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Alcoholism and the Fifth Step in Alanon

Deborah has several alcoholic relatives. She became active in Al-anon, for families of alcoholics, over 37 years ago, often helping others.

Find An Al-Anon Sponsor You Can Easily Talk To

An Alanon Makes You Feel Comfortable When You Share Your Story.

An Alanon Makes You Feel Comfortable When You Share Your Story.

What is the Al-Anon Fifth Step?

Are you a member of Al-anon, the program which has helped millions of people around the world find peace, serenity and happiness, despite having an alcoholic or drug abuser in their family or circle of friends? If so, you are probably aware of the 12 Steps which we follow. They are nearly identical to the 12 Steps used by members of Alcoholics Anonymous for over 50 years. The information below will help you complete your 5th Step.

Once you have completed your self inventory in the Al-Anon Fourth Step, your next responsibility is to admit “to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.” Although it may frighten you at first, to imagine telling someone else all the times you were unkind, selfish, emotional, or did something which may have harmed someone else, in the years to come you may find that this process of working on the Al-Anon steps is also one of the most rewarding experiences you will have gone through in your lifetime.

Often, new members wonder how they can share their deepest, darkest secrets with someone else. First of all, you may find it easier if you do it a little at a time. You will want to start by working on your Alanon Fourth Step and using the “Blueprint for Progress,” which can take months to complete. As you go through it, you will probably discuss your self-inventory with your Al-Anon sponsor a little at a time. In this way, you will carefully go through the process, without feeling hurried or stressed. In fact, most Al-Anon members feel a tremendous sense of relief when they discover there are other people who have shared similar experiences, and are willing to listen as you unburden yourself.

While working on your Al-Anon Fourth Step with another person, usually your Al-Anon sponsor, you will discover that you are also sharing your inventory with another person, an important part of completing your Al-Anon Fifth Step.

The final action necessary to complete this step is to share your inventory with the God of your understanding. No matter what your religious beliefs, you should share the results of your Fourth Step Inventory with your personal Higher Power. Only you can decide how best to do that ... prayer, a "letter to God," meditation, or however you think is best. Al-anon does not support any particular religion or set of religious beliefs.

As a member of Al-anon for over 37 years, I have had several different sponsors over the years and have sponsored at least a dozen other women. I have found that being helped by others and learning how to help newcomers to the program has enriched my own life.

If You Have Not Already Used the Blueprint for Progress for Your 4th Step, You Will Want to Use it Now

Finding an Al-Anon Sponsor

Before you even begin your Alanon 4th Step, you may want to pause a moment and consider who you will want to do your Alanon 5th Step with. If you haven't already found a sponsor, this would be the ideal time to ask someone to fill that position. This will be the person who will help you complete all the Alanon steps, so you need to give careful consideration when choosing a sponsor. Does this person have at least a year's experience in Alanon? Have they completed the steps themselves? Do you feel comfortable talking with this person? Are they someone you can identify with? Are they someone you believe is doing a good job of living by the Al-Anon principles?

Remember that you may be sharing some pretty embarrassing things about yourself. Listen to different members share at your meetings. Ask a few to meet for coffee, or give them a call sometime between meetings. Once you find someone that you are comfortable talking to, ask him or her to be your sponsor. Most groups recommend that you choose a sponsor who is your same gender.

Once you have a sponsor, they will guide you through all your steps, particularly steps 4 through 9. When you are ready, complete your 4th Step and then share it with your sponsor. This is how you do your Alanon 5th Step.

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Meeting With Your Alanon Sponsor

Once you have a sponsor to help walk you through the Alanon Steps, you need to decide when and where you and your sponsor are going to meet. Most people meet one-on-one with their sponsors, completing a little of their "Blueprint for Progress" at a time, and discussing it as they go. In this way, doing an Alanon 5th Step becomes a process that is completed at the same time you do your Alanon 4th Step.

However, there is another way of completing your Alanon 4th and 5th Steps that has been gaining popularity in some parts of the country. If you wish, you and your sponsor can form a small group of members who are completing their Alanon 4th Step at the same time. This is usually a group of 4 or 5 people who are all of the same gender, and who have the same sponsor. This enables the sponsor to work with several newcomers at the same time, if they are all comfortable with that arrangement. You'll find that completing your Alanon 5th Step this way will bring you closer to a group of members who may become lifelong friends, as each of you shares your strengths and weaknesses with each other.

However you proceed with your Alanon 4th and 5th Steps, you are on a great adventure in self-discovery. Enjoy the journey!

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2012 Deborah-Diane

Comments

ezzly on April 01, 2015:

I really love these inspiring series of hubs you ve written about al anon and as you say it is for everybody! Voted up and beautiful

Deborah-Diane (author) from Orange County, California on October 30, 2014:

Alanon is an organization that helps the family and friends of people who are alcoholics or addicts. It can really make a difference in how well the family manages the situation.

C E Clark from North Texas on July 15, 2013:

A useful inventory for everyone, Alanon or not. Voted up and useful.

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on January 27, 2012:

Excellent hub; keep spreading the word!

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