Sophie is a professional fashion and lifestyle expert. She obtained her master's degree in psychology from Boston University.
One of the biggest personal issues people worldwide struggle with is their self-esteem. If you struggle with confidence, you can take comfort in that millions of people share a similar burden at this very moment.
Although some are naturally confident about themselves, many have to build their self-confidence gradually.
Building lasting self-esteem is a journey rather than a task for a day. It's almost like a lifestyle or a long-term mission that you need to keep working on every day to achieve.
Most of the instructions on enhancing your self-esteem are vague and don't result in lasting improvements. So, here are seven surprising yet helpful tips that will help you forge strong and lasting self-esteem that actually lasts.
1. Adjust your perspective
Perspective is key to many things, including self-esteem. Looking at the world from a "glass-half-full" rather than a "glass-half-empty" point of view can quickly turn around your self-esteem. So how do you change your perspective?
Start by recognizing the obstacles you face today and adjusting your thoughts regarding the obstacle.
Here's a simple example of adjusting your perspective on a day-to-day issue. Turn your problem and reason into a statement and a how can I -question:
I can't ________ today because ________.
I want to ________ today. How can I accomplish that?
Of course, if you don't want to do something, you probably shouldn't. However, sometimes we need to do things that we wouldn't want to, like a scary presentation in front of many people. In these cases, the thinking goes something like this:
I need to _______ today. How can I accomplish that?
2. Focus on the small wins
The one thing I always hear is that it's essential to have goals. However, people too often set their goals so far into the future that they only rarely, if ever, achieve their goals.
Although goals are important, try focusing on the small wins and accomplishments you make every day. Things like getting out of bed in time, brushing your teeth in the morning, or giving a compliment to your coworker often go unnoticed.
By noticing and appreciating even the smallest wins each day, you'll see your self-esteem will gradually improve in the coming weeks and months.
3. Wear your favorite jewelry
Jewelry and accessories can have a significant impact on how you perceive yourself.
Any regular jewelry-wearer can attest that wearing their dearest necklace or bracelet enhances their appearance. In fact, most of the time, they'll probably feel naked without their jewelry - that's just how powerful the effect of jewelry can be.
If you are new to jewelry, start by choosing your favorite necklace and go from there. If you already wear jewelry, you can try to find a few new pieces to refresh your current style and feel more confident.
4. Take a breath and cool your mind
Allowing yourself to relax and let your body and mind rest every once in a while is essential. Without rest, your brain can go into overdrive and make it hard to accomplish anything.
Some of the popular techniques include meditation and mindfulness exercises. However, all you need is 15-30 minutes of alone time every day to start unwinding.
Tip: listening to music or drinking tea can help you relax more efficiently.
Find any room where you can be by yourself without disturbances for twenty minutes, and you can feel the stress and negativity melt away.
5. Find a new hairstyle
Yes! A new hairstyle can be a game-changer for your self-esteem.
Outside washing, drying, and occasionally cutting it a tad shorter, our hair is something we usually pay very little attention to. However, as the years have passed, your current style might not be optimal for you anymore. Perhaps you even know you need a new hairstyle but haven't done anything about it yet.
Start by searching for inspiration from the internet. A place like Google image search is an excellent place to begin. If you have a favorite influencer or celebrity, adopting or taking inspiration from their hairstyle is also a viable option.
6. Forgive & accept the mistakes of your past
Too many people let their past mistakes haunt them. Unfortunately, this can have detrimental effects on your self-esteem, especially if you've made your fair share of blunders.
That's just it. We all make mistakes – it's what makes us human. In fact, mistakes are how we learn and, ultimately, improve. Without mistakes, we wouldn't learn anything new or progress as individuals or as a whole.
Learn and let go of your past mistakes. Forgive yourself and accept that the mistakes are what made you into who you are today and that it couldn't be any other way. Then move on to make more mistakes to learn from because that's what everyone should do.
7. Understand more about yourself
It's amazing how complex and unique we are. Our thoughts, bodies, ideas, and personalities continue to grow and develop until the very end.
In order to have high self-esteem and deep dive into self-development, it's critical for you to learn more about yourself and understand who you are. And continue the process to the best of your abilities as you change and evolve throughout the years.
Fun fact; I asked my almost eighty-year-old grandmother about the number one life advice she would give young people today. She said to understand more about yourself – adding that she herself continues to do it each and every day.
That's a wrap of the seven surprising tips to improve your self-esteem.
I hope you enjoyed the read and found something helpful to implement in your life.
Just remember that building your self-esteem is a process, and processes take time. So, if you are not seeing any results within the first day, don't worry.
Give it a try for at least a week, and see how you feel. Then, if you feel more confident and in tune with yourself, repeat the process for another week, try to make a habit out of the things you enjoy the most, and you are well on your way to building lasting self-esteem.
For now, thank you for reading.
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