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Dealing With Failure of Our Health

Pertunia Lehoka is a wife and mother of two, She is an Author, a Speaker and a Relationship Coach



Dealing with our own mortality is one of the hardest things that any of us can go through. A lot of people feel that they are as good and tough as steel, but then something unexpected happens and they find out that they aren’t as healthy as they thought they were.

Often times, serious illnesses, like cancer, will not just creep up on you. There are always little signs to go by and it is usually too late to deal with the disease when it’s discovered. There are people who are dealing with a number of chronic illnesses, like hypertension, diabetes, asthma, cancer and other rare diseases. Sometimes these people are often advised to stay on medication for the rest of their lives and failure to adhere to instructions, may literally mean that their lives will hang in the balance. I am also one of those people, who is on chronic medication – so are many members of my family, including friends.

For those who are seriously ill and dealing with the fact that death is possible and might also be imminent, provided they use their remaining time to really sort their lives out and make amends where they need to, I implore you today, to do this as soon as possible, as this not only affects you but those who love you and will be badly affected by your demise. It is of no use being in denial about your health issues as humans are not immortal. Remember that humans, like every living creature do age. It is really very unwise to hold a view that while you acknowledge and believe that we age, fail to also believe in some or all of the organs no longer functioning as well as they used to when you were still very young.

At times, it may not even be diseases that simply crept into our lives. However, these may include some of the sicknesses we might have inherited from our parents or grandparents etc. The sad thing about genes is that, we can never wish them away, as DNA is pretty much the cornerstone of all humans. By the same token, one needs to do everything one can and should, to gain more time with those we love.

Bear in mind that once you begin suffering as a result of neglect of your health, even if your loved ones may inadvertently suffer with you, they will inwardly chastise you for placing them in that situation where they now have to nurse you and in a way, interrupt their lives. This is a sad state of affairs I know, but it is a reality.

Take an example of a person who drinks alcohol a lot and despite family, friends and colleagues constantly warning this person of his/her consumption of alcohol, he/she refuses to listen as “everyone is doing it”. The day his/her liver gives in as a result of alcohol poisoning, sympathy is required from the very same people who had been trying to avoid the situation they now find themselves in. Often times, once these people begin falling seriously ill, they can rarely keep up with payments of their medical bills, which will then mean that family has to constantly step in. Once again, this is something they were trying to avoid and something you could have avoided too.

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It is very unwise and selfish to place other people in that situation – everyone should take care of themselves and not place their health and lives in danger unnecessarily. Each person needs to take this time to make some serious after-death arrangements, because you wouldn’t want to leave your family and friends with the burden of running around digging deeper into their pockets, just to bury you or making all the decisions you otherwise could and should have made, had you governed your life better.

Although, this is such a grim topic, it is still vital to speak to others about how we feel and how much we need them to be there to support us in our time of need. Unfortunately though, something that we all have to go through is to die alone. Obviously we cannot request anybody to die for us or with us – the thought of it can even make your skin recoil. However, we don’t have to go through all the other stages leading up to our demise alone.

We should constantly pray and actively work towards looking well after our health, take this time to deal with our mortality and begin living our lives in full. Nobody knows the day and time when they will depart this earth and the nature thereof.

This content reflects the personal opinions of the author. It is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and should not be substituted for impartial fact or advice in legal, political, or personal matters.

© 2022 Pertunia Lehoka

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