Kiran Khannas a Nuclear Engineer, a die-hard blogger, and writes an article on personality/skills development for the leadership roles.
Sit down and review your day spent. You will find 80% probably more of your attention in the form of your conversations with others and with yourself went into the past or future. When you live in the past or future in conversation or thought it means you are not fully present at the moment and when you missed the moment you miss your life because life can only live this moment in the now.
Do a little exercise for this one hour with your friend, spouse or family members. You will not talk about anything that has already passed or will not talk about anything that has not happened. It is conscious attention on not talking past or future, and after some time you will realize there was nothing much to talk about and just looking at each other and said, “what do we talk about?”
We talk about the past for which we do not have control or influence to change. Past is over FULL STOP. It is difficult but not impossible. Ever since you have your senses, you have learned past is past, but still, we talk about the past. Time is actually not the best healer unless you make efforts to heal the wound quickly with ointments.
Do not worry, it is with everyone you are not alone. Me, you and everyone face this today or tomorrow. We have the knowledge but not aware of how to control the moment.
3 minutes Mantra that can change your life
1 Minute that has PAST (Not in your CONTROL)
1 Minute NOW (In your Control)
1 Minute is yet to come (Not in your CONTROL)
Control your 3 minutes right now by always attempting to live in the present moment, not spoiling by thoughts of past or what will happen. Do this again and again, trust me, your life change right now…since YOU control your present minute.
You can live your life without being in the present moment, nothing wrong in this but my friend it is depleting your energy for something beyond your control or influence.
You proudly say “I will never forget the hurt given to me”, what are you achieving ask your self. Every time you think about this, you will say they should not have done this to me or they should not have hurt me like this. You gain nothing.
What are you doing, you are wasting your present 1 moment for something for which we do not have the influence to change? If something bad happens to you, does that mean you keep thinking about this for the rest of your life?
Control your environment
Control your environment
Learn from past experience and MOVE ON… otherwise, you will keep depleting your energy by rewinding your past… no more chat on the past over the dinner or at the coffee table. You need to move on and take control of this 1 minute.
Be strict on changing the environment, Act Now at this moment
Once you attempt to FULL STOP your past, others will also not start this even though they want to enjoy this conversation for no reason.
So your past is unpleasant but do not allow this present 1 minute be unpleasing, instead attempt to make it pleasing so that next 1 minute of the future is beautiful with this thought.
“Everything-including love, hate and suffering- need food to continue. If suffering continues, it’s because we keep feeding our suffering. To live in the present moment is a miracle. The miracle is not to walk on water. The miracle is to walk on the green earth in the present moment, to appreciate the peace and beauty that are available now.” Thich Nhat Hanh.
Two most difficult past
1. Past relationship that hurts you
2. Loss of your dear one
For the relationship, you can make efforts to revive, but once you make your best attempt, do not force the relationship for the survival. Bless the relationship and move forward. Easy said than done, I know, but this is the best solution for the present moment.
Loss of the dear one and the memories attached are good and motivating to you but difficult to get rid of, if you made yourself guilty. This is toughest past if you know you have hurt the departed soul and this feeling will haunt you forever. Difficult but again not impossible, apply 3 minutes strategy.
Bhagwat Gita says, “Whatever happened, happened for the good. Whatever is happening is happening for the good. Whatever will happen, will also happen for the good,”
Why I Am writing this blog, everyone knows this — Is not it? But if reading this and one connects to this, can help control 3 minutes of his life, will make me happy.
Budha Law of Cause and Effect- Your Karma
Accept whatever has happened to you in the past. Nothing ever happens to you unless you deserve it. You receive exactly what you earn, whether it is good or bad. You are the way you are now because of the things you have done in the past. Same apply to the one who has hurt you that’s their Karma. Our thoughts and actions determine the life you can have. If you do good things, good things will happen to you. So bless the one who has hurt you in the past. ( Difficult but do this to help you implement 3 minutes). If you think of revenge, you will not at peace. Every moment you create new karma by what you say, do, and think. If you understand this, you need not fear karma. It becomes your friend. It teaches you to create a bright future.
Another beautiful thought
“If you are depressed, you are living in the past, if you are anxious, you are living in the future, if you are at peace, you are living in the present.” Lao Tzu.
Learn to focus only on the present. The past is unchangeable, so it is futile to reflect on it unless you are making sure you do not repeat mistakes. The future is but a result of your action today. So learn from the past to do better in the present so that you can succeed in the future.” Jordan Lejuwaan
- Be mindful of your 3 minutes by BE IN PRESENT.
- Change your environment
- Accept past Karma and take control of Present and Future.
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kiran khannas (author) from GURGAON on September 30, 2020:
Thank you Eric
Eric Dierker from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A. on September 27, 2020:
Most excellent. Very good points. I will set my intentions to do more good today.