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How to Benefit From This Amazingly Simple Emotional Dropping Technique

Val is a life-long student of unexplored human potential and many challenges that self-honesty throws at us on that path.


You cannot have a positive life with a negative mind.

-- Joyce Meyer

Learning to Speak the Language That Body Understands

During my many experiments where I used myself as a guinea pig, I put to a test my little intuitive theory that a symbolic mental motion of "dropping" an unwanted emotion should have been more effective than the symbolism of "letting go", which was everywhere in the self-help literature.

As I studied brain and its functions, I found out that its right hemisphere is operating on symbols, metaphors, imagination, creativity, and emotions -- while the left hemisphere was dealing with logical thinking, language, calculations, abstract concepts, and in short, those practicalities of everyday living.

That gave me an idea that I had to address my right hemisphere with the language that it only understands, if I wanted to effect some emotional changes. With me it must have been easier because I was already a lefty, meaning that my right hemisphere was already more active than the left one.

You might have noticed how in many of my articles I like using metaphors.

That line of thinking led me to this very useful and very doable technique of dropping the unwanted emotions, because dropping symbolized a mental motion that was the most telling of what I wanted to be done in my emotional dynamism.

Why I was not satisfied with "letting go".

To "let" means to "allow", and to me it sounded too much like I would be giving a choice to my crappy emotions to either go or to stay. As if telling them: "You are allowed to go -- if you choose so".

I thought of those stubborn bad emotions as having a good grip on my mood, and the only good symbolism that came to mind was one of "unclenching and dropping".

So I playfully took my pen and imagined it to be my lousy emotion, clenched it in my hand -- and dropped it. I was delighted how well it worked.

Of course, if you decide to try the technique, you won't have to drop any object from your hand -- it's simply that our emotional brain "empathizes" with the symbolism of dropping, whether we actually drop something physically, or we just imagine the action of dropping.

Funny, many years later I was watching an instructional video about so called "Sedona Method", and the presenter was actually demonstrating it by dropping a pen.

However, it was in the context of something more elaborate and "left-brain", so, while it must have worked for many people, I liked my dropping technique better, because it doesn't involve any verbal any "persuasion", but a clear cut order for bad emotions to get lost.


I've learned to ignore the negative people and just be a living example of confidence and self-love.

-- Khoudia Diop

Repetition Is Everything

The most effective feature of the dropping technique is that it has to come in some consecutive mental motions of dropping. The more dense, the better. Let me explain.

Just making a single mental motion of dropping may do all the magic with some people, but depending on the stubbornness of the unwanted emotions, it's more likely that such motions have to be repeated.

So you look inside, spot that negative emotion and drop it. It's like you just knocked it down in the ring and now you don't want to give it any time to get up. Don't bother counting to ten. See what's left of it, and drop that.. then do it again...and again -- for a few minutes.

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You see, brain loves its status quo, and I could probably write a book about how much it loves it. Over a long time it has created its comfort zone, better say, its addiction to a certain model of emoting.

Then we come with this "violating" mental act of dropping its favorite contents -- so, unless we show the brain -- with some repeating -- that we mean business, it's bound to just laugh at us, like saying: "Hey, you can't be serious".

That is why I am talking so much about repetition.

Well, not so many people are very introspective, meaning aware of what they feel, mostly switched on their autopilot and just pissed, probably even finding half a dozen of outside things to blame for it. That places them in a reactive, not a proactive mode of functioning where they would do something -- like drooping -- about it..

Thus, since we are mostly not showing enough eagerness to do something instantly about those emotions, such drastic measures are not included in our mental routines.

With this dropping technique we are likely to also make it our habit to get in touch with what we feel. Remember that favorite question by every therapist as they are going together through the patient's past: "How does that make you feel?

The idea behind that being, that they dig out some emotionally charged material from the patient's past, and by making it conscious, they are hopefully resolving it with this updated, more mature views on life.

But I am not expecting anyone to dig into their past -- I actually find it counterproductive, from the perspective of modern neuroscience, which clearly states that "brain cells that fire together -- wire together". Thus, I am not in favor of such refreshing the past experiences, which also means their reinforcement.

The idea of dropping is all about a new brain's algorithms, new neural pathways which will eventually make it habitual to automatically drop the crappy emotions.

Didn't mean to go so technical about all of it, but it all really boils down to that imaginary "emotional pen" being dropped, and dropped repeatedly.

I've always believed that you can think positive just as well as you can think negative.

-- James Baldwin

Spiritual Rebirth of Michelangelo's "David"

Back there in time, I got something like an epiphany of a sudden gut-discovery how everything was droppable.

As soon as we get that deep conviction that the whole life is actually but a state of mind, we are up to grasping this incredibly liberating truism that we have a choice to give our life a suchness as we want -- just by dropping what we don't want in it.

I have used this anecdote elsewhere within some similar context, but it will be also relevant here.

Allegedly, Michelangelo was asked how he had made the sculpture of "David". The great sculptor said: "Quite simply -- I took a granite block and chipped off everything that was not David".

Just like some proverbs may have a bigger impact on us than a whole book, to me that little anecdote explained a lot. Namely, the Michelangelo's act of "chipping off", resonated pretty well with "dropping what we are not".

What happens deep within our personal energetic space is a sudden emergence of a better version of ourselves, as if it was merely waiting for some vacant space to manifest itself.


If you are in any doubt about that "better you" as already coexisting somewhere within your personal space along with your "everyday you" -- try to think in terms of your intuition, that smart inner voice, a "guardian angel", or just that "gut feeling".

Try to see how you don't have to develop anything new that's not already in you. Not by adding, but by subtracting that what we are not, do we make that attunement into our best version.

Indeed, people are so often obsessing about some sophisticated methodology which might instill a better model of psycho-physical functioning into their computer's hardware.

But none of that is necessary. Remember, it didn't take us any complex techniques to emotionally become what we are today,

So, whatever mind can do -- mind can undo.

Instead of learning something new, it's about unlearning something old, by dropping the fragments of the old self structure, until the new one replaces it spontaneously.

That by the simple principle of body's constant seeking ways to heal itself, which is made possible by dropping its obstacles in that natural tendency.

Like the old sages are saying: "It depends on little hinges to which side the door opens" -- suggesting that something as apparently insignificant as dropping technique may result with some big changes.

Indeed, those biggest life truisms may actually involve something simple -- something like dropping from our emotional stature everything that we are not.

Like becoming a chiseled masterpiece of an invisible genetic sculptor.

© 2022 Val Karas

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