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A Celebration of Life, Not a Mourning of Death

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I love everything weird and colorful in this world and I try to live a live that will make the world a little better once I'm gone.

Remember Them As They Were

A traditional funeral service with black suits and quiet church music and people gathered around a casket or urn, is okay for some, but it is not favorable for many people. Sometimes mourning a life just doesn't feel right. Life should be celebrated. It is a special day when people who loved a person gather together and celebrate their life, happily, and remember the person as they were...alive, and vibrant.

Plan an Event that Celebrates their Live and their Loves

Each person is different - has different passions and different loves - so why should every funeral be the same? Look to their life for ideas on how best to celebrate it.

Plan a celebration of life full of the music THEY loved - not the music you loved. If they love bluegrass, play bluegrass, but if they loved jazz don't push your bluegrass on their day. Remember the life you are celebrating. Fill the event with the things they loved - photos, images, and videos they held closest. Music, foods, colors that THEY loved.

Planning a Celebration of Life, A Simple Guide for Turning a Memorial Service into a Celebration of Life

If you are planning a celebration of life rather then a somber funeral, you will want to pick up this book. It tells you all you need to know. I recommend this book over others on the topic because I feel like it provides the right information and tone for a person dealing with grief and approaching the daunting task of planning a memorial, plus it emphasizes tips to make it a celebration to honor the life they lived and not just to mourn the loss.

Video Clips

View some celebrations honoring the lives of loved ones.

Music is usually a big of any Celebration of Life. Chose music in the style they loved. Chose songs that well represent them. And chose music that isn't just sad. Upbeat songs can give a few smiles on a day when smiles are hard.

Concentrate on how they lived, not on how they died

Remember The LIFE They Had

Sometimes death is a sudden tragedy, and sometimes it is a long expected one. Do not let the death of a person impede on the circumstances of their memorial. Celebrate their LIFE.

Celebration of Life Links - Sites to help you plan your Memorial Celebration

Africa Celebrates

Not sure you can celebrate?

If you are not sure whether you can celebrate, then you need to come to grips with the fact that death will come. It is inevitable. It may be sudden, or well foreseen. Either way, death is a time to remember life. If you think you will not make it though a celebration of life memorial, or you need to help someone else who is not ready, pick up a book to help you through.

Final celebrations is a great book to help you in the planning process. You may want to consider another on coping with the death of a loved one and the mourning process.

He Was a Good Man, But Now He's Gone - by M. Ward

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Jean Bakula from New Jersey on April 05, 2018:

I recently lost a dear friend of 35 yrs., he had a fatal heart attack at 53. He was also my son's Godfather. He had just been taking good care of himself, he had stents put in his heart, and his diabetes was getting under control.

He was the kindest and non judgmental person I ever met. He lived on our one lane road in the woods. He spent much time fishing, riding his ATV, hunting and just always being outside.

We did a celebration of life, filled with greenery, plants, a big bottle of his favorite beer, and it was so beautiful. The urn was green, but mixed in with all the greenery and candles, it was perfect. A few hours after he passed, a group of our friends saw an eagle circle his house, look back, and fly away. We think it was his Spirit being freed.

Johna88 on September 14, 2014:

Very interesting subject , appreciate it for posting . All human beings should try to learn before they die what they are running from, and to, and why. by James Thurber. cgaekcfbdcdd

Vortrek Grafix on February 06, 2014:

Yes, by all means - better to remember the dearly departed in a happy context. It's better for the soul to celebrate life, rather than mourn death. Our loved ones who have passed on understand that we will grieve but they would want the best for us, and they know prolonged sorrow is not a good thing. Going forth in life a better person for having know the departed is a grand way of honoring them

Meganhere on October 11, 2013:

What a great topic! When my father died we didn't have a funeral, we just had a wake, where all of those who knew and loved him got together, had some food and drinks and remembered him. It's what he wanted, so we honoured that.

Anja Toetenel from The Hague, the Netherlands on September 04, 2013:

Great topic and Lens Kab! I would never want people to be sad when I'm gone. It should be a party! With nice food and drinks and cheerful music or so. We all will be dead one day. I'm not afraid to leave this body. And who knows... we might come back or so. At least I think there is more between heaven and Earth, what this "more" exactly is and/or looks like? I have no idea. But I'm sure life doesn't end after leaving the physical body. And in the worst case there is nothing... well, no problem too, we won't know it then... So no reason for black suits etc. You gave us some great suggestions! Thank you!

mina009 on July 17, 2013:

When a sudden death comes or a death at a very young age I am not sure whether especially the closest people will have as a first thought in their mind to celebrate life or would even think what style of funeral would be better. Still, I understand your concept.

anonymous on July 04, 2013:

I am trying to find out if my sisters urn needs to be present at a celerbration of life?. She has left no plans but does want her ashes scatered two places but my mom wants a sevice at a third location. Also mom is paying for everything and has some notition she will be paid back.

Girlwiththorns on April 25, 2013:

A great topic that is so often taboo. I definitely want my funeral to be a celebration for my loved ones left behind...

netwriter4hire on February 26, 2013:

Your lens is uplifting! I love your spirit concerning grief. I think you might like my view of grief. squidoo.com/past-grief I think that death should be a celebration.

ChroniclesofaWa on February 10, 2013:

Great lens, very well said. When I die, I would like them to celebrate that I lived and not mourn about my death. You just gave me a wonderful thought to ponder on. :)

anonymous on January 05, 2013:

Interesting. I like the Dr Seuss quote aswel. We should actually celebrate life and death, not because someone died, but in some cases, because they are not suffering anymore.

CristianStan on November 11, 2012:

Mourning should be because you miss the psychical presence of the person

Lori Green from Las Vegas on October 23, 2012:

The best funeral I have been to was not a funeral. It was a memorial and the body wasn't even there in any form. Nobody sat around crying. We all got up and spoke funny stories about the person. I left that day with a good feeling and decided I never want a funeral. At the memorial we released butterflies and then later on some of us went to a mountain top to sprinkle the ashes. The ashes blew up toward the sky and sparkled. Then again so did the person.

Tea Pixie on October 13, 2012:

I love your Dr. Seuss quote. I am so with you on this. Thank you so much for creating this article - I believe in celebrating life, before and after death.

Rose Jones on August 27, 2012:

What an amazing and touching lens. I could not stand to watch all of the videos, as my sister is dying, but what I saw tells me that you picked very well. blessed - because you have blessed so many publishing this lens.

Leah J. Hileman from East Berlin, PA, USA on August 23, 2012:

Celebration of life is such an important perspective to hold. We who are Christians are in fact commanded to not grieve as though we are hopeless because we hold the hope of eternal life through faith. But even people who do not have faith or are unsure of the hereafter can (and should) do their best to appreciate life and memory of those who go before us.

TwistedWiseman on August 22, 2012:

I am grateful that my granddad died a painless death, no suffering or illness.

We should celebrate life not moan about death.

SteveKaye on August 03, 2012:

It's better to make the most of the moment that you're in because that's where you are.

anonymous on July 27, 2012:

A life should always be celebrated, I totally agree. It makes living much more enjoyable than mourning. ~ Blessed again!

gadgetchecker on July 23, 2012:

Really nice lens, something which is often cloaked in sorrow and loss, which is right, but really as you say needs to capture the person, celebrate the life and remember the happy times. the loss and sadness remains for a long time though...

cmadden on July 19, 2012:

The Dr. Seuss quote says it well!

anonymous on July 08, 2012:

I think that having a celebration makes the loss a lot easier because you are focusing on the positive things in the person's life. The tears come when you remember that you lost them but then you can smile when you remember the good times you had with them. Great lens - thanks!

myamya on July 08, 2012:

Great lens,nicely done! Squidlike

MissMissylue LM on June 11, 2012:

Thank you for sharing your story. I am currently dealing with the loss of a loved one and was glad I found your article during a search. I loved the Dr. Seuss quote.

Kathryn Wallace from Greenbank, WA, USA on June 10, 2012:

I read the NY Times obituary for Elizabeth Zimmerman, an imaginative and inspirational knitter. The young person who wrote it didn't know how to knit but researching EZ's life prompted her to learn, and she included one of EZ's knitting patterns in the obit. I'm aiming for that...and a lot of singing and laughing. Oh, and thanks for the thumbs up on my new lens, much appreciated!

madnessmerritt on June 07, 2012:

100% right on. I have attended more then my fair share, each different and each based on the person. I have started a list of suggestions I know emotion can cloud judgement so helpful tools are great to akaken the joy that you were apart of their life.

ITWorksInc LM on June 06, 2012:

Definitely agree with you and CountrySunshine-a person's passing should be mourned with a celebration of that person's life.

Country Sunshine from Texas on May 31, 2012:

I've always believed that a funeral or memorial service should be more positive. When my husband died, we had a somewhat traditional service. But we released helium balloons afterwards, and then had a BBQ. Time enough to feel sad later!

A really nice article... and the Dr. Seuss quote says it all!

psoriasistreatment7 on May 04, 2012:

We should celebrate everyday of our lives and then others can celebrate our lives at our funerals!!

Stephen Bush from Ohio on May 02, 2012:

Thank you for this celebration of life. Perhaps the celebrating should start sooner rather than later (as in before death).

anonymous on April 19, 2012:

"Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened." What a wonderful thought. May we celebrate life!

Darcie French from Abbotsford, BC on April 10, 2012:

I love the Dr Seuss quote - indeed all aspects of life happen so thus are worthy of celebration. This includes death.

KateHonebrink on April 09, 2012:

A well-lived life deserves to be celebrated! Thoughtful, insightful lens. Great job!

Miha Gasper from Ljubljana, Slovenia, EU on March 31, 2012:

You are absolutely right. We should celebrate life, death is only part of it. thanks for beautiful lens!

K Bechand from NY on March 09, 2012:

beautiful way to think of things. I work in a nursing home and I can see how this outlook could really help people.

anonymous on February 20, 2012:

Does anyone knows when did obituaries start to appear in newspapers? I would also like to know about wedding and birth announcements?

anonymous on January 25, 2012:

I loved the text at the beginning! You put in simple words a very complex idea which I think should spread! Funerals as we know them shouldn't exist anymore!

Sharon Berry from Michigan on January 24, 2012:

Very nicely done. I share your thoughts about celebrating ones life. Remember, we will always have the memories.

SecondHandJoe LM on January 12, 2012:

New Orleans always had the right idea. I do both though mourn. . . then celebrate! Loved the videos and the article!

Ram Ramakrishnan on December 31, 2011:

We grieve at someone's death primarily for ourselves - not for the departed. If we were to shift our focus - as it ought to be, then the occasion could indeed be a celebration - perhaps a little muted, but still one.

anonymous on December 31, 2011:

In some of our traditions, death at a ripe old age is much celebrated. And according to many teachings from the ancient scriptures from India, birth is to be abhorred and death to be celebrated, for the liberation of the soul. Nice thoughts and well presented! :)

CanInsure on December 29, 2011:

I love the Africa video. It's important to focus on a lifetime of memories rather than focus on the event of death. I've lost a few loved ones and I always try to remember the good times. Thanks for sharing.

Tamara14 on December 28, 2011:

I honestly dislike the tradition of wearing black and mourning after a loved one passes because I don't think neither black clothes nor the sad funeral really stands for what's in people's hearts. The version with music and "celebrating" the fact of knowing that person seams more natural in a sense that live goes on.

mrducksmrnot on November 21, 2011:

Well done. As a loved one or friend passes on Life still goes on. How the departed helped us and touched our life lives on in each of us. How we keep their spirit and love alive is left up to those still living. What we do with that Love keeps our departed alive in everyone. Life is Beautiful. Share it with love, compassion and understanding as those who have departed would want us to do. Thanks for remembering the Love of Life itself.

RaintreeAnnie from UK on November 12, 2011:

You have done a wonderful job with this lens. Not always an easy subject to discuss bit a necessary one we all need to cope with. I love the idea of a celebration of life and I like the Dr Seuss quote. Thank you.

moonlitta on October 24, 2011:

As far as I can remember I've visited and blessed your lens already, but I'm doing it again, I believe my previous one has expired. A very difficult subject to talk, write, or even think about, you've done it wonderfully here.

viscri8 on October 16, 2011:

I actually made my Happy Coffin -- as I relate the same way to the important moment in one's life that one's own funeral is. I even have a lens about the Happy Coffin -- which is an artwork with an eventual functional purpose. I also think that that the past on person's personality should be celebrated and remembered for how it was -- one should not become the same with others -- just because it;s one's funeral.

WorldVisionary on October 08, 2011:

Excellent lens! Thanks for putting together such an uplifting lens - thumbs up and an Angel blessing for you. I also have a lens in this niche, called Condolence Message called Condolence Message Sample

EMangl on October 04, 2011:

I only know the "sad kind" but would enjoy more to go once to a funeral with music and dancing (alive surely!)

Kathryn Grace from San Francisco on September 25, 2011:

I agree. It is far better to celebrate the life and love shared when one of our own passes. May all who suffer grief be comforted, wherever they may be. Thank you for sharing this, for the Requiem video, and for the tips.

TapIn2U on September 24, 2011:

This reminded of somebody who passed away that I terribly miss. It's true that although we can't help but feel sad and grief over someone's passing, we should remember how they lived and celebrate it. Be happy that you were able to share a moment with that person here on earth. Fantastic lens! Sundae ;-)

GypsyPirate LM on September 22, 2011:

I love this. And, while I can never manage to not be sad at a funeral and wake, I do always try to remember why it is that I am going to miss the person and to celebrate that. Thanks for giving me a wonderful reminder!!

anonymous on August 31, 2011:

I am awaiting the passing of my mother who is only 66 years young. Her health is failing due to several unfortunate illnesses. Recently my wife gave birth to two beautiful twins girls. I had hoped that their birth would have spurred a bit more will to live and fight, but her desire to continue on has passed. When last i saw her, she asked if i would play her the song, Take my hand precious lord, as she wishes to be able to be free from her suffering and pain and this song is her way of asking God to help her pass.

While I am having a very hard time accepting this as she is the only parent I had and the memories of our time is very powerful, we have spoken before about me not mourning her, but celebrating her life and all the things she did and accomplished. Yet I find it difficult to see much of anything but loss as because she will not be a part of her granddaughters lives.

I pray that I find something in these books which helps me do as she asked, for she deserves this and so much more.

anonymous on August 29, 2011:

We must begin to "Celebrate the Life, Not the Loss." Many families have too many preconceptions of what a memorial should be. If religion or spirituality brings one comfort, than stick with tradition so that the beliefs or heritage are truly incorporated into the heart of a celebration. If tradition doesnât hold any appeal, then reinforce the freedom we have to find a new way to express the spirit and personality of the one you have lost.

Event planners who specialize in "funeral planning" and celebrations of life are beginning to emerge and it doesn't hurt to seek one out if only for a consultation.

anonymous on August 24, 2011:

You said it well, death is a celebration of life, look at what the person left behind, memories whether they were good or bad, they can be of great value. We choose how we celebrate those who have gone on. Thank you! I really enjoyed this. Have a wonderful week.

JackNimble on July 22, 2011:

I want people to throw a rip roaring party when I die. I might even start a saving fund to pay for it so no one else has to spend any money. Wouldn't that be cool to try to give in death as well.

Virginia Allain from Central Florida on July 03, 2011:

A neighbor had a Celebration of Life luncheon after her husband's death. Several people had prepared memories to read, so it was a touching event but less dreary than a traditional funeral.

MalcolmH on May 28, 2011:

I wholeheartedly agree with celebrating the life of a loved one, rather than being solemn and mournful.

I also find it helpful to reflect on why we die. If there was no death, the Earth would soon be fully populated with plants and animals. Then there could be no birth, no new life to celebrate. And on this Earth, there could be no carnivores, and the herbivores could only eat parts that did not kill the plant. There would be no deadly diseases either, and so no disease organisms. This greatly simplified ecosystem would probably be unstable!

Taking this argument a step further, if nothing ever died, there could be no change. Evolution to meet the challenges of natural variations in climate and living conditions would cease. And so, paradoxically, without death of individual organisms, life could not exist.

So death is the well-spring of life.

For a fuller discussion of these points, and a description of how the Findhorn Community celebrates the deaths of loved members, see my blog at http://www.humansolutionsnow.com/on-the-fear-of-de...

pimbels lm on May 28, 2011:

Very nice lens. I hated going to my husbands funeral. It's much easier, I find, to grieve but also celebrate that he was part of my life for a few years.

anonymous on May 25, 2011:

I like this lens its very inspriational we had two deaths recently the first was my mother-in-law which we aretrying to come to terms with as she died at home with us so everyone in the family experience death up close. Some weeks later we recently had to grapple with the death of my sister's fiancé which my wife and I witnessed as well in the hospital as we were there when he took he very LAST breath. On reflection we agree that both individual should be remembered as having gone on to someplace better which we will ultimately join them. Thanks for such a good lens this one truly hit home.

smithlights on May 25, 2011:

Great lens. My niece died a few weeks after she was born, and we talked a lot about this... sort of. Everyone was treating her like she was dying rather than being alive. I really challenged my brother and everyone else to treat her as alive as long as she was alive. It made a huge difference in how they viewed her and the memories they made of their daughter.

Mishael A Witty on May 23, 2011:

It really is a good idea to celebrate the life a person lived. You're right. Grief is a natural response to the death of a loved one, but we shouldn't let it stop us from remembering the wonderful life our loved one lived. My husband and I just took part in a celebration service for one of the members of our church. It was really beautiful!

dschandar on May 11, 2011:

Really like your lens and makes some motivation in life

Celebrating the life of a loved one is a deeply personal opportunity

LouisaDembul on May 09, 2011:

Even though it can be very difficult, remembering the way they lived is probably the best!

Linda Hahn from California on May 06, 2011:

Good lens subject. Death is right beside us.

anonymous on May 04, 2011:

Nice Article. I want a celebration when I go. Don't be sad for me because I am free of this life. My Wife, I am going to have to work on I think to get her to complete this task.

tssfacts on April 01, 2011:

Great article. Long time ago my parents told us kids exactly what they wanted when they passed on. One of their requirements was that we were to have a steak dinner with "the works" in celebration of their "home-going". I remember when Dad passed Mom and I did just that. Before Mom passed a couple months she reminded us of those instructions. It was a wonderful way to celebrate their lives. Couldn't leave with out giving a blessing from a SquidAngel.

ChemKnitsBlog2 on March 25, 2011:

Thank you for providing this resource. I'm at a point where many of my family members are aging to a point where I'm likely to experience a lot of loss in a short period of time. When someone lives until 102, it is certainly something to celebrate.

lens4Him on March 12, 2011:

I totally agree, when my wife died after a long battle with cancer we asked people - well basically ordered them :) - not to wear black at her funeral (which she and I had planned together in advance)

viscri8 on March 12, 2011:

Exactly. I made my Happy Coffin, a coffin painted by me. It is an artwork with a functional final purpose. It is supposed to be my final special outfit as I always like to wear things that are unique and suit my body and personality. Why should it be different when I last participate in an important event? I should be remembered as I used to be! But till then, keep well!

SylviaRolfe on March 05, 2011:

Celebrating life is an excellent idea. I never was fond of funerals and the idea of mourning someones death. I would rather remember them for who they were and what they meant to me.

UKGhostwriter on March 05, 2011:

Many of us are selfish in letting go and celebrating a life passed

Obscure_Treasures on February 28, 2011:

It is difficult stick to this philosophy still this should be the ideal philosophy of life - celebration of life!

priscillab on February 25, 2011:

Often we do mourn death and forget to celebrate the life that was. I think sometimes it can be justified when the person is taken tragically or the shock is too much to bear. I do believe in a celebration of life whenever possible. The whole process of "saying goodbye" is for those who are left behind. Turning it around and making it about the person who died by celebrating their life is a beautiful tribute.

walkwithme on February 21, 2011:

Every death is different and the circumstances surrounding the way a person departs from the world also affects those who remain here.

A celebration of life ceremony usually occurs when there has been advanced warning such as an extended illness. For some,however, the parting of a loved one can be a shock and no time has been given to say the "goodbyes". The immediate family deals with

the situation quite differently than friends who did not have that closeness from birth and childhood. It is still gut wrenching - no matter what. We had advance warning when my son passed away at 4 1/2- and the church was full. But then the people all went home and we returned to a home with a room where one son no longer slept and we had to comfort a surviving son and another baby was on the way. Memorials and celebrations are

not for everyone. The surviving immediate families need far more community support

than is often given - particularly the children. All the holidays are harder to celebrate

after a loved one dies.....Each time it happens our hearts grow wider with compassion for others who have experienced a death and gone through some trauma. Light a candle.

Say a prayer and grant that this year there will be more responsible drivers on the road

and more words of peace in the home and hearts of humankind.

WindyWintersHubs from Vancouver Island, BC on February 20, 2011:

Congrats on your Purple Star! I agree! Life is a celebration!

lasertek lm on February 15, 2011:

Great lens! I totally agree that we should celebrate rather than mourn when death comes.

jlshernandez on February 14, 2011:

I totally agree that death is really a celebration of a beginning and not the end of life. Thanks for sharing a great lens. Blessed.

LadyJasmine LM on January 15, 2011:

Very nicely done. Blessings in your direction, and I'm going to add this to my grief resources on the lens about the warehouse fire in New Orleans. :-)

Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on December 13, 2010:

Live well and celebrate life...yes, passing on is a celebration.

scar4 on November 25, 2010:

"Don't cry

because it's over.

Smile because it happened", is my motto since I read it a couple of years ago on a magazine, just enjoy the philosophy between the lines.

vitar on October 05, 2010:

Nice lens, good job!

When you have time please visit my lens Funeral Thank You Notes.

Thanks ;)

anonymous on September 28, 2010:

Life or death is the same, it just happened.. and when you can smile in death you'll be able to smile in life forever.. just my penny.. :D

Petstrel LM on September 20, 2010:

You are absolutely right. Death is an inevitable occurrence, we should treat it as such.

AlisonMeacham on September 16, 2010:

I recently went to a funeral which was an amazingly celebration of my friend's life. It was a very inspiring experience.

SofiaMann on September 15, 2010:

When it comes to the sudden death of a young person whom you love (son, brother, etc.), shok is so strong that you take time to celebrate his life.

GrowWear on September 09, 2010:

I prefer celebrating the life, and it's much easier to do so with some deaths. ...For the loved ones snatched away, it's so much harder for those left behind to deal with it.

ccgala4 on September 08, 2010:

The memorial services should be a way for us to celebrate the life of a loved one. When you set this kind of tone to the service, it can be very encouraging to the family members and at the same time, pay a special tribute to the one who passed. Thanks for the lens!

anonymous on September 07, 2010:

Great advice and wisdom shared here, that is for sure. Although, I miss the people who have passed from this life; it is much easier to remember and celebrate the time we were given to share. I hope that when my time comes that those who loved me will get together and celebrate the love, friendship, and living we had together. Love the Dr. Seuss quote! Ringing my little Squid Angel bell with a blessing.

Laura Schofield from Chicago, IL USA on September 04, 2010:

The slogan says it all. I'm glad I came across this today as I just lost my grandma yesterday and this helps me to put it in a different perspective. I hope my funeral is a party someday! Fantastic job!

elmikeo on May 26, 2010:

This is a great lens. It is strang eot think that while our society fears death, many cultures welcome it as a part of life and while they are still sad to see others go, they seem to be able to accept it easier. Maybe that is just people on an individual level. Thank you for the lens.

Mike-http://elmike.wordpress.com

Tarra99 on May 22, 2010:

Your lens made me cry :o( ...about 6 months ago I lost my best friend...not your typical best friend, he was 48 yrs my senior...but he was brought into my family about 15 years ago when my father passed and his wife passed and he met my mother and sister at a bereavement group. Due to the timing of my chemo I was unable to attend his funeral...but I'm not sure I could have even if I wanted to...I have such a hard time with the idea of it being "A Celebration of Life, Not a Mourning of Death" ...because I get so sad at funerals...I really like the Dr.Seuss quote though, it made me smile. :o)

Thank you for creating such a wonderful lens...and thank you for visiting my bucket list...creating marble from scratch is quite the task on your list...let me know how it goes ;o)

Mary Beth Granger from O'Fallon, Missouri, USA on January 18, 2010:

Wonderful lens....it shows how to do a celebration with respect...very important.

Mrsdivagurl79 on January 15, 2010:

I love your page and hope to aspire to the great outline it shows.

Spook LM on November 05, 2009:

I see where you are coming from. I think it depends on the person involved. Blessed by an Angel.

anonymous on October 09, 2009:

Thank you for setting up such a wonderful website. I am a Funeral Celebrant, trying to change the way people think about the celebration of the life of their loved one. I am going to link your website to mine. As more and more people learn that they can and should celebrate their loved ones unique life, the sooner the healing process of grieving will happen. Great material here. Thanks for sharing.

www.betweenyouandme.org

Memories are the one thing no one can take from us - let them bring smiles to your lips.

anonymous on September 24, 2009:

The majority of people believe funerals are for the deceased. In fact, funerals are for loved ones and close family and friends. Funerals are a way to remember, celebrate and rejoice in the life of the recently deceased.

Toronto Funeral Services

Imsred on July 17, 2009:

[in reply to jesscee88]

I completely agree. I recently lost my grandfather and the family was so shaken that we decided that we needed some help. We hired a service that plans everything. We gave them our wishes, made some decisions and they did the rest. I don't think that we could have gotten through this and had such a lovely event without them. If anyone needs this kind of help, I would absolutely recommend them, www.4celebrationsoflife.com . They were really great during a difficult time.

LifeAdviceSite on July 02, 2009:

I love this. It's touching and meaningful. Death is only a new beginning and never an end despite how final it might seem.

hlkljgk from Western Mass on June 23, 2009:

totally agree. if not at services, at least in time. we lost my brother when he was young and my mother still can't recall any happy times, which i find so sad.