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Are You Worrying About What People Will Say About You

Devika enjoys sharing her work with a friendly community. Writing opens the mind. I live in a foreign country learned a foreign language .

People talk about you

What do people say about you?

People have their opinions and sometimes, you think what will people say about your plans or about your life as it is.

Have you heard people say ‘’What will People say?’’

Do you think about what people will say about you?

It is difficult to keep those thoughts in your mind and still live your life. I do not care what people will say or think about me.

There is no harm in living in your bubble, but when you think about what people will say about you that can ruin you. You should feel yourself and do what you wish and want for yourself.

No need to change your mind about what makes you feel happy. People talk or gossip all the time about you or someone else. Hold on to your dreams and live life without the thoughts of others getting into your head.

Why do people gossip about you?

Are they being nasty or enjoy what they do?

People do what they think makes them happy and some of that is gossiping about others. They say whatever they feel will increase their joy in life.

If you allow those thoughts to get in your head and affect you emotionally, you will feel less confident and become a negative thinker.

Whatever you think about yourself reflects on your self-being.

When you put your mind into thinking about what people think about you, this will cause you many issues including losing your soul to those badmouths.

Usually, it is about them bad-mouthing you.

I know what I think about myself is important and not what others think of me. It doesn’t matter what others think of me or gossip about me. To me, it doesn't mean anything.

In my life, it is always good for me to ignore the rest who do not have anything good to say about others.

You feel embarrassed, ashamed, and expect to be in the standard of others to prove yourself to them. Negative actions put you in such places to think about what others will think of you.

You are sometimes even worried about what other people will think of you.

Why put yourself through this nightmare?

Do you really care about what others think of you?

Is this how you plan to live your life?

Emotions put you down and can make you feel bad when you do not do well at class. Adding to the bad feelings of not doing well in class you experience negative thoughts about yourself. You have a negative insight about what others are thinking of you.

How can you stop being worried about what others think of you?

Your relationship with people explains the reasons for behaving in this way. The quality of your relationship tells you the issues you may or may not have together.

Happy relationships give positive results to those who have negative thoughts about each other. Involve other people in your life, but only those who understand your way of life.

Inviting people in your life who do not care for you will ruin your friendship. You want to be in the same standards as others and to form relationships with other people. In the process, you want to be accepted in that friendship.

Fear of what will happen to you and what will they think of you arises when you develop this friendship.

Instead of being self-centred, apply your kindness and be helpful to others. This will allow you to be free of worrying about what others think of you.

People hurt others often, and no matter how you project yourself out there to your friends or people you are acquainted with, they may or may not speak negatively of you.

You see everything about you and not about them. They are judging you and it is not for the reasons you are thinking of. These people live their lives in this way. Most of the time they are coming from different and troubled backgrounds.

Nothing is about your failures, it is about them in many ways that you fail to see. Everything you experience is to show you the number of emotions that can destroy you or create you.

Blaming yourself to make them feel better is not what you should do.

People want to be liked and accepted in society, and show off talents. The issue becomes a problem when you focus on what others think of you or say about you.

You want to be in the same shoes as others and to become someone else. All you are doing is putting yourself down and making them feel above you. If you give yourself to others in such ways you are not yourself.

The moment you look at yourself as powerless it means you are changing yourself to be the same as others.

You are powerless and are giving them a leash to accept you not as you are, but as that different person, they want you to be for them.

Others tend to see you differently and that matters to you. Your belief is how they see you.

Face reality and avoid thinking about what people will say about you or think about you. The most important aspect of you is to focus on what makes you this beautiful person.

When you focus on yourself and less on what others think of you, it will be lighter on your shoulders. Sometimes certain thoughts are not intentional. So don’t take everything to heart.

Behaviours and beliefs are from people’s opinions. Individuals have their own perspectives. Learn about yourself from you, not from others.

You spend lots of time worrying about what others think of you when you should focus on the positive meaning of life. It doesn’t make you feel better to be worried about the thoughts of others.

Worrying leads to you having anxiety.

In other words, when you worry about what others think about you, this is a sign that you need the approval of those people.

To me, it means you do not feel whole without them.

I have never been that person to worry about what people thought of me. It depends on how you were raised. I believe there is no reason to please others and to put others above me.

People come together and share their lives and realize who belongs, and who doesn’t belong in a group, or who is part of their lives. The key to having a positive life is to be yourself and love yourself.

Pay attention to yourself and forget about the people who do not treat you with respect. Those who think they are better than you, well, there is no need to have them in your life.

Don’t sweat the small stuff.

At times you overthink what others are thinking about you when they aren’t thinking about you. Stressful moments create a chaotic life and are unnecessary. Change the way you think and do for yourself and see life from all perspectives. There is no perfect in us and mistakes are made to be learned from in your life.

Why think of what people are thinking of you?

You are in charge of your emotions, not other people.

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Comments

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on July 23, 2021:

Hi Misbah Thank you kindly for stopping by. I apperciate it. I don't care for what people have to say about me. It makes me feel myself and that is how my life is. Hope you are well and keeping safe,

Misbah Sheikh from The World of Rebels. on July 21, 2021:

Hi Devika, This is a fascinating topic for debate! You've made some excellent points. I'd say I'm still concerned about what others think of me, but I think I was more concerned when I was younger.

Love and Blessings

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on July 21, 2021:

Denise You are too kind and so talented in what you do for yourself. Thank you very much for a comment.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on July 20, 2021:

Linda Crampton Thank you very much for comments'. I appreciate your time effort. Worrying about What others say about you is not the way of life. Thank you

Denise McGill from Fresno CA on July 19, 2021:

I usually care what my parents, or my sisters, or my children are saying about me. But even that I work to dismiss from my mind because it does me no good to dwell on the negativity. I usually can't change their attitude so I need to change mine.

Blessings,

Denise

Adrienne Farricelli on July 19, 2021:

Same here. I used to be excessively worry about other peoples' thoughts, but now often care less about it. I guess as we mature we gain more self confidence.

Linda Crampton from British Columbia, Canada on July 18, 2021:

I used to worry about what people thought about me, but the worry is fading as I get older. Thanks for creating an interesting article, Devika.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on July 17, 2021:

Sp Greaney Thank you for a kind response to my hub. I feel the same but never bothered about what people would say about me. It is what I was taught. I appreciate your time.

Sp Greaney from Ireland on July 16, 2021:

I think we have all been guilty of doing this at some point in our life. This is a very good article that explains why people need to ignore these types of people. I think it's only your families opinion that should ever matter.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on July 16, 2021:

Tulii Banerjee You are so right! I know of people who say ''What will people say'' It is what keeps people from anything they want to do with their lives. Thank you

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on July 16, 2021:

Peggy Woods, So true! I like that old saying. I am pleased you stopped by and life is just that. People enjoy what they do gossip and sharing their true feelings when possible. Thank you

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on July 16, 2021:

Chitrangada Sharan, I so agree with you and all other comments here. When younger one does think of what others will say, but when older one realizes there is no need for that. Thank you for sharing that.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on July 16, 2021:

Bill Holland It is true and sometimes looking at ourselves we know better than others. Thank you.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on July 16, 2021:

Dora Weithers You are so kind to stop by and I do appreciate your time. I totally believe in your comment. It is true and something we have to live with. Thank you.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on July 16, 2021:

John Hansen I believe that for me as well. I do not care what people think and have always been that way. Thank you John Hansen for stopping by. A pleasurer to know what you have to say about this issue.

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on July 16, 2021:

FlourishAnyway You have adopted that mantra so well. I am pleased to read your comment and appreciate it. Thank you

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on July 16, 2021:

Hi Liz So good to hear from you, hope all is ell with you. Thank you

Devika Primić (author) from Dubrovnik, Croatia on July 16, 2021:

Pamela Oglesby Thank you for feedback and a clear explanation about this issue with people. I appreciate that you shared your side of it.

Tulii Banerjee from Kolkata on July 15, 2021:

"What will people say" -this sentence has killed more dreams than anything else in the world. Very interesting topic Devika. Thank you for sharing an excellent article on this topic.

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on July 15, 2021:

I remember an old saying that goes back to when I was a child. "Sticks and stones may break my bones (but words will never hurt me)." Of course, that is not entirely true. I think that we gain more perspective as we gain in age and wisdom.

Chitrangada Sharan from New Delhi, India on July 15, 2021:

This is an interesting topic for a discussion! You have made some valuable points!

May be during growing up years, we think more about other's opinions about us! But as we mature, we don't get affected by what people are talking about, and how they are judging us!

An interesting read! Thank you for sharing!

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on July 15, 2021:

When I was younger I would worry about this all the time. Now, I simply don't care. I only worry about what I would say about me if I could stand back and witness my behavior. :)

Dora Weithers on July 15, 2021:

People will talk. Who and what they talk about is their business. Still, I remember hearing this as a child:

There's something good in the worst of us, and something bad in the best of us, so it doesn't become any of us to talk about the rest of us.

John Hansen from Gondwana Land on July 15, 2021:

Maybe when I was at school I may have, but now people can say what they like about me. I couldn't care less. Interesting article.

FlourishAnyway from USA on July 15, 2021:

I'm glad you don't worry about it. When I was younger, I did worry about it because I lived in a small town and felt oppressed by judgmental and hypocritical people who didn't share my beliefs or values. I moved and didn't go back. I also grew out of the need for others' approval. My dad is famous for his nonchalant, cavalier f--k them attitude and always says, "They can't do anything to me." I have adopted that as my mantra.

Liz Westwood from UK on July 15, 2021:

You tackle a sadly widespread problem in this article and make interesting and useful points.

Pamela Oglesby from Sunny Florida on July 15, 2021:

I never think about what people say about me. That was not true when I was in young and in school. but that was a long time ago. I do care what my husband and my sons think, but I think that is different.

It does not feel good to be so caught up in gossip that you are miserable, and I think you spell that out very clearly, Devika.

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