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Does the Law of Attraction Truly Work? Here’s My Story.

I am a bibliophile who loves to read about new concepts and ideas. The next step almost always involves testing them out in real life.

The First Time..

I stumbled upon the law of attraction for the first time many years ago - when a family friend paid us a surprise visit. We were having an intense discussion about our issues, and it was then that he told us about the law of attraction. He believed in the power of manifestation and he said he used it to his advantage to get what he wanted.

So what is the law of attraction all about?

It is all about manifesting your dreams with creative visualizations and positive thinking. Wikipedia explains this new thought philosophy in the best possible way.

So what is the law of attraction?

Advocates generally combine cognitive reframing techniques with affirmations and creative visualization to replace limiting or self-destructive ("negative") thoughts with more empowered, adaptive ("positive") thoughts. A key component of the philosophy is the idea that in order to effectively change one's negative thinking patterns, one must also "feel" (through creative visualization) that the desired changes have already occurred.

— Wikipedia

My Family Friend's Success Story

Even if the law of attraction is largely considered a pseudoscience, there are many out there who ardently believe in the concept, including my family friend. He believed in it because he had ample success with the law of attraction.

For instance, his daughter (let's call her Annie) was having an issue finding the right partner. She searched all over - registering on dating sites, meeting people - but still, love seemed to elude her. This was a worrying factor for all. Her family wanted to see her happy. She felt incomplete without a partner. He then suggested his favourite book - "The Law of Attraction: The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham" - by Esther Hicks and Jerry Hicks. “It worked for me,” he said. “You should try it too.”

Annie's Creative Visualizations

Annie read the book and decided to use the power of her subconscious mind to manifest things that she coveted. In this case, love. She started thinking daily about getting married to the right guy, right before sleep. She visualized the whole process - the dress she was wearing, getting married in the presence of loved ones, the whole event with its decor. She pictured every minute detail, exactly the way she wanted her wedding to be.

This is a manifestation technique followed in a lot of law of attraction books - to visualize what you seek. As you sleep, thinking these thoughts, they make their way to your subconscious mind. The belief is that when your goals are deeply set in your mind, you work towards them, without even realizing it. The more you think about your goal (in an optimistic way), the more you subconsciously work towards it, and the closer you are to achieving your dreams.

It worked for Annie – she got married in 6 months.

Optimism is Key

I say you have to be optimistic because as per the law of attraction, the universe considers even negative thoughts as a dream to be fulfilled.

When you give all your energy to a thought like “I do not want this to happen to me,” you invite that very incident into your life. Why? Because you are giving your whole attention to it. The universal energy and the law of attraction does not understand “I do not want” and “I do want”. It takes into context the whole sentence and gives you what you are focusing on.

How many of us have gone “I knew this would happen!” when something bad happens to us? The irony is that, according to the law of attraction, we were subconsciously inviting that very incident into our lives by constantly thinking and worrying about it. This means, it is not your 6th sense or instinct that predicted this event, but it is your own thoughts that invited this dreaded event into your life.

Annie thought only positive thoughts. She steadfastly believed in her dream, like it already happened, and the law of attraction worked for her.

You must be familiar with this ever-famous quote by Paulo Coelho.

“When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it. Each thing has to transform itself into something better, and to acquire a new Personal Legend, until, someday, the Soul of the World becomes one thing only.”

— Paulo Coelho

My Law of Attraction Story Begins Here..

After this intense discussion on the law of attraction and the power of manifestation, I was curious. I wanted to know more. I got the "The Law of Attraction: The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham" book by Esther Hicks and Jerry Hicks. I bought 2 other books based on the same concept – “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne and “The Power of the Subconscious Mind” by Joseph Murphy. I was mesmerized by the examples, philosophy, and the thought process behind it. I am all about positivity, and this book endorsed it.

I decided to give it a try. I was ready to send my “signals” to the universe. So I decided on a couple of goals, one after the other, to test out the law of attraction.

Goal #1: I want the markets to rise and my mutual fund portfolio to do well.

Manifestation technique used: Think passionately about the end-result like it has already happened – “The market has risen. My portfolio is doing incredibly well. I am making so much money. I am rich.”

Result: I guess I thought about it so passionately that the universe could not handle it - because the market crashed for 6 days in a row after that.

Goal #2 (a simpler one): I want it to stop raining before I go out.

Affirmations used: Think passionately about the end-result – “The rain has stopped. I can now go out and finish off some chores.”

Result: The rain did stop! I used this a couple of times successfully. I started wondering if the law of attraction worked only on rainfall.

Goal #3 (coz, why not?): I am living a happy life with my partner.

Affirmations used: “My partner and I are enjoying a beautiful life together. His mom likes me now. Things are fine. Everything is A-OK.”

Result: Again, too much passion. I empathize with the universe that has to deal with all this raging, passionate energy of mine. I and my partner split up soon after.

Goal #4 – I am not yet sure.

I am still thinking about it considering the mixed signals I am getting from the universe by following the law of attraction as closely as possible.

I now feel like we, the universe and I, are in a complicated, hot-cold relationship. Sometimes the law of attraction works, sometimes it doesn’t.

I want to tell the universe - “It’s not you, it’s me” - but then that would just be a big, terrible lie.

So does the law of attraction really work?

Not for me. But maybe your manifestation power and creative visualizations are better than mine?

A better method would be to list out all the things you want (like a grocery list) and hand it over to the universe (say it in your mind, because you can't technically hand it over - but you know that already). Let the universe decide what is most healthy for you.

You might not end up getting what you want, but what is best for you. The universe is kind that way.

This content reflects the personal opinions of the author. It is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and should not be substituted for impartial fact or advice in legal, political, or personal matters.

© 2020 Kalpana Iyer

Comments

Kalpana Iyer (author) from India on November 06, 2020:

Haha yes, the Indian markets are doing well right now :) Maybe there was a transmission delay? I am not complaining!

You might be right about focusing on the bad things about my partner. I guess I was. My want totally contradicted with how I felt. A lot of negative feelings.

Thank you for commenting, SK!

Kalpana Iyer (author) from India on November 06, 2020:

Thank you for commenting, Vanita. I have read The Secret too. In all these books, they mention that everything (even the extreme negatives) happens because of the person's own negative thoughts. I find this is a little unfair because no one wants to invite ugly things into their lives. If our own thoughts define the way things happen, maybe we can negate these negative thoughts, by thinking they won't happen. A counteractive thought.

S K from Mumbai, India on November 06, 2020:

Hi Kalpana,

Nice article.

When I first came across the "Law of Attraction", I instantly found a resemblance to the Bible quote "Ask, and you shall receive". Believe what you have asked in prayer, and it will be done. So, I was sold on. Yes, it took time for making things happen, but it did.

Anyway, just curious, aren't the markets doing well? (I presume you are in India). Because of you, it worked for us too. :)

Too much passion is the need for Law of Attraction. Not just saying or writing down but also feeling it. So, you just have to check if you were asking for a partner or focused on what was not good about the partner. Either way, it is an interesting and exciting journey!

Have fun! :)

Vanita Thakkar on November 06, 2020:

Interesting article and experiments, Kalpana. Enjoyed reading it.

Couple of years back, an elderly fan and well-wisher of mine - a very adorable gentle lady - had brought the book - "The Secret" to me, with strong recommendations that I read it and get help to overcome all the troubles that I might be facing or I am likely to come across .... I had read some pages, perhaps and then, I had to return it as she wanted to share it with someone else ....

I do believe in the power of positivity, optimism and determination. But, I am not sure how well the methods and concepts given in such books work.

However, I am pretty sure the Universe is much more Intelligent and Gracious than what the book seems to be saying - .... the Universe considers our negative thoughts as our aspirations and bestows them upon us .... Such statements raise a valid question - Do the victims of murder or any such heinous crimes "attract" their misfortunes ? In that case, the sole responsibility of all their sufferings would be on their own "negative thoughts" and the culprit would be just a puppet of the victim's negative thoughts ....

The Laws of Universe are perhaps much more subtle and more dynamic than how we reason them out and understand them.

Kalpana Iyer (author) from India on November 06, 2020:

I know, I have had mixed results with the law of attraction, but I believe there is something. The experiments were written only for the purpose to make someone smile. I am glad you enjoyed it, Peggy!

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on November 05, 2020:

Some people truly believe in the law of attraction. I smiled when I read your results. Perhaps we should all start thinking positive thoughts about the end of COVID-19.

Kalpana Iyer (author) from India on October 19, 2020:

Thank you Prithviraj!

Prithviraj Shirole from India on October 19, 2020:

That was an engaging read. It was an informative and interesting read. Thanks a lot for sharing your experiences about the laws of attraction.

Kalpana Iyer (author) from India on October 17, 2020:

Thank you, Ankita. Yes, the law of attraction is very interesting. If you read any of the books, you will be motivated to give it a try yourself.

Ankita B on October 17, 2020:

Interesting article. I never really thought about the law of attraction but your article gave me a whole new perception. Wonderfully written and truly engaging.

Kalpana Iyer (author) from India on October 17, 2020:

Thank you Chitrangada for taking time out to comment! Yes, you are absolutely right. Perceptions change as we age.

Chitrangada Sharan from New Delhi, India on October 17, 2020:

Nice and interesting read regarding the law of attraction.

There can be different opinions about this. Personally, I have seen that, as we mature, there is a change in perception. From obsession to understanding and accepting things, as they are.

This is a well written and engaging article. Thanks for sharing.

Kalpana Iyer (author) from India on October 09, 2020:

Thank you Sowrabha! Glad you enjoyed it. Yes, I wanted to bring a bit of humour into the whole thing. Because personally it cracks me up a lot - how things contradict themselves sometimes.

sowspeaks from Bengaluru on October 09, 2020:

Hi Kalpana, simply loved this lighthearted take on the law of attraction. Sometimes all this can seem overwhelming. There are so many contradictory concepts that one can get confused. Absolutely loved your humor though !

Kalpana Iyer (author) from India on October 08, 2020:

That's awesome. Simple goals are the best, Bill. It is something that we learn over the years - that we need so little to be happy. I am learning to trust that.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on October 08, 2020:

My goal is a simple one. Live a life of integrity and love. So far so good, and as long as I keep that my focus, all is good in my life.

Kalpana Iyer (author) from India on October 07, 2020:

Yes, probably. There are so many concepts that contradict each other. The Law of Attraction tells you not to have any negative thoughts whereas meditation techniques tell you to embrace all thoughts (but not get absorbed). Ultimately, it is about choosing the technique that resonates most with you. Thanks for taking the time out to comment, Rajan!

Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on October 07, 2020:

The concept of positive thinking reminds me of the book I read a long time ago "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill. It's all about the theory you talk about in this article.

I, however, do believe a burning desire for something and actually living it out as if it is already with you does work in getting you what you want. The failure, if any, is one's own lack of perseverance and not of the concept.

Kalpana Iyer (author) from India on October 04, 2020:

Yes! Sometimes I believed in my manifestation techniques. Sometimes I didn't. Maybe the failures I had with the law of attraction was because I did not believe in it enough? I am not sure. But it is interesting to give a try. Nothing to lose.

Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on October 04, 2020:

I dabbled in this a long time ago with some success. Maybe, you need to want it so much. I have some that never materialized, but I think it is because I often forget to do it. It is not that important, I suppose.

Kalpana Iyer (author) from India on October 04, 2020:

Thank you for visiting my article on the law of attraction, Hertha! Totally agree with your comment.

Hertha David from Windhoek, Namibia on October 03, 2020:

One always gets what they truly deserve. Indeed a good article.