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Exploring the Mother Wound

Richelle is a nerd of all things healing. Topics she loves are: trauma, healing, narcissism & borderline personality disorder.

Exploring the Mother Wound

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According to Sherry Gaba of Psychology today, the mother wound is best described as “...a loss or lack of mothering”.

While it can affect sons, most of the time the mother wound is passed down to daughters, generationally. The way we learn to mother is from the example set forth by our own mothers.

4 Clear Signs you Have a Mother Wound

Below are some clear signs you may have a mother wound:


  1. Feeling as though you are not good enough.
  2. Never feeling accepted by your mother.
  3. Feeling you have to play the caretaker role for your mother, instead of her caring for and protecting you.
  4. Feeling emotionally distant from your mother.

When you have a mother wound, you may feel a lack of worthiness. You may feel like your life is lacking something, and you just cant pinpoint what is missing. A mother wound can leave a person with low self esteem, and if not healed properly, will show up in other relationships in this person’s life.

Healing the mother wound is essential to moving forward to living a life for you. As you heal, you will grow and you will begin to feel a greater sense of self that is worthy of protecting.

Validating the inner child is the first step in healing the mother wound. Moving toward reparenting yourself will give your inner child the validation it desperately needs, yet never received from your mother.

Validating the inner child is the first step in healing the mother wound. Moving toward reparenting yourself will give your inner child the validation it desperately needs, yet never received from your mother.

It will not be easy to heal. There will be set backs along the way. The good knees is, the generational cycle of the mother wound can end with you, mama.

For more information on healing from an emotionally absent mother, I highly recommend this book.

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