertive, be kind, be helpful, and allow kids to attend social events that should be encouraged to your child.

A sense of awkwardness is how one feels when in a group you can encourage going out often to allow for an outspoken child. Overall parenting plays a major role in their child’s development skills. These abilities allow shy children to communicate with ease.

Self-consciousness, negative traits, self-preoccupation, low self-esteem, and fear are key characteristics of shy people. Fear of judgment and being rejected are also among the characteristics of shyness.

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Some individuals compare themselves to outgoing individuals in this way the shy people neglect social opportunities. These negative thoughts prevent shy people from developing social skills.

As infants' behaviour changes temperament this does not mean your child is born shy. In time such behaviours are changed.

Overcome Shyness

Instead of thinking negative and avoiding social events, get out of your shell and attend these events. You practice social skills if you get out of the home and enjoy outdoor activities. A different mindset emerges to make you feel positive.

I was shy and did not participate in sports events or other social events. As I grew older I realized I had overcome shyness. I speak when I want to and feel without a second thought.

Everything for the first time gets you feeling nervous, speechless, speaking in front of an audience, insecure, and negative, and your first day of school feels like a disaster.

Even if people are in situations not knowing what to expect or knowing what to expect they will feel shy. Unfamiliar or familiar people allow for shyness to emerge intensely. Feelings are mild, medium, and sometimes intense.

This depends on the individual on how they see their situation. Sometimes shy people prefer to be with familiar people. Often shy people are not sure who to have in their group and hesitate to attend new events.

Being silent doesn’t mean you are shy when quiet when around people. Some people are shy, but that doesn’t mean they are introverts. Naturally shy people are genetically shy while others develop a shy temperament, meaning a genetic tendency.

Shy people don’t have a problem meeting up with people and in time do overcome their shyness. They become comfortable and fearless in social events. If shy people are forced into meeting people and attending social events they do not overcome their shyness; in fact, they become shyer.

It takes practice to overcome shyness.

Extreme shyness doesn’t allow you to socialize or attend classes in a positive manner. This affects one’s self-confidence and self-esteem. Social phobia is what extreme shy people experience.

It requires a lot of time to overcome shyness, and with professional help, you will be able to overcome extreme shyness. A lot of hard work to fend off this emotion.

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This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2021 Devika Primić


Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on March 03, 2021:

Chitrangada Sharan Thank you for stopping by, hope all is well with you. Shyness is in everyone of us just extreme for a few.

Chitrangada Sharan from New Delhi, India on March 02, 2021:

Great article about shyness, it’s characteristics and how to overcome it.

I believe, most of us have it in us, at younger age or teenage. But, as we mature, it’s no longer there.

Many important points in your well written article. Thank you for sharing.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on March 02, 2021:

Hi Mary you make a good point and can be most helpful. Thank you

Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on March 01, 2021:

Some people are paralyzed by intense shyness. Maybe, we can be more helpful in social situations by reaching out to them.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 24, 2021:

manatita44 thank you

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 24, 2021:

emge thank you you for comments it is part of many lives to be shy and avoid social events.

manatita44 from london on February 24, 2021:

Sweet piece. More in teens, perhaps. The video was fun!

MG Singh emge from Singapore on February 24, 2021:

Nice article. Shyness is one of those qualities that is sometimes ingrained in a human. Some get out of it pretty fast and some take a longer time.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 24, 2021:

Hi Dora good to read a comment from you and to hear what you have to say as well. Thank you

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 24, 2021:

asereht1970 Thank you for sharing your views about shyness. I was shy and so confident for not being that way. It is difficult to communicate or make friends in that way.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 24, 2021:

Misbah thank you kindly for sharing your views here about shyness and your experience. I have grown out of it and talk with confidence.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 24, 2021:

Hi Peggy thank you for stopping by. Shy people are not always introverts.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 24, 2021:

FlourishAnyway At least you are over it now, kind of difficult to communicate and that could have been a sign of extreme shyness. Thank you

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 24, 2021:

Hi Liz has been a while thank you

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 24, 2021:

Hi Pamela thank you for kind words I was shy got out of my shell. Thank you

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on February 24, 2021:

Bill I was that person too, but have grown out of it and have become talkative and not shy anymore. Thank you

Dora Weithers from The Caribbean on February 23, 2021:

Judging from the comments, it seems that people outgrow their shyness. In that case, it shouldn't merit so much worry.

asereht1970 from Philippines on February 23, 2021:

I was shy when i was a child, and up to now, I still can't talk confidently in front of other people.

Misbah Sheikh from — This Existence Is Only an Illusion on February 23, 2021:

Very Nice and well-written article Devika

My family thinks I am a Shy person

In my childhood, I was very shy but now much better now

but still, I feel hesitation and shyness to speak with anyone new

I think I need little time to express myself in front of others always (Presentially) but sometimes I think it's my good side as well


Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on February 23, 2021:

I was shy when I was a child. I improved as an adult but still consider myself to be more of an introvert than an extrovert.

FlourishAnyway from USA on February 23, 2021:

I was so shy as a child that I was placed in a speech class to supposedly teach me to project my voice which made the shyness worse because I was pegged as different. I had anxiety from moving around very frequently. Over it now. I’m just introverted.

Liz Westwood from UK on February 23, 2021:

This is a detailed examination of shyness.

Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on February 23, 2021:

I had a few times of shyness when I was young, but not many. I am not shy now either. It is good to know you can overcome being shy, and it sounds like that is exactly what you did, Devika. This is a good article about being shy and overcoming.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on February 23, 2021:

You are talking about me. How nice of you to write an entire article about little old me. :)

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