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Having Your First Baby:What To Expect And How To Cope After Giving Birth To Your Baby


Transition to Parenthood

First few days of postpartum you make from pregnancy to motherhood, there is an enomous change. Physically, your body will change and begin to nourish the baby.

Emotionally, you may feel everything from exhilaration to exhaustion, uncertainty or and even sadness. At times even feel depressed. Your birth experience may even change how you feel just like your readiness to become a mother, whether or not you have a support from partner, family and friends.

When the birth has gone well and the baby is healthy, you may feel incredibly high, tremendously relieved of why you have just accomplished. You may have other feelings too, especially if giving birth did not live up to your expectations or had birth complications.

In the days following delivery, you may think about the birth a lot, want to talk about it in detail and try to resolve your feelings about it. You may relieve it over and over fantasizing different things from gender, likes and dislikes.

After birth, you may experience the baby blues. These can appear from sadness to a full-blown depression which temporarily incapacitated you. It is normal to feel this. You may cry unexpectedly, feel worried about your lack of maternal feelings or frightened by the reality of the sudden responsibility thrust upon you. Many of us have vivid dreams and fantasies.

The birth of my baby was wonderful, but the next day I kept having the feeling that something was missing, that I had lost something in the process. Looking at my belly, I finally realized what it was. I missed being pregnant. I found myself wanting to feel the baby kick. I felt hollow inside. It took a while to accept the fact that this baby was same one I had carried for so long.

Almost everyone has these feelings to some extent. Hormonal changes may be at least partly responsible for sudden shifts in mood and depression can be heightened by being physically run down, anemic or being exhausted from being woken up repeatedly at night.

Usually, these feelings last a day or two. Never feel insecure for your ability to care for or relate to your baby. Your confidence will grow as you get to know him/her better.

Talk with other mothers about fears and anxieties can help you feel less alone. With a caring partner, friends or family, the baby blues are less likely to occur and easier to handle.

When depression lasts more than a few days it is usually caused by a combination of social and physical factors.



For each question, choose the best answer. The answer key is below.

  1. Should one set aside rest after child birth?
    • Yes.at least 6 weeks for rest and exercise.
    • No. You shouldn't rest and take care of the baby.
  2. Would you still go through the same ordeal to become a mother
    • No
    • Yes

Answer Key

  1. Yes.at least 6 weeks for rest and exercise.
  2. No

Interpreting Your Score

If you got 0 correct answers: No

If you got 1 correct answer: Maybe

If you got 2 correct answers: Yes


Adjusting to Life with a Baby.

During the first few months after birth, you learn what it means to have a baby in your life. During this time, you have to find ways of coping with the following changes that this upheaval brings about.

  1. Fatigue
  2. Sexuality
  3. Learning how to be a mother

1) Fatigue

Of all the stresses associated with postpartum, fatigue is the one mentioned by almost any parent. At some point, you may feel like you are crashing under the pressure of night after night of interrupted sleep- some for only a short while, others for months especially when there are other children at home and/or little outside help.

Some physical discomfort also contribute to fatigue. Common ones will last two to three weeks after birth are:

  • Sweating
  • Loss of appetite
  • Thirst(due to loss of fluids and nursing)
  • Constipation

Some women get enough sleep even though the baby disrupts their usual sleep pattern. However, if you sleep soundly in your sixth or seventh hour of sleep, have someone else feed the baby during the night, early in the morning or in the afternoon, so that once a day you can sleep for a longer stretch than the few hours between feedings.

Keep housework to a minimum and ask for help with it and any other children you may have. If possible, nap whenever the baby naps.

2) Sexuality

Some of us have little or no interest in sex for a while after childbirth. Others resume sexual activity fairly quickly.you need to set your own pace.

Low sexual interest can result from having to take care of your baby, a mate or possibly other children. You may need to be nurtured and cared for too.

Low sexual interest can have physical causes. If you had a tear in the perineum during birth, the area may be sore for several weeks. If you are not ready for intercourse, please do not force until you are ready.

3) Learning how to be a mother

Some people believe that once you are a woman, you are supposed to know how to care for a Baby. It is really experience that teaches us to be good mothers, including our own experiences baby-sitting or watching our mothers care for younger siblings.

In the beginning, you may be uneasy and afraid to trust your own good sense, especially with a first baby.Talking with other mothers about our feelings and fears can give us the confidence to try different things.

Don't expect to love being a mother all the time.For instance, when your baby sleeps a lot, wakes up for feedings, smiles at you and goes to sleep back again, the baby business is a breeze.

Whether your baby is easy or not easy, getting along with him/her may take some time and work.Reach out to friends or relatives who care about you. Lay the groundwork for sharing parenthood with your partner if he is around.

Coping with depression

  1. Talk with a friend about what troubles you.
  2. Take time for yourself each day.
  3. Go outdoors with or without the baby, any time the weather permits. Make an effort to talk with other adults you meet.
  4. Do a little housework each day so that it does not defeat you by piling up.
  5. Take care of yourself. Find some kind of exercise exercise you enjoy and do it regularly as you can. Buy nice clothes for yourself, eat good food and try learning new things.

In conclusion, being a mother is the best thing that could ever happen to you. Enjoy the moments with your new baby while they grow up. Good luck.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2020 Millicent Okello

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