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Funny faces


First of all they are faces but later they became more like caricatures of their former self.

Faces have a knack for changing, the obvious reason being they progressively grow old.

When you see people every day, you can't really discern the changes because you are living with the same faces, and you are growing older together.

All this changes however when you suddenly see someone after say 10, 20, 25 or even 30 years. Here, the contrast in your previous image of him or her becomes startling, even amazing.

The other day, I saw someone I hadn't seen in 26 years; I was actually going for an interview of some sort. If I had seen him down the road, I literally would have passed him off as a complete stranger, that is of course if he hadn't recognized me.

Features change, rims under the eyes become heavier, sagging skin, facial expressions become heavier and older. The memory starts to play up, is he really the person, or is she the one, I can hardly recognize her.

I keep bumping into these people. A year or so, I saw another person whom I hadn't seen in a long time, 10 years in fact. In my memory she continued to be a stunner, vivacious, exciting, fair, taught skin, and slim. You know someone you would want to date.

Fast forward 10 years. We are standing in a group like the other strangers. Then I looked at her, some of the facial traits faintly gave her away.

"Are you so and so," I say.

"You must be so and so, God you've changed, you are fat," she bounced rather ungraciously.

"I don't believe it, it's you, hello." I did not want to tell her you've grown podgy and your face has gone a metaphorsis, so I keep quite. To me she is no longer the self I remember. She is a totally different person.

Within 10 years her face totally changed, that delightful, detectable look into a complete stranger.

I later relayed that to my wife. "Wake up Marwan, people change, they become older, bigger, put on weight."

"But the transformation is complete," I scream, "the glamour and spark had gone."

This is not the same with everyone. A friend of mine came to Amman recently from the United States, the last time I saw him was five years ago. It was my sister that came up with the crack: "He is still a handsome devil, isn't he," and this is despite his age.

Obviously there is no hard and fast rule. Some people ripen as they grow old, they become handsome, sophisticated, pleasant to see and so on. Others don't, the haggardness of age just shows more.

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This is however slightly different from what I begun with which is meeting people after a good period of absence and seeing the change.


Jaye Denman from Deep South, USA on September 09, 2012:

I can remember being young and wanting to be older. Ha! Now I'm there--really older!

Recently, I applied to have my driver's license renewed and had to get a new photograph taken for it. The photo license being replaced and the new one, side by side, showed a dramatic change in my face. Have I aged that much? I wondered. At first I thought it was because I stopped using hair color and let my hair go naturally gray. Then I noticed a few lines on my face and some sagging that weren't there four years ago.

We either age physically (some more or less than others) or we die. Of the two options, I'd rather live even if I look old enough to surprise someone I haven't seen for many years. The vanity I had when young has largely disappeared to be replaced with a wish for a pleasing personality. I remember my grandmother saying to me when I was a child, "Pretty is as pretty does." I suppose I'm at the "pretty does" stage of life.

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heart4theword from hub on February 13, 2012:

You are so right...people do age differently. It is interesting how some who have a life of hard knocks, look it. Then there are those like you mentioned they just age so gracefully. Used to Grandma's and Grandpa's look like Grandma's and Grandpa's...not hip old people. In the older days, I think there may have been more older people enjoying their title and their grandkids:) Nice topic.

Marwan Asmar (author) from Amman, Jordan on February 10, 2012:

Well put. If only people believe in that.

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on February 10, 2012:

It is a fact of life that our bodies change as we grow older. Some people spend inordinate amounts of money getting plastic surgery to tighten areas here and there and sometimes the effect is not so desirable after all. To me, I think that aging gracefully and learning to accept the changes, wrinkles, gray hair and all...has a certain beauty to it. When all is considered, isn't inner beauty the most important attribute of all?

As to seeing people after one has not seen them in years...I would need my bifocals to read their nametags pinned to their clothing to know who many of them are. Ha!

Marwan Asmar (author) from Amman, Jordan on December 26, 2011:


ExoticHippieQueen on December 26, 2011:

Hey Marwan. Yeah, I agree. Some age beautifully, others just go to seed. I do believe it is part genetics, and part how you care for yourself by what you eat, drink, sleep and think.............

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