Being yourself is never a problem
For decades we’ve been living in the skin,
We are never happy about
Roaming around with the shape
Never confident enough to show
Carrying a filthy heart
Never touched by love
Being a human is not easy
Being yourself is not easy
But being yourself is never a problem
Just build the walls
strong enough around you
Rule within that wall
It’s your body
It’s your soul
& let only touch of love erode them
One mind bullying other mind - Body Shaming
Body shaming is the act of making critical comments or fun of someone’s physical appearance such as body shape, size or colour. Almost everyone has experienced body shaming at one point of their life.
Body shaming can either be done intentionally or unintentionally in-person or online and it can make a person feel bad about their own body shape or size. When body-shaming is done online, it is called Cyberbullying.
Men and women both suffer from body shaming. A boy is expected to be tall, muscular and strong. A girl is expected to be perfect - not too thin, not too fat, fair skinned with zero acnes and body hair.
There are various kinds of Body shaming, Some of them are listed below :
- Making negative comments about someone's eating patterns
- Commenting on someone’s weight
- Mocking someone’s dressing sense for their body shape and size
- Making fun of stretch marks, acnes or body hair
There is a thin line between giving advice and mocking someone. If it is conveyed in proper way it is advice but when said with harsh words it can affect their life badly.
One of the best body positive quote I came across by Gabourey Sidibe was, ”One day I decided that I was beautiful, and so I carried out my life as if I was a beautiful girl. I wear colours that I really like, I wear makeup that makes me feel pretty, and it really helps. It doesn’t have anything to do with how the world perceives you. What matters is what you see.” She was constantly bullied by media because of her weight but she chose to focus on positivity and now she is a known Hollywood diva.
A Role of Media in Body Shaming
Media has played a significant role in promoting the culture of body shaming wether it is Social media or an Advertisement media.
- We are living in the world where internet has occupied a major part of our lives. Nowadays there are hundreds of applications available where people put a lot of efforts in their external appearances especially to show “The perfect body”. I have seen a lot of people who make social media their entire world. Their world revolves around numbers of likes and comments they get on the pictures. With the rise of social media, body shaming has become more and more common. Some people hide behind computers and phones making negative comments without even thinking. My personal advice for everyone is to use social media with caution.
- Today all the advertisements we see is either encouraging fairer skin or skinny bodies.
Harmful Effects of Body Shaming
- Body dysmorphic disorder
- Social isolation
- Suicidal thoughts
- Self criticism
- Eating disorders
- Developing inferiority complex
- One in eight UK adults have suicidal thoughts over body image – poll | Body image | The Guardian
Charity calls for codes to regulate ‘idealised body representation’ in the media
The harsh truth of our society is people defines beauty and ugliness based on the colour, shape and size of one’s body.
So what can you do for it?
How to handle body shaming?
- First of all know that you’re beautiful. All you need to do is change the way you see your body. When looking yourself in mirror cherish all the beautiful features you have. Not everyone has the perfect body but when you get stuck on the negatives it can really bring down your self-esteem and confidence.
- Most people around us probably don’t have that perfect body or figure but they’re still beautiful in their own ways. We are meant to look different. We are meant to come in different shapes and sizes and colours and that makes us even more beautiful.
- Try to stay away from words like diet, skinny or fat. If you’re worried about your weight or size, Consult with your doctor and better to focus on good health and good nutrition.
- If there are things you want to change then do it by making goals for yourself.
- Don’t be a bully and don’t let other bully you. If you are a witness to body shaming in-person or online use your voice in a way that it can help others. Support each other and raise awareness about body shaming.
- Talk to a parent, therapist, coach, friend or religious leader. You can share your insecurities with someone who supports you and doesn’t bring you down.
- Last but not least never ever judge others based on their body type, shape and size.
Srushti Gamit (author) on May 06, 2021:
Thank you Ms Dora!!
Glad you liked it
May god bless you abundantly
Dora Weithers on May 06, 2021:
I love the confidence with which your poem ends. Thanks for the explanations on body shaming, for bringing it out into the open..
Srushti Gamit (author) on May 06, 2021:
Thank you so much Audrey..
Yes!! We are all beautiful and we should never sacrifice our mental health for “The perfect body”.
God bless you
Audrey Hunt from Idyllwild Ca. on May 06, 2021:
This is terrific! You have described the "bullying mind" well. Thanks for addressing this issue. We are all beautiful.